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Anyone get a BFP after BFN

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Cabbiefix · 10/09/2019 18:47

I'm approx 9dpo and have been having lots of twinges and pinching on my right side, been very very tired so decided to test today and got a BFN.....

Anyone had this and then gone on to get BFP? Or am I out this month?

Sorry been trying for 9 months and getting restless 🙄

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Gigi318 · 22/10/2019 20:10

@HoldingOn2Hope very true. I suppose waiting a month can't hurt. Worth finding out and seeing if that's an issue. Hehehehe yes!!! Xx

HoldingOn2Hope · 24/10/2019 12:17

Hello ladies!

So I had a positive ovulation test yday - had to test to make a record for my nk cells test appt and I was kind of gutted I can't ttc this month :( woke up feeling sad! Does anyone else of pms symptoms during ovulation as I've noticed I do. I've ranted to DH today about it all and kind of had a go with the 'it's okay for men' line and now feel awful!
On a positive my uterus scan was absolutely normal and even my endometrial lining is a healthy and thick so I guess I won't be going ahead with the hysteroscopy.
Another positive is I won't be stressed about a 2ww this month although I feel it's another month lost.
Hope all you ladies are doing okay! Xx

Papertigers · 24/10/2019 12:43

Hi all! Sorry for the radio silence! Hope you’re all doing ok and keeping positive. Just had my dr appt this morning which was good. Had some initial swabs to rule out any infections before first investigations can start. Dr didn’t seem concerned about my mammoth 46day cycle this month and put it down to underlying stress about starting tests. I think she’s probably right! Good news is she could see my period was literally imminent and waiting to come down so I’ve booked my cd 1-5 blood tests for tomorrow morning. Feeling the tell-tale headaches etc of af so I’m ready for a new cycle finally! Any news for anyone else? Sorry @HoldingOn2Hope, I don’t know anything about your history but it sounds like things are moving in a positive direction for you!! Got my fingers crossed and manifesting positive vibes for you all! Xx

Trying93 · 25/10/2019 14:08

@HoldingOn2Hope dont think of it as another month lost. You will get answers or reassurance that everything is fine which is positive

@gigi318 has AF showed up or have you tested? Sorry if you've already said and I've missed it

HoldingOn2Hope · 25/10/2019 21:35

@Trying93 thank you, I know I should be positive and you are right. I just want to get some answers so I can move forward with ttc. EastEnders has made me emotional today as it's a miscarriage episode 😔 chocolate (again!) and bed for me!
@Gigi318 let us know how you're doing xx

Gigi318 · 26/10/2019 11:50

Hi ladies, sorry for the silence. Just trying to take more of a relaxed approach which means less time on here too 🙈 I do feel better for it 🙌🏻

@HoldingOn2Hope I do sometimes have PMS like symptoms yes. I tend to notice sore boobs, cramps or twinges, but also my sex drive is always up!

I did test on Monday and Wednesday and nothing. Not even a squinter. AF arrived Tues night but its been an odd one for me, lots of cramping which is unusual and stopping and starting. Still going now. I'm on day 10 of bleeding if I include the 5 days of spotting beforehand!!! A few people think I need to retest again and I might but also just think this odd AF is down to me obsessing and messing it all up!!! We shall see.

How is everyone??

HoldingOn2Hope · 26/10/2019 15:08

@Gigi318 Ah bummer! I was hoping it was a bfp for you this month! I do believe the obsessing and stressing can mess with cycles as I found mine were all over the place last year when I was desperate for my bfp.
No ttc for me this month but I'm going to look at it this way that it's only another 3.5 weeks until I can (unless the consultant puts me on any meds)
Really wanted to go away next week but struggling with zika - a whole new stress! I've read in another thread that some consultants won't see you if you've been away and exposed to zika!
How are you feeling? Maybe test again in a few days? Xx

Gigi318 · 30/10/2019 20:46

@HoldingOn2Hope heyyy!! I'm feeling good. I'm CD9 now I think and excited to be giving it another go. Are you close to your apt now?? Xx

Trying93 · 02/11/2019 17:54

Hey ladies how is everyone?

Not been on this in a while. Trying to chill out a bit more this month. Deleted my fertility app, not doing ovulation tests. Just dtd, dont even know what CD im on.

@HoldingOn2Hope have you had your appointment? How did it go

HoldingOn2Hope · 03/11/2019 22:34

Hello ladies

Sorry for my delayed response. I've had a busy week with work and finally booked a holiday to India so I go tomorrow for about 10 days.
I decided not to go ahead with hysteroscopy last week as my uterus scan was normal. I thought I'd wait until I have my appt with Dr S which is 2 weeks on Tuesday. If he suggests a hysteroscopy I have another appt booked for one that same week so I don't have to pay extortionate private costs for it.
I've been very up & down these last few days, I think it's because I know I couldn't ttc and even though I'm not obsessing over dpo days I found myself to be a little stressed that I've lost another month. I think so stressed that I developed a rash on various parts of my body - dr thinks it's a stress rash so the vitamin D from the sunshine will do me done good.
I try and be positive but have had some down days so this trip is much needed.
I hope you're all okay and November is the lucky month for you! I'm wishing that December is mine :)

HoldingOn2Hope · 03/11/2019 22:35

@Trying93 sounds like a plan! I might try that once I get the go ahead yo ttc again xx

Trying93 · 04/11/2019 18:01

@HoldingOn2Hope a holiday sounds exactly what you need. India will be fab, chill out and enjoy the sun. Im jealous lol

Keep us updated with your appointment with Dr S 💕

Gigi318 · 10/11/2019 12:24

Hey ladies! How are we?

@Trying93 hows the relaxed approach. I've been doing opks and found they actually helped me to relax!

@HoldingOn2Hope good attitude to have chick. Fab to enjoy holiday too xx

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Cabbiefix · 10/11/2019 14:58

Happy Sunday everyone 🙂

Sorry I've not been on in a while, been trying the whole "I'm not gonna think about it and relax" approach... Don't think it's done anything mind you 😂

AF should be coming tomorrow, been feeling a bit crampy, sore boobs etc so will see 🤷🏻‍♀️

How's everyone else getting on?

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HoldingOn2Hope · 10/11/2019 19:42

Hello ladies!

I'm having a fab holiday and feel like I've caught up on sleep! My 'stress' rash cleared up too so my go was right!
AF arrived 2 days early which means I will ovulate early so that's not great as I was hoping I'd ovulate after my appt with Dr S but seems like I'll be putting off ttc again this cycle! I have another 4 days until i arrive home and I'm excited about coming bk to all things xmassy :)))
@Cabbiefix I hope AF stays well away!!!

Trying93 · 11/11/2019 13:36

@Gigi318 its actually been chilled and a nice break. AF due in the next 7-10 days I think so see how long chilled me lasts 😂😂 opks are good so you know you've definitely ovulated

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Cabbiefix · 13/11/2019 08:28

Thanks @HoldingOn2Hope but no such luck, AF turned up this morning...

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HoldingOn2Hope · 16/11/2019 09:44

Hello ladies!

I'm back from my jollies! Had a fantastic time and a good break. Lots of good food and plenty of sleep :)
My appt with Dr S is on Monday! What seemed like a lifetime away is now in 2 days away.
How are you all doing?
Xx

Trying93 · 16/11/2019 13:12

@holdingon2hope you nervous about your appointment? Glad you had a nice relaxing holiday.

Pretty sure AF is on her way. Stomach cramps, lower back pain and my face has broken out in spots. Had a nice chilled out month tho

HoldingOn2Hope · 18/11/2019 23:01

Hi All

I had my appt today with Dr S. It went well. He's not the caring type but more matter of fact and straight to the point - which is fine as long as he sorts my issues out!
Had a number of tests all done via blood test, I think about 12 in total. Cost a fortune so I hope it's worth it. I get results bk in 2 weeks and have a follow up with him.
I was only with him for 22 mins! Expected it to be at least an hour with the amount he charges for a initial consultation! I was then given the tests info and referred to the midwife who did my blood work.
I do feel positive as he's the only private consultant that's asked questions and carried out the tests. The others told me it's just bad luck however Dr S seems to think 3 consecutive mc's all at 8-10 weeks isn't a case of bad luck.
I was feeling very teary last night. Not sure why but I think I've said in a previous post i seem to get pms symptoms during ovulation. It's ovu week but I've been told to stop ttc - Dr S orders! Although this time I don't feel as if it's another cycle wasted as I know I've had tests done.
How is everyone?

Trying93 · 20/11/2019 08:03

@HoldingOn2Hope pleased you are feeling positive and I hope you get answers.

My period has shown up. Apparently I now have 33 day cycles. Bit gutted I thought this month was it because I was so late, was going to buy a test today to use tomorrow morning

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Cabbiefix · 03/12/2019 18:26

Hey ladies, I hope everyone is doing ok?!

I'm having a tough day today and need a bit of advice....a woman I have to sit next to at work is pregnant and being really full on about it...for example constantly huffing and puffing waiting for someone to ask what's wrong then going on about how she pregnant that's what's wrong, moaning every 5 minutes....

This has been going on since she was two weeks (she told everyone as soon as she found out) now she knows I have had two miscarriages as she had one herself a few weeks after my second.

I don't want to take anyone's pregnancy away from them and I would never say anything but I just find her complete lack of compassion hard to swallow. For example today she followed me around rubbing her belly, complaining about how tired she is, how people are buying her baby presents which she doesn't want (she's 4months) and I walked away 4 times and in the end I left the room and ended up in the toilet crying!

So I just need a bit of advice on how to handle this...my OH thinks I should say something but I don't want to be that person...but it's so hard some days

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Trying93 · 05/12/2019 09:44

@Cabbiefix she sounds like a total nightmare!! I get shes excited but shes had a miscarriage herself so she should know better. Also announcing a pregnancy at 2 weeks . . . I've heard it all now 🙄

I know what you mean about not wanting to be that person. If it was me personally I probably wouldnt say anything but thats just the type of person I am. I'd probably just ignore all the huffing and puffing, not ask about the pregnancy and keep conversation short when she brings it up. She should get the message.

Or next time she moans say "your lucky I'd give anything to be pregnant and tired". But that's me being a bitch lol.

If its upsetting you that much then a quiet word with her is maybe the best thing or could you ask someone else in the office to do it for you?

Sorry your going through this. Some people can be so insensitive. How close are you two? Do you think she realises shes doing it.

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Cabbiefix · 05/12/2019 17:33

@Trying93 thank you so much, I honestly couldn't decide if I was just being too sensitive! But I'm the same as you, I probably won't say anything....I just needed to get it off my chest 😬

I think she must know as after her miscarriage she wouldn't even talk to anyone who was pregnant! Another woman came in with her baby and she completely snubbed her so I (wrongly so) thought she wouldn't be like this but there you go!

I wouldn't say we are very close, but we have sat next to each other for years so relatively close but don't see eachother outside of work or anything....

It helps to just say it out loud (or write it down 😂) so thank you for replying ❤️

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Trying93 · 07/12/2019 14:54

@Cabbiefix that's what we are here for. To help each other when we're having a bad day ❤