TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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Thanks @Cakelaur I couldn't stop looking at it! Just need to keep everything crossed now!

@Murderino come join us on the bfp thread when you feel ready. More cake for more babies... BFP after MCwww.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3270588-more-cake-for-more-babies-bfp-after-mc

RedRobin7 That looks like really good progression to me. I understand why you don't feel excited yet, but once AF doesn't show up maybe it'll start to sink in!!! Tentative congratulations. Keep us updated. I'm so excited FOR you! Really hope this one is a sticky bean. Here for you with the ups and the downs. xxx

littleemma1 I'm so pleased for you that your AF arrived without medication, that must feel great! Have a wonderful wedding and a lovely marriage! Don't hesitate to pop back on to say hi everyone once in a while! :)

Thanks sweetpea0318 I really like what you said about concentrating more on dating. This month has been a bit difficult financially for us so there hasn't been a lot of that and I think next month I'll suggest a couple of meals out and what have you. I haven't talked to him yet as I didn't want to be in the wrong frame of mind to do so, and thought it wasn't the best timing, but I do plan on having a chat and explaining my feelings and asking him to be more open about his too. I'm glad it's not just me going through this though, that makes me feel better too. I am feeling a lot more positive again.
MrsGS76 yes, I don't think we can really relate to what it's like for the men in our lives and having to perform. My OH sometimes has issues too. The problem is that he has the most problem if I'm the one initiating together time (even before TTC) so that makes it really hard when TTC because only I know when I need him to up his game. Sigh. It will happen when it happens. It will happen when it happens. It will happen when it happens.

I have actually noticed I tend to get PMS symptoms around ovulation and seem to get really annoyed at the smallest thing, whereas usually I'm really calm and collected. Does anyone else get this too?

Coffeist I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you don't have to wait too long for AF to show up. I think it helps normalise things once you get the first one over with. I felt better emotionally after mine, like I had some closure. I had to wait 38 days for my first AF to show up though. Eugh.

hayleyfx that's brilliant news. I'm so pleased for you! xxx

zarala I really hope that was a sign that you are!!! If you are that's really cool that they both had dreams about it! Keep us updated.

Hi 81Louise. So sorry for your losses and that it's taking so long to get your sticky bean. Welcome to the huddle. How are you?

Murderino!!! Wow!!! Congratulations! There's no denying that one! Really hope it's a sticky one!!
Gosh this month seems to be a good one for BFPs!!

Laney79 I'm with strawberrye on this one. After my CP last month I really don't think it's a good idea to POAS too early. Try to hold off if you can. If it IS implantation it would be too early to detect anything anyway right now, and if it's AF it might only be a day or two till she shows up properly if you're already spotting from that. Sit on your hands until Saturday, I say.

@Murderino Congratulations!! Wishing you a successful and healthy pregnancy. What does that make your due date?

I've ordered some CB digitals but not sure they will arrive in time for tomorrow's FMU... think I'll have to put it in a sample and then dip the stick when it arrives in tomorrow's post! 🙈 Think I will believe it if I see the words in writing!

Thanks so much @KnitKitty - also hoping for a sticky one - calling the dr today, hoping to scan early.

@RedRobin7 makes me due 26th Feb 😊

@Cakelaur I'll come on over - thank you for the invite x

@murderino congratulations! 🤞For a sticky and healthy one xxx

Hope it's okay if I check in (better late than never?)

afictionado
Age 28
TTC #1
MMC at eleven weeks in January
Cycle 7 post MC, trying to conceive since December 2016

Welcome to the group @81Sophie and @afictionado - sorry you find yourselves here but hopefully you'll find some fun and comfort here.

Congratulations @Murderino! No mistaking that . Wishing you a relaxed, healthy pregnancy.

I'm 5 dpo at the moment and feeling really down. I feel like i'm always destined to fail and it just won't happen for us. Husband admitted when we were TTC that he's feeling broody and really wants this to happen (last pg was a surprise so this is our first time 'trying') so now I feel like i'm not going to be able to make it happen for him. Things just feel really overwhelming.

Hi everyone,

Currently waiting ovulation after finishing my pill packet last week. Had a withdrawal bleed that finished Friday, and if I’m judging right, my CM seems to be watery - which according to all the apps and google, I should be ovulating soon.
Hats off to all you ladies that have done this a number of times as I’m resisting getting obsessed - not easy haha.
So interesting to see what my body’s doing too after being on the pill for 12 years.
Did anyone here ovulate straight away after finishing the pill?

I’m cd24 on a usual 28 day cycle (usual before mc)

I stupidly POAS (IC) this morning and there was a shadow where the positive line should be after 3 mins. It doesn’t photo but it’s there, and lines up with the lines on my previous positive tests. I don’t know whether to test again tomorrow on frer or save it until Sunday.

Fs why do we do this type of stuff to ourselves?

Oh my! So much good news today!

@muderino congrats!!!!! Wishing you a wonderful pregnancy! Try and stay positive! I can imagine how scary it is!

@Laney79 I agree with @strawberrye if you can wait it out for a couple of days at least you should hopefully get the answer youre looking for! Plus it will be just in time for POAS FRIDAY!

Hi @Cakelaur ! As our resident charting guru if there's an implantation dip- does that mean implantation has happened or is about to happen? (Big dip this morning for me at dpo8) I'm supposed to test dpo10 but I'm so worried it will be too early !

Thanks @KnitKitty I hope so too!
And good luck talking to your man! I def think dating is a great idea! Rekindle the romance even if it's just Netflix and chill!

@afictionado welcome to the group and sorry for you loss! Hope you find these ladies are supportive and fun as I do! It's not an easy ride but at least we have each other in our penguin huddle 🐧

@TedLife I'm sorry you're feeling so low- but try and stay positive- I'm sure your partner won't hold you personally accountable if things don't work out! So don't let yourself feel guilty at all! If anything it's a positive thing he's on board TTC and you can try and have fun on this journey together- sending hugs

Welcome @Summerbab- sorry never went on the pill so have no advice!

Ahh@KeefBurtain! That's crazy! How many dpo are you? I need to test on Friday and I am so scared....!

I’m 9/10 dpo I think. 4 days til af due.

One of my friends made a negative image of a photo I sent, but says she can’t see anything. Now I’m doubting myself.

Any honest opinions? I don’t know if I’m just seeing something cos I want it so bad.

Top test is this am, bottom is from previous pregnancy.

Thanks @zarala @TedLife @sweetpea0318 / really appreciate the well wishes 😊

Congratulations @Murderino ! Fx for you xx
@KeefBurtain I'm CD24 too, have POAS on the amazon cheapies but nothing, I'm tempted to go get a proper test or wait a few more days! I'm going crazy.. which test did you use? X
@Coffeist so sorry for your loss and I echo what @KnitKitty says , you will feel more normal once your AF shows up, it's a sign your body is ready and working properly again then you can enjoy TTC!! X
@Laney79 try the hold on ... I know it's hard as I'm going through it as well. I've disappointed myself by POAS with the amazon cheapies but I know it's too early for those ones! Fx for you x

@KeefBurtain I am sorry I don't see anything but I am rubbish at these squinters anyway
Wait until friday and we can POAS together and cry

@Murderino Congratulations!! What good news!! And a 2-3 weeks aswell! So happy for you. This Friday is 4 wks since mmc. So hoping for a bfp later this week.... But if not af will atleast let me track my cycle.

@zarala hi babe. Hope you're doing well. Generally if there is a dip that is as implantation is happening. So if the next two/three temps are high then test then. You may find you get a bit of spotting too. I had a two day dip with spotting both days then bfp (but mine was 13 and 14dpo) good luck!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Cakelaur thanks for that! Really helpful

My doctor wants me to test at 10dpo but I really can't fathom seeing anything on Friday

I guess I just have to wait and see on Friday 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

@GPS76 thank you! @Pancakes7 thank you ♥️ least you'll know where you stand, one way or the other. I have my fx for everyone x

Thanks everyone...I'm going to try and wait as long as poss, especially with cycles being so crazy before MMC. It's going to be so hard though!!! Gah!!!

@zarala it’s a date

@zarala @KeefBurtain ooh fingers crossed for POAS Friday!

& to everyone else testing soon, got everything crossed for you all 🤞

@Boboelephant how are you doing? Haven’t heard from you in a while, hope all is okay!

Bfp people including @Cakelaur can you indulge my tww mentalness? Im 15dpo tomorrow and so far no AF.
Iv had funny cramps since yesterday, they are not like af cramps. My uterus feels tender and like its been beaten from the inside. Its almost like electricity running through it rather than cramps, if that makes sense at all. Iv no other symptoms really. Any of you relate this at all?
Im flying at 7am tomorrow and packing a frer, if iv no af by the time i get to my room, im paos!

Hi everyone would love it I could join in.

Age 30
TTC No1 since July 2017
MMC at 12 weeks Jan 2018
MC at just over 5 weeks in May 2018

Currently have first AF since my miscarriage last month however don’t seem to have ovulated this cycle so hoping my body gets back to normal soon. Currently have long cycles around 40 days. Praying for a little rainbow baby soon.

Yellow have you poas yet? (sorry if I've missed that you have, this thread moves quick!)