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Anyone get a BFP after BFN

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Cabbiefix · 10/09/2019 18:47

I'm approx 9dpo and have been having lots of twinges and pinching on my right side, been very very tired so decided to test today and got a BFN.....

Anyone had this and then gone on to get BFP? Or am I out this month?

Sorry been trying for 9 months and getting restless 🙄

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Papertigers · 14/10/2019 18:19

That’s so annoying @cabbiefix ! Sorry about the test! Don’t lose hope. BUT, saying that, try to keep calm and distract yourself! Just keep looking after yourself, watching good tv and going about your day to day. Test again in a few days if the rivers still aren’t red! (Going to try to follow that advice myself! 4 days late today 😬) x

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Cabbiefix · 14/10/2019 20:09

Thanks @Papertigers I'm thinking the same, gonna try and keep myself distracted as best I can!! Have you tested yet?! Sorry if you've already said uptread!
Will keep my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻

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Papertigers · 14/10/2019 20:18

I tested on Saturday morning with a cheap boots own and got a very dodgy faint squinter. Tested first thing this morning with a cheap strip test and nothing. Just don’t want to waste a frer as I’m almost convinced it will be negative! Just gonna leave it til the weekend I think! Got plenty of exams to mark to take my mind off of things 🙄

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Cabbiefix · 14/10/2019 20:34

@papertigers sounds like we're in the same boat! I'm about 4days late too.... gonna just assume AF will turn up at some point 😑 we can keep each other from going crazy hon ❤️

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Papertigers · 14/10/2019 20:40

Yep @cabbiefix! We can sit in limbo together! 😩😂 (this evening, I’m convincing myself my boobs have gotten harder 🙃) x

Gigi318 · 14/10/2019 20:42

@Papertigers that's exactly it. It's like you can umm and ahh constantly, but you're always going to find that it is what it is. It blows my mind that we're in the TWW but the future is already written in the stars. It has or hasn't happened. It's incredible. I'm ways amazed by the body!!! All I can say is wait 48hours between tests and go again! Ideally with FMU, as it can take a while! And unless AF arrives, you're still in the game!

@Trying93 oh babe don't - this is literally me. Last month I was nauseous, dizzy, backache - the works. This month, not so much 🙌🏻 trying to control my mind a little. Lots of milky CM and sore boobs, but no idea if this is normal as I'm pretty sure it's different to last month! It's such a struggle 🙊😂🙈

@Cabbiefix chiiicckkk, should have waited for FMU!!! Next time I will have to talk you off of the ledge 🙊 although, some take 7+ days of being late to get that BFP 🤞🏻

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Cabbiefix · 14/10/2019 21:35

@Papertigers same!! I was convinced they were bigger today 🤦🏻‍♀️ think I need a hobby 🤔🤣

@Gigi318 I know.... I'm so disappointed in myself 😤definitely not testing again now, promise!! 😂

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Cabbiefix · 15/10/2019 08:20

Sorry ladies, i'm out again this month.....AF turned up with a vengeance at half 4 this morning!

I have no idea why it was so late, i'm normally bang on 28 days each month but hey ho onto the next one!

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Gigi318 · 15/10/2019 08:37

Morning ladies, how are we all?

@Cabbiefix oh no babe. I'm so sorry to hear that. Maybe you O later than you thought? I swear we will never know why the body does it to us. But rest up and eat some choc tonight. Wine too! Then you're back in the game 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

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Cabbiefix · 15/10/2019 08:46

Thanks @Gigi318 just glad i know where I'm at now! being in limbo not knowing one way or the other was so frustrating.....

Could really do with a duvet day today, if only we didnt have bills to pay haha!

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Gigi318 · 15/10/2019 08:50

@Cabbiefix exactly. Although it's sad when AF comes, you do feel a kind of relief as you know where you're at! Oh absolutely, hopefully a duvet evening?? Sometimes yummy for dinner, PJs, and move night?? Xx

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Cabbiefix · 15/10/2019 09:00

@Gigi318 definitely as soon as i get home its PJs on, blanket, sofa and hot water bottle! OH can sort the tea out ha! xx

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Gigi318 · 15/10/2019 09:13

@Cabbiefix yessss, girl that sounds amazing. Not too much for you to wait now. The day will hopefully fly by for you 😘😘😘

Papertigers · 15/10/2019 09:33

@Cabbiefix sorry to hear that babe! Onwards and upwards (and booze)! Xx

HoldingOn2Hope · 15/10/2019 10:37

@Cabbiefix sorry to hear the witch has arrived! I know exactly how you feel...sad but relieved to know where you're at. I found that my AF would be a few days late last year when I was so desperate for a bfp...it's really frustrating as I've always had a 28 day cycle and the moment you start ttc the cycle starts playing mind games! One month AF didn't arrive too day 33...not sure whether I was mentally getting stressed about being pregnant and that was causing it to happen?
Duvet, chocs, wine sounds good! Xx

Gigi318 · 15/10/2019 11:15

@HoldingOn2Hope I agree chick. I felt like AF took her sweet time to arrive last month and I really was obsessing over it all and CONVINCED I was PG with every early symptoms you can think of 🙄 tortured myself!!!

Trying93 · 15/10/2019 16:21

@cabbiefix sorry to hear that. Nothing worse than AF showing up late cos it gets your hopes up.

Enjoy your chilled night

Trying93 · 15/10/2019 16:24

@Gigi318 I cant help it lol I usually start this carry on earlier on in my cycle so this month iv been a bit better.

Still get mild cramping in my stomach which iv had for last week, been really thirsty, and keep having weird dreams. Im sure it means nothing and AF will show up over next few days but I cant stop wondering 🙈

Gigi318 · 15/10/2019 17:32

@Trying93 oh definitely. We all are hoping and wishing. Even though I'm being relaxed and not obsessing, I still hope there's a sticky little poppy seed in there 🙌🏻 feel very normal today. Just a few pulling, stretchy feelings!

Trying93 · 17/10/2019 13:47

@Papertigers have you took another test or you managing to hold off till the weekend?

@Gigi318 how you getting on?

Gigi318 · 17/10/2019 13:53

@Trying93 hey chick! How are you? I'm doing okay now, but had a drama this morning!
After have no symptoms at all this month, I woke up with watery CM. Then I saw very pale brown/pinkish CM and was so confused so inspected a bit more. CP was open and very soft. Lots of milky/cloudy looking CM and then the pinkish/pale brown bits too. Had a little more since. I'm 9DPO so was a bit freaked out initially. Then excited thinking maybe it was IB. Then panicked I got my dates wrong and maybe it's AF. And now I'm good again.
Definitely got the timing of O right, I'm certain of it. So hopefully this is IB or just random spotting. It's definitely CM not pure bloody though. We shall see how it goes. But yeah, dramatic morning for me 🤣🙈
How are youuu?? 💖

Trying93 · 17/10/2019 14:19

Hi im doing okay. CD30 and no signs of AF yet and also no other symptoms at all so think that was in my head. The wait is driving me crazy just want to know one way or another.

What a nightmare!! When is your period due? Fingers crossed its implantation bleeding 🤞

Gigi318 · 17/10/2019 14:26

@Trying93 would you usually have AF by now? It's so hard not to analyse what's going on with your body, though isn't it? So, so hard! Absolutely, I hope you get an answer. When will you test next?
I know 🤣🙈 but I feel normal again now - drama is done with. I've had the tiniest bit since 11am - like you have to squint to see it. So let's hope its gone now 🙊🙌🏻💖

Gigi318 · 17/10/2019 14:27

@Trying93 whoops sorry, I forgot to say I'm 9DPO today. AF due Wednesday 23rd! So six days away!

Trying93 · 17/10/2019 15:19

@Gigi318 that sounds too early for the spotting to be your period coming

My cycle was always 28/29 days but last month it was 32 days. It's been getting later and later recently which is a pain. Going to test day 34 which will be monday. Glad I have no tests in the house cos im getting impatient 😂