TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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@Cakelaur haha I’m the same, still love this thread! Don’t post as much now but I’m always here checking how everyone is doing 😬

@KnitKitty Fingers crossed you get it all figured out, that must be so confusing! Hope you’re alright 😊

@HidCat must have been such a scary experience! I’m glad everything is okay. Hope you’re feeling better soon

Thanks everyone. Having a chill out and catching up on some TV. Feeling a bit drained but otherwise ok.

@Murderino I just burst out laughing at my desk at the thought of you forgetting your knickers!!! Thankfully my colleagues think I'm weird anyway and didn't ask me to explain the random outburst 😂 I probably found that funnier than it was - sorry! I definitely would have had to go home if I forgot mine.

@HidCat and @Lilimum4 thanks.
@Cakelaur, @zarala and @Unicornsandrainbows1 thankyou. Do you really thibk it's a good chart? I have no idea! I thought after the drop it would have to shoot up again to be implantation. Although I suppose that happened last month and wasn't good news so... @Cakelaur it helped to see that yours rose slowly again. I'm so glad all is well with you. @UnicornsandsRainbows1 I'm only 10dpo today so still a bit early.
@zarala thanks. I'm so grateful for everyone cheering me on but so scared how devastated I'll feel if it's not my month again. I think we will probably have a look at IVF. The docs are still very blase as from a medical standpoint I fell pregnant immediately with my DS and had a easy pregnancy and then fell immediately again first month trying with the EP. Although it took 9 months trying after that they say anything within a year is normal. They are using the latest pregnancy to prove that my remaining tube is fine as i can still get pregnant and the MC was just bad luck. It sucks that the clock resets itself! Fx it won't come too but think we need to be practical.
@KeefBurtain I agree. You must have a long surge. Ovulation should be today!
@Murderino haha that made me laugh! 😂😂😂
@KnitKitty thanks lovely. Yeah it's a new addition and so nice. We have a mentally draining job so it's great to recharge. I really appreciate my cheer squad. Just hope it pays off!!! Still undecided about tomorrow.

@Boboelephant I'm up from 3:30 tomorrow so I'll be awaiting news of your test!

@zarala if I had the funds spare I'd be doing ivf. I've told DH if the next pregnancy is ectopic again we need to consider it because at least I'll know everything is in the right place. For ivf on nhs I'm a long way away. I'll be referred for tests in September and then it'll be a long way off that. Have you spoken to your gp about ivf? Also welcome to the tww

Haha thanks @DaisyMay25! I don't envy you having to get up at 3:30am! Although I might be waking up at that point too. 😯 I want to temp first so will be trying to push sleep back til at least 5!
I forgot you had an ectopic too. Did yours rupture or did you take the tablets? I'm not eligible for IVF on NHS as I have DS so I do wonder if spending that sheer amount of money and then it not working might be too hard!

@Boboelephant I'm doing five 4:30 starts in a row, just two left! You best test as early as possible, I'll keep refreshing the page all morning 😂
Fortunately my body miscarried it naturally, it was only found at the scan after the mc that they spotted what was left in the tube.
That sucks that you can't get it on the nhs, doesn't seem fair! I met a woman today that it didn't work until the third time, my heart ached for her.

@RedRobin7 I'm with you, ordinarily I'd have run to primark to grab a pair but it's pay day tomorrow and having already been there earlier this week to buy shoes when I forgot them at the gym I thought I should just own it and save the pennies! It's actually quite liberating (don't worry- I'm wearing jeans, not about to flash everyone)

Perhaps the universe is telling me to stop going to the gym, yup - must be that! 😉

@Boboelephant stay positive- all signs look good, we can do it! I don't even have my pre-period spot on chin, surely that's as good as poas? 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Murderino tbf apparently it's best not to wear underwear! Poor you though. Maybe it happened for a reason though and maybe you'll be tempted to go commando more often! Haha

So my hubby has come home from work and told me he's got this afternoon and tomorrow off. In the half hour of being home he's needed me to talk him through cooking his lunch, asked me if I've chosen a colour for the bathroom and told me that I'm going with him to get the paint this afternoon so he doesn't get the wrong one. He's also said we should go for a walk this afternoon and asked me about a new bathroom cabinet. I told him I didn't want him banging on about decorating all afternoon and his response was that he's just trying to get me out of the house. What part of rest does he not understand? He's now sulking in his man cave. Urgh!

Aww Hidcat, it's annoying, yes, but I think it's just his way of showing he cares. My OH is a bit like that sometimes. He'll quite happily spend days on end tucked up in his man-cave and not going out, but if I don't do anything on my day off he worries about me, and tries to get me to do something!!! Also, he spends ages in the loo sometimes and doesn't like being talked to when in there, but if I go in the bathroom for more than 3 minutes he'll be outside the door checking I'm ok... !?!? Haha! I just see it as funny, but stick up for yourself and reassure him you just need to rest (put pyjamas on and lie in bed if you have to so he gets the message!)
Also remind him going for a walk when you've got chest pains with asthma is probably not the best idea.......

@Boboelephant bodies are mysterious things. It took us over a year to first conceive our bub. We then lost it at 8 weeks, and then we caught again third cycle. I was convinced it would take longer. Strange how it's not just bloody simple. 🙈

@DaisyMay25 wow! Hope you get a sleep in on Sunday! Oh I'm glad for you that your body was able to do that naturally. I didn't even know that was possible with an ectopic. I hope you get your rainbow soon! And I hope I have some good news to share with you tomorrow!!
@Murderino oh I hope so!!! Fx for us!!!
@HidCat oh no!! Tell him to go out. You are definitely supposed to be resting! My DH sounds like that. I have to be very specific sometimes that rest involves NOT leaving the house! Bless them! Haha @KnitKitty 😂😂 Stands outside the toilet...
@Cakelaur oh I know. It's all so random. Ahh I really hope this is it though!!! 🤞🤞🤞

@Boboelephant I didn't realise the nhs wouldn't consider someone for ivf if they managed to conceive a child already. Eugh.
Well I personally think ivf is a very stressful road to go down. As I mentioned before a couple of threads back- my boss and his wife did it 9 times and failed 9 times! And just as they decided to give up and adopt (literally about to sign adoption papers) she fell pregnant. And then they had a second child 3 years after that also naturally. So! Ivf can be a good option if it's not happening but also it's not the be all and end all.
As @Cakelaur said- our bodies are so mysterious and no matter what these doctors and specialists say they don't really understand fertility at all- it's all experimental.
Anyway I can imagine how nervous you are! Because I am also nervous for you and so want this to be your month!
Fx for you whenever you decide to test!
We're here for you cheering you on whatever happens 🙌🏽🧚🏼‍♀️

Hello everyone just popping in to say hi, working more horrible shifts this week so don't have time to send messages to everyone individually - but hugs to all you ladies having a tough time and hope time flies to those in the TWW! Personally I'm counting down to fertile window and hoping it falls after this set of horrible shifts because there is absolutely no JKS at the moment, we're not even in the house at the same times currently :(

@boboelephant I think your chart looks good, keeping fingers crossed for you but I have a good feeling this month is going to be your month!

Boboelephant He's like having a child around sometimes. The other night I said I was going upstairs for a few minutes to do some meditation (just using the basics from Headspace which are 3 minutes long...) He comes in to the room in the middle of it and starts taking the ironing board downstairs, then comes back upstairs and was doing something in the bathroom which involved him dropping something and shouting "shit!" I was giggling by this point because it was just so ridiculous. He couldn't have waited 5 minutes??? Men!!!

@zarala thankyou!! Yea it's a route I'd rather not go down as it would cause me so much stress I'm sure it wouldn't work! It doesn't escape my attention that the two times I fell instantly I was so laidback I was horizontal! Now I'm a little stressball and it's taking ages. Unfortunately I can't switch my mind off...hence the yoga and meditation this month! 9 times!!! That is insane. Glad they finally got their happy ending. Thanks for your support!
@strawberrye thankyou. I hope you're right!!! Hope work calms down soon and you get good timing for fw!
@KnitKitty haha maybe it's good practice for when you have a kid and never get to pee with the door closed ever again! 😉 you do wonder sometimes though don't you!? Mine has gotten much better but with very clear instructions! 😂

Was just thinking of some of the people we haven't heard from in ages...

@Lovemysparkle woohoo for your wedding day!! Is it this Sat??
@Lovewinemorethanhusband how are you going?
@rdm10 are you ok? Hope af stayed away!
@dulwichdays, @SerenaOverjoyed haven't heard from you guys for ages. How are you?? Where are you in cycle?

@RedRobin7
Iv been going back and forth with myself about when to test, i want to try hold out to tue/wed.

@KnitKitty might not be the worst thing if you dont try this month, especially if you dont feel like it. Might be good to 'reset'
Yeah getting slightly impatient, but just trying to ignore it.

@BabynameEdie Hey, how are you!
Im trying to hold out till Tuesday.

@Pampl3m0usse hugs for you.

@Pancakes7 nice to be able to talk to people that understand.

@Boboelephant test when you are ready. When i was pregnant i ready being very wet the whole tww, so you never know, could be a sign.

@Zarala Oh not you too? I hope you're better soon. I only have one tablet left for tomorrow. Fx I'm cured. Hoping for both of us our ttc has paid off. Sending out positive thoughts for us both.

Yaaaaaas! Had a big fat blank circle this morning and just tested now (6pm) and BAM static smiley! We dtd this afternoon already, fingers crossed!

@KnitKitty I agree, he just misread how I was feeling. We've had a good chat and sorted it all out and I'm feeling a bit better after my nap so hopefully we can get back to DTD tonight (inhaler first - so sexy lol). Can you tell the steroids have kicked in?

At least it's not just my hubby!

@Lovemysparkle yes hope all goes well for your wedding!

@zarala it just goes to show that sometimes our bodies will just do their own thing. I think even if we reach the point of giving up I'll just not bother with contraception and if it happens, it happens.

Good luck to everyone in the TWW!

@HidCat Glad you sorted things out - it's frustrating when the OH just doesn't get it! Mine is often the opposite and would probably let me just sit on the sofa for the rest of my life and gather dust! Good to hear you're feeling up to DTD tonight. Fx for you!

@Murderino You're pretty safe in jeans! I'm always worried my primark work trousers are a little see through, even if they are black!!

@Boboelephant You are so sweet thinking about those who have been silent recently. I'm sorry if we have all put so much pressure on you to get a positive tomorrow. Regardless of the result, we are right behind you xx

@YellowDaffodils86 I've convinced myself I'm not pregnant today because I feel so normal! Although I know I didn't feel pregnant until my positive test. Still trying to prepare myself for a BFN so I'm not so distraught. My FRERs arrived today - hidden them in the cupboard and hope they'll stay there until Tuesday. My husband thinks he will be away from Tuesday with work so if I do get a positive I don't want to tell him and then for us both to rush off to work so I think I'll have to keep it a secret until he's back at the weekend. He doesn't know when I plan to test and knowing him has probably forgotten I'm in the TWW! But it'll prob be a BFN so won't need to worry!

@TedLife That's quite frustrating to go from a circle to a static smiley in the same day. Thankfully you retested! I have a flashing smiley for days before I get my static. So strange how our bodies differ so much!! Fx for you 😊

@KnitKitty How are you finding the Headspace App? The guys voice is so calming so I am actually listening to him and I think it's helping. I've almost managed to get through a very stressful week at work without feeling like there's a massive cloud over my head. I'm starting to feel more normal.

@RedRobin7 i have quite sore nipples and boobs a little tender, i dont think iv had this before. However trying to stop thinking it could mean anything.
I hate the tww, its such a head f**k!
I wish we could know ethier way straight away.
I agree with the rushing off to work thing, i usually test in the evening, i have a good bladder and naturally hold for a while.
My dh doesn't know when i plan to test ethier, i haven't said much about tww to him this time.

@KnitKitty 😂sounds like my dh

@YellowDaffodils86 oh I hope it is a sign! I hope it's your month too. Good luck waiting until Tuesday! When is af due?
@HidCat glad you got it sorted and managed a nap. Haha enjoy your inhaler sex!
@RedRobin7 thanks hun x I don't feel pressured, I am feeling very supported by all of you lovely ladies. Just petrified of the disappointment! I hope you have positive news on Tuesday too!
Ahhh feeling so scared!!

Hello all, been really busy but reading all the updates, good luck to those in the TWW ! I'm 4DPO, eating pineapple daily . Anyone else eating pineapple? And if so, how much ? It's quite fibrous!!

Sending hugs to everyone. AF due 25th but depending on any symptoms, I may test early!
All those in the DTD window, good luck with your DH's , I felt as though I had to be on my best behaviour for a whole week which was hard! It worked though as at the end of the week I told him he could rest for a while now and he replied by saying .. yeh for another three weeks! Fx though I get a BFP soon otherwise I've got to be on my best behaviour again!!!
Take care all xx