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Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

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duchesse · 23/03/2007 12:19

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

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lissielouwithbunnyears · 24/03/2007 21:13

night hun, and if you need a chat just CAT me x

Soreheart · 25/03/2007 12:05

Hmm.. what time is it where you lot are? I think it's 12 might be 11. I'm not hungry yet, which is good.

Hut seems lovely this morning.

However, AF arrived on Friday, after I'd had the most roller-coster Friday. (Good news: DP has made a decision to can the drink and weed - am thrilled!) Have now purchased magnesium and B6 as per suggestions. I might have to try grapefruit juice as well. Can it be the pink type, do you think.

sideways · 25/03/2007 15:21

Any colour grapefruit juice is fine, but only one glass a day.

Good news about dp.

beansprout · 26/03/2007 08:17

Period arrived this morning. Finding it really difficult this time. Not sure I can keep pulling myself up by my bootstraps and pretending it's all going to be ok, just not this month.

Am really feeling at a loss. Why can't I just complete my family?

sideways · 26/03/2007 09:26

I don't know why beansprout - it's a bitch just doing everything right month after month after month and still not getting the results .

scorpio1 · 26/03/2007 09:29

beansprout and also

i know.its horrid and nasty and just not fair for you.come join us in april,we are quite nice

beansprout · 26/03/2007 09:30

And now I am driving myself mad on the CD1 "aha, but perhaps it is implantation bleeding" trip. FFS.

Have just looked at the list on the April thread and I don't know anyone on there, so naturally assume that everyone I chatted with months ago is now on some ante natal thread or another.

It's days like this that I couldn't face things without the Hut. Thank you, patron saint of Duchesse, for building it.

beansprout · 26/03/2007 09:31

Aw, thanks Scorpio. I was just saying I didn't know anyone and now there's a friendly face. Will pop over now.

sideways · 26/03/2007 09:34

I should really get over to the April thread, but I can't stand the thought of the chirpiness of it at the moment.

With the March thread, I found I just couldn't be bothered with the chat and small talk.

Antisocial? Me?

Cryptonomicon · 26/03/2007 11:51

I literally do not look at any other threads than this one. Grumpy cow, me?

It is CD2 for me today and although I wasn't quite as hopeful as previous months (due to lack of shagging at crucial times) the hope was still there. At least I came on at the weekend this month so I could have my depression/day of constance crying at home rather than work.

My pregnant friend (colleague) booked a week off work in May last week so they can paint their nursery. This has really been tormenting me for some reason, thinking how much I would love to be doing that. It is pathetic the new things I can find to set me off. I also can't stop looking at her stomach now she is starting to have a lovely bump which is getting embarrassing.

beansprout · 26/03/2007 12:02

Hi Crypto. Sorry to hear we are in the same boat (again).

Am off to have my first glass of grapefruit juice. I don't even like the stuff. Actually, I could really come to despise it.

Cryptonomicon · 26/03/2007 12:13

Hi beansprout - that's so great that you are CD1 too, we can be 'cycle twinnies' .

I think I might try grapefruit juice this month, anything worth a try I guess (although I really hate it too).

feedmenow · 26/03/2007 12:25

Hello ladies. Have not been in the hut for a few days and look what happens.......you only go and find yourselves a new hut and post loads of messages! There is no way I can catch up, so I'll just have to assume that everyone is as miserable as normal.
I went out on Saturday night and got wasted (it's OK, I was CD 3) Not only have I caused myself a few drunken injuries (that look great with my scambled egg burns that still haven't healed!) but I also blubbed uncontrolably in the arms of my best mate about my mc. Really don't know if I should be going to party next weekend for newly pregnant friends.....

sideways · 26/03/2007 13:50

Can I be a "cycle buddy" too - I'm on CD3 - then we can share babydust

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duchesse · 26/03/2007 14:01

OI! B*dust Police. Can I see your license to use that stuff, please?

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sideways · 26/03/2007 14:10

Sorry Sir, won't happen again Sir!

beansprout · 26/03/2007 14:13

Ahem, move along now, nothing to see.

Impatience · 26/03/2007 15:09

Oh, here you all are!

Dp got her period today, which means she'll be trying next week. Goodness! I feel really peculiar about it - mixed. All good things, but a mix of excitement and a kind of fatigued relief, and also a bit of indifference. Perhaps I'm so disillusioned with this whole T/FTC lark that I don't really feel that optimistic. In fact I'm trying very hard not to imagine us wallowing in misery come the winter, having doubled the effort but neither of us actually getting pregnant. God, I really am very pessimistic about it. But I'm refusing to share that with her so I'll let it all out on here if you don't mind! She's forbidden from coming into the Hut - this is my space!

Actually, I won't yet know whether this month worked for me when she tries. Er, not that that'll mean anything of course because there's no frigging way I will be pregnant.

See the bloody swings and roundabouts!

Am still hating my silly upbeat accidentally-and-delightedly-pregnant friend. We have a dinner date next week. Anyone got any magic mantras I can borrow?

Soreheart · 26/03/2007 15:41

I'm wondering if Hut of Doomies aren't all synching.....this has NEVER happened to me before...I always thought it might a load of old twaddle.

I'm certainly not wondering if I'm having implantation bleeding. What a laugh that would be. Or taking a week off to paint the nursery. Ahhahahahahahaha.....

Impy, dinner date with pregnant friend. Jeez, I still don't have the answer to this kind of thing. Act like a fake version of yourself and make out all is totally great / be true to yourself and risk making other person feel like an arse. Hmm.. having said that, you can focus all your chat on DP..maybe??

Impatience · 26/03/2007 16:07

Yes, SH, it's a tricky one. I'm not generally inclined to pretending everything's rosy. I basically want to say 'Don't harp on about it: I wish to buggery that I were pregnant, and you got it without even trying, so I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself right now. Good for you, but can we talk about something else now?' Any predictions on how that would go down?!

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duchesse · 26/03/2007 16:11

The words 'lead' and 'balloon' spring to mind.

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Soreheart · 26/03/2007 16:26

Yuuuurrrs. Balloon + lead, lead + balloon.
BUT, I know you can say the same thing with a bit more 'softness' and get away with it:

"You know, I'm really delighted for you that things have turned out so well and I hope they pan out as well for me and my DP. Sadly, this hasn't been the case for sometime now and I'm feeling very sensitive on the whole topic of reproduction. So, let me tell you about this totally brilliant x."

I'm feeling decidedly queasy about this statement but I know it's along the right lines - if you can bear it. Practise usually works for me.

Soreheart · 26/03/2007 16:38

So...have been roaming around MN and can't figure out what the 'April thread' is, unless it's the TTC in April type thread? Is that it? Ahhhh. OK. Hell, it's like a competition. Not sure I'd feel good in there as technically, we've been TTC for 18 months and in addition, I'm running out of time, big style. I'm very impressed by some of the ladees casual attitude. Not that this is a bad thing, just something I cannot pretend to be.

On another point, I went to a friends make-up party last week and I was the only person there without children. I felt like a freak. I had to escape to the kitchen every 5 minutes to breath freely. I didn't feel jealous, exactly, just like a freak, with a fixed grin and nothing to say. You won't be surprised to hear that I was the first to leave.

Thank the Lord for the Hut o' Doom & Gloom.

I'm collapsing into mound of silky cushions with a large qty of Maltesers for the afternoon. Should anyone care to join me I will looking wistfully out over the dunes.

beansprout · 26/03/2007 17:18

Count me in Soreheart. I have an obscenely large box of Thorntons here which are just asking to be scoffed. Anyone?

Soreheart · 26/03/2007 17:26

HMMOG! (my own new acronym - guesses on a postcard, please).Have just been skimming a thread on council / HA tennants and whether they are all merciless, criminal masterminds bent on defrauding the Gov't and therefore the tax-payer. Or not. Maybe I just didn't get the hang of the thread! I am clearly in a very reasonable mood today.

The tent is lovely as there's only 2 of us here, we have the doors open and the side flaps pegged up and the warm Saharan breeze wafting through (stopping the chocolates from melting ) Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.