TTC after miscarriage - March 2020

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Hey everyone 👋🏻

This thread is for anyone TTC or testing in March after a miscarriage.

So sorry if you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

@Fizzl sorry your out this month , it is really hard each month, it just feels crushing but you will feel positive again soon about trying again and you will get pregnant.

Very sad to log on and see @MilsCookie @Annny27 and @SunnySideUp2020 all getting negative results. I know it means you have each other for the coming month, that is the take home I guess that is positive..but it f#xking sucks!

@scrumdiddly123 and @triedandtestedteacher big fat congratulations to you two ladies, you both must be over the moon, and shocked! It's an anxious time but we'll get through it all together 🌈💜

Thanks @champoopapi 💞

Thanks @ChampooPapi hope you are doing well!

Thanks a lot @ChampooPapi, the whole
thing is exhausting! how are you feeling?

I've taken myself over to the April thread now as 13dpo and spotting so af on way!

All you pregnant ladies should use this thread to chat as all the ttc ladies will be over on the april thread now:)

Thanks @ChampooPapi

@Annny27 sorry it looks like you're joining me on April's thread 😔. There are so many new people on that thread which is great in one way as it means a lot of original posters from jan have success stories already but sad that there are so many others who have been through the same as us in recent months and sad for us few who are still tagging along 4 months later 😞

@triedandtestedteacher oh I'm sorry to hear that... I can imagine that must be really stressful. I have heard it can be completely normal though. Has it continued today?

@scrumdiddly123 I will be exactly like that when I eventually fall pregnant again but I suppose we have to try to treat each pregnancy as a new one. Sending lots of positive vibes to both of you!

@Annny27 ahhh no I'm sorry :-( I will probably be joining you on the April thread in the next few days!

How’s everyone doing today? Anyone testing or waiting to test still?
@MilsCookie it’s so hard! Going to try really hard to stay positive, it’s out of my control anyway so no point stressing! How are you?

Morning @scrumdiddly123 how are you? 14dpo, no sign of period today but it usually arrives on 14 or 15dpo. Temps still high today so imagine it will arrive tomorrow

How about you @MilsCookie?

@Daffodil21 how about you?

I’m ok thanks @Anny27 apart from manically
POAS at any given opportunity! I’m seeing progression so have told myself I need to stop now! Have been referred to EPU but not heard back, I imagine they won’t be offering reassurance scans in these times which is fair enough! Going to chase it up on Monday.
Have you got any symptoms? Fingers crossed AF stays away! X

@scrumdiddly123 glad you're okay. Do you have any symptoms?

@Annny27 No sign of AF for me either. On CD30 now and last month she arrived CD31. If she doesn't show by Monday I might do another test but I'm just not feeling too hopeful to be honest. Just want her to show so we can move on to cycle 4! (wow I really thought I might be pregnant again by now... cycle 4... that hurts :-( )

I’ve got sore/tingling boobs, having crazy dreams and waking with a headache and slight nausea. Also Had a few dizzy/light headed spells. All normal early symptoms for me.
Any signs or symptoms for you @Milscookie? Fingers crossed for you, you never know this might be your month xx

@MilsCookie had more red blood when I got up today but test was stronger than the control line. Confusing

Oh @triedandtestedteacher what a worry! Was it much? Have you spoken to epu/gp? Good that your line is still strong!

It was just bits of brown discharge yesterday but this morning there was a large streak of fresh red, probably about a teaspoon full. This was the test. I haven't called anyone. I don't think they'd be able to do anything at 4 weeks. I am going to ring my gp on Monday though because I want it documented as they said they'd start investigations into recurrent miscarriage after the last one and now if this is a loss I'll have had another.

@scrumdiddly123 that's not too bad then. Hopefully you won't have too much of a sicky first trimester! This TWW I have been more tired than usual and had really sore boobs but that's about it. I keep checking my cervix and it's high and soft. I know that's not necessarily an indicator but if I'm not pregnant this month I literally won't trust any "symptoms" next month as they literally could either be AF or pregnancy!! This evening I'm beginning to feel a little bit crampy so that's probably AF on her way!!

@triedandtestedteacher oh gosh seeing the blood must be so worrying for you. I would definitely still call the GP and see what they say. Your test still has a strong positive line so maybe it's all okay still? Hope you're okay. Let us know how you get on and keeping my fingers crossed for you xxxxx

Hi guys had a MMC last day of January this is my first cycle since. I'm currently in TWW! 1dpo I think !! Ben using clear blue fertility monitor all of my apps say different things since the MMC but I'm happy that I had a peak and my body is working. Good luck to all of you in TWW 💋

Morning everyone - my app says periods late by one day but usually it can arrive on 14dpo or 15dpo and today is 15dpo so just waiting to see.

@triedandtestedteacher sorry that you are experiencing some bleeding it must be worrying :( hopefully the EPU can see you

@scrumdiddly123 glad that all your symptoms sound promissing:)

@milscookie any sign of AF?

@BB077 you might be better off joining the April thread (as in testing in april) as it's just me and @milscookie left in here and we are due our AFs today. I will link the april thread in the next comment:) if our AFs start we will be moving over to that thread :D

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3844298-TTC-after-miscarriage-April-2020

That's the thread @bb077 :)

Morning everyone,

@annny27 I think the witch is here... yesterday I started having the usual pre-AF cramps in my lower back and uterus so I was like oh here we go... Then last month I bought a mooncup to use if AF showed (thinking I could also use it as a fertility cup to hold DP's swimmers in place haha!) hoping that I wouldn't need to ever use it but anyway.... put it in last night in case I came on over night, and when I took it out this morning there was a tiny amount of brown blood but mainly mixed with creamy CM (sorry that's so gross!) so I am assuming she'll start properly today but the cramps seem to have gone so I'm a bit confused cos I usually get mild cramps that just get stronger and stronger! They don't start and stop like this. But anyway I'm assuming that means I'm out and this is CD1 soooo I'll be moving over to the April thread!! How are you feeling? Are you going to test again or just wait now? xxx

Big love to you @Annny27 and @milscookie - hoping that if this month isnt your month, then next month is

Thank you @Whiffle77. How are you doing? x

@MilsCookie @Annny27 are you going to test or just waiting? Really hoping the witch stays away for both of you!
@triedandtestedteacher how are you today? Any more bleeding?
I slept really well last night for the first time in a while and have vowed to stop testing now so am sticking with it and already feeling less stressed x

Hey @MilsCookie. It does sound like it from what I've experienced, It obviously takes some people's bodies longer then others to conceive after a miscarriage. Perhaps diferring interventions make a difference but then from the last 5 months here, I've seen so many woman who've had medical miscarriages, surgical, natural, and there doesn't ever seem a direct correlation to how long it then takes to get pregnant again.

I do believe that a good few months in-between the miscarriage and the next pregnancy is much healthier for some people's minds, as well as their bodies. But of course, you probably scoff!, That's easy for me to say having got my positive this month.

I know I wanted to be pregnant the next week after my surgery, and it never went away, but I feel physically and phycologically a hell of a lot stronger then if it had happened a few months ago.

That is a personal preference I know. I just feel for you today and I want to say that everyone will be here for you this coming month, cd1 is rubbish, but in a few days pretty much you can start again trying. Never too early in the cycle, I started on cd6 this last one.

And it's highly possible we could still easily be having babies in December together if you catch this time around. All the best to you 💜