Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...2!

[Hobbes39]

New thread as last one filling up - will try to link to this in old one...!

Aw @BooseysMom - didn't mean to make you cry! 😘 AF always makes me an emotional wreck too tho, so I understand!
@Realitysucks - good to hear from you. I KNOW it's hard to hear, but it does only take 1... so you never know. If your clinic are like mine then they will probably put the embryo back in on day 2 if there's only 1 as the best place for it is your womb.
My DH was the optimistic one out of both of us and sometimes I've wanted to slap him for it, but tbh I think one of us needed to be more focused on the hope and I couldn't be, so I think while it's frustrating, it's a good thing really? Rest up, drink lots and good luck for the call tomorrow x

I've just found this thread, I'm 40 in June. I have two children age 11 and 16. I hit my bfp in jan bit found out today I had a missed miscarriage, am devestated

@Hobbes39 yes they are saying day 2 transfer so Saturday as long as little egg lasts that long. I’m trying to be positive 🙄!

So sorry Sam.

@Reality I’m keeping everything crossed for you!

@Samk79 I’m so sorry, it hurts like hell, I hope you are holding up okay.

Rose68
Thank you, I feel devastated, I was looking forward to my 12 week scan next week

Oh @Samk79 - I'm so sorry. It's so unfair. I've been there, and it hurts like hell. Be kind to yourself...
do you know what you will do? Are you waiting it out or going to go for medical / surgical management?
While I know you won't feel it now, you will recover xx

@hobbes39
I have to go back for repeat bloods Saturday and they will discuss further options then. I know lots of ladies go through this but it has devastated me

@Samk79 - it is devastating. I think missed miscarriages are extra cruel as they come as such a shock.
How did you find out? DS you have an earlier scan due to worries or was it routine? X

Did, not DS

@Hobbes39
I had a scan st Epu due to light bleeding. I think it's worse as I was almost at the 12 week mark. The cruel thing is I still have pg symptoms, I'm really struggling to cope x

Sam - sorry to hear you are going through this. It happened to me too last year. Hugs

@Cleozeta
Thank you. I only found out yesterday so still early days. I'm worried my age is against me

@Samk79 I am sorry, I know many of us have been where you are and it’s such an emotional time. You have lots of support here x x

@Samk79 - it's totally normal to feel how you are - it really is cruel and the limbo land you are in where you are still pregnant but know it's not good is just so awful, I'm so sorry.
While I'm not out the woods yet, you are younger than I was with my first MMC and hopefully it will allcome
Good for us both in the end xx

So good news ladies ! Clinic just called both eggs have fertilised !!! As long as they divide ok transfer tomorrow at 10:30 with two!

So so sorry Sam xx

Reality that’s great news!!

Hi Sam, I had a missed miscarriage back in April/May time both have just reached 16 weeks yesterday having found out I was pregnant again at Christmas time. It’s a horrible thing to happen and I hope it for good news soon for you

@Realitysucks that is fabulous news! Brilliant good luck with the transfer!! X

@Hobbes39 when you has your two put back in what day was it?

Hobbes.. that's ok. I'm ok really. My colleague has announced she's 6 wks preg and today a mum at the school gates showed me her 7 wk old baby girl..but no, honestly I'm fine!! Honestly I am !!

Reality.. What fantastic news.. am stoked for you! Good luck for the next step x

@Samk79...welcome and so very sorry about your mmc. If it's any help I was a couple months shy of 41 when i had DS. I had had 2 mcs previous to this and we gave up then there he was ..un-noticed up to 12 wks would you believe!!
Look after yourself and hope you feel better soon x

Reality - such great news 😊

Sam - welcome and I’m so sorry to hear about what’s happening. It’s heartbreaking. I had a missed miscarriage a few years ago in my thirties but have gone on to have another child. I doubt it’s age related. They are sadly just so common. I know that’s probably no consolation right now but I didn’t want you worrying about age on top of dealing with everything else.

@Realitysucks - I had 2 put back on my first round on day 2 and I did get pregnant but it was a chemical (but showed that I could get preg!)
The other rounds, this last (4th) one included I always had 2 put back on day 3 as I never had enough to risk going to day 5. People can and do get pregnant from day 2 transfers - the best place for your embryos is in you, so good luck! 🤞

Sorry forgot to say Hobbes - amazing scan photos! I love the one of both of them cozied up together. Awwww.