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The Bumsnet/Angry Pubes Bus

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Mummyofonesofar · 30/03/2015 14:57

If you can keep up with a bus that fills up in one weekend and chat shit then jump aboard the bus you are never allowed to leave! Trying to set a target for most BFPs on one bus!

No LPBs allowed!

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spinningirl10 · 01/04/2015 13:01

Yay Purdeys backSmileSmile

Marysprayer, I'm so sorry to see you back here and I'm saddened by the awful treatment you received. Totally unacceptable Hmm I hope you get your sticky bfp very soon.

I'll catch up properly later but I really must crack on with the decorating!Smile

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Mummyofonesofar · 01/04/2015 13:09

Hi everyone, I really hope everyones appointments go well today! Good luck to anyone who may be testing over the Easter weekend. I am going to try to stay away from the bus for a few days - my Dad & his partner are staying with me from tomorrow who I haven't seen for 6 months and have really missed. Plus DP has promised 2 whole days away from work to spend with us this weekend. Then once they all go home I have got Tuesday with DS and I really want to enjoy him and focus on him for a whole day!

I hope the mega bus settles down and the rules are more clear for when I can hop back on. The bus moved quickly so please do not be offended if I can't catch up on everything when I come back next week, Juney with this in mind - I may not be able to catch up so could you try to keep an eye on the stats and I will help out when I am back on. I am on fb still, so news on there I will try to keep up with!

I will miss you all - see you soon Easter Grin

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Mummyofonesofar · 01/04/2015 13:15

I don't need a big farewell thing either - will be back just having some time out Xx

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Oysterbabe · 01/04/2015 13:22

I think most people agree that the mega bus should be a rolling TTC bus with graduates welcome to talk random shit or gee us on our way.

tessiegirl · 01/04/2015 13:30

Sounds lovely Mummy enjoy your weekend and day with ds and we shall see you when you hop back on!!! Easter Grin

tessiegirl · 01/04/2015 13:37

Right, I have been putting the ironing off for far too long and DH complained this morning that he didn't have any shirts in the wardrobe...will stick OBEM on to make the task half bearable.... Will catch up later!

Butterchunks · 01/04/2015 14:03

I like the idea of a rolling grads bus (bumpnet bus?). That way we can all have a catchup in various little chefs as we go along this journey of ours. Hopefully we will all be on the grads bus ourselves soon and we can stay with familiar faces and like minded ladies. I've followed other ttc threads but the buses seemed to have the ladies I felt at home with, witty, caring, dirty, factual and full of knowledge. I want somewhere similar to go when my time comes and to be welcomed by friends who are genuinely please for me.

it's still early days for me (cylcle 4) so bpfs are a hopeful glimpse into the future for me BUT I do know from other areas of my life how soul crushing it is to see others around you seemingly sail through achieving something that is such a struggle yourself. I've hated how any joy for friends is tainted with jealousy and that turns to bitterness and resentment Sad. If my ttc adventure end up taking longer than expected I hope I can remember something that someone in the buses said a while back, of how other people's happiness doesn't necessarily happen at the expense of your own.

This is a hard old life at times and if keeping separate buses (but allowing old friends to drop by occassionally) provides a more supportive environment then maybe we could try that?

Butterchunks · 01/04/2015 14:12

and recently knocked up ladies, I still want to follow your adventures, please don't feel banished or that you are no longer welcome. you guys can just get an upgrade to a less gin filled grads bus, will extra toilets and gaviscon in tap. I like the idea that I can pop my head round the door, say hi to everyone and have a nosy at all the gross things happening to your bodies Grin

DaisyDuckSW15 · 01/04/2015 14:15

Agree with oyster
The rolling mega bus is a great idea rather than leaving one bus as soon as AF arrives to join the next. It's hard to keep up though, so hopefully people will understand!
Also, I wouldn't mind if lucky ladies who get BFPs stick around to offer support (and most importantly, advice!) but they can talk about aspects of their pregnancy elsewhere!
I want to hear success stories. They give me hope. And I want to know how they did it!!!
Let's all try and be supportive Star

xBlueberry88x · 01/04/2015 14:33

Wow this bus really did take a turn onto a bumpy dark road for a bit!!

I am a graduate and love reading up on a few faces in particular but I also like popping in with advise when I can.

I was TTC for 20 months and therefor know what it feels like but not once did I wish the pregnant ladies would not post etc in fact they gave me hope that one day I could join them.

The world can be such a dark place when your TTC and you should embrace every bit of happiness and good news you can or you'll fall into a dark pit of depression (I was very close a few times but you lot helped me out).

I feel rather unwelcome now and to be honest I think a fair few of you are being rather insensitive even though your trying to make it easier for some or making it harder for others!

DizzyMerry · 01/04/2015 14:51

Blueberry nobody has said anything to make you feel unwelcome and I certainly don't think anything has been said which could be misinterpreted as being sensitive. As had already been said you grads are all more than welcome here. However, this was started as a ttc bus but then became an all in one, which is fair enough but it could be a struggle to keep up for ttc'ers as there struggles and 'chat' could get lost amidst other posts. We would still love to hear from you but the general feeling, from what I gather is you may feel better placed to talk about certain aspects of your pregnancy elsewhere.

DizzyMerry · 01/04/2015 14:51

*insensitive

Giddymamma · 01/04/2015 14:54

I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to start any aggro, this has been a fab bus and I think you are all wonderful. I wish you all lots of luck and happiness and bfp's. Easter SadFlowers

DizzyMerry · 01/04/2015 14:57

Giddy sorry if I said anything to offend you. I really didn't mean to Easter Sad

Giddymamma · 01/04/2015 14:59

Oh dizzy, course you didn't! X

Nomio230 · 01/04/2015 15:11

Sheesh, I leave you for a day & the bus falls apart without me!

As someone who has been TTC for years, I admit to feeling a pang of jealousy every time I see a pic of two lines, but at the same time I love you guys, and am really happy for you.

Personally, I would quite like it if all you BFPs stayed and kept us up to date with your progress. I can understand your nervousness about leaving in the early stages of pregnancy. As someone else said, I think that as you progress, you will naturally gravitate to the antenatal boards.

On a happier note, we found out this morning that our offer has been accepted! Grin

Giddymamma · 01/04/2015 15:17

Yay to house nomio! Any idea of when you might get in?

cremedecacao · 01/04/2015 15:20

That's good Nomio!

Sorry to hear that Mary Sad hoping you have some good news soon enough.

As for me, spotting has begun so AF is definitely coming. Into month 4 I go!

Nomio230 · 01/04/2015 15:20

Thanks Giddy. We are aiming for June. Between finishing Uni, passing my test, moving & hopefully getting a BFP, it is going to be a busy few months!

dojo123 · 01/04/2015 15:24

Fab news about the house Nomio

Marmite27 · 01/04/2015 15:45

I feel very sad at the turn this bus has taken and now also feel unwelcome, and will leave you all too it.

Banished :(

Oysterbabe · 01/04/2015 15:48

Don't feel banished preggos, we just don't want the focus of the bus to be lost, and that is TTC.

GlitteryLipgloss1 · 01/04/2015 15:57

Phew ladies! This has escalated rather quickly! I think some sort of ‘calm’ needs placing back onto our mega bus.

Now, for anyone that’s interested I think that it was a given assumption that anyone who was lucky and lovely to get their BFP would ultimately then naturally move on to the pregnancy bus’s and vent/express their symptoms, questions there. There is also a BFP facebook page been set up if anyone is interested DoJo can exclusively send you that invite J

No one is not asking the BFP’s not to post, or share their stories, we are all here to support one another in our ultimate goal – getting that all elusive BFP. And when you do get it you want to shout it from the rooftops – especially with those who heared about your CM, and shagging sessions with our husband/boyfriend/turkey basters.

There is not need to post any comments about not being welcome – because everyone IS welcome. Please don’t take things so personally.

eskimolaura · 01/04/2015 16:09

Hi everyone, have just read back through the posts and the comments on here. I opened a bit of a can of worms with my last post and just wanted to clarify a couple of things:

First and foremost, I do feel like I have made some friends on here who are on my wavelength and have made me laugh, giggle and cry on here in the last few months. I certainly do not want to lose touch with you at all and I would like to continue to chat shit about nutella, knitted dinosaurs, dogs, weddings and any random thing that makes life a little bit more interesting. I was the one who set up the Facebook page and I did that for these exact reasons.

Giddy Your random and hilarious posts literally make me howl. Pug You clearly feel the same about dogs as I do and for that, I applaud you. Heir I need you to be here when I finally get around to watching series 1-350 of Game of Thrones and get confused between the 'Starkadders' and the 'Bannisters' and Dojo , my fellow FB admin, you are my home girl! Anyone else that I have missed, you all add to the rich tapestry that we have managed to weave together on this colourful, loud, opinionated, caring and interesting bus. Please do not leave.

Everyone on here will appreciate how vulnerable and uncertain this TTC journey makes people feel at times and how people can have good days and bad days. Yesterday was a bad day for me. Many of us have voiced our upset and envy about pregnancy announcements in RL and how strange it is that we do not feel like this about the ladies on here. That still stands. Every time one of you posts a BFP and a test, I feel a huge sense of joy and want to congratulate each and ever one of you. Your BFPs are hard earned and we have been with you from the outset. As others have said, it feels like a ray of hope in a frustrating and sometimes confusing storm of uncertainty. I was simply stating that I was not sure how long I could bear to be on a bus that was slowly turning into a bus full of pregnancy symptoms and bumps. If that is 'insensitive', I can only apologise and say that no offense or hurt was ever intended, and that I too misunderstood the intention of this bus. I adore the people on this bus, whatever their 'pregnancy status', but I can't be surrounded by the one thing I want and be constantly reminded of it as it just makes me too sad.

I'm off now to compose myself before I post again, as I am getting a little teary as I write. I will be back, lovely people Flowers

dojo123 · 01/04/2015 16:11

Glittery I echo your posting. I won't be on here as much for the obvious reason. But I will be hopping back to check on you all as I do want to see you get your BFPs.

I think the reason some of us haven't navigated off the bus yet is because it is still early days and we are wary. However I do see that there will be a natural migration. As I have said before, I want to get beyond my 5wk mark first and then I'll feel a little more confident in my result so I will be skulking at the back of the bus for a week and then pop back as and when with my extra sparkly pom poms!