TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

[Laney79]

Hey ladies, we were nearing the limit on thread 28 so here's a new one.

Roll Call...

Name: Laney79
Age: 39
TTC: #1 since autumn 2017.
2 losses - MMC discovered March 2018, MMC discovered Sept 2018 both at what should've been 9 weeks, bean and bow measured 6 weeks.

@Lilimum6 @Russkispy @Catconfusion @Boboelephant @fnej01 please tag and pass on!

I will see the nice doctor @Nirupa Unfortunately we can't afford private so are a little bit at the mercy of NHS. Don't get me wrong, we've had some good experiences so far but the inconsistencies are frustrating.

The IBS worries me a bit as some research suggests it can lead to an increased chance of miscarriage. My aim is to try and relax as much as possible. I'm also looking at diet. I'm reading Mind Body Baby at the moment and have found it really helpful for relaxation and mindfulness exercises specifically for ttc. I would definitely recommend. Hope you can ttc soon! Xx

@frillyfarmer, thanks. I will wait for that BFN and hope it comes soon
I was afraid that without knowing the date I couldn’t see if (when I did get the BFP) the baby was growing ok.. but I’ll wait another week and take another test.

@catconfusion I totally understand.. there’s one dr st my GP service that really listens to my issues and the rest just fob me off so I try as much as possible to make appointments with him.

Private is expensive. Hoping you get all the tests you need to get you the tests you need..
I know I do sound like a hippy ( I’m not really) but I think we all need to just stay positive.

Has anyone read the secret? In summary, anything you want, you need to really visualise. In as much detail as you can.. and then believe it will happen.

I know it sounds like a load of BS.. but in desperate times, I’m going to give it a go.. what do I have to lose, right?

I’ve been wanting a baby for the last ten years and I always feared what if something went wrong and I lost it because of my age.. And I did.. so now I’m just going to think pleasant thoughts.. I will get that BFP soon, I will have An amazing 40 weeks and my baby will be delivered healthy!try and just think positive thoughts all and maybe the universe will listen!

I do sound crazy.. but I’m not.. really 😊

Hi ladies. Hope you don't mind me joining. I'm looking for some support following 3 chemical pregnancies/early miscarriages in the last 5 months. We are lucky to have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. Completely blindsided by this as she was conceived so easily. We do get pregnant every time we try but can't seem to hold on to any this time. I am waiting until I an 2 months post MC(miscarriage)and then will be going to Coventry ri see professor Quenby. I'm also waiting for a referral to get all the routine bloods done on the NHS.
Just looking to receive and offer support really and any experiences people have from Coventry would be so greatly appreciated.
Lots of love to all of you💖

@Lsmummy1 hi and welcome. So sorry to hear of your losses. Just thought I'd pop in to say I'm in a similar position - 3 chemical pregnancies albeit over 12 months, TTC#1 for 18 months now so I definitely don't fall as easily as you. Currently waiting for an appointment at Tommy's Coventry, yet to receive the date.

Hi, thank you so much for your reply. I'd love to see how you get on at Coventry too. I will be going in my June cycle and just praying something will work, I've heard so many good things as I'm sure you have. Have you had any tests done through the NHS at all? Only think I've had checked is my thyroid which was normal. Have only been trying for 5 months but wanted to go privately rather than waste more time carrying on and miscarrying if there is an issue. The doctor referred to be as "quite young" (32) during my second miscarriage which made me feel a bit nervous and not wanting to waste any time. I'm so sorry for your losses too. Praying all of us on here will succeed xxx

Back ache and cramping seem to have gone so far this morning. However feeling exhausted, bloated and slightly sick today.
Definitely symptom spotting but what else can I do during TWW?!

So, my first period since MC is a real anticlimax- I was told to expect a very heavy flow but so far I've had two light days and absolutely nothing this morning. Does it mean anything?

@Mum637k my AFs are different since mc#1. No consistency in how they are though.

@Lilimum6 great you're back in the game! Fx for you! I'm not great TBH. AF came Monday and just reminds me of the two babies I lost last year as well as this was my last chance for a 2019 baby. People saying insensitive stuff to me isn't helping.

@MistyMeow thank you.

@Nirupa as much as I try to ignore insensitive comments it really hurts. I agree with @Frillyfarmer so once you get a BFN you can start TTC again.

AF is lighter this month. So fed up. Still waiting for DHs DNA fragmentation results - they still didn't have them yesterday.

@ale2992 it's hard to symptom spot no matter how much we say we won't do it we still do.

@moonpeace I'm finding not seeing my future as planned hard too. Tomorrow is DD's last full day at nursery as she's dropping to mornings which was planned to reduce costs but still give me time with the baby.

Has anyone used cervical mucus to track ovulation? I was thinking of trying it when TTC dc2 but conceived without it.

Just got my second HCG bloods since Monday. Massive rise! HCG is 2241! Twins? I'm freaking out! Just asked my clinic, and she said maybe! Omg! 😱😱😅

That's great news Russkispy

@russkispy I did wonder about twins! So glad it’s all going well so far.
@moonpeace @bluebelltulip it’s really hard. I describe it as having a little grey cloud following me around. One day it will lift.
@frillyfarmer it can be lighter after miscarriage, or heavier! It seems to vary woman to woman. It’s good that you have af so you can start again, sounds like things are moving in the right direction.

For those of you who have been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic on the nhs, did you have any tests in advance of the appointment via your gp so the specialist can review them at the appointment? How long did you wait for one? I’m being referred to Dr Shehata at St Helier. I hope they will accept me (had two mmc not three, but infertility is making trying for a third difficult).

Hi @Mistymeow I was referred to my local RMC and my GP kindly did some of the blood tests needed prior to me being seen because the wait for an appointment was 3 months. It meant the RMC consultant could review those results, did a pelvic ultrasound the same day as my appointment but wouldn't do any further investigations and discharged me the same day. I would recommend getting some basic ones done first - like your thyroid - if you can, as thats when my hypothyroidism was diagnosed, and it takes at least a couple of months for the treatment to take effect and for it to be safe to try again with TTC. Good luck with your referral - are you seeing Dr Shehata privately or on the NHS?

Hi all. Can I join in?

Name: mommato3
Age: 39
TTC: July 2018

1 MC 12/2/19 @ 11+6 beans passed about 7w 😢 Now TTC again impatiently as cycle all over. My app said ovulation yesterday OPK yesterday and today negative. Don't know if I haven't ovulated yet or if I missed it. Today's line was lighter than yesterdays. I believe I had my first post MC period on 12/3/19 which lasted a whole week. Next due 9/4/19 but probably won't happen on time. I've had intermittent spotting since MC bleed stopped after 2w and 2d and again since last 'period'. Confused. Frustrated. You name it. I just want our baby 😢 xx

So last night after 6 weeks since I MC I broke down in floods of tears! I've been feeling so positive about knowing we can actually get pregnant but now having to try again but no that changed last night when a friend of ours announced she's pregnant this was the same friend who was adamant they were planning on trying for a couple of years as they only get married last August. I'm happy for them and I know people change their minds but I want expecting to hear that and now feeling like seriously when is it my turn! We've been trying for 17 months with 1 MC! Feel like screaming!!!!

@Mistymeow my local RMC sent me blood forms and ultrasound appt through the posts with an instruction to wait 8 weeks post miscarriage. The secretary looked out for the results and rang to book me an appointment once they were all through. I think it is pretty normal that of all results are clear, to discharge you at first appt and tell you to keep trying.

@Russkispy that's sooo exciting eeek!

Hello, just checking in fashionably late to the new thread. I'm on holiday so haven't been checking mumsnet much.

I'm Tiny, now 33 years (had a birthday since the last thread, never really minded getting older before but now I hate it). I have a same sex partner so have been TTC with donor sperm through self-funded fertility treatment.
IUI 1 - BFN
IUI 2 - missed miscarriage at 10 weeks (but baby measured 6) in April 2018
IUI 3 - chemical pregnancy at 4 weeks in July 2018
IVF 1 - chemical pregnancy at 5 weeks in December 2018, 1 embryo in freezer

I requested prednisolone for the FET, currently still waiting (!) to hear my clinic's decision on this (yes it is taking ages and yes I have been chasing!). Also awaiting RMC follow up appointment. If we don't get the answer I want regarding prednisolone, I will be looking to change clinic to one more open to this. I'm not very happy with our current clinic, but moving clinics would be logistically tricky so hoping they'll come around.

Currently having a bit of time out on holiday. My body might be rubbish at keeping babies alive but it's quite good at hurtling down mountains at high speed with bits of wood/fiberglass/metal strapped to it's feet! Been doing yoga every day after hitting the slopes too!

Congrats @Russkispy on the BFP, nice dark line and good betas. Hope everyone else is hanging in there. x

@raincart2017 I totally understand. We have also been trying a long time as we have male factor infertility, with two heartbreaking mmc to show for it. We have watched all our friends fall pregnant easily and sail through their pregnancies. It is unfair. You do think “why are we having all the heartache”? Your reaction is completely normal and understandable. We’ve all been there. I too feel positive but sometimes I just want to sob. For the lives I lost and never met, and the sorrow of being alone in our experience. Allow the tears, it will get easier.
@strawberrye thanks for the info! Looks like I’ve already had a lot of the tests (just spoke to doctor today) but we are going to repeat the thyroid one and some of the other tests that were requested for the ivf. We are being referred on the nhs to Dr. Shehata- his is our local clinic fortunately. The referral was made a few days ago so hopefully won’t be too long. How are you?

Thank you ladies! We already have a DD of 21 months. I'm absolutely pooping myself but will deal with it if/when it comes to it. My clinic told me to have a scan on 17/04 and it's my birthday! So I'll shift the scan to the day after as got visitors then. Very anxious waiting time till then to find out if it's a singleton or indeed twins.

@Mistymeow thank you it means alot!

Not sure if I said in the last thread but last year around the 12 months of trying point my doctor put me and DH through all of the tests, including ultrasound and a horrid procedure called the HSG to check the fallopian tubes! Only thing they found was a very slightly over active thyroid but after my 3rd blood test to check this, my thyroid decided to go back to normal! We then got to meet a fertility specialist last November who has put us down as unexplained fertility and to be eligible for fertility I have to get my BMI below 30 which I have been trying to do but with the MC it affected the weight loss.

We now have a follow up appointment in 7 weeks where I need to lose 1.5 stone to tick a box then maintain the weight loss for 6 months to be able to get IVF before I'm 35 in 2020 if we don't conceive naturally before this.

Sorry for in depth message but I was wondering if anyone has had NHS IVF and are you aware if my MC would now effect me going through IVF in the future?

@Russkispy that's awesome, I'm so pleased and I'm wishing you lots of baby sticky xx

@Raincart2017 - it's so tough, I'm sorry. I think the worst part of it (for me) is that I love my friends and I want to be happy for them but I feel so bitter every time I hear another announcement. I think for me, my friends think that because I have one, it's somehow OK.

I'm a bit down again tonight, bogged down in work, left the house before DS woke and came home two hours after he went down for the night. I'm beginning to think my career is putting an unnecessary stress on me.

I just need to rant.

I'm CD6, having only stopped bleeding on Monday from AF. Did an opk when I got home from work (only because I forgot to do my clearblue this morning for the first time this cycle) and it's about as positive as I've ever got, on cycle day 6?!? WTF??? Is it even poss to have a decent lining/mature egg that soon? That would make this cycle just 19 days if I ov tomorrow? I'm now properly scared about what's going on with my body. My last cycle was 32 days?! My gp said either go back on the pill or see a private fertility specialist as she can't refer on the nhs.

Spent the past two hours crying. I hate my body so much. Why is this happening?