TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

[Laney79]

Hey ladies, we were nearing the limit on thread 28 so here's a new one.

Roll Call...

Name: Laney79
Age: 39
TTC: #1 since autumn 2017.
2 losses - MMC discovered March 2018, MMC discovered Sept 2018 both at what should've been 9 weeks, bean and bow measured 6 weeks.

@Lilimum6 @Russkispy @Catconfusion @Boboelephant @fnej01 please tag and pass on!

Name: Bluebelltulip
Age: 29
TTC #3 1cycle so far
DC 2 was stillborn at 32 weeks in January 2019

Hi all, noticed the new thread so thought I'd add myself to the roll call, sorry I've not been on much.

Name: strawberrye
Age: 27
TTC: #1 since autumn 2017.
3 losses - all "biochemical" pregnancies lost just before 5 weeks. Treated subclinical hypothyroidism diagnosed December 2018. Seen by local recurrent miscarriage clinic which was frustrating and not helpful. Awaiting Tommy's clinic referral. Been on this bread for well over a year now, and lurking a fair bit as feeling quite low and lacking in hope for TTC.

Hi all

Thanks for the new thread @Laney79

Age 38
TTC #1
1xMMC June 18
1xMC August 18
1xMC October 18
Possible chemical this cycle following contraceptive failure but not dwelling on it.

Currently awaiting RMC results. Planning to get back on the TTC boat in May on honeymoon

Thanks as always for all the support and sharing on the thread. Welcome to the newbies and the oldies, Wishing us all babydust xx

Thanks for the new thread Laney! I’m another old timer :)

TTC #1 since December 2016
Male factor infertility (but on treatment and numbers are improving)
MMC x 2 (April 2018 9w5d- anembryonic, March 2019 10w3, heart stopped at 8w) was on IVF waiting list but now awaiting decision on recurrent miscarriage referral.

@laney79 regarding your light flow, I was exactly the same and it really worried me. I went to the GP and he reassured me that as my bloods were all normal he wasn’t concerned. Also I fell pregnant naturally soon after so the lining was fine. From your cycle lengths it does seem like you’re ovulating regularly so I doubt there is anything wrong (and you’re not missing af, or spotting mid cycle). I would definitely go to your GP to get it checked out, for peace of mind more than anything. My GP kept asking if I was stressed and I said no, but I don’t think I was truthful and I think this was the cause of my unpredictable cycles.
@russkispy so delighted for your strong BFP! I know you have had a rough time and I really hope this is the one for you. Please keep us updated.

Warm wishes to the new joiners and those I haven’t said hello to yet (hello!)

Hi everyone,

Age: 25
TTC #1
2 losses - MMC in October (baby died at 12+2) and CP last cycle

Name: ale2992
Age: 26
TTC: #2 since sept 2018
2 losses BO in December 2018 and CP February 2019

Hi Everyone,

Thanks @Laney79 for the new thread!

Age 33
TTC #1 since October 2017
1 loss - MC February 2019 at 7 + 2 weeks X
1st AF after MC started yesterday so back on the TTC journey

@Laney79 thank you for the new thread!

Me: ancient 42 (43 next month)
DD1 21 months, conceived with IUI
TTC #2 since May 2018
IUI #2 May 2018 ended in MMC
IUI in October, November - all BFN
IVF/ICSI December 2018 - BFN. No frosties
February 2019 - TTC naturally- CP
IVF/ICSI March 2019, 1 embryo- BFP today! 1 frostie.
Thank you for all your messages today! I'll stick around if you don't mind as it's still early days.

@Laney79 thanks for the new thread.

I won't bore you all with my crappy story I just say I've been in this group since thread 14 I'm 37 and I've had 6 losses ranging fron 4 to 12 weeks. Waiting for rmc appointment and still wait to ovulate since my last loss end of December. Major fear is I'm broken and this is never going to happen. Hopefully whatever is broken rmc can fix it.

Thanks for the new thread @Laney79

Me:
Age 39
TTC#1 since 2013
MC#1 in July 2018 and MC#2 in November 2018 - both natural conceptions

Sorry I've not really been on for a week, been really busy since getting back from holiday last weekend. Had NHS gynae consultation appointment, all bloods for clotting, antibodies and blood sugar are 'normal'. ………………….so yet more 'unexplained infertility' despite having 2 natural conceptions and losses last year. I'm at my wits end. Hopefully will have more results for DH next week from private clinic then we can get an appointment with them too. I'm currently on cycle 4 post mc#2 and I think 11DPO so means AF is due tomorrow with my 12 day LP. Definitely don't feel pregnant so fully expecting AF to show.

Sorry there are new names here - so sorry you're going through this too.

@Russkispy CONGRATULATIONS! Wishing you a healthy 40 weeks!

@Lilimum6 how are you?

@Boboelephant hope all is still going well.

Tagging @KnitKitty @RedRobin7 and @TinyPaws. Hope you lovelies are well.

Oh to add that thyroid showing as normal too.

4DPO here, felt exhausted today and needed to nap this aft. Hoping that's a good sign 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Hi ladies,
I’m 38(in a week’s time)
TTC (trying to conceive) since October 18
First MC (miscarriage) 2 weeks ago, so I’m just waiting for AF so I can get on the TTC (trying to conceive) train.
In the meantime trying to get my TSH level under 2.5 and hoping for that BFP (big fat positive) soon

@Laney79 thanks for setting up the new thread

Hi all, sorry I haven't been following properly.

Age 36
TTC #2 since May 2018
DD is now 2.4 months
MMC in July last year at 10 weeks. Baby measured 6 weeks
Ectopic in Feb. Removed an 8 week fetus with heartbeat and my left tube on 20th Feb

It's been nearly five weeks since the ectopic now and I have had no period. Everything I read says six weeks. Where the fuck is AF? Starting to freak out...

@Russkispy massive congrats! Crossing all for you!

Hi ladies!

TTC#2, DC1 is 18months.
Ectopic April 2018, early MC in Jan 2019 which dragged on.

We went away this weekend with friends, I needed a break and was looking forwards to it. The couple we went with announced they've just found out they're pregnant. She knew about my MC, and she spent all weekend talking about her shiny new BFP. I just feel so angry that I'm jealous of friends good news. And also that she was so insensitive.

@Frillyfarmer that is so insensitive, sorry that happened

@Frillyfarmer that is very insensitive. Very tactless. Sounds like she's never experienced a loss otherwise she'd have been more restrained and sensitive.

@moonpeace that is good that they've found a possible cause which may be treated.

AF due today or possibly tomorrow. Getting crampy though so think it's not meant to be this month either ........still stupidly hoping for a miracle though.

Thanks @InDreamland @ale2992 when I've reflected on the weekend today, I feel as though she almost rubbed my nose in it. I wonder whether my friends just think I'm such a strong resilient person that I'm not completely heartbroken with how this year is going for me. I think she also thinks that because I've already got a healthy little boy, it's somehow not so upsetting for me.

Anyway, AF arrived last night, so I need to draw my line and start again. Today I'm just utterly fucking miserable we're a third of the way through the year already and I'm not knocked up.

God this is such a lonely journey sometimes. Penguin hugs to everyone xxx

@frillyfarmer I totally get where you’re coming from. One of the girls on my group WhatsApp has had a baby and all the other girls (who all have children, never experienced a loss or infertility) are going on about what a special time this is and you only get this chance once. I’m pleased for her but I find the continual coo-ing draining and insensitive. They don’t mean to be hurtful but I don’t think a lot of women realise that miscarriage is a bereavement. It’s like once the physical side is over then it’s forgotten about. But it’s always there and we have to find a way of living with it. I hope you feel better soon. Ive snoozed all the baby bores on Facebook, that was satisfying!

Ladies, just got my HCG results. It's 781! I have to repeat beta in Wednesday. I'm absolutely gobsmacked! With my DD I only had 100! I don't even know what to think! Wow!

Hi all 👋

@Frillyfarmer that is totally insensitive! You did well to survive the weekend, if anyone did that to me right now I would probably leave! Like others have said, people who have never experienced miscarriage or pregnancy loss really don't understand. My sister came over on Saturday and kept telling me that I "should just be happy" for a couple we know. They've just had their first child, exactly when I would have had the baby I lost last summer. I haven't had the balls to see them yet as (harsh as it sounds) that baby and their situation as new parents, is just a trigger for me - we would have been pregnant together, we would have had babies literally weeks apart, my baby would be the same age now... After MC/ectopic etc, other people's happiness is just a reminder of my loss. Its not only the bereavement but all the feelings of inadequacy and fear that come from our bodies "not doing what they are meant to." And yes, when you already have a child or kids, there's the element of "you should be happy you've got one"!! It's so painful on so many levels but people don't seem to understand!

Great news about your treatment @moonpeace. Crossing all for you that you soon get a BFP to put it into practise!

Hoping for a miracle for you @InDreamland! xxx

@Russkispy how many weeks are you? My understanding is it's not so much the levels but the doubling you need to look for.

@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue think I'm just over 4 weeks. I'll go back fo the same test on Wednesday and yes, those will be more important 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Frillyfarmer @MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue I totally get you! Recently all I've had people say is I need to get over it and move on and focus on other things ......umm I've lost 2 babies in the last 9 months, the last was only 4 months ago! F'ing heartbroken doesn't come close! I do not have any healthy living children after almost 6 years trying, my only babies are angels in heaven. So it absolutely kills me when people say insensitive stuff like that, it just makes me feel even more useless, inadequate and worthless than I already did because I can't just snap out of it like people expect me to. No I can't just flick a switch and be okay and back to my old self again. It's not like I'm not trying to cope. I hate being like this.

@Russkispy that's great news!

So AF decided to show this afternoon so that's all I f'ing well need. Feel like just shutting out the world.