11dpo and BFN

[NicoleR14]

Me again I'm becoming a burden on this site I think 🙄 lol, 11dpo is it still too early to test? Had BFN at 9dpo and again tonight with an amazon cheapie but having bad cramping in lower belly between my legs and lower/middle back feeling bloated and very sore nipples to touch I have never had cramps before AF! AF due on 21st am I out this month? Had no implantation bleeding so l presumed I was out would love any advice please! Thanks in advance!

@dizzy85 sorry your test was a bfn this morning don't give up hope yet though wait till af is due and then test is she doesn't arrive I know it's easier said than done @ArjaD that would be brilliant if we could get a good sad movie and have a good cry lol I need one of those ttc is getting so hard to deal with I'm on CD 16 and don't think I've ovulated yet but hoping I haven't either and me and dh haven't been able to dtd wishing I had someone to talk to about it all and have a good cry!

aw @NicoleR14, that really sucks. I can imagine you're super stressed!! I remember I once ovulated super late, 4 or 5 days after predicted date. You have us all on here to chat too though xxxxxx

Thank you @ArjaD sometimes it's all you need to hear ttc is so stressful! Xxxx

@NicoleR14 yup, it is stressful for those who have sex every day, don't have to live with family, or whose hubbies aren't away for work all the time etc... So our stresses are even worse because of some of these things. We're superwomen really😁

@ArjaD I agree we managed to dtd a bit earlier we've only dtd twice this month but I had an opk lying about and thought I'd maybe test to see if I'm even close to having a positive and it's came back a tad lighter than the controlled line so I think I've either ovulated and it's coming down or I'm ovulating within the next day or so so fingers crossed 🤞🏼it's hard living with the in laws and even when they go out dh is never in the mood i had to ask him the other day if he actually wants this he does he just doesn't want the stress of ttc he wants to basically dtd whenever he feels like it and I've explained it to him 100 times it doesn't work like that so not only ttc stressing me out but dh and staying with the in laws is also! Feeling like I need to bitch slap him 😂😂

@NicoleR14 yes I think you're spot on, must be ovulation day tomorrow. If it helps, I never get a full blown positive. I always get a line à teensy bit lighter than the test line at most. Happens a lot I hear. So you're good I would say 👍 omg your dh is stressing ME out 😳. Surely if you make a conscious decision to ttc you make the effort you need. I mean, ok, it's not very romantic and we have failed on occasion because we couldn't get in the mood at all... But you have to try. I feel for you! Cut him off all other weeks of the month or something so he's gagging for it 😂

@NicoleR14 don't worry, today I'm pretty sure I've ovulated and it's cd19. You might just be about to! Yeah mine has been doing good this month but he has said today it's not as fun and feels like it's not as nice being like robots I said the same as you it doesn't work like that and also threw in there if he wanted me to go get his period pants and pjs since I didn't know he was such a girl and to man up😂 also reminded him of the fact I dressed up this weekend to make it less 'robotty' and he weren't complaining then. mug 😂 xxx

@ArjaD I think so mines has never went fully positive just a shade lighter than the controlled line! I totally agree he actually started this whole ttc he came home one day and told me he wanted a baby and at that point I was feeling very broody myself so we decided to start when we got home from holiday and he's still up for having a baby he's just not willing to put the effort in! I do admit I have a slightly higher sex drive than him but he's only up for it when he wants to so I definitely am thinking about cutting him off I tried leaving him be until it got close to ovulation and let him be the instagator but he never started it so today I kinda took over lol I feel like I'm forcing him into it but he wants it just as bad as me he's just not getting the just of it 😂xx

Hahahaha @ArjaD I just read your message Great advice. 😂😂

Men eh!!!! 😂 They forget we're the ones sacrificing our bodies at the end of the day to become a whale and have a bloody sore back and joints, and we're not even talking about the labour or c-section bit! They get the fun bit!!! @Bbutterfly that made me lol 😂😂😂 must remember that. Period pants and pjs 🤣🤣🤣

They don't realise how lucky they've got it they get the fun bit of dtd then getting all the cute parts of a happy baby we get all the exhausting parts of it 😂😂

Yeah @NicoleR14 I'd cut him off lol, that must be very frustrating I get frustrated when mine says he's Gota make calls or do this email or that I'm like hello here's my body enjoy. We've really tried this weekend I would like to get one more in tomorrow or even tonight but It starts getting awkward and don't wana feel pushy. He says I'm just so extra in everything and I should chill. Around this time I guess I do become crazy but I feel like all of us do. All we want is our bfps. And we spend all month thinking about this day and stressing about it and they don't. And exactly @ArjaD they're not becoming a 🐋 yet full of complaints lol. Xx

😂😂😂 I must say I'm lucky because my hubby is always trying and never complains at all. Maybe the offshore job helps though, three weeks of nothing 😂 but i can't say a bad thing about him, he's fab 😍 but omg the stories I have heard about hubbies all around. It's unreal how they think it just 'happens' eh!

Morning ladies, how is everyone today? Sorry I been abit quiet since yesterday it's all been driving me abit crazy I think coz today would have been my due date aswell I feel extra emotional. Anyway this morning has done my head in abit I did a frer and swore I could see a really faint line I was sat there staring at it for ages shining the phone light at it coz it was dark out so the light was rubbish, In the end I ended up taking the test apart I know your not supposed to but I wanted to look closer, so the "line" isn't completely complete if that makes sense it's patchy so I think it's probably just a cruel evap but there's a patch on there that when I look at it in the day light has pink on it but I tried to take a photo and it all just looks like a grey blur, I'm 99% thinking it's an evap but that 1% is holding on hope that af stays away and it turns into something but I think it's just gonna be one of them things. So yer I'm driving myself just that little bit crazier today now heeeeeelp lol.

We're all here for you @dizzy85! Maybe wait till later on and try again! It's hard not to hold on to that tiny bit of hope that it might be a line I didn't even have a line on mine and was convinced it was there and af wasn't af but it was I think we drive ourselves crazy ttc especially when we want it so bad but it will happen for us one day our day will come when we get our strop bfps!

Thanks @NicoleR14 god it's bloody stressful isn't it, I'll upload a pic but it looks terrible in the photo in real life there's some pink on it but you can't tell on pic. I'm gonna go out and get some frers in a bit and probably do one this evening.

Probably an evap but here's what I'm obsessing over 🤯🤦‍♀️

@dizzy85 I actually think I can see it it looks pink to me I'd deffo retest and see if the same happens again!

Hey @dizzy85 sorry you're having a stressful day. Totally don't blame you for being a bit crazy haha we all are at some point in the month. Same as @NicoleR14 I can see that it's pink. Pop out get a frer and wait as long as you can until testing tonight don't drink too much water lol. Let us know how you get on x

@NicoleR14 Oh I've not gone completely mad then, I'm glad you can see something too. I will definitely test again later but I'm scared it's just gonna be an evap.

@Bbutterfly thanks I definitely feel like I've lost it a little, i think my oh was getting abit worried about me this morning how long I was sat there staring at it with my phone light 😂 im gonna get sorted to go out in a bit hopefully I can find a shop near me with frers. Will definitely update later.

@dizzy85 deffo get another one I promise I can see the faintest of lines it's pink to me I'd deffo re test later I'm crossing everything for you hun🤞🏼

@NicoleR14 Fingers crossed🤞🏻I do feel very periody though aswell but will see what happens

I hope she stays away for you🤞🏼
Opks are a strong negative today so I think I missed my peak and we didn't dtd enough only the 6th and 10th maybe I did catch it but I doubt it at least I know af will arrive soon enough though 🙄

@NicoleR14 hopefully you did catch it it does only take the once after all🤞🏻try stay positive if you can. I'm just finishing my drink and then I'm gonna hold for as long as I can i managed to find some frers at the chemist.