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The Bumsnet/Angry Pubes Bus

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Mummyofonesofar · 30/03/2015 14:57

If you can keep up with a bus that fills up in one weekend and chat shit then jump aboard the bus you are never allowed to leave! Trying to set a target for most BFPs on one bus!

No LPBs allowed!

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MarysPrayer · 01/04/2015 11:16

I'd like to re-join you please. As a ttc'er, rather than a bfp graduate though, sadly.

You may remember me from the monthly buses. I posted on most of them from Dec to March. I'm not an LPB honestly! Smile With work and a non-napping toddler to care for I couldn't always find the time to post every day, but I always tried to keep up. As I wasn't a long term ttc'er with any experience of temping and fertility test etc I could never really offer any useful advice, just moral support, a bit of chit chat and some fellow commiseration when AF arrived. When I got my bfp on the March bus I stepped away as I understood that was the done thing I suppose.

Anyway, back to the point. Sadly I miscarried my little bean at the weekend. I was only 5 1/2 weeks in but it has been very painful none the less. I'm in a bad place at the moment and would love to nestle back in with you.

I've been reading most of this thread and can appreciate both arguments for combining ttc and bfps and for keeping them separate. I don't really know what the best solution is. It's a shame to fall out or get upset with one another though.

Anyway, here are my new stats
#####MarysPrayer 37 ttc#2 bfp on 20th march, mc 29th march 2015. Still bleeding so I have no idea when bfp will be due. Confused

DizzyMerry · 01/04/2015 11:21

Oh Mary I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers You will be well supported here and I hope you start to feel better, though I appreciate it can't be easy. Moral support and chit chat is great. We're all in this together.

Sparkly123 · 01/04/2015 11:22

Argh! Too many posts!!! Can't catch up! Got to leave in a bit for my app but I see there's a general mixed consensus today on things on the bus! Just sending some sparkly positive light StarStarStarStar

Einaudi- jealous. very jealous Pixa that's amazing!! Can I come?!

Purds is back in town, Purds is back in town... Easter Grin

I'm loving these easter emojis! Easter Wink

Easter- hope-miracles-new beginnings people! Let's get our BFPs!!

I would miss Giddy and all you preggers ladies. I totally think you will gravitate towards a AN thread as time goes on. It makes sense. Why would you want to be here listening to is all wail on about OPKs and temp drops?! But I also understand that you may want to dip in every so often so that you can check on us all too etc! I hear everyone's views and opinions.i don't want to sit on the fence about it either, I just think the best solution to everyone's needs is that actual pregnancy symptoms etc are not discussed on here as I can see why those TTC a long time just don't need to hear that.. Everyone is here to support each other in the TTC process.. And that's draining month after month, so we all need this space to vent and advise each other away from RL.. Where we are constantly surrounded by baby bombs etc! However, I have to stress, for me- and this may differ for others- I still love to hear about how those who have their BFPs are doing, I think it helps to keep hopeful. Especially as we often seem to be so aware of early loses on here, it's nice to hear hopeful stories too!
Ok that's a ramble, I'm trying to brush my teeth here and get deep with y'all. It ain't easy! Ha. Grin

Did I see Wotsits left?! Nooooooo! Easter Sad

Eskimo luck for today Star

Juney hope you are ok lovely Flowers

MaMaPo · 01/04/2015 11:25

Welcome back marys and sorry you're back. What a terrible time for you, I hope you have lots of RL support around. Please stick around, we don't all need to be TTC experts, just TTC'ers! You're very welcome here.

Sparkly123 · 01/04/2015 11:26

Oh Marys I'm so so sorry lovely. You are welcome back with open arms. We will all support you. And a number of us including myself have had an early loss so we absolutely know how you are feeling. I hope you are not physically in lots of pain? Thinking of you. You will get your sticky BFP my lovely. It will come. For now, we are here for you FlowersFlowers

MarysPrayer · 01/04/2015 11:27

Thanks dizzy and mama Smile

Grin at sparkly brushing her teeth while being all deep and meaningful! Gave me my first chuckle in days. Flowers

MarysPrayer · 01/04/2015 11:31

Thanks sparkly. Yes I was 'with' you on the bus when it happened to you. Flowers

The bleeding was very heavy, with clots, for three days but has lessened today. Hospital were useless and unsympathetic. I didn't get referred to an epu, just had a poas test and was told to go home. No advice or follow up given. I felt like I was wasting their time. Sad

GlitteryLipgloss1 · 01/04/2015 11:34

I remember you Marys Prayer. Lovely to hear from you again although not in the circumstances.

Come and take a nice comfy seat - and massive hugs and lots of sweet tea! xx

Sparkly123 · 01/04/2015 11:34

Mary I pm'd you.. Whilst one legged in my jeans,pulling on the other! multitasker

DizzyMerry · 01/04/2015 11:34

Oh I missed wotsits leaving Sad. It's sad we those we get to 'know' leave but I do hope she pops back.

I was about to post a reply about the bus situation but just read the reply from purdey and sparkly and I agree with their views. It would be nice to hear from the pregnant ladies though as they will for sure be missed but it wouldn't be fair for them not to be able to discuss their pregnancies and it would be unfair on the ttc'ers to listen. Although I wouldn't mind personally but I think if we start going down the route of discussing both then some may feel less supported in their journeys.
I love you all though Flowers

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Mummyofonesofar · 01/04/2015 11:37

Marys really sorry about your loss! you are more than welcome back here. I hope the bleeding stops soon for you and you aren't in any pain. Also how awful to hear how the hospital treated you. How can they be so uncaring! Hate the NHS sometimes. We will try to hold you up.

Sparkly Just noticed the Easter emojis! Though Easter Angry doesn't look quite as cross!!

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purdeypie · 01/04/2015 11:41

Mary, I am so, so sorry, sweetheart. It is crushing and desperate when you lose a little one. Some clichés are true, though, and one of them is time being a healer. Please know we are all here whilst your time seems to be standing still Thanks xxx

purdeypie · 01/04/2015 11:42

Why have you left, dear Wotsits? You are much loved on here and our pregnant friends are not far away Smile

purdeypie · 01/04/2015 11:42

I love you, too, Juney Grin

juneybean · 01/04/2015 11:44

So sorry to see you back marys I'm hopeful you won't be here long (meant positively!) Xxx

Sparkly123 · 01/04/2015 11:46

Marys cannot believe they were like that. That's so awful!! Poor you lovely. You needed advice and reassurance for moving forward from them, not a slap in the face. Which I'm sure is how you felt. It's heartbreaking. Where is the human connection! Healthcare is so often run like a business these days sorry night it's just so sad you were treated that way Flowers

MarysPrayer · 01/04/2015 11:47

Aw, thanks mummy, purdey and juney. It means such a lot to have you to talk to.

Pm'd you back sparkly xx

nightandthelight · 01/04/2015 12:19

Mary I am so sad to hear of your loss, I remember you well :(

Fx you get your sticky bean very very soon!

loopylou1984 · 01/04/2015 12:35

So sorry to hear your news Mary's, but welcome back to the bus, Xx

DaisyDuckSW15 · 01/04/2015 12:45

Oh, marysprayer, the hugest hugs coming your way. How awful for you Flowers

Oysterbabe · 01/04/2015 12:47

Welcome back Mary. I'm sorry to hear you were treated so badly.Thanks

auroraboringalis · 01/04/2015 12:56

Waves at sparkly
I also thought from the description when I popped in yesterday what juney said. That a rolling bus was still a ttc bus. Confused
Oooooo-ooooh there are Easter emoticons! Easter Grin
The donut with ears looks weird.
Someone mentioned popcorn earlier (think it was the poas crowd today?) and you totally got me in the mood, so I made some. Salted of course. Naturally. honestly, people who prefer sweet popcorn, you drive me bonkers! I can now report that I am very thirsty. Is it a symptom? Is it? Grin

Hairstylisttoboris · 01/04/2015 12:57

mary sorry you've come back to us in such circumstances. Hope you are feeling ok? X

auroraboringalis · 01/04/2015 12:58

waves at Mary from the ttc bf side-car bus Flowers

tessiegirl · 01/04/2015 12:59

Hello everyone Easter Smile

It is a really difficult situation what is going on here. I can see both sides but I was wondering only yesterday how the mega bus with everyone on board was going to work out in the long run. Totally agree with you Purdey that those with their bfp's should of course be able to voice their excitement and that those left still ttc may find those conversations difficult Sad I think a grad bus is an excellent idea, was it you night that suggested it?

Sparkly sounds as though you get so much out of your pelvic pain apps which is really great. Yes, I think I am in the tww although no crosshairs on FF yet.... Confused

Mama so pleased AF arrived for you and with great timing for you to have your bloods done before you go away. Where in the UK are you visiting?

Thank you Pixa for explaining what the Charge HR is!!!

Marys I am so sorry to hear of your loss Flowers please feel you are able to get the support you need on here, we are here for you.

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