#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

Karen how did it go with the new doctor? I know you've explained this before but remind me what re stands for?

Pickle given that you've told work anyway can't you use the family policy and save your hols? That sounds like a nice option to me!

pickle hopefully they just haven't finalized it but I also agree with witch. Family policy seems awesome

RE is reproductive endocrinologist. Just what the fertility drs are called. He was super nice. I'm starting on aspirin. I'm definitely switching to him. I have some questions but I will email them off as they are more administrative things.

I have myself in a ball of worry. Just so many things that could happen. I so want this pregnancy to continue. It could still end up being a chemical pregnancy. Trying to breath, drink lots of water and relax. Hugs to everyone, so I'm so bad at keeping up with the thread.

Look after yourself Karen - try to keep busy and distracted! Is puppy old enough to go on long walks yet? I find a good walk and fresh air do my mental state the world of good!

Wish I was better at following my own advice...

karen silent congratulations and fx for sticky bean xx

pez I'm not too bad. I don't get a scan I just call when I ovulate and then pop in for the process. I'm on CD12 and just faint lines on sticks at moment. Last few months I have ovulated Cd14 though last month it was cd16. Not as stressed/excited as I was this time last month I feel more muted like I was foolish getting my hopes up.

Interesting about what to do at work. Last month I ovulated on the Friday so went in on the Saturday and that felt really relaxed. This month it might be Tuesday I ovulate so thinking if I can leave early or come in late I'll try and do that.

I've been speaking to my financial adviser about possibly buying a house back home to be close to my family. He said easier to do when not pregnant so banks don't ask about earnings post pregnancy and child care etc. It's quite a jump as will need to ask work if I can move to another office and either do same role or another one. I almost don't want to get the ball rolling until I'm pregnant though so just pondering through things. X

Fcuk my post got lost!

Just had bloods taken - about 8 tubes!!! Checking for thrombylia and chromosomal issues. Why the fuck they did not do this after MC1 I do not know!!! (sorry may have hit anger part of grieving process).

I have been referred for online CBT.

Ah shit caution you just can't catch a break right now. I am 🤞🏼it is nothing.

pez you are a MN legend! Did MNHQ ever get back to you about moving the thread? Perhaps they just need to keep a sub-section under etiquette?

WTF stork??? Did they not give you pain relief???? Take care of you

I really liked the injections part of IVF/IUI except the big arse intramuscular ones... but I am a bit strange

Ah ah kwick, I think I'm going to have to start working part time to keep track of the MN threads!
MNHQ only contacted me on the 1st day to ask if I wanted to have the first picture removed (the one I had posted by mistake) as it could be quite identifying. Nothing else since. To be fair I think Etiquette is the right place

If you need something for your anger you're welcome to come and vandalise the car parked outside my windows!!!!

On a more serious note, it's so frustrating that they didn't test the first time but at least you'll have all the information to look at your options.

I'm quite angry too as I know the progesterone supplements messed up with my 2nd cycle (and possibly first) - I have never ever had an AF like this in my entire life and I'm sure I went into IUI#2 with an old lining I hadn't shed... I read similar stories on google...

witch I just really dislike the egg collection part of IVF - it is always hard to get the canula in to my hand and it hurts! Then I do not like "walking" into theatre - my bum being on air - being awake for the scan and then being put to sleep - why can't I be out for all the process? I also do not like it that I need to be accompanied!!! But I did find the certainty of an embryo going back in lovely. And lets face it I may have to do IVF so they can screen...
I only ever had 1 or 2 eggs. Only 1 embryo ever made it each time.

pickle you will have to go sick if vacation not approved. Them's the breaks. Or use this family policy loveliness

witch do you take your cat for walks?

karen sweetie cosset yourself did new DR know about positive HPT? 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

hoping decisions, decisions
I think I may have to have it out with my boss when I am back and say if I am not being considered for new role I applied for then I will have to look elsewhere... or do I just look? Sometimes my sense of loyalty makes me into a blabbermouth. Moving now is probably not the best thing - may not qualify for mat leave in new place - but not sure how much longer I can hang on in current job.

Kwik bless you. You need to write that angry letter to the universe. Am still compiling mine, it runs to several pages already. And as for online CBT? You really need bereavement counselling, because this is what it is. I know from flicking back pages on here (I am such a lurker, not contributor lately, sorry!! no concentration as well) that you hadn't had a great experience and as for that woman's opening question, that's just the worst thing she can say, how can you regroup when you ve lost the instant rapport you should experience when going thru a difficult time. And wow that is a huge amount of blood taken. I been told I don't need to have chromosome tests because Edwards syndrome was an unfortunate, one off event which is less than a 1 pc re occurrence. How lovely to think in medical terms, Mabel was unfortunate, and definitely a one of a kind... a one off event...hmm. I hope I do have another.... praying for me,you and us all

Stork so sorry about your hycosy. I don't know why these procedures don't come under some sort of sedation process because its so invasive and invariably you re going to be tense. Hope your feeling brighter today.

Caution its one thing after another for you, I hope you can get a confirmation that the heart issue is not going to be a knock on effect with your lap etc. I ve seen your PM will message you later

What the hell is the parking thread, I cannot find!! Sounds like a huge distraction, and distractions are what I need.

Went to my GP to get support for me undergoing a second round of IVF. Difficult to leave it too long due to ovarian reserve but also cant do it right away because my body, mind, heart, soul cannot quite comprehend it. No issue with the IVF stabbings or drug regimes but just being emotional ready. So come to conclusion I just need to go ahead in May (which is 2 months before my 41st birthday!!). Wont make any odds if I leave it for an extra month as had planned on April. My cycles are all over the place (after pregnancy, stress and thyroid being a bit overreplaced not helping) so not quite sure what will be classed as day 1, but am hoping they become less wonky in the next 2 months. Currently on day 42!! Ridiculous. Roll on May and a more recovered Ever am hoping xx

Karen hope you have confirmation of pregnancy soon, all the luck in the world

Hello everyone else xxx

hoping fingers crossed for a surge soon.

kwick you have every right to be angry. I'm glad you are having tests done. I hope you get some answers. And yup, new doc know where I'm at. He is the one that immediately put me on aspirin. Just feel like I'll get more support through this clinic. It's nice that it's a private clinic too, and not a hospital. I always worried about infections going to the hospital. I'm thinking of you and hope you are ok. I do think maybe looking for a new job would be good. Just to look and know your options. You are going through a rough time right now so maybe not the best time to switch but it doesn't hurt to look.

stork how are you feeling? And you shoes?

ever I so admire your strength and perserverance. Mabel was so lucky to have you as her mummy.

Ladies as promised - I have started a new thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6

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Ladies - here is the new thread link:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6

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