TTC 1st baby

[Tchelsea]

Hi All,

In the tww of my first cycle trying for my first baby.... learning so much reading through some of these threads! Would be lovely to have people to talk to that are going through the same thing!

@joylondon keeping my fingers crossed for you, let's hope one of those times was THE time!!

All ok here, in the tww, but not overly hopeful tbh. 7dpo and haven't felt anything remotely like implantation, no cramping... NOTHING! I'm not doing temps or OPKs, but i get really bad Ovulation pain so I take that as a sign I'm ovulation, DTD O-1 and O-2 but not O so think we're probably out!

@joylondon I am out for this month I think. Took a first response yesterday AM, BFN and it should be showing something. Temps still all over the place at the min, up and down every day like. Looking at OPKs online but yet to order. AF due in 2 days. How are you feeling? I read somwhere if temp stays up its a sign of implatation, you never know.

@Goodyear how are you getting on, did taking the month off do you good?

@TChelsea you not out until AF shows her head so stay positive!!

@ImMeantToBeWorking That sucks, but on to the next month!
I've definitely felt less stressed out by it all this past month. I'm just about to come into my fertile period so we'll see how that goes. This will be cycle #9 for me. I strongly suspect I'll be heading to the Dr in a few months time to ask for tests to see if there's a problem.

@ImMeantToBeWorking ugh that is rough. Are you taking your temp before sitting up, like literally the first thing you do still lying down? And is it at roughly the same time? Just trying to think of reasons why it's fluctuating... I'll show you my graph, there is a little fluctuation but the baseline is clear.

My baseline is 36.6, so all my temps from the start of my period until ovulation are below 36.6 somewhere. After O they are above 36.6 but jump about a bit. There is some variation but it's still clear when is before and after o day.

I really don't understand the temping thing! I feel like I'm an intelligent person but I just can't get my head around it!

I agree, the temping is a bit confusing. I often had quite bit increases/decreases, other times it was quite steady.
I'm actually a bit confused with OPKs to! I'm using them again this month, the digital clearblue ones. Having read the instructions I think when I get the smiley face it means I'll be ovulating in the next 24-48 hours so we try to DTD the day I get the smiley face and the two days afterwards. Does anyone know if that's right? Is there any benefit in DTD more than two days after the smiley face or will we have missed the window?

@Tchelsea I like to think I'm reasonably intelligent to but all the info around fertility has got me questioning myself lol!

@Goodyear2019 they definitely don't teach you about this in biology or during the "school talk"!! They want to stop people from having babies, they should tell them all about temping and OPK's, EWCM, cervix placement and your fertility window!!

That's my understanding of the OPK's too, but who knows if it's correct!

Hi everyone,

Totally new to this! TTC for baby #1, just waiting for AF to finish after hoping this would be the month 👎🏼 we've only been trying for 3 months so far but it still feels like forever!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated 😊

Thanks!

@Goodyear That's great that you have been less stressed, and hopefully it has done a lot for your mindset and your body. I think I will start using OPKs in May after holidays as I want to know am I actually ov.

I am out for next month, conscious decision as we are going on a cruise in 7 weeks so I would rather not be stressing about flying, eating, drinking and going to water parks etc. So I said it to DP last night and he is slightly disappointed but I think it is best. Typical my fertile window is the week before the cruise or we could have tried on that. Oh well!

@joylondon, my first alarm goes off at 7am. I stay lying down and make a conscious effort to breath through my noes for the next 5mins, then when my 7.05 alarm goes off I take my temp then before I sit up or anything. Here is my most recent chart, it is varying a good bit. No longer sick, taking painkillers or anything...

@Tchelsea I hear you...I got a first in my MSc and I can't figure out how to do my temp! You are not alone!

Hi @als2912 welcome! I'm on cycle 3 as well so similar to you! Best advice I can give is to wait to test!! So hard to do though!

@ImMeantToBeWorking I definitely think a break on your holiday is a good think! No stressing out, relax and enjoy yourself! Where are you going?

@Tchelsea thank you! Yes, so hard! always feels like everyone around me is coming out with the "I'm pregnant!" at the moment 😂 just trying to keep relaxed about it all and not stress too much when it's a BFN!

@Tchelsea That made me laugh, chat about EWCM would definitely put the school kids off haha!
Hi @als2912 each month does feel like a lifetime sometimes doesn't it! Don't have any advice really, but having this board to chat to others in the same position has been massively helpful for me so I hope it helps you to :-)

@Goodyear2019 thank you 😊 yeah just to be able to talk to people in the same boat is already making me feel better!

@als2912 welcome!

@ImMeantToBeWorking 😞oh I don't know, that's so confusing!
A cruise though! So jeal!! Hope you can totally switch off and enjoy xx

@als2912 welcome to the emotional roller-coaster that is TTC. 🙈

@tchelsea yes I think it will be good to take a break. Going around Spain and Italy, won't be overly warm but we said we would try to do something different every year so this year is a cruise. 😁

@joylondon I know confusing AF. Ah well, all I can do is keep trying. 😂😂

A cruise sounds amazing, enjoy!

So I started using the ClearBlue digital OPKs this week and I go the 'smiley face' yesterday, but that was only cycle day #12! I usually don't get it until days 14-16. Bit annoying as we would have started DTD earlier in the week, so I feel like it kind of reduces our chances this month. :(

@Goodyear2019 you'll O in the next 24-36hours (depending which test you used-some give more of a window) so that's perfect if you can dtd today, tomorrow and the next day! Good luck! Xx

Thanks @joylondon We DTD last night and thankfully my husband is not away for work so can try again tonight and the next couple days. All this scheduling really does take the romance out of it lol!

@Goodyear2019 totally agree with the scheduling taking the romance out! haha luckily my other half doesn't seem to mind but it's definitely another thing that runs through your mind 😂

I hear ya on the scheduling!! I keep trying to not mention that I'm ovulating and thinking of ways of seduction, but it's just so unglamorous when you know deep down why it's happening!

@ImMeantToBeWorking Goodness that sounds amazing! Some good food too! Very jealous indeed!!

@Goodyear2019 Definitely think you're in the right window!! Lots of baby dust!!!

@Tchelsea haha that's what I do as well 😂

Anyone else find their resolve just weakens when they have pregnancy tests at home??

Every month I say I won't test until I've had a late period... but every month 10/11 DPO and normally when I come home from work so not even FMU I test... Lol it's like I'm a crazy person!!

@Tchelsea yes... 😩
I'm starting to get my hopes up which is really silly. My boobs are really sore and I have mild cramps... and it's only CD21 (7DPO) probably totally unrelated to anything 😭