Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Ladies here's our new thread!

Lol @BooseysMom! We've managed once during my fertile window this month. I feel like I had quite a short window this month although I can't say I've been super observant in the past.

Ewcm lasted from Thursday/Friday until yesterday. We dtd on Saturday night. Hopefully this worked! I think when we were trying last time we had loads more opportunity and also we got lucky 🍀

Ooh @mellongoose and @BooseysMom small child invaded our bedroom yesterday morning.. right at the wrong moment.. so rubbish parenting went into gear and sweeties were promised if he popped downstairs to watch some telly with his sister.. 🤦‍♀️

Hi,
Cookiewaffle directed me here. Nice to meet you all.

I'm 44, had #1 at 42 then MC this March and now ttc for last 3 months. Various health issues may be preventing implantation (thyroid/ submucosal fibroid)
Am I the oldest on here?
What are your top tips ladies and how do you stay sane in the tww. I've given myself until jan next year so a bit of a deadline.
X

Welcome @Dinah99!

Why have you set yourself a deadline? I'm interested because I have sort of loosely set one several times but reset it when it passed!!!

Sorry for your loss. Hope you find lots of support and advice here 👍

Welcome Dinah. Sorry for your loss and fingers crossed for you.

Personally I think I may just give up and leave it to fate. If it happens it happens. Actually trying is driving me up the wall. Particularly with all the weird stuff that keeps happening to me.

Welcome @Dinah99
@shinyblackdog we need a list update xx

Hi everyone, sorry for just jumping in. I hope that's ok??

Anyway, I'm 41. I've two kids (5 and 2) from ivf. I thought we were done, but lately, I've started thinking that I'd like another. I haven't told my husband yet because I'm afraid it'll be an outright NO! It'd have to be ivf again and we can't really afford it. Plus, my mental health has suffered a lot since having my second. I just don't know what to do, but I feel like there is a third baby waiting for me. Am I nuts? Should I leave it and just be happy with what I have? I'm knackered enough as it is. These kids are killing me. My bloody hormones have me so confused though - I just don't feel like I'm finished.

Glad you found your way here @Dinah99. I'm in the tww at the moment. Telling myself I'm totally gonna wait to test and then symptom spotting at 3dpo . I will be keeping myself occupied with work and hobbies in the meantime. Going to get myself a nice massage to chill me out!

Welcome @Ficidy glad to have you on board. I can't speak from experience as it'd be nice to at least have 1 child!

Welcome @Ficidy I know the one more waiting for you feeling... we'll all get there I have hope xx

Hi ladies

Denise Lewis is pregnant at 45.. that gives me some hope

I thought about setting deadlines too but I think it will put the pressure on too much and I would keep extending them!

@hmmm1234 that's fab news about denise Lewis... whoop whoop the 45 year olds!!! I intend to give up when my periods have stopped... we don't use contraception... so just leaving it Mother Nature

@Orchid222 - I've gone straight to 3 x 25 and I started on Day 1 of this cycle. Figure I'll carry on with them until a) positive test, b) hideous side effects kick in, c) told to stop by a health professional or d) given up all hope

@CritterTamer - The potential side effects are what kept me from jumping in with the DHEA the previous month. The consultant I saw a couple of months ago confirmed I have dimished ovarian reserve and also my test results show lowered testosterone so I thought it worth a shot. Tried talking to hospital people about supplements but they rather shut me down so I'll hold my hands up and say I'm not doing this with their full support as they don't seem to want to discuss it. Very frustrating but I don't feel I can wait until my next appointment in 4 - 5 months to try asking again as time is obviously of the essence. Hopefully I can move that appointment forward after my last test (they want another progesterone which I'll aim for next cycle) and if I still feel like I'm getting fobbed off my partner and I will likely try a private consultation.

Having said all that I could also go the herbal or acupuncture route. Seeing my old acupuncturist this week for a catch up (and quick treatment for another issue) so will likely see about asking them questions as well.

Oh, and not noticed any negative side effects yet. I did get a couple of impressive spots but put that down more to the sweaty mess I become when the temparature goes above 21 degrees. If I do get side effects I'm hoping I get the improved gym performance rather than the head hair loss and body hair gains

Think I'm in the 2ww but as I didn't get a positive opk or a temp drop I have no idea!!! I've written this month off tbh.
The only positive note bizarrely is I think I have a virus, not feeling too great, so that could explain the lack of temp drop....
positive news about Denise though!

And hello to @Dinah99 and @Ficidy

Dinah - you're not the oldest here. I'm a fellow 44 yearer and there's at least 1 other person here who's older.

Ficidy - Sounds like a tough decision you have to make given what's going on for you. I've not been there (TTC #1) but I wish you the best with the conversation with your partner and hope you can come to an agreement on the path to take.

I'm totally losing my mind today. Last month I managed to be super chilled but this month I'm almost convinced it's gonna be a positive. I need someone to give me a slap and bring me back down to earth. I'm only 4dpo.... This is not a good start to the tww!

@CookieWaffle
It's so hard not to, I'm getting worse and worse as the months go by, symptom spotting is the worst though, I'm trying to keep busy and stop staring at the bloody app. I fell pregnant at 41 by accident, using the app to try NOT to get pregnant . And I drank loads... now I'm taking every supplement, wound up like a spring, not drinking and analysing the app and symptoms! Think I had it the right way round first time. Hang on in there xx

@mellongoose I set deadline just because I'll be 45 then and I'm finding it torture every month putting life on hold ttc, the ttw, not getting involved in parties/ celebrations, and quite frankly I think I'm too old for having this much sex every month

@CookieWaffle - Can you squeeze in some meditation? Or cake.

Cake definitely cake :)

I apparently have a 5ww at present so my waistline will suffer lol.

Seriously though would love to just know wtf my system is doing.

Ahh totally cake. Or chocolate.

First month I properly monitored I was terrible, last month I was all 'avoid forums, apps and chill' which worked well until the whole CP thing. And now after I've read the 'more fertile after CP', positive OPK appearing and OH asking when we'll find out, I'm going a bit mental. My app is not going to show me any more than it did 10 minutes ago!

Off to buy chocolate.

This thread has been busy since yesterday! Just catching up now - welcome to the new ladies 😊
@Crivit - sounds like you’ll be ok if your testosterone is low anyway so hopefully the DHEA will help you!

Sounds like everyone is having a frustrating time at the moment - AF currently 2 days late for me (4 days if you include Ovulating 2 days later than normal too) and really trying hard not to get my hopes up. I’m sure there can’t be any hope this month, hormones and cycle all screwed up after the IVF last month and no symptoms at all really, but every day that AF doesn’t show you can’t help thinking ‘what if...’!

On the plus side, thi# is officially my longest ever (non-medicated) LP at 12 days and counting so maybe the IVF drugs or all the fertility yoga had a positive effect on lengthening it which would be good 😊

Hope everyone is doing ok and keeping sane.

Do we need a new thread title.. ??
Just been to see my new nephew.. born 3 weeks early.. hard but just confirmed that I'm not going to give up... and if denise, louise and Sharon can... maybe I can too x

Yes we will need a new thread soon. I really like the title we have now and the summer certainly isn't over yet so I was going to use the same title and add cont. to it but if you have other ideas please share or set a new thread up up and share the link.

Weird cycle for me this month I normally get 5 days of high fertility on cb this time I had 7 before I finally got a peak this morning. Need to switch to cheaper opks but the cheap ones don't seem to work for me...

Over 40 ttc - August baby dust for me! (?)

Bit lazy but we like the sentiment and this one can run and run!