TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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@Murderino haha! Let's hope it's our month hey 🤞
@zarala as usual I agree with my opk guru buddy @DaisyMay25. That's not quite positive but very close. I would expect that to be positive tonight so ovulation probably tomorrow. You should then get a temp rise Wed to confirm this. Although ff will only confirm after 3 days of higher temps than the previous 6.
@Coffeist welcome and so sorry for your losses.
@DaisyMay25 and @YellowDaffodils86 thanks lovelies! Fingers crossed for all of us this month!!!
@hayleyfx thanks hun!
@rdm10 be as angry as you like. Hope they are implantation cramps!!
@Pampl3m0usse that sounds awful! Please go to your GP. Neither pregnancy or AF should cause so much pain. Also hope everything at work is sorted out soon. That all sounds very unfair.
@MrsGS76 thankyou! Fx for you too. Great job on your week of jks! Especially with 3 kids- wow!! Haha my DH also found gel a bit of a passion killer!! Hopefully we catch this month and won't have to use it again!
@Pancakes7 thankyou! Glad you are feeling better too. I've not had one but I hear they are painful.
@BabynameEdie thankyou! Yeah this is only my third month temping so don't know what a good one would look like for me to get a bfp. First one was really rocky up and down every day and last month spiked once and then stayed the same temp for 6 days. I had that big drop at 7dpo but wasn't implantation dip as I was hoping. Then it just went down. This is the first month where it has steadily climbed with a slow rise. I hope it's not just the progesterone cream! So glad your early scan was good!! Hope I'll be getting one soon too!!!

@mrsgs76 still nothing! I got and almost positive at 11am this morning but it was back to blank at 5pm.

I’ve either got a dodgy batch or my hormones are playing games 😂

Thanks @Boboelephant
I really am so amateur at this!
I'll do another OPK tonight and see what that looks like.
I'm really hoping this is your month! That chart looks textbook positive- Fx your temps stay up like that!!! 🙌🏽

@zarala I was too!!! I only know it now due to all my obsessive googling! Thankyou, I really hope so. Not sure I can take another disappointment. Hope you get your ovulation soon!

@BabynameEdie glad all is going well.

@RedRobin7 FRER are the best ones, expensive but good.
Iv no intention of testing before Wednesday, i fly on the Thursday. Will see how i go, all depends if old AF shows.
I just dont want to test early, i hate the bfns and the "oh maybe one more day" however the urge to test is always hard to resist!!

@KeefBurtain have you had any cm?

@boboelephant no ewcm, no. I normally get a lot but since having my dc last year I’ve not been getting any. Didn’t have any when I fell pregnant in February either

@YellowDaffodils86 I feel the same. I really don't want to test early as I hate the bfns so much. And it messes with my head when I keep saying 'oh it was just too early' BUT I also really want to test on Friday! I think if my temp stays up I'll test and if not I won't until af is late.

@KeefBurtain ah that makes it hard then. Is it possible that you ovulated overnight and this morning was the end of the surge?

@Boboelephant thanks I needed that. I've been so worried about my job and how they've treated me after the miscarriage (actually before too but that's a long story) that I've assumed it's OK to just battle on. Off to the GPs tomorrow (though probably after work...!) I'm really hoping this is your month!! I'm intending to test again tomorrow (maybe will go to the docs sooner on the off chance I am pregnant...)....

Hi guys, I'm now joining your club!

Age - 36
TTC #1
1 MC - May 27th 2018 at 8+4. Natural mc, completed in 4 days, with all bleeding gone by 7 days.
TTC since October 17

It's all a bit new to me. Confused about tracking ovulation etc. Been advised by my midwife to wait until I complete a full cycle before trying, although I was on holiday last week and we did have some drunken, unprotected fun . Panicking a bit about that now!

@Pancakes7 do you have back pain or other abdo. I've got awful back pain which is better if I'm standing or walking and stingy when I went to the loo this morning but still not sure if it's related to my miscarriage a month ago.... I just want to be back to normal!!!!!!

Can anyone help.... still no sign of AF (due tomorrow) apart from cramps (which I'm not even sure are related). I'm fairly sure I know when I ovulated and I usually get AF a fortnight later. Can miscarriage muck up your cycle between ovulation and AF? I'd always thought it just delayed ovulation but now thinking I might be a bit naive....

@Boboelephant sounds like a plan. I started this month with no opks and that went out the window. So i wonder if my willpower will hold out with poas again! Iv already started spending some time with our mutual friend, mr google 🤦🏽‍♀️

@boboelephant possibly. My temp has been steady for the past week but I’m not pinning anything on that really as I’m up and down all night with an 11 month old who can apparently survive on 3 hours sleep a night

We’ve jks every day since the 2nd June so hopefully if I have already ov then there’s been something there to meet it 😂

Something I did notice last cycle was that I got my positive opk on the 16th May and my period on the 27th May, so only 11 days rather than my usual 14. So if I presume my cycle was out of whack and base my next ov on that (16th May + 28 days = 13th June), then I shouldn’t expect a positive for 2 more days. Or doesn’t it work like that?

You wouldn’t think I have a science based degree when I know hardly anything about simple biology 😂

I think I’m 2/3 dpo and am taking 5mg folic acid, pregnancy multivitamins, baby aspirin, eating a slice of pineapple everyday for lunch (I kind of like the core!) plus progesterone cream. Last time I did this I got my bfp let’s hope that’s true this time. Oh and also getting lots of vitamin d aka sunbathing. What else can I do? How’s everyone else?

Evening ladies and welcome newbies sorry you find yourselves here.
I think I am 2/3dpo so will see been flitting between positive thoughts that this is the month for the next bfp and no way this will happen. Trying to keep busy and not over think it.
@boboelephant fx for your bfp this month after your major jks marathon!
@yellowdaffodils fx for a bfp ready for your holiday!

@DaisyMay25 @MrsGS76 @YellowDaffodils86 @RedRobin7
@Boboelephant Thank you all for your positivity. I’ve got aching legs as well which I get with af so pretty sure it’s af but at least I’m a bit calmer now.

@Pampl3m0usse I think the time between ov and af has got shorter for me too since af (although I don’t use opks so I’m not 100% certain when I ov’d)

@Pampl3m0usse are you waiting for your first AF after MC? if so, mine took 33 days to come and was one day medium-heavy then three very light days. Fx for you x.

So last time I got my bfp I had an itchy mouth as if I was getting a cold. This lasted about 3 weeks then I got my bfp and it went. No cold. Today the same itchy mouth. I don't want to get my hopes up but I wonder if this is a sign of me being pregnant again?

@Pample3m0use I seem to have itch roof of my mouth which was what I had before my bfp. So fx this is a sign of another bfp. No cramps or anything. My mmc was only finished just over 2 weeks ago and cm shows I should have ovulated this weekend. So my af should be due in approx 2 weeks. Fx it doesn't come!! I hope you feel better soon.

Hey @KeefBurtain - I'm very new to opks but I've noticed the amount you drink/wee before hand really does have a big effect on the result. It's been hard to not drink/pee too much as I'm in Greece on holiday, but the results have been much clearer when I've managed to hold it a while! Could that be why your results changed so quick? I had a very strong positive on ic Sunday arvo and IC and CB digital yesterday morning, but the ic I did yesterday arvo (after a drink and only holding wee for about an hour) had no line at all-but this morning the ic definately had a line, all be it a fading one (so I guess I ov'd yesterday and now into TWW)

Thanks to everyone who advised on ov/opks... We've managed to JKS 6 out of 7 days, including yesterday on what I hope was ovulation day.

@Boboelephant keeping everything crossed for you! When will you test?

@MrsGS76 thanks! Good to know I'm not the only one! My fella laughs at me, saying I'm very randy! Haven't been quite so frisky for years!!

Sorry not to reply to all individually-sending hugs and baby dust to all!

Welcome redhead82, but sorry you find yourself with us.
They usually recommend you wait a cycle so that you can date a new pregnancy more easily, so don't panic.

Well I don't think my unconscious mind is being quite as chill as I am when I'm awake! Had a dream last night that I got a surprise positive pregnancy test and couldn't believe my eyes because I had my period last week. Woke up with back and tummy pain (could I be ovulating super, super early? Also had a lot of CM yesterday), and I've had 4 spots on my forehead since Sunday which I never really get, apart from when I was pregnant; so I have now driven right into the centre of crazy-town and parked there for the day.

I had been planning to do a test to see a negative to give me some peace of mind after the CP and because I haven't physically seen a negative since MC in March (it was the hospital which confirmed with a negative test there but I didn't see it myself). So I might buy a test after work so I can relax again. Sigh.

This all could have popped in to my mind because at work yesterday I had to deal with the gynae who saw me before my ERPC. Very weird experience.

@Pampl3m0usse I hope you get some answers at the GP and af stays away! It sounds like your work has been tricky for awhile but do remember that you are entitled to any leave you've had and they cannot discriminate for pregnancy related sickness. MC can definitely mess up cycles and to be fair I think there are no rules. Some ladies on here have missed ovulation or periods entirely and had very short or long cycles. I also had very bad back pain for the few months directly after MC.
@redhead82 welcome and so sorry for your loss. Don't worry if you've been lucky and conceived straight away. Waiting for af is just so they can date pregnancy. As soon as you have a scan they can do that so not a big deal.
@YellowDaffodils86 ah Mr Google..... 🤦‍♀️
@KeefBurtain I think you might just need to wait and see. My cycles took a while to be consistent again. And I still seem to ovulate on a different day each month. Hope they regulate soon.
@Martydog sounds like you are doing everything you can. Try and relax and do something nice to distract yourself! now listen to your own advice bobo
@Blondcat thankyou! Fx for you too!
@Laney79 woohoo welcome to the tww and good job with the jks! Thankyou! If temps stay high I'll test Friday which is 11dpo. If they drop I might wait until after af is due Sunday.
@KnitKitty I think the test is a good idea. It's important to see the negative I think. Hope you can have a little mind break!

Has anyone else found a bfn at the end of 2ww so much harder after miscarriage? Just had bfn today on the day 1st af is due after mc. I know when I ovulated so was hopefully waiting. I think I had high hopes I may be one of the lucky ones who gets pregnant again straight away, plus all the talk of high fertillity after mc makes the slap of a bfn so much harder.
I also think as I had been trying for over 12 months with no luck I'd kind of got used to it. Now after getting pregnant, even though I mc I now have the added hope that its possible. I have just found this bfn harder than others,

@Cleozeta Not so much a bfn as I haven't tested again since mc. I remember driving myself and DH to work the month after mc, he asked if I was ok and I replied I had awful period cramps and we both cried. No sobbing just quiet tears that we both laughed through- was really sad.