#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

Yep CD3 pickle but your treatment plan may be a little different - I did Menopur 225 (highest dose) for alternate days - they scanned me frequently and also checked bloods for lh surge and then I injected the trigger.

You are all so responsible- I am definitely taking ostrich/fly by the seat of my pants approach

TMI alert - been getting wierd fanjo pains today

Yay new thread !

Me
Age 34 yrs
Single woman
About to start first iui non medicated cycle this month
Using LWC in London

kwick I love kwicklet!!

Great getting a reminder of everyone's journeys too.

Welcome cherry xx

I wish I was more like you kwick life would be a lot easier in pickle land if pickle wasnt such an over thinker/OCD

Thank you, you're a
I've been told I'll do 10days of one injection and also 5 alternate days of fsh injection then a trigger.

Hmmm kwick never tmi, hopefully it's all normal pelvic things that go on x

Kwick - weird fanjo pains = all part and parcel of pregnancy. I had two varieties in the first trimester: 1) vague crampy pains (uterus growing to make room 2) stabby pains right near entrance of fanjo (I can't remember what the cause of this was - I looked it up and was reassured so forgot about it).

There you go - I've added to your TMI-ness

Pickle - from what you say, I'd leave telling your mum until you are pregnant (probably until the 12-week scan) as it sounds as though she'll just create drama about it. You can do without the drama. Serene positivity is where its at for ttc

Thanks shoes xxx 12 week scan all the way (she doesn't believe in telling people before then anyway) think I've sorted out my annual leave dates now for cycle wahoo! Will also give some jiggle room is af doesn't quite play ball

Look what I got done today!! I've had it done previously (you may be able to see from the other holes just below) but because of an MRI I had to take it out and when I tried to get it back in, it had closed. I'm so happy to have it done again - it's my favourite piercing
(I've not got a shaved head - I've got an undercut, where only a triangle at the back of my head is shaved - it looks way cooler than it sounds haha!)

pickle id wait until you're 12wks to tell your mum. She doesn't sound very supportive, and it'll just add unnecessary stress that'll leave you feeling very restless and not very relaxed... And you need to be as relaxed as possible!

pickle I do over think things but generally not those of a financial nature... not sure why. My mum is extremely careful with money and very frugal - I have been in and out debt all my life - defo take after my father, which believe me is not a good thing. But I trust that I can get out of the debt and when it has been something important for me: buying a flat, ttc and so on I have been able to save.

i second shoes (again).

Thanks pickle and shoes on TMI. i have another alert: my fanjo smells different - not nasty or more pungent but I notice it when I do a wee-wee

We had our christmas work dinner tonight - my Secret Santa got me a small bag with my initial on it... just the right size to store all my used HPTs!!! Is it wierd to keep them?
So glad not drinking - can now quickly go to bed and not have a hangover in the morning

How bizarre, I suppose hormones are a big thing in making things smell differently.

Does this pic make u feel any better kwick my opks are all stuck in my baby planning book with sellotape-was a shame I couldn't have the actual smiley face on the clear blue test just the stick as doesn't look as good. So yeh totally keep those sticks girl :)

Get you caution.....my hair would prob get caught round them in a millisecond!
I had my (last) tattoo last April/may time....ribs (ouch!!) sayings "it's never too late to live happily ever after" so I try and live by that now following some really crappy years of depression, focussing on tcc for last 16months or so has really helped me stay healthy as didn't want anything to jeopardise this goal

Kwick - if you're in any doubt that you could have a urine infection take a urine sample either to your fertility clinic or your GP surgery and ask a nurse to dip it.

Having said that I find that hormonal changes sometimes make my wee smell kind of sweet/buttery and I think that's normal.

I've still got my OTD BFP FRERs from this pregnancy and the one when I had the mmc. I think I'll keep them. Apparently the test line fades after a few years.

pickle you have lovely writing 💕

Glad I am not the only hoarder!!!

shoes do not think it is infection but thanks for advice

Wow caution that looks cool. I have a belly button piercing. I love it but was wondering what happens when you get pregnant - someone put a pic up on a chat and I'm a little nervous now lol.

kwick I'm sure I read on MN ( yes I'm getting obsessed) that someone's wee smelt a bit like sugar puffs (sweet-ish) when got pregnant...

I have both of my sides tattooed and a belly piecing-all prob look shite once (pma) pregnant

Thank you, I do have a bit of a handwriting obsession too....which working in a hospital is a nightmare as it seems to be a dr your writing has to look like a spider-so I have to decifer what the xxxx they've written to be able to do my job 😂

Welcome cherry

Re belly piercing I have one too (the typical born in the 80s sign!) and I think you can buy this special pregnancy flexible plastic bar. I know it exists but I refuse to have a look until pregnant

I downloaded a pregnancy app last night called 'sprout' and the visuals are pretty cool!

pickle I would tell her once you are in your second trimester. But that's just me. As for your cycle, I don't do injectables. I'm in letrazole 2.5 mg from day 3-7. I had 3 follicles with that and didn't trigger. Just went with my Lh surge. I don't know what the best method is. I got two bfps with this. The time I triggered I didn't but I think it was a crap follicle anyway. Don't over think it. If do that.

Hello everyone, been lurking for so long now it feels like I'm secretly stalking you, so time to introduce myself I think! My plans are slightly different which is partly why I haven't joined in with the thread actively.

I'm a single woman, almost 37, living in London. Planning to do this alone and would ideally like two, but also really, really want to retrain for a completely different career once I've had the baby/babies, which means saving enough to manage with no income for quite a while. Also have a big mortgage on a flat that needs quite a bit of work, so need to have that covered too. And it would be very hard to reduce my hours in my line of work post mat leave so it would be nice to get straight on with the retraining, but that might require a small lottery win!

Given my age I decided to freeze embryos now to use in a couple of years time, so I did that during the second half of last year. I used London Women's Clinic who were great and sperm from London Sperm Bank. I did two cycles because I was worried I didn't have enough from the first cycle and that by the time I use them it will be too late to get any more! Having written it down it feels like I'm ageing fast! Faster than I can save money anyway!

Shoes you can look at entitledto.co.uk now to find out what you'd get. I have the same last resort plan re equity but would be completely last resort as I pretty much have to retrain in London.

Karen just wanted to say I really felt for you at the end of last year, so sorry about your lovely dogs and your miscarriage.

Kwick thanks for the threads. From what you've said about hospitals I think we must live in vaguely the same part of London.

Got two winks from someone on coparenting today. I haven't been on the site for months, if not a year or more. I'm wondering if that's a sign that this is the time to take this journey seriously.

Many people have told me to have a one night stand and do it that way. I've been single since I split from my ex gf several years ago but last year I managed to get into a 'casual' thing with a guy (I'm bi), which is not what I want (the casual nature - I'm looking for a proper long term commitment) and I ended it very quickly. Bizarrely he is a man who doesn't like penetration so even if I wanted to get 'accidentally' pregnant, which I'd never ever do to someone, it was never going to happen. So even if I manage to get into a relationship with someone with the right equipment I haven't found someone who is prepared to use it in the right way!!!

Sorry for TMI.

Planning to ring the nearest clinic tomorrow to book int their Feb open evening.

Hello all!

I'm 31 (nearly 32, I keep thinking I'm 32 but not quite yet!)... had a 7 year relationship where I was very ready to have children, then it ended 3.5 years ago. Now very happy being single and making plans to do it alone.

Off to the GP on Saturday to discuss reducing my antidepressants pre-pregnancy (mental health and parenthood is something I'm really interested in/think it's important to talk about if anyone else is in the same boat! I'm a depression/anxiety/ocd sufferer but have been doing very well the last few years so feeling positive, but trying to be aware that pregnancy/parenthood could be challenging to my mental health and plan strategies for dealing with it. Not going to let it stop me!). Also going to ask for a referral to my chosen clinic, where I hope to have natural cycle IUI in the first instance.

I'm feeling in a bit of a quandary over timing, I'm so impatient to do it, but I've just started a new job and feel conscious of letting them down/hindering my career if I go off on maternity leave too soon. It feels so hard to wait though! Especially as my colleague has just announced her pregnancy so there's lots of talk about that, I want to join in and talk about my plans but obviously as I'm in a new job i feel like I should keep schtum! It feels hard but I'm trying to be patient. Going to get the referral then see how I feel by the time I get an appointment. I'm so ready.

So nice to find others making the same plans. Anyone else in South West England?

Oh and tygr, I'm bi too!

Re finances, i've decided to accept that if I waited until I was in the 'right financial position' I'd never do it! I've been reading 'Choosing Single Motherhood' by Mikki Morissette (I'd recommend it!) and she had some good stuff to say about that - basically that it's all relative and what counts as 'enough' is totally different from one person to the next. I'm quite a money worrier so I found this really helpful.

Wish me luck on Saturday! I'm a bit worried the gp might judge me. Has anyone else noticed people saying things they most likely wouldn't say to a couple planning a child? Two so far:

"That is a very big decision!" (Wow, really? I was just gonna do it on a whim!)

"How will you afford it?!"

Gah! Saying that though, my family and nearly all of my friends have been incredibly positive and supportive, I feel very lucky :)

Nice to meet you all and wishing you all the very best on your journeys xx

Ps Tygr, I went to an open evening at a clinic, it was so useful and reassuring. A great first step. Good luck!

tygr - I'm so pleased you're looking at clinics. The idea of the coparenting website and the awful situations it could lead to give me the shivers. The very fact the site uses 'winks' says it all.

OMG hoping I am not sure if that is what it smells if but now I am fantasing about having those Sugared puffed wheat!!! The Pret porridge I am about to buy will seem very tame!!

Welcome witchmountain and snorkmaiden!!!

Feel like I might be about to get a lurgy...

Welcome whichmoutain

snork, I had one of my best friends asking me those questions 'How do you know you want to be a mother?' 'shouldnt you wait?' 'Maybe you should borrow a kid for one day to see what it's like' etc. I think she was challenging me to ensure I was doing the right thing but still... anyway I said very clearly that the desire of having a child doesn't come with marriage and that I thought she was being unfair as she would never have dared asking those same questions to our married friends. That seems to have worked.

We'll always have to be ready to answer similar questions and explain why we made that choice, which is rather painful. There are some many couples who have a child to try and save their relationship or unhappy couples and no one challenges this!

shoes let us know how you can get on with scan today, will be thinking of you x