First time TTC - thread 3

[Pyjamas81]

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This may be way to much TMI but I can't talk to anyone else as they don't know we are TTC.
I have been off the pill for over a year , cycle is around 26 days. On day 11 at the moment, finished period last Friday. DTD Monday the next day I every time I wiped I had red blood kinda mixed into EWCM still have it this morning. Not enough to fill a pad or anything.
Just wondering if anyone else had this before?

Does everything generally feel ok down there hells? Several years ago I had a time where I kept bleeding after sex - turned out I had a bit of an infection which some antibiotics cleared right up.

Hmm hells I'm not sure what that could be, if it happens again then probably worth a gp visit, bleeding after sex can need looking at. Bodies are random and weird though it could be anything!

Having been on hormonal contraception for 9 years and had about 5 periods in that time I have probably POAS at least every 4 months minimum having been off it for 4 months I'm feeling that it was less necessary than I thought! Too much "it only takes one time!" fear inspiring in sex ed!

My spotting is still v light but slightly heavier than last night so I'm wondering if I'm just having a crazy 22 day cycle?! But I'm sure I ov'd when OPK says as my boobs have been killer since then which is normal for me, which would mean period 5dpo... Crazy bodies!

Thanks ladies, everything else seems okay. I use to suffer from thrush years ago and sometimes got spotting like that but its not the same as I am not itchy and It doesn't hurt when I pee, mmm..
I get really bad heavy periods that no pain killers can take the pain away for about 2days. I went to the doc about that in September but she said everything looks fine and not to worry as thats the way I had them when I was a teenager and went on the pill because of it.
I will see if it happens again and if it does ill go to the doctor.

Crazy bodies is right

Too much "it only takes one time!" fear inspiring in sex ed!

Yes, that's exactly what my friend and I said - school made us all think we'd get pregnant if a boy looked at us funny so we've all had years of pregnancy paranoia - and now we're all convinced there must be something wrong when we don't get knocked up on our very first go!

mouse no idea where residing came from! You could be a first cycle lucky type?? I saw you mention the tram yesterday, are you up north? I'm north west

HellsBellsK I usually have pinkish bloodiness after intercourse if I'm passed ovulation (luteal?). But as ever, if something is odd for you then yiou should run it by your GP.

Ha Ha it's so true. My friends and myself are always saying that. We use to get so happy when we saw our periods now its the complete opposite!

As the doctor says it usually takes a heathy couple a year to get pregnant so thats what I have in my mind all the time. I know you will always have a couple who get lucky first time or like two friends of them got engaged and then two months later pregnant both where on birth control

I should introduce myself. I've been lurking a bit. Can't remember the format :-)

ymmv
TTC1
cycle 1 (as in, first attempt?)
cd 31.

I use mymonthlycycles.com to track my periods and have since 2007 so they've got quite a lot of data. My cycles average to 31 days mainly between 28 and 35 with the odd 60 (twice in a decade, perhaps). Also predicts ovulation based on 14 day luteal but I'll be cm checking and possibly BBT charting if this drags out.

I don't expect to be pregant as I'm displaying my usual PMT and only dtd twice this month (although just about when fertile).

so yeah. Hi. I doubt I'll post much as I'm more of a reader but you never know fx for you all.

Can anyone advise when your supposed to take EPO, I was taking it up until OV but not sure when you starting retaking it again is it from Cd 1?

I've had smear test early as I read online that you are supposed to be up to date before ttc. I also have to go for a pelvic scan ( rescheduled for after FW)due to heavy AF so hoping all is okay. Has anyone else had this scan? You have to drink a pint and half of water before scan!

Hope you are all well

Welcome YMMV

Cycle is yes... how many period cycles you've had trying. I'm about to complete my first cycle.

Eva, yep north west trams.

In other news. No AF symptoms here, and no AF. I'm CD28.

Welcome to the newbies. Ymmv to quote the old phrase you aren't out till af shows.

I'm currently cd12 and I am trying to figure out whether I can jump my other half again every day between now and Sunday to give us the best chance. I know he's not daft enough to realise its the middle week of my cycle. Without being to tmi he definitely noticed an increase in cm last night.

Have you poas mouse?

I would think you would start epo on the first day of your period as you know you aren't pg.

Nope basset.. I haven't POAS. I'm thinking if AF shows this weekend then I know but if she's still not here next weekend then I'll POAS? It's difficult to tell since I don't know what my cycles are doing.

bassetmum sorry if I've missed you explaining this earlier, but why can't you tell him that it's a fertile time? Does he find that too pressurising?

Lisa he wants to just see how it goes and not put too much thought into it. To be fair though my libido is definitely through the roof at the moment. On a side note we were lucky if we dtd twice a month whilst I was on the pill so me being horny is a completely knew sensation for him. Been with him 7.5 years but I had been on the pill for 11years in August.

Mouse that is a tricky situation. Did you say you didn't have a withdrawal bleed either?

Nope I've had nothing basset. Not even a dot! I was expecting to get a period the week after maybe but nope.
I suppose tomorrow or this weekend will be the real test of my patience lol and then beyond. I think it's the not knowing and all the worries that I'm trying not to think about.

Hi, making a little return to MN after AF came on Tuesday, starting EPO this month

AF was disappointing but less so than being late but having a BFN again ... silver linings eh

Onwards and upwards to the next cycle hope everyone's doing ok

Did you get them normally? It is very odd. At least you are learning your patience limits.

Ive just had two colleagues try and get me to sign up to a obstacle course in February. Not sure my excuse of hating mud (its not really an excuse as I hate having mud on my hands) is enough.

Goodness me it's been busy on here the last few days! I've been keeping away from mn a little bit as I was properly freaking myself out reading the pregnancy boards... So I hope you ladies don't mind me just staying here with you?

I was referred for an early scan this week as I had some spotting. So in I went and happily everything seems to be ok at the moment. I saw a little heartbeat (obviously burst into tears) and so generally feeling relieved.

Fingers crossed for everyone testing soon, I don't want to jinx anything but there's some positive sounding stuff going on!

MrsCw Glad to hear everything went well at the scan. How far on are you? I think you can stay with us a little longer and pass your positive vibes on.

I am still having crazy sore boobs (and crazy nipples) again today. My tummy feels a little unsettled too. I think AF might get me sooner than I think. Still holding out for testing on Sunday 12dpo, although part of me feels like if I don't test then I don't get a bfn, so might hold off.

Basset, I've not had an AF for over a year now. The pill I took (for the last year) stopped them. The pill I took before last sept (11 yrs) was one I had a break on so I always had one like clockwork. I feel quite in the dark at the moment.

Today it feels like my tummy is like a stretching ache, like a first morning wee ache, it's been like that for about a week now. On one hand I think AF is defo on her way, but on the other my symptoms are not familiar at all. My lower back has been bad for about 3 weeks now. And my hips are killing too. Of course this isn't a new problem so I could just be suffering with bad hips. Maybe there's a problem I don't know about.

mouse coming off the pill can give you all sorts of weird symptoms! I was on progesterone only pill for the last year, depo injection before that, having come off the pill I had no withdrawal bleed, nothing for 28 days when first AF arrived and I'm very lucky to be that regular so quick!

monkey I'm with you on the killer boobs, agony... But it happens every month between ov and AF. How long til you're due AF, is it long after the 12do?

mrsc glad all is well with you :) think it's a bit of an in between time til you're feeling a bit more pregnant really I imagine

Heather, Mouse and BusyNothings: Thank you for your messages. I ended up having a total meltdown at work yesterday and had to go home again. This happens every time I get AF these days. Although we’ve not been trying for that long (cycle 4), I’m utterly, utterly not coping with the disappointment, and I just feel that it would have already happened by now if it was going to happen. There is completely no reason why it shouldn’t have – me and DH are both healthy, under 30, not overweight, don’t smoke…all the rest of it. I’m utterly convinced there must be something wrong, because everyone else my age that’s had a baby has conceived immediately. I went to the doctor and they said they won’t investigate until we’ve been trying for about 2 years. That is a thought that honestly makes me want to jump off a bridge. I don’t know what to do, I really can’t go on like this.

mrscw I'm really struggling keeping up with the pg board. I went on a mini-break for 3 days and came back to 8 pages, it's so overwhelming and I feel like my posts get lost a bit. I was thinking of starting my own thread for those of us expecting their first around same time, would you join me? There have been a few BFPs on the 2 ttc threads I was on so would be nice to keep up with people I've already got to know a bit. Glad everything went well with your scan :)

warwick I'm so sorry you're feeling like this and I'm sure nothing any of us say can make you feel better but it's honestly so rare for people to just get a BFP like that. I think a lot of people fib/exaggerate. I hope dp is being supportive. Do you have any friends you can confide in? It might be worth seeing a councillor if you're feeling that down too. I'm not usually one for things like that but I was really struggling last year after my dad died and after a few sessions of (mainly crying) to one it really did help. They won't judge you or add their own opinion like other people might and you can really confide in someone who doesn't know you at all. Rather than worrying about what someone you know thinks and them giving you their opinions when you don't want it.

Welcome ymmv :)

basset I find it helps it's more 'spontaneous' then they don't twig what you're doing lol. A few casual sexy comments or jump him in the morn or after work or whilst dinner is on or something! Also make it more about them so maybe a cheeky bj (my God hope you don't mind me saying!!!) to get them in the mood (but obvs don't waste it, jump on before the end!) So they're not thinking about the pressure of actually dtd. I was worried about getting in a rut with such regular dtd but a few tricks helped keep us going :)

Warwick I know you probably already realise this but getting yourself worked up like that isn't doing you any favours. Just try to relax if you can. Remember that each AF is a clean start and a new opportunity to get your body ready for carrying a baby. You won't be able to do that if you're getting physically ill with stress. I know it's hard.

Moonlight you should defo make your own thread!! But excited to see you here.