Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

[duchesse]

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

well, as I said - I am clutching at any straws that I can reach... question is sideways, are you regular???

That's obviously not the secret then. Shall we try and guess what it is?

I'd imagine her bowel motions would be, with all that porridge...

I should imagine that most of the "secret" is "be fertile in the first place".

Now, that's got to be worth $29!! I'll take 2 please!

I meant cycle but now, on reading it back, I realise how it sounds (sorry sideways)

Where there's a double-entendre* to be found, there will you find me.

*That is one of the French imports into the English language I find utterly mystifying. For a start it's not even a proper word (should be : double-entendu, past participle of the infinitive verb entendre).

duchesse - you're talking to much sense for a Friday night - here have some more alcohol!

Glad duchesse got to that one before me. Yes I am pretty regular (whichever meaning you want!). Although my cycle is very shprt this month, even by my standards - 22 days comapred with usual 25.

Not that the French don't say "double-entendre" .

I mean...

note that the French...

that is short sideways, you can have a few days from mine for next month if you like...(if only)

I feel the need to confess.

I think you'll understand.

I also had pin pricks of red blood yesterday morning and today I had brown spotting rather than my usual af. The last and only time I got this I got a bfp for a few days then lost it. (almost exactly 9months ago) I didn't mention it because I was nervous / superstitious/ anxious.

I now have my usual af. Any of you any experience / advice. I desperately want to get beyond this stage and become the best mum I can.

Sunshine, am not quite sure what you are confessing- not sharing this with us yesterday, or believing in these symptoms, and having hope. How could you not have hope when all the indications are there?

Personally hardly a month goes by without me feeling/ believing myself to be pregnant for the last two weeks of every cycle. And real or not, they all go pear-shaped at or around the time the period would have been due anyway, so the result is the same. Sometimes I've caught them on a pregnancy test, but most go unacknowledged. And as somebody (Impatience? Beansprout?) keeps reminding us, madness is doing the same thing repeatedly in the expectation of a different result. Still I keep hoping.

I think we're all pretty much in the same boat though.

Sunshine, I'm sorry your period arrived. I can only echo what D said. We are all here as we are finding this hard. This is not a jolly ttc thread, this is where we say just how shit it really is to be in this particular boat. I'm so sorry your hopes have come to nothing. Again.

Sunshine, it is horrid when you get your hopes up, my early pg and AF symptoms are exactly the same these days - filled boobs, bloating and spots - so I get my hopes up all the time. We all know what it is like to suspect the best and then have our hopes dashed.

sorry, am I allowed to hug in the hut?
here, have a very large bar of choc sunshine

re the book and the secret - just google carol andrews "miracles do happen" (use the quotes) and you'll find the answer - basically seems to be hold off sex until ov, something to do with old eggs/old sperm.
I'm far too much of a cynic to believe it all though!

well done ura21! Well seeing as I have absolutely no idea when I ov and my cycles are very very long I don't think her 'secret' would do me any good! (DH would not be happy if we only BD a couple of times every 2-3 months...)

It also seems to be a list of things they did, like using different paint and pesticides, which she feels contributed to their success. From googling, it's still a bit evasive, but interestingly, I can't find any mention of it on MN. If she really had found a miracle cure, there would be a lot more information out there. It's just her personal experience with no medical backing

Is anyone around? Am feeling very fed up and am telling myself it must be PMT, so am making myself even more fed up. Am so, so, soooo sick of this. I just want to be put out of my misery.

im here! having a rough time honey?

Oh thanks Lissie, you angel person. Am just feeling stuck and fed up. Maybe it's not helped by it being Saturday night and a feeling that I am just sitting and watching everyone else get picked to play. Someone from my ante-natal thread I was on with ds, has just announced her third preg! Everyone else seems to have squeezed out the second by now and it's just not happening. And I'm sorry, as none of that compares to your situation, so maybe I've just typed myself into giving me a well needed kick up the ar$e!!!

How are you? I'm not able to comment on your letter as I'm not skilled enough in that area. Have you got some useful feedback?

loads ta, its odd, but when i think about what happened it doesnt sound that bad. but if i talk it thru or write it down i just think......... shit, how did i cope!

i know how you feel about everyone else getting pg, even the pets are getting knocked up!

I'm glad you have got some good feedback. It's odd how we just get on with things but then look back and wonder just how we managed!

Am off to bed. Ds still waking up every night so early nights are called for if this isn't going to turn into house of the zombies. Thanks for your reply, probably catch up with you tomorrow. Night! x