Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Here's our new thread, let's hope it's a lucky one!

Thats a greap bfp pic critter! So pleased things are looking good for you.
How did you post the pic?
Evug - lol at the dhea comment get some in quick!!
I am determined not to stress about things this time. I'm going to enjoy every day that there is hope, and take things as they come. (Thats the plan anyway!!)

Cleo - I think you just just click the ‘choose file’ button underneath the typing box. Or on my phone it might show as a ‘paper clip’ rather than ‘choose file’. Then go to photo library and select your photo. x

@Cleozeta to post the pic is easy - under the box where you type your message is a button next to images that says ‘Choose file’. When you press that it gives you the option to take the photo there and then which automatically attaches to your post, or you can browse to a stored photo. Once the pic is uploaded you’ll see a little imag3 of it and you can type in the message box as normal.

Congratulations Cleo! That's really exciting. And so hopeful for all of us. Just great news!

I got AF this morning which was so so disappointing after what seemed to be a particularly good cycle. My cycle seems to be shortening. Does anyone know why? Doesn't stress tend to make cycles longer? I had a 23 day, then 28, then 26 and now 25. Before that it was usually consistently 28, occasionally 35. I had a Mmc /ERPC back in March/April. I used OPKs this cycle and got a positive around day 13 which should be ok I think on luteal phase, especially as older women (I'm just 43) are supposed to ovulate earlier than the OPK indicates.
I've been doing reflexology but moving on to accupuncture now. I'm interested in the chinese medicine too. It seems to work. It's so hard to know where to go and who to ask.....

Letsdothis43.....I'm sorry you got such negativity about your results. I don't have any information to help you but just wanted to tell you not to give up and that there seems to have been some "miracles" in this group already.

@Crittertamer, thanks so much for your advice, that does actually make sense, just gutted really. The pic of your BFP has made me really happy however, so lovely to hear the successes on this board! I will do further investigations and find out what next.

@Cleozeta and @petrarabbit thank you, just a crappy few days, but no point indwelling, I've procrastinated enough now time to move forward and fight for my potential little one to be!

quick question, what is TCM?

Let's it stands for traditional Chinese medicine. My places oldest customer was 49 I think when she got pregnant. I do think, and we've saud it here before, that nowadays too much attention is paid to ourcresulrs which don't mean a whole lot. Generations of women before us have been getting pregnant in their mid and late 40's when there were no AMH checks and it wasn't anything unusual so I think as long as you are ovulating there is always a chance plus fertility supposedly increases when you're approaching menopause so there's still a chance for us all

Oops sorry for all the typos!

Can't get the attachment button to work for ma annoyingly!! So can't attach my bfp. Have looked at it about 80 times today though, still in shock!
I think AMH and FSH and all that crap really mean nothing. As Orchid said, while you are still ovulating there is always a chance. Ignore all the pointless numbers and negative people and believe in yourself and your body

@Cleozeta and @Orchid222 keep bonking ladies whilst af still calls your still in the game 😘😘😘and congratulations @Cleozeta

My line was fainter today. Why is this journey so difficult

I took 3 tests, a frer like yesterday - fainter. A cheapy internet one - bfn. And a pregnancy stick from my CBFM which cane out with a good line and said 'pregnant'.
3 completely different result from the same pot of wee.
So confused, but I'm thinking chemical. I've not had one before and I'm probably due one....

Be positive Cleo.... wait for 3 to 4 days before testing again...a positive is a positive however faint it may be....relax and let your body do the needful.....stress is not going to help in any way.
Everything crossed for you.... hoping for a sticky one for you

Thankyou evug. You are right. I'm just going to leave it alone for a few days and see what happens. I wish I had left it alone today.

Weirdly the cheap test that I got bfn from is supposed to be much more sensitive than the cbfm stick that I got the dark line on. Why can't I just leave these things alone?! I think I was just hoping to see it get darker

Oh no Cleo, it’s so hard not to test isn’t it. It’s such early days & still could be fine. As Evug says, try to wait a couple of days before testing again. I know it’s hard though. xxx

Thinking of you @Cleozeta, and keeping everything crossed that your line gets stronger 🤞

I really regret testing today. I have learnt a lesson from this. Once I get a bfp be happy and leave it alone! I've now wrecked another day that I could have been so happy. Even if its short lived.

Do you think weeing on or dipping makes a difference (clutching at straws) yesterday I poas today I dipped....

I've written off the cheap internet sticks as every one of them has been bfn even though they are supposed to be super sensitive but frer and cbfm have been bfp

@Cleozeta I really don’t know if it makes a difference whether you POAS or dip. I never dip mainly because I can’t bear dealing with the pot of wee!

Maybe just stick to the FRERs so at least you get a true comparison and test again tomorrow or Monday?

Cleo Ofcourse it's a bfp if you are getting on 2 brands.....as far as I am concerned I think I have developed a squint staring so hard at stark bfns since past 2 years

Cleo - it’s still very early days, try not to fret. Those internet cheapies are supposed to be sensitive but really I think cheap = cheap. Hope you’re relaxing and staying positive.

As for me I went for my first acupuncture today at a proper Chinese place. Am really impressed. The acupuncture was lovely and relaxing (especially under the heat lamps-bliss!) and the guy was quite knowledgeable. He’s done me a great deal too, 6x acupuncture sessions for £150 plus a free week of herbs. Haven’t indulged yet in the deliciousness but will start in the morning. After that it’ll be £35 per week for the herbs. How does that price compare with you ladies doing TCM?

Evug - I had to laugh at your squint comment lol.

Cleo Ive everything crossed for you. When i got the bfp in March I tested positive on the Sunday night but on Monday morning it had vanished so much so I told dh it was another chemical. I tested later that night and the line was back. IC tests are that reliable.
Im still lurking here and still nothing is happening for us. Cycles are varying between 24 and 31 days since my mc. Feeling desperate now and worried Im out of time.
Littlemimosa can I ask what happened on your 1st acupuncture appointment. Im going to find an acupuncturist and see if that helps.

Hi mini. Good to hear from you despite you still ttc. It’s so draining isn’t it especially when your cycles go irregular. Can relate.
We chatted for a while about my general health and cycles etc. Then he put the needles in my back and left me on the bed under the heat lamps (bliss) for about 30 min. Afterwards he gave me the herbs to take home. Even tho I’ve tried acupuncture before I decided to try a Chinese place (based on some success on this thread!) this time. I’m also thinking of trying DHEA but need to ask everyone; are Biovea a reliable company ? The reviews are VERY mixed.... anyone had any problems?
Good luck Mini x

Hi all, I'm 9DPO and not a sniff of a symptom. We're going to use a frer Monday..... not remotely excited. I've stopped temping etc, in fact I'd even forgotten how many days post ovulation I was!! Slowing giving up....

Thanks Littlemimosa. Just going to get an appointment booked. No time to waste. All those who announced pregnancies around the time of the mc are starting to deliver including 3 very close family members and 2 friends. Stings a lot though the baby cuddles help ease the ouch.