Over 40s TTC & success stories.

[Grizzer]

Starting a new thread for support & advice ladies. Not quite ready to graduate yet!

Hello everyone. I haven't been on Mumsnet in months, but today i thought I would drop in and see how my old friends are, and what a lovely surprise, Cloud has had her baby. Congratulations Cloud! You've had a long and arduous journey, and I am thrilled that your little girl is here with you safe and sound.

I've just had my 49th birthday, and also my 25th wedding anniversary. It has taken a while, but I am now completely at peace with not having that one last baby I so desperately wanted. So much has happened in my life and thankfully, I have come to terms with not fulfilling that dream, and am complete ease with it. I am sure I couldn't conceive now, at this age (though I know it does happen), but also I seem to have got myself some scarring from the three ERPC's that I had over the last 4 years. It hasn't officially been diagnosed as Asherman's but my doctor thinks there is scarring as I have super light periods with loads of pain and cramping. This last period I had no bleeding at all, but awful bloating and discomfort right on time (I still feel ovulation). My doctor thinks, due to my age, I should just use hormonal birth control so that I could skip periods and not deal with the pain, until menopause, but I am not keen. I will explore other options. I have heard that wobenzyme may help. Jass, you talked about taking it, did you?

Besides, Cloud, someone else was expecting a baby around the same time - sorry, but I seem to have forgotten, can someone remind me? If all had been well, I'd be about 4 weeks from my due date, but it wasn't to be.

I am surprised at how I have nearly come full circle - I thought I'd never come to terms with the losses, and that having a baby would be the only cure, but it isn't the case. My 2nd son and 1st daughter are both moving out of home in a couple of weeks - going to the big city to university. I am actually excited about this phase of my life: looking forward to having more space in the house, but also to having a great excuse to travel to visit them. I am actually happy.

I wish everyone the best of luck at getting their dream baby. I am so very lucky to have had my 7 year old son at close to 42, and he's been a light in my life. He still enjoys a snuggle with his mum. Christmas was a delight with him.

I am now going to read back a bit and see if I can work out who else was having babies. Did Calibee have her twins?

So nice you hear from you Gum. I had hoped we would. It must have been hard reaching acceptance but it's reassuring that you've made peace with it. It was Grizzer who is due soon. I think she's being induced on 11th if nothing progresses sooner. Have a fantastic 2016 and look after yourself x

So now I've lost some blood and clots. No pain yet but boobs have been less sore the last few days. Hope i can get an early scan tomorrow. Not feeling very confident. Just when i thought things might be ok. sad

Oh Slinki, I'm so sorry this pregnancy is still stressful for you. I really hope this turns out to be nothing to worry about

Merry Christmas everyone, I'll be back later once I've caught up.

Update, bleeding has stooped. Boobs sore again and I was gagging my way the supermarket yesterday. I've toyed with the idea of seeing the Dr or midwife but as I have no cramping and bleeding has stopped, there is not much they could do for me. A scan would either tell me bad news or that things are ok for the time being. I'm being very zen about this at the moment. I hope I can keep this up!

Hello, I suck at forum lingo, but am pregnant with my fourth. All babies conceived after age 36.

bb 1 @ 37
bb 2 @ 38
bb 3 @ 41
bb 4 @ 43 ( in utero )

all conceived naturally. No issues w/ pregnancies. Best wishes to all. I regularly hear about women aged 45 who become spontaneously pregnant.

I believe.

I also read Take Charge of your Fertility, Pregnancy for the Inpatient Woman

I cut caffeine out, used opks, took my temperature, charted my periods and paid way too much attention to mucous. My first, when I wasn't doing those things, took almost a year. All others took two to three months to conceive. Best wishes to all.

Hi all, guess what!! I had a little boy this morning, 2 weeks early. My waters broke on Monday night so I went in to be induced but had progressed naturally so didn't need the induction.
He is so calm & chilled (for now). Looking forward to going home tomorrow & starting the new year!
Thank you all for your support over the years, so lovely to see you Gum, and hear your news.
Happy New Year & good luck for 2016 xx

Saw your news on the other thread. Congratulations. How was the labour? Have a wonderful 2016. X

Many, many congratulations Grizzer, so pleased for you. Welcome to the world for your baby boy

Slinki I'm glad your bleeding stopped. Hopefully it's had no impact on the pregnancy. Glad you're being zen about things, long may it last

Things have been a bit odd here. I started digital opk's on cd10 but didn't get a peak and ran out as I'd only bought a 10 pack. I assumed I'd either missed it or that I wasn't going to ovulate this month. Yesterday bought a pack of the dual hormone opk's (didn't realise they were so expensive but got them anyway) and this morning I got a high reading. On top of that I'm also now getting twingy ovaries (which I often get at o time). I'm on cd18 now and usually ovulate on day 15 of a 27 day cycle so this cycle is looking to be longer than that.

I'm a little concerned about the impact of 'late' ovulation on egg quality but not much I can do. Dh and I didn't even dtd until cd16 as I really didn't feel like it until then.

So, long story short, I thought I was out for this month but I now might not be. We will see.

Just quickly popping on to say 'Congratulations' Grizzer what a wonderful way to start the new year! x

Just had a chance to catch up on earlier posts.

Twinkly I'm sorry AF came for you and that the Angus castus didn't seem to work. Maybe it needs a bit longer to take effect. Are you still taking it? Is it B6 that's supposed to help too?

It's hard when other people announce pregnancies isn't it. I think you just have to try and be happy for them in the belief that one day it will be you. Sending you hugs anyway.

Chewy re. my bleeding, yes it was a very different experience to those that I read about on the mc support boards. Both the GP and consultant I saw said the bleeding can take a while to settle down. Thankfully this month seems normal. I had a very small amount of brown spotting after my period stopped and nothing since.

It must have been really reassuring to see your lead follicle growing, very positive. How is your 2ww going?

Greenlizzard have you started the down regulation yet? Chewy for your info, often before IVF (it depends on your situation/cycle) you have to take a drug for a few weeks before to stop your own hormones working. Then when you start your stimulation meds they are in control of your reproductive system. I had to take the down reg as a nasal spray twice a day and then continue with half a dose while I took the stimulation drugs which were a daily injection. It seems like a long time ago now.

lillipudlian thanks for sharing your stats. Congratulations on your pregnancy. When are you due?

Agh congratulations to cloud and grizzer - new babies, new year! How fabulous! (5 star rating!)

Gum lovely to hear from you - you sound very zen and peaceful - here are some new year flowers for your garden

slinki keeping everything crossed for you. It is so stressful! I had some bleeding at the beginning of my pregnancy (some red blood too and I assumed it was all over but it wasn't). Good luck!

abs i was due to start down regging on 26th December which should have been CD21 however I had the weirdest cycle ever and had a bleed that lasted 7 days (eg. period on CD14!!). A scan a week before revealed that everything was ship shape and I had a dominant follicle growing so I have no idea what that was about. As a result I had to start again and am now on CD14 again and due to start down regging next friday.

Wishing you all a very fertile and successful new year!

many congrats grizzer...and cloud if i havent already said so.Im so thrilled for you both with your wee bundles of joy.

I lurk on here once or twice a week, keeping up with how people are doing...slowly starting to come to terms with the fact that i wont be one of those lucky 40 somethings with he arrival of a much wanted addition to the family...its taken a few months of rawness and heartache, but im getting there. It still gives me a smile to hear pf others successes, so keep it up, i shall have my baby vicariously through you lucky lot

Fatty good to hear from you. I'm sorry that you've had a tough few months and that you haven't yet been able to conceive the baby you wanted. Big hugs to you, I hope that 2016 brings you either a bfp or closure. Do continue to pop by when you feel like it though.

Slinki I hope things are still ok with you.

Gum I'm so glad that you've come to terms with not conceiving again and I'm sorry that it hasn't worked out for you. Sorry too about the scarring, are they able to treat it?

Lizzard what a pain you had to delay. Hopefully things can go ahead this month with no problems. How are you feeling about it?

I saw today that there's a new thread for those 40 plussers ttc number one. I completely understand as I think emotionally it's very different trying (or struggling) to conceive your first. The fear of never being a parent is very hard, I hope they all get the bfp that they are hoping for. We will miss them on this thread though.

As for me I think the £30 I paid for the clearblue dual hormone opk's was a waste. I think I've caught the LH surge on the other side and have used most of them over the last 3 days obsessed . Nevermind, hopefully I will do a better job next cycle as I think I missed my opportunity this time.

Happy new year everyone, hopefully this is our year!!

Warmest congrats to cloud and to Grizzer! Can't believe how quickly time went by - I remember when you both got your BFPs!

Good to hear from Gum. Very glad you've been doing better.

ababs, you're not out until you're out! Will still keep fingers crossed for you for this cycle.

Am less hopeful this month because I wasn't taking my usual supplements as I forgot to pack them. I went to a health shop and got the best substitutes I could find, but I am a bit obsessed picky about my supplements. I also may have overindulged regularly once or twice on very good (but not too healthy) food and excellent wine. In tww now but have weird twinges that might mean even earlier cycle this month and wondering if cycle is a bit messed up. Might need thyroid checked. (Might also need to lose a bit of weight and go back to regular running!! )

Happy New Year to all!

Hi Fatty hope you are ok. Good to hear from you. Do let us know how you are doing.

Congratulations to Grizzer and Cloud!

Slinky, I hope things are looking good for you,too!

Gum, long time not seen! happy new year to you and everybody else on the thread! You asked about wobenzyme. I tried it and it gave me stomach irritation, so gave up after about a week.

i guess I am in the same boat as Gum now. Come to terms and happy with my lot. My 6yo is still a baby, and good to cuddle daily. 10yo starts to shy away, but still not totally. And since i ama grandmother, there is a 8mo old GD who can remind me how hard it all is really when someone is a baby. Even if She is a happy and funny baby. The repetitive action you need to take to get her through a day..... I am OK if I never can do it full time anymore.

Best luck and dulfillement of dreams to everybody!

So....44 here ( years old) and I had my 2week scan and it is a boy!!!! ..... thank you for all your support. I am still lurking and fx for everyone

Good luck with the rest, notso!

Well done notso! I take it that was your 20 week scan? I'm now 9+5 but my 12 week scan will be 2nd Feb when I'm 13+3! I've decided to use some of my Christmas money and get a private scan so will know more Sunday pm, I'll be 10+1 then. Stuff crossed.
Where is evryone up to with 2ww's? I'm hoping 2016 will be a good year for us all. X

Hi all.

Twinkly I'm sure a short while on different supplements won't make too much difference. Which brands are you using out of interest? I'm taking Solgar coQ10 after using up the Holland and Barrett 342 that I bought when I conceived ds. I'm taking some godawful smelling and tasting veggie omega 3 capsules. I think the brand is called Together. Also taking the pregnacare conception and some maca powder though can't remember the brand.

jassS how lovely you get to do all the good stuff with your dgd. I'm glad you are happy with how things have worked out, it sounds like you have a lot to be happy with.

notsoold congratulations on your 20w scan. Boys are ace (I'm biased of course!). Best of luck with the second half of your pregnancy.

Slinki fingers crossed for you this week. Only a few days to wait.

I'm on 7dpo here. Not really symptom spotting as I don't seem to get early symptoms except for very slight dizziness. If I get that then it should be a good sign though I am not hopeful at all this month. Fingers crossed for everyone on the 2ww - may it pass quickly and end with a bfp!

Hello all 😊 love this thread! Really inspired by all the success stories on this thread but sad to hear of some of the not so good times some of you have experienced. Sending you all Friday hugs!!
Ttc#3 and I'm 41. We had my 2 children in my 20's but always wanted more. Life kinda took over work etc and now would love another. Me and DH have talked about it (lots) but he works away a lot of the time and I'm getting a bit fed up of bringing it up or even talking about it arrrgghh so we end up missing my 'good days' [. So that's me. Good luck to all that are expecting and to all those who are also on a journey to get their BFP x xxxxx

Hi everyone, just checking in to say hello, I was on this thread last year, I'm 41 and was TTC for 6 months, got a BFP in October and I'm 16 weeks now and all seems to be going well.

We had a bit of a rocky time after my bloods at the 12 week scan put me in the high chance category for Down's, (1 in 39), but I had a CVS and it was clear - they even managed to rush the result through so I got it on Christmas Eve, which meant a more relaxed Christmas, thank goodness.

Had an extra cardiac scan yesterday due to our history of congenital heart disease with our last DS, and so far everything seems clear, although I'll have to have more additional scans. It feels like everything is a series of hurdles to get over, with more to come, but we're slowly getting there.

Congratulations to cloud and grizzer, great news!

Artioo how fantastic! Congratulations to you. It must have been stressful worrying about the Downs result but wonderful to get the all clear before Christmas. Wishing you a healthy rest of the pregnancy

Welcome Olive. Trying to dtd 2-3 times a week is a good plan if you're struggling to manage it around ovulation in particular. wishing you lots of luck getting that bfp.

8dpo here. I will not test early repeats to self. I don't have any tests anyway. I'll get some if my period hasn't come on cd30 (since I think I ovulated late).

Hello. I got a bfp on New Year's Day at 10dpo but today I started spotting brown blood. At the moment it's only when I wipe but there have been some dark brown ribbon like streaks too. Last few (sorry tmi) wipes have been very pale with not a lot of discharge but each has had one small stringy discharge. I'm terrified this is the end - I don't have massive cramping but my lower back does ache & has done for the past week or so.

I don't know if I'd be taken seriously if I went to a&e - I called 111 & they just said to take it easy. My mind won't take it easy