Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

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Ladies here's our new thread!

So sad to read your story Angel; there are no words. You have great courage.

Leezo, I'm so sorry for your losses - it's so hard, these little seeds really test us.

@cleozeta I have no idea what happened, I don't technically know what an anovulatory cycle is and keep meaning to make an appt at the GP's to ask what it could've been but in all honesty I sometimes wonder what the point would be, I normally (if I ever go) walk out feeling more confused than when I walked in! 20 days late (no period at all in June) and heavy? who knows!

@critter Please don't let what that Consultant say get you down, I know its harsh, my fertility clinic consultant (after routine NHS tests) was a horror too, just saying the chances of going for IVF was practically nil, her words made me withdraw from thinking about it for 8 odd months before I realised I wouldn't get anywhere feeling like this.

@littlemimosa 50 days .. has anyone been able to give any answers as to why? I would hope 42 is far too early for menopause, fingers crossed its just one of these anomalies!

Thanks Let’s. No not been to the doctors on this one. But.....

I’m sorry to come on and harp on about myself but this is what I call Sod’s law: after I posted earlier I went to the loo, wiped and guess what ewcm. Great I thought. Really chuffed things suddenly waking up but DH WENT AWAY WITH WORK today!!!!!! Aaaah. Is the universe sending me a message?!

Well I guess you can add a CP for me now and onto month 4!

@littlemimosa ...oh no flippen sods law .. frustrating as hell!

@cookie -- onto month 4 and positive vibes being sent for a good month!

I discussed with DH before he went to bed that we need to kind DTD every second or third day from now until the end of this cycle .. tiring yes but i'm going to have to up my game one last cycle (whilst researching IVF) to make sure I gave the natural conception one final last wholehearted push!

Yes! I'm definitely feeling more positive about next month. I wondered if anyone else has had this though, I've still got cramps and backache and I'm worried this is not normal after this long. Never have much trouble with period pains usually. Tried to get in to see GP this morning but with their stupid new system it's a lot of waiting on the phone and struggling to get appointments.

Mimosa that's great that things are happening! Terrible timing, bit at least you are out of limbo. Shame he didn't leave you a 'sample' in the freezer
Super long cycle though as it'll be about 64 or so days by the time af comes. That's goid news its not a proper anovulatory one with a breakthrough bleed. Bet you are so relieved for that limbo to be over? Have you done any opk's?

Cookie glad you are feeling more positive. The cramps may be cp related and should hopefully ease off soon. Good idea to see a gp though just to be sure.

Lets - it's a mystery! Sometimes our bodies do weird things. I get something different every month which keeps me on my toes! Fingers crossed for a normal cycle (even with a happy ending - you never know!) Next time.

Critter - please don't stress about what nobhead said. So maby people have been successful in your situation, he's just negative and insensative and shouldn't be in that job! Try to feel that positivity and hope again - it is there.

As for me, got my surprise peak yesterday and a super strong opk with a temp dip in the morning, suggesting I ov'd yesterday, but today temp still super low! Nearly as low as yesterday. Weird. As I said before, body always does something weird to keep me guessing. I don't think I've ever had a normal straightforward cycle!! I guess that would be boring haha

Just dipping in as away with eldest child, Paris for a few days... am flipping knackered already but 9 days into new cycle and just had a bleed... great away and in a white dress ( thank god no leakage ) but trying to now track down some towels.. however am just stressing about why a bleed???? Could it be left over from af.... don't think I'm ov ing just yet... not dtd for a few days... in panic mode !!!
Sending lots of positive hugs to all who are feeling a bit down and fed up with this all x

Hi all, if anyone is interested I just came across a YogaYin video which is specifically for dealing with perimenopause - lowering FSH and shortening lengthened cycles. It’s named ‘ovulation’ so isn’t immediately obvious what it is so try searching for that if you want to try it 😊

What vits should I be taking to improve my chances. I'm just taking the conception vits

Should I also take evening primrose, ubiqnol and coq10

Anything else?

Don't want to mess up cycles though as they only just back on track after a couple of dodgy months!

Ubiquinol is CoQ10 - in a better format - you don’t need both. I think EPO is helpful for specific problems but isn’t good for everybody and can cause problems - I’m sure someone else who knows more about it will answer soon!

Oh Chat bless you, you had some bad luck there! I get spotting sometimes between cycles but have not experienced that at that time before. I did get a bit with ovulation this month which properly made me freak out but didn't last and all seemed ok after!

Chat - oh no, that sounds rubbish! Was it just spotting or a period like bleed? I get mid cycle spotting sometimes, was told it was perimenopause related, or hormone imbalance. I also spotted right up until ovulation the cycle after my mmc, but that was straight through, not really stop start. How odd. Can't be another af surely? Any signs of impending ov?

Critter, that sounds interesting, I'll take a look. I daren't test to find out what my fsh is now, but I can't imgine its magically gone down to normal levels sadly. Will do all approaches to get it down!

Hmmm - Ubiquinol and pre conceptions shouldn't mess up your cycles. I wouldn't have thought epo would either? It's for improving ewcm. Anything else you take will depend on your particular requirements / issues.

Drat, so sorry I didn't update you Cookie, totally meant to but can't hold more than one thing in my head at a time at the moment. So sorry your little bean didn't take this time, but now you know it can be done - onwards and upwards.

@CookieWaffle i am so sorry things did not progress as hoped. I know from experience it is such a horrible feeling. A 'Chemical pregnancy' is so cruel but do not lose hope. The worst thing that anybody could say to me was 'at least you know you can get pregnant'. My rational brain agrees but my irrational brain wants to scream it is no consolation for the loss.

I tested this afternoon after staring at the box for an hour knowing it was way too early to tell and my dates were way out anyway. No surprises it was a bfn. My body strangely still feels pregnant though. I have lost 2 pregnancies back to back so i know what pregnant feels like but now I'm in a panic that I only know what an unsuccessful pregnancy feels like and I don't know what is normal! DH's birthday on Thursday so shall test again and pray for a little miracle. Being a woman is so damn difficult!

@Cleozeta it was more like spotting but quite mucusy and like the beginning of af.. but not noticed any more.. slight pink cm.. not noticed it before and don't think I am oving.. tough really if I am as hubs is in Blighty and I'm not till thurs.. but have swimmers in the tubes.. I have no other peri symptoms.. as sore boobs and mood swings have been part of the af rollercoaster for years so not sure I could tell the diff

No worries @shinyblackdog I'm definitely seeing it as a positive! I almost defied all odds and I can do it again!

Thank you Leezo, I didn't manage to face work today esp with the pain still going on. Told boss who was very understanding (I'd rather them know than say the wrong things!) and after talking with the doc I had a proper cry which I think did me good. I'm ready for next month!

Mimosa, did you get any dtd in before he went and when is he back? Are you doing opks?

Leezo good luck for your next test, I've tested too early so many times and it really means nothing as it would likely not show yet. What dpo are you?
I think an unsuccessful pregnancy would feel the same as non at the beginning.

Chat - if it gets stringy or stretchy too then its ov as I've had what looks like the start of af turn into that before and it was ov. Not necessarily anything wrong either, spotting can happen randomly with ov sometimes. At least you have some swimmers there just in case!

Chat - let's hope for some swimmers that do the trick either before or on Thursday.

In calculating dates forward last night, am giving it 4 months of this daft ttc#3 plan as couldnt face the starting school thing aged 50

I'm stressing about my temps again. I hate temping, I never sleep properly, always waking at 5 or so to temp, then they often don't show what I expect to see. So bloody stressful! So this cycle, on Monday I had peak on cbfm, a super strong positive opk and a good temp dip (I always get a big dip on ov day) then next day temp was still dipped, was expecting a rise today but the rise was crap, and still below pre ov temps. Did this mean I didn't ovulate?? If I didn't temp I'd be happily obliviously thinking it had all gone smoothly this cycle.

Hi cleo, is concentrate on the good things like the strong opk and a definite dip. Temps might rise tomorrow so I'd keep dtd....

Nothing to report here, day 6 and AF now stopped, waiting for fertile week.

@Cleozeta not stringy yet and very slight today too.. am bloody hoping this isn't the start of all over the place afs as been regular like clockwork until now... tummy a bit twingy was worried that although af was heavy and neg test that I missed something.. see how I go over next few days.. 😬😬

And @Cleozeta I knocked temps on the head in jan as they were stressing me out too much, my friend suggested it and I was so worried what would happen if I didn't.. but actually nothing happened and took a bit of extra stress away.. xx