Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Ladies here's our new thread!

Hey @CritterTamer, I like the name! How long had you been trying before you went for ivf? I worry that I should be seeking help though I've not been trying for long. I'm just scared I'm gonna miss my chance.

@Cookiewaffle - we had only been ttc for 7 months, but due to age had been advised that realistically our best hope was IVF, and given that we have no DC and chances of successful IVF dramatically decrease with age too we decided to just go for it rather than waste more time trying and failing naturally only to find that IVF would be even less likely to succeed as well - if that makes sense?

Oh wow @CritterTamer, tough options, I'm thinking if it doesn't happen this week I should go see my GP.

Critter good thing you're not an IVF sales person or you'd be failing miserably:)
How long do you have to do the injections for?

LOL @Orchid - you’re right but wanted to give you ladies the honest truth haha. Got around a week of injections to go - scans later this week will give me exact dates. Hoping for egg collection next week if all is well 😊

And it's very much appreciated! I'll certainly feel more prepared if we do decide to go down that route, the more I know the better. Hope your egg collection happens soon and there are some good ones. Are you mentally repared for the possibility of twins? :)

Actually yes, DH and I would both secretly love twins! It’s not considered a good outcome though and they do everything they can to avoid it so whilst possible it’s not likely. What I’m really not mentally prepared for is what will happen if it fails 😔 it’s so exciting but have to keep telling myself it’s still only a 20% chance this cycle, so while better than 5% it’s still not good odds!

Welcome CookieWaffle and Helbelle75..
CritterTamer if you have so much ewcm the condom could well be MIA..
2 days after bean goes massive ovary pain on the R... so here we go again.. back on the horse so to speak.. x

Yeay..found you! Was cursing my rubbish internet connection for not sending my msg when it was the thread that had closed! !

Good luck Sparkly x

Also good luck Critter, Orchid & Karigan. Thinking of you all x

Welcome Dicky & Cookie and good luck. I had DS at 41. Ttc no. 2 for nearly 3 years. The ladies on here keep me sane!!

Well.. here's a BIG thank you to everyone who said get a 2nd opinion on my heart thing. I did just that today and even got to see the head of our surgery who ...get this. ..told me i don't actually need the pills as there's nothing actually wrong with my heart!! Wtf!! I nearly fainted right there and then! ! So was the monitor on the blink? ! No..but DS had pressed the button a few times and they must have thought i had palpitations.. It just beggars belief! Why i needed drugs for that i don't understand. The doc said "so you really don't want them?" and i said "well no, not unless i have to have them"! He's prob written in my notes 'refused meds' to cover them if something did happen. But unless it's a case of legal drug pushing i don't get it. .why the other gp said my heart rate was 1000s more than it should be then prescribed the drugs unless it's a drug pushing exercise! Just bizarre! Anyway the main thing is i don't have to take them and it can't stand in the way of ttc... Hurrah!!

That was quick Chat. Do you think it’s the ovaries warming up for ov?

Boosey, not sure what happened originally with your palpitations but I was once sent home with an abnormal ecg (cue massive panic stations) only to discover they’d wired me up the wrong way! Glad you’re ok though.

Glad you are ok!

Great news Chatbash 😁

Silly ipad - posted too early!
Meant to say great news Chatbash and BooseysMom xxx

Critter - why do they say twins is not a good outcome?

Great news booseys! I had a feeling it wasn't so bad

Chat - get back on that horse!

Weasel and Mini so sorry for AF. It’s rubbish.

Ochid thanks for the new thread. Hope you’re ok. Can’t believe you got a strong bfp but they can’t see anything.

Karigan - thinking of you too. Hope it resolves for you one way or another soon.

Welcome to Cookie and Dickie.

Chat - that was fast. Hopefully you will have increased fertility this month.

Critter - you’re doing so well! Keep your chin up.

Booseys - hurrah! I thought it sounded a bit odd. Great news.

Atrocity - sorry for bfn.

Cleo - fingers still crossed for you.

Nothing happening here. CD14 and nothing. Am feeling really dried up😥

Morning all, at the hospital waiting for blood tests due to still no sign of af despite progestin course. Great news Booseys and thanks for the link. Thinking of you Karigan, everything crossed. To everyone in 2ww good luck, everyone with af onwards and upwards.

I remember seeing on an earlier thread a really helpful list of everyone's situation - could we do that again now we're at the beginning of a new thread? I'll start:

Shiny: 40, 1dd 3yo, tfmr at 39, mc in April

And Orchid, I hope you get an answer today, this limbo must be the worst. I think the most mentally draining thing about ttc is the waiting. If I was told there is no chance of you ever having another child I could come to terms with it, I think, but instead I test, try, then wait wait wait... But we wait in hope.

Bfn for me today. Joy. After all the stress of waiting and hoping, it's always a killer. Cd12 and the hopeful wait was becoming unbearable so caved in. Af also due today if I run by pre mc LP, so that'll be fun.
Was really hoping to just be pregnant again. Oh well, onwards and upwards.

So, rollcall: Cleo, 41, ttc for about 15 months, mmc in May, 2 DC 7 & 5

Orchid - good luck today, let us know how you get on.

Shiny - good luck with your blood tests

Mimosa - be patient (I know, easier said than done), it may just be taking its time this month and could still happen. Cd14 still early

Sorry cleo, BFN are just the worse :(

Good luck to those needing it today!

As for me
42
2 DC 7 and 5
Last year had losses at 14 and 8 weeks
Had a break from ttc and started again in Feb 2018, had a chemical in march 2018.
Currently debating how long to carry on ttc for.....

I’m sorry Cleo 😕

Weasle I feel like that sometimes. I wonder if it can ever actually be successful.

Does anyone else do that thing of checking a bfn stick several times after to see if a line may have magically appeared? Or is that just me....
I even considered drawing a line on earlier

Hi all, 39 (40 in Sept), no DC, 1 MMC last year at 9+4, diagnosed graves disease this year, thyroid levels are ok now but on meds. Did follicle tracking and now discovered my lining is only 6mm. Now on cyclogest for the remainder of this cycle. sigh

Welcome Dickybow, Cookie and Presh.

Update from me: I had a morning from hell. Went for my scan, the sac hasn't grown since last week and there was still no yolk sac and no baby. I was expecting that so I was ok until I went to see the nurse and told her I didn't want to go through options again just wanted medication. The moment I said it I felt tears in my eyes for the first time since getting my bfp. Since I never had any symptoms I somehow managed to stay emotionally detached from it as much as I could but I think today it's all caught up with me and I reached the breaking point. I managed not to cry on my way from the hospital but was so upset and angry with myself for not starting sooner and wasting precious time, if another dc doesn't happen I don't know if I'll ever be able to forgive myself for that.
Anyway, I started the meds today and really hoping they work soon and I can get it over with and move on and get back to trying. Need to take some more pills tomorrow and then it's a waiting game. I feel angry and sad but relieved in a way that I'm doing something about it and not carrying on being pregnant without really being pregnant.