TTC after miscarriage - end of January 2020 testing

[MilsCookie]

Hey @Anny27 @ChampooPapi @BS9790 @Cruiser1 @mlax @ELM7 @SweetpeaOrMarigold !

I don’t think I’ve got everyone so please tag anyone else who is still in TWW/planning on testing from now - end of the month.

This is for when we run out of space on the other thread! Then from here we can move to the Feb group set up by @terribleimagination or hopefully a pregnancy thread 😊

On CD28 currently and did a test this morning - BFN. AF due CD33-34 so hopefully was just too early 🙈.

Baby dust to all! 💫🍀💖

@Anny27 my DP also doesn't get my desperate need to know, he's like 'just relax, your period isn't even late yet!!' And I'm just like 'I know but I need to know!!!!' 🙈

@MilsCookie ahh BFN are always disheartening:( yes its still early for you so if you can hold out then do :D I am gonna retest sunday morning (if AF doesnt arrive)

I feel pregnant too!! It's hard because we know what its like to be prehnant haha so relating it all back to it

@Anny27 so disheartening 😞 So envious of people who get early BFPs! Yeah exactly! I feel like the symptoms I have right now are similar to when I was pregnant, if not even more obvious! But that might be because my first pregnancy wasn't planned so I wasn't looking for the signs. Ohhhhhh the bliss of just POAS not expecting a bfp to then just get one!! I wish that could happen again! Fingers crossed for us both 🤞 we're not out till af shows ☺️

@Zoey36 fingers crossed no spotting. Completely agree with you about missing the naivety of it all. I can't wait to get pregnant again but I know when I do I'm going to be a lot more obsessive than I am now wishing for 2 lines. I'm going to be a nervous wreck.

@MilsCookie @Anny27 you're both still in. Positive thoughts. Don't discount anything until aunt flow shows. But the POAS addiction is real!

@ChampooPapi @Anny27 think you ladies may have been talking about me yesterday with the bfp. I’m still here and have read everyones messages on both threads. Find it odd as I had commented a few times earlier on in the thread about my miscarriage and elsewhere on mn and my bfp did come as a complete surprise to me so was excited to post. I’m sorry if I appeared to be a troll but I can assure you I’m not, I just struggled to keep up with the thread and didn’t want to appear boastful by keep posting about bfp. Will be joining @becstarG group when I get past 9 weeks which is when I miscarried last time. Not quite sure why I’m explaining myself but didn’t want you to think I wasn’t genuine because I am and utterly thrilled to hopefully be carrying my first but also my rainbow baby and I will continue to watch the threads to hear all of your bfp news in the future.

@Zoey36 any spotting today? Hopefully not 🤞🤞🤞

@gemlou88 any more signs?

@milscookie yes its dishsartening and also so all consuming. I find I am talking about it and thinking about ttc 24/7 haha

@MrsB16 I wasnt talking about anyone in particular lovely - just generalizing. Sorry if it upset you however, was all meant light heartedly and 100% not aimed at anyone but still not cool if it did upset you xx
I actually think I must have missed your bfp as dont remember seeing it - congratulations however 💗 yes hope we are all joining that thread soon 🤞🤞

@GemLou88 trying to think positively and NOT pee on any more sticks! 😂

@Anny27 how are you feeling today?

I'm on CD31 and no sign of AF yet (although not due till CD33-34).

The nausea thing is really confusing me. I know it can just be a PMS symptom as well, and surely if it was pregnancy related it would be because of the HCG levels (which u clearly don't have enough of yet if I am pg as I got a bfn last night) but this morning I took a sip of tea and it randomly nearly made me retch!!! I still have the weird taste in my mouth and it was all too much this morning 😷 I managed a few more sips but ended up leaving it. If I'm not pregnant i think it's soooo unfair how our bodies act as though we are getting our hopes up!!

Also, my DP gave me a bit of a lecture this morning about me spending too much time on MN 🙄. He doesn't get why I talk to strangers and said that what if they aren't actually women and they're some weirdo men 😳🙈. He said he thinks it's making me more anxious about TTC. I kind of see his point so I told him I would keep using it for this cycle (I.e. until bfp or AF shows) and then I might delete the app for a while 😔 I will be sad though!! Would love to stay in touch with you all on whatsapp if any of you would be keen 😊

@MilsCookie if any man knows about cervical mucus he is welcome to join our conversations 🤣🤣🤣 in all seriousness, if I dont get my bfp this month, I will be spending less time on mumsnet as it does make me more anxious! So I see where your DP is coming from

@Anny27 hahaha he has probably learnt more than he ever knew about the female body in the last few months!! I do love mn and find it to be a very supportive place. It gives me comfort to know that other women are going through very similar situations and makes me feel less alone. But I wonder if I'd be less anxious if I just didn't use it at all? Might have a month off in Feb and see how I go haha. I still be here for now though cos I wanna see how the rest of us testing around now get on!! 💖

@Anny27 and @MilsCookie I've taken a bit more a step back from mumsnet (and googling in general 😂) over this past week or so and I do feel better for it. I still pop by occasionally and sometimes post on the feb thread as I want to see how everyone is doing but I don't think it was helping me reading things constantly. I'm feeling in a good place at the minute but I don't have the pressure yet of ttc.

@Anny27 nothing today. But I'm positive now that I'm only 2dpo. I hate that I've ovulated late because it means it's really dragged out now until I find out if I've caught or I'm out. Going to try not to stress too much in this tww. I've give it a good go this cycle, nothing I can do now so what will be will be. How you doing today? You thought about testing again?

@Zoey36 anything today. Really hoping you don't have any spotting.

@MilsCookie I'm happy to keep in touch with everyone on a WhatsApp group. Would be nice to see how everyone gets on and everyone's journey.

@toomanyleggings how you getting on?

But on the flip side I have found it really supportive and I'll always be thankful for that and being able to take to people going through the same thing and really get it.

Hi lovelies,

Just wanted to say good luck with your testing. Genuinely wishing you all the best, we are all going to make mega Mummy's when our time comes. 💪🌈💗

I have felt utterly shite this week and an anxious mess - just convinced myself I will never be a Mum, there is something seriously wrong with me, DP and I have mismatching chromosomes etc etc etc blah blah blah ...but I really told myself off last night and I feel much better today.

@Anny27 Saw your message on the other thread lovely, thanks so much for keeping me in your thoughts. Wishing you all the best ... we have come such a long way since November 💗👭 which leads me on to totally agree with ... I am going to take a break from checking MN and posting. It too is making me more anxious than I need to be.

Breaking up is hard to do but really, it's not you guys, it's me! 🤣 No more early testing, no more OPKs, just more obsessing about fertility and reproductive health, just going to go with the flow ......

Wishing you lovelies all the best. You deserve it so much. ❤❤

@stephyrose all the best 💛 I hope the time away helps you.

Just remember guys that no amount of worrying or fretting is going to change the future for us so we might as well try and not worry and stay positive (easier said than done I know I know). I've accepted I will probably always feel a bit anxious about the future but I'm going to try and not worry as it's totally out of my control and what will be will be etc etc 😊 (clearly feeling very zen today)

No spotting yet but the day isn't over. Sometimes it starts in the evening. I think I will test tomorrow though if I don't start today.

@Anny27 waves weakly from the sofa, was about to test this morning then just when I went to the toilet af got me. I bloody knew I had to caught this month, and after so much sex I mean really! 🙄😅

Onto the next month, will stay dry until February for the body, mind and soul. See you lovely gorgeous lot on the February thread who are in the same boat as me. And all the best to all the beautiful newly pregnant woman who have been lucky to catch and will have their October babies 🌈👣

@StephyRose good idea , I think it's good to get a good week at least for me mumsnet free while I get through this part of my cycle so see you on the other side lovely

@MilsCookie thank you for being there for all of us this month, you have been amazing! Your an inspiration woman! I'll check back in to see if you get your bfp of course, and everyone else who is left hanging still, but will take a couple of weeks break to just live life now I think.

💜✨🌈👣

@toomanyleggings @GemLou88 @mlax @FireflyGirl @ELM7 @Littlegoth catch you all in a few weeks, I know I've missed so many people out but just had to do a quickie to send the love and let you know I'll be back too , I'll find you and hoping there will be some more bfp by then 🙏

You guys are the best xx

@Zoey36 all the best to you and good luck lovely 🤗

@BS9790 and @sweatpeaormarigold all the love ladies 💜

Ohhhh girls I feel emosh!! I think it is probably for the best that if it's making us feel anxious then we take a break from MN. I will be doing the same once I know if I have a bfp or af.

I would like to thank you all for your wonderful support and company over the last month. You're all bloody amazing and have kept me sane!! Wishing you all lots of luck and hope you become mummys in 2020 🤞😘

@GemLou88 I will PM you lovely xxx

Hey lovely ladies. Have to agree that I think I have become obsessed with checking MN to see if there are new posts. But the support we all give each other is amazing and so lovely to know when you are having a crap day you can just come on here and vent without judgement so thank you all.

I’m also going to keep checking in on this thread to hopefully see the final few BFP but also think that I might need to take a step
back from it all and try not to obsess over everything.

Feb is going to be the start of me looking after me and trying to get healthier to make sure My body is in the best place for looking after a sticky bean when one does come. And I really hope each and everyone of us gets to be the amazing Mummy’s to a new addition that I’m sure we will all be.

Only just checked in on this. @MilsCookie where in Oxfordshire are you? We’ve just moved to Buckinghamshire, just along the M40 so not too far x

@StephyRose @ChampooPapi @ELM7 wishing you all the luck in the world. Thank you all for your support on these threads. I wish you all the best and hope your BFP's come soon. Sending lots of love xxx

@Mammacooks @GemLou88 just PMed you both!! 😘

If anyone else wants to stay connected via whatsapp let me know 😊

Could I please join you all? I'm 26 TTC dc2. I've been TTC for 20 months now.. had a mc at 5 weeks in September. Af due 5th feb!

I'm feeling pretty rubbish today as my friend told me she is starting to TTC dc2 today and I just know she will probably get pregnant and have her baby whilst I am still waiting