TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

[Laney79]

Hey ladies, we were nearing the limit on thread 28 so here's a new one.

Roll Call...

Name: Laney79
Age: 39
TTC: #1 since autumn 2017.
2 losses - MMC discovered March 2018, MMC discovered Sept 2018 both at what should've been 9 weeks, bean and bow measured 6 weeks.

@Lilimum6 @Russkispy @Catconfusion @Boboelephant @fnej01 please tag and pass on!

Sorry @Russkispy that sounded totally insensitive reading it back! I meant in terms of you comparing to last time! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Mistymeow That's so tough. Especially when you're in WhatsApp groups with lots of girls the same stage of life as you as it feels like a constant competition/failing in the pregnancy game. I've muted so many people on my social media this year I will have no mates left soon.

@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue @InDreamland people are just cunts. Since we got married the general shit that I've had repeatedly has been "when are you having a baby" "bloody hell youre carrying big, is it twins" and now it's "you want to crack on with the next one" "don't leave it too long". I'm going to start elbowing them in the ribs at funerals and suggesting it's "their turn next" like the old fuckers have done to me every time there has been a church wedding/christening etc.

I'm quite dry now with my responses - I always tell people about my miscarriage, it's their awkward social flaws not mine. I don't think I would feel half as frustrated and impatient if it weren't for everyone needing to have an opinion on what I'm doing in my life.

@InDreamland I'm sorry you have been through so many losses xx

Bold fail, sorry!

Hi everyone,

Joining the new thread.

29 years old
Ttc #1
2 MMCs (November 2018 and March 2019) + 2 chemical pregnancies

Deciding whether to try again now or wait. I'm going to the US for a work conference in July and dh is going to join me to travel the US for a week or so afterwards. I'm feeling really nervous about getting pregnant in case I miscarry whilst out there and it totally ruins our trip. But also very conscious that time is ticking by and the longer we wait the harder it's going to be...

Dipping in and out of the thread atm as I'm not thinking about ttc atm, but wishing you all baby dust and sticky beans

Hi ladies, I was wondering if anyone experienced changes in their period after a mc , whether they had d&c or a natural one? I had a d&c few months back and my periods have changed in length and heaviness, each cycle the symptoms seem to change. My cycles used to be 28 days with first day of period starting out light and turning to medium/heavy within 12-24 hours and cramping first day. Since d&c my second period was light and had 4 days of cramping leading up to it. Flow was only medium heaviness and cycle was 32 days. 3rd period since d&c cycle was 28 days,no cramps leading up to bleeding, but flow really heavy with a few clots(sorry for tmi). Anyone else experience changes in AF after mc?

Had some quite intense pains around my right ovary this eve plus back ache and being exhausted. Doesn't feel like usual af pains and back ache, trying not to feel hopeful though

Well after spending the last week panicking that I was broken it seems that I might not be.
Top one was yesterday evening and bottom two are today's about 2 hours ago.

Bit of a surprise wish me luck ladies keep your fingers crossed 🤞 for that bfp in two weeks time.

@Mum637k I'm CD2 in my first AF since my MC in Jan. it was natural but I had retained products and didn't get my BFN until first week in March - total drag.

This period snuck up on me, I had no cramping or symptoms and was stupidly starting to wonder/hope I was preggers. It's quite heavy today but not feeling like my usual cycle, no clotting and no cramps. Because it's "different" I'm wondering whether it will affect my usual ovulation pains and whether I should invest in some snazzy CB OPKs for this cycle.

@moonpeace thank you - we all need a bit of fighting talk I think. I've always been one to keep my thoughts in my head but after years of shit it wears thin and I'm such an edgy person now I'll put anyone straight. It's a really tough journey as it is, in your own head. As soon as someone comments on something I have a full day of bitter comments swirling around my head.

Sometimes I read this thread and all the sadness and the loss and the feelings and I wonder how the fuck we are still doing it. It's like a motion and a numbness and I have so much admiration for each and every single one of you. Our journeys are all so different and so lonely and I'm so glad I've got you all to turn to, even though I wish no single one of us was in this shitty shitty place. Xxx

@ale2992 fingers crossed for you
@Lilimum6 YEY! Definite peak there, fingers all crossed for you too xx

@InDreamland thanks for asking after me. I'm in a fab mood it seems i am actually going to ovulate after all on cd10 just like before the last mmc. So my cycle is the same as before.
How are you?

@Frillyfarmer thanks hun. God its stupid but I feel like a giddy school girl x

@Lilimum6 - so you should! Any double darks on any pissy sticks are the stuff of dreams - get giddy and BD 💃🏻 dust dust dust xx

@lilimum6 great sign and fingers crossed!
@russkispy hope the numbers double. Did you have one or two embryos put back in?
@indreamland sorry af snuck up on you. It’s all so unfair. I’m so over it, but will keep going. I still have faith (and for you as well!)
@frillyfarmer exactly. It teaches people that perhaps they should have thought first before making assumptions. They deserve to feel awkward!
@Mum637k I had an ERPC last April and my cycles changed. They were all over the place (ranged from 24 days to 35, and one 14 day anovulatory cycle). Also very light and short. I saw my gp and he wasn’t concerned because all my bloods were normal, and I wasn’t in a lot of pain. I did fall pregnant naturally and even though it ended in miscarriage again it wasn’t related to my light/wacky cycles. It’s one of those things they don’t fully explain to you that your cycles can be off for months afterwards.
@dimblebimble that’s a great idea. In fact me and DH are probably doing to same. We need a break. We will continue to ttc but will make sure our insurance covers me. Mentally it’s what we need, and it sounds like you need it too. Pop back online when you can :)

@Mistymeow only one. Yes, hoping for double figures on Wednesday's test 🙏🏻🤞🏻

Congrats @Lilimum6 on being back in the game!

@Russkispy great HCG scores. So pleased all is finally on track for you.

A quick question I am thinking of trying DHEA. I've got about 2 months before we get back TTC. Has anyone tried it? Did you get any weird side effects? What dose? I am already taking pregnavare, vit d spray, feroglobin and ubiquinol, so am starting to rattle 😂

@fnej01 thank you! I've been taking it since last October/November. 75mg a day. Pills of 25mg 3 times a day. Never had any side effects. These were recommended to me by my fertility doc.

Glad to see some positive news lillimum6 and good luck to Russkisby

I've had the follow up appointment through about DD's death and also to discuss the care plan for any future pregnancies. I was waiting for it to come but is daunting me a little too.

Hi ladies, here is my intro
Age -39
Ttc no 3 since aug 18
Mmc at 11 weeks

I've only just had surgical management of my loss so still unsure about when we will start ttc again x

Hello and thanks for new thread @Laney79

DH and I both 39 but 40 in a few months

We got pregnant straight away on our honeymoon in Dec but ended in MMC at 10 weeks, baby 6 weeks and ERPC at 12 weeks. I got pregnant again straight away but ended in CP last week.

I had polycystic ovaries when younger so wasn't expecting to fall pregnant so easily. On mc scan my ovaries showed as normal so relieved I've recovered somewhat though still have irregular cycles and wonder if there's still an underlying issue causing miscarriage. Don't get me wrong, very grateful we've fallen so easily but it's been so traumatic to lose two pregnancies. Just hoping this isn't a pattern that continues.

@Laney79 I think you asked after me. Sorry for the delay. My cramping continued. Just been diagnosed with stress related IBS so need to look at diet but glad not gynae pains. How are you? Xx

@Nirupa so I got diagnosed with IBS. I checked out thyroid results and mine was 1.5 so well within normal. I'm having vitamin d tests to check not deficient. The doctor I saw yesterday is not willing to do any more tests until we've been trying for another three months. It makes me mad as the doc last week said we could both have a full fertility screen due to miscarriages and our age. I've got an appointment with the other doc next week so I'll push for it. Just want to minimise the risk of another loss.

How are you feeling? Xx

@dreamland @frillyfarmer
It is very frustrating when people just expect you to just pretend it’s all ok and get over it.
My BFF is also pregnant and everyone I get sad about the loss she says it is what is is and you have to move forward ..
Of course we have to move forward, for our own sanities.. and even though I allow myself to smile and be happy again, every now and again I think about the baby I could not protect, that I never got to hold in my arms.. I will be happy again .. but I will never forget and I guess my heart will always ache when I think about that loss..
Sometimes people are just insensitive.

@mum637k my cycle seems to have changed too... in just confused to be honest.. I have been spotting /bleeding all of March.. it stopped for a few days .. I thought my MC was over and then I though AF arrived Friday .. but that lasted a whole day and a half.. was super heavy and now it’s gone I’m not sure if that was my AF
I still don’t know. Took a preg test and that’s still positive.. never have I been so sad to see a BFN..

I’m guessing that means I can’t TTC until I receive a BFN first?

@dimblebimble I think you should take it as an opportunity to have a break.. I am believing 100 % that my next BFP is going to go full term.. I’m not even going to let any negative thoughts take away from the joy from the whole experience and I really believe positive thinking will bring about positive results..
Definitely take out additional med insurance as a safety net, but also keep positive.. im sure you and all us ladies will get to what nature designed us for!

@lilimum6.. goodluck got that BFP.. baby dust to you xx

@frilly farmer I was so gutted to hear that you AF took 2 months to appear after MC., that means I have to wait potentially that long to TTC? Or is it just the conception date that is dependant on AF?

How can something do naturally be so stressful 🙁

@catconfusion, glad it was just IBS and nothing more serious.

I would just push the dr some more and nag until he gives you that appointment. All else fails, try and see if you can go private.

I’m ok thanks... just counting the days I can start TTC Again.

It’s my birthday next week and I really thought I would be announcing the new arrival to our families after our 12 week scan.. so it’s just going to be a reminder that I’m getting older and I’m still no closer to having a family of my own

Oh how cruel life sometimes is

@Nirupa you don't need a period after a MC to conceive - the doctors tell you to have one because it makes it easier to date. But you need to have a BFN, mine took a whole six weeks, but mostly due to retained products. The waiting is just shit, take care of yourself x

Having quite bad cramping and back pain all day today so not feeling very hopeful right now.