First time TTC - thread 3

[Pyjamas81]

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Mojitos - I'd say you're soooooooo nearly there! One more day I reckon

I just did a cheapie OPK and it seems even darker than yesterday, what the actual hell? Maybe I caught the surge right at the beginning yesterday?! I tested at around this time yesterday. The one against the lighter background on the right is today's the other one is yesterday's when I also got a static smiley!

Oh wow that is dark! Aw I don't know what to do! We dtd last night and don't want a marathon if we do tonight and still positive tomorrow and have to go again! Why is the control line on mine so much lighter too?!

Do you think maybe dtd in the morning instead? That way we've kind of covered today and tomorrow? We did last night so hopefully covered today...? God this is stressful lol. I hate opks already! I preferred just guessing and being relaxed about it!

Hm - tough one mojitos! But yeah, I would prob go for tomorrow if dtd yesterday if OPK not positive yet. Although we would never do it in the morning, no time before work!!

This TTC business is so confusing! I've had some right side pains today - maybe sign of ov?!

Oh and on the epo tablets mojitos - I've been taking three capsules a day. I'm a go big or go home kind of girl ha ha. And it was like the Sahara down there so went straight for the max dose! Not sure when to stop taking it though as I don't know when I've ovulated (or whether I actually have) - might stop taking it after tomorrow.

pj THREE A DAY?! God I've not had enough lol defo need to up next month then seeing as it's worked so well for you! We manged to dtd this morn, set the alarm half hour early lol, so fx I get a clearer opk at lunch time. No temp rise this morning so hopefully happening today.

Yep mojitos three a day! Packaging says take 3 a day, so I did! That's 3000mg in total a day.

Good work in dtd this morning! Can't think of a time when I'd be less in the mood ha ha. I got a big temp rise today so maybe ov happened yesterday? We'll see!

Is ewcm really important to see?

I notice times of the month when I am 'wetter' but never notice mucus , or is that because you need your fingers up your foof to do it?

Also, if you're having sex every other day minimum would it be hard to distinguish between ewcm and actual semen?

I noticed my slightly stretchy cm in my knickers but I've not had a lot of it mainly just watery mucus.

Im royally confused with my symptoms this week. Ive had a dull ache on and off all week, had a pinching feeling on Monday on my left side with the stretchy cm, stonking headache yesterday, been horny for the first time in donkeys but then today I almost feel like both my ovaries are swollen . I'm cd 11. I'm obviously doing this month blind as its my first month off the pill. This whole process is confusing.

Well that was a strange feeling. Really sharp pain for about a minute on my left side of my pelvic region. Wondering if that is a definite sign of ovulation hmm. Maybe ill dtd to be sure as the last time we dtd was Monday night. Its amazing how quickly I have been absorbed into symptom spotting etc haha

Wow pjs you deserve some sort of medal for all that bding! Sorry if you've already said, when did you start epo? Fx you ovd

Thanks moonlight I'm going to try to hold off poas until Sunday as af due on Saturday... Hats off for dtd this morning - I can barely muster the energy to get up let alone anything more active!!

Difficult I think it's probably easier to spot if you go looking up your foof for it but I think you can tell if you wipe, maybe just not as easily. Ewcm is stretchy, but sperm isn't really so it would break more quickly if you stretched it between your fingers.

I'm desperately symptom spotting but nothing to report so far, cramps and sore bbs have gone today - will be 12dpo tomorrow so may will almost definitely poas. Lol this is how fast my resolve goes - I literally just said I'd try and wait until Sunday!!! Honestly, luckily I have more self-control in other life situations

Basset sorry that bit about symptom spotting was in sympathy with you, I thought I'd written your name but apparently not!

MrsC - started epo a couple of days after AF finished. I forgot to bring them to work today so can't take them although am pretty sure I should stop taking them now anyway? Got peak OPK result day before yesterday. Yep - we're exhausted from all the bding! Really can't be bothered tonight, but we will. So looking forward to a break tomorrow!

Hope the symptom spotting doesn't push you over the edge!

Difficult - I definitely don't go rummaging about my foof for it! I mainly noticed it after I wiped.

MrsCw - fx your patience keeps out and you wait till sunday although I can imagine the feeling of wanting to poas tomorrow being massive.

Pjs - wow for all the bding. My OH wouldn't know what hit him. I think three times in 5 days will probably shock him haha.

I feel like I've got a bowling ball in my pelvis today. Its the only way I can describe it as its not even crampy or anything. This whole thing is so confusing lol.

Thanks pj the ones I bought just said one a day so I did that but I did read people take 2, I'll definitely double up next month if bfn. And as for dtd this morning I can't say I did much haha, dp knew it was time after the test yesterday and we didn't last night so I just had to give him a nudge to quickly get to it 😂 so romantic. Ooh this is exciting so I'm probably a day behind you? Opk today was proper negative so thinking the peak was probably a few hours after the one I did and expecting temp rise tomorrow.

difficult the month I got my BFP I hardly had anyway so it's not the be all and end all, it's just that the sperm can live longer in it so better chance for them. You don't need to go feeling up there, it's there when I wipe (especially after a bowel movement !) London. Watery cm is the 2nd most fertile I think, it's just when it gets creamier/stickier/dryer that it's less fertile. Also ewcm is clear and really stetchy whilst semen is more whiteish? I hope that's normal anyway lol.

mrscw you're doing so well! Well done.

I have no idea how the word London just randomly came up in that sentence?!

Ha ha mojitos - there is absolutely zero romance with TTC sex in our house! I think you probably are a day behind me - my temp spike this morning, lack of ewcm today and much fainter OPK makes me think ov was yesterday - we'll see if fertility friend picks up ov this month! If it doesn't (as my temps can be all over the place) I'll count yesterday as ov day If it was yesterday that's CD13, so potentially a normal length cycle!

Basset - remind me what CD you're on?

Pjs - Cd11 which is why i am a little confused but then it is my first pill free cycle in 11 years so i am not that worried. Plus I've done some other mn stalking and it seems quite normal to be a bit earlier than the traditional cd14 ovulation and 28 day cycle.

I was contemplating dtd tonight but its rather warm in my house tonight

My sister just told me she was pregnant
She doesn't know we are trying

Feel like such a bitch but I'm so jealous and sad for myself
She already has 2 and this will be their third

Difficult - I bet that is hard. Fx it will happen soon for you and you can have cousins of a close age. I've got a nephew due any day and it sounds awful but I am not excited at all for his arrival unlike when my niece (his older sister) arrived

difficult that must be hard. But what a blessing any pregnancy is and it doesn't take away your chances of conceiving - I had a similar thing recently and it's like being hit by a bus when you are first told but it gets easier.

mrsCW I have everything crossed for you for testing!

pjs and moonlight hats off to you and your DTD! Especially morning sex on a weekday - that's unheard of in our house!

Laughing lots at the discussion around feeling in the 'foof' - never heard that word before, very amusing.

Re EPO tablets, mine are 3000mg so just one per day, from boots.

This whole TTC thing is really sent to try us isn't it?! I almost had a meltdown at the gym the other day when the instructor for my body balance class announced she was pregnant. Was just expecting there to be my safe place from people announcing pregnancies. I have just become an auntie again and I love my nephew but not going to lie that it is tough. difficult I hope you get over the initial shock and find away to feel positive about it.

I caved and poas last night. Was a bfn but didn't expect anything else as it was evening and I had drank loads of water yesterday so managed to do it and convince myself it was because of all that and I was to early. Going to hold off as long as I can now. I still have a really weird pain in my lower abdomen. Sometimes I think it is just right side and other times it seems like both. No sign of AF and on my regular cycles I should be there by now. I don't feel pregnant but don't feel like AF is going to happen anytime soon either!

Right - that's dtd for third day in a row done. We are SO over it hahaha. So happy we get a break tomorrow!! Apparently supposed to dtd on Friday - let's see...

Sorry to hear about the baby bombs

Yep basset - my cycles have been all over the place since coming off pill. This seems to be my first normal one (going by OPK results) in four months.

eva mine are from boots... I'll check the dosage later maybe that's why it says one a day? I don't actually know!

Sorry for bfn monkey fx for you af doesn't show and bfp in next few days.

So I expecting a temp rise this morning thinking ov was yesterday but it's taken a dip so maybe ov is today? But both opks yesterday were negative? Or do you think i just didnt ov any my body just tried? I have no idea...

Well done pjs! Me and my oh dtd too last night. Paying for it today though I am exhausted from lack of sleep haha. Although I'm now aware of my right side, its not painful. Who knows what's going on maybe ill have to try a different method of tracking if this month isn't successful.

I'd try and help mojitos but I don't really have a grasp of temping. Fx it sorts itself out.