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The Bumsnet/Angry Pubes Bus

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Mummyofonesofar · 30/03/2015 14:57

If you can keep up with a bus that fills up in one weekend and chat shit then jump aboard the bus you are never allowed to leave! Trying to set a target for most BFPs on one bus!

No LPBs allowed!

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dojo123 · 01/04/2015 16:16

Eskimo hugs to you. I don't care if its MN.

Sweets27 · 01/04/2015 16:25

Hi ladies! Flowers to you all, I'm sad to see so many worried people about how the bus is working.

dojo and others with a BFP, toadie has started a Dec AN thread which I've joined - there a few megabus grads on there - want to come? dojo I totally hear ya about being wary in these early days - I am the same, but the attitude on the Dec bus so far is very much one of caution. Those of us who've been ttc together on the buses can, at least to start with, just use it as a place of support while we go through the early days together. So join if you think that would be helpful for you Smile

shuffles back off

tessiegirl · 01/04/2015 16:32

Awww very well said Eskimo

I am so surprised at how this is all turning out. I disagree with anyone who thinks the pregnant ladies have been made to feel unwelcome. All that us ttc'ers have asked is for you to please discuss pregnancy symptoms somewhere else as it may be difficult for some of us here to read, particularly on a bad day as Eskimo says. I don't see how that makes us insensitive? Tbh I am frankly amazed that especially those of you who have been ttc for a long time cannot see this point of view and I think you are being rather insensitive yourselves.

Pregnant ladies please, continue to chat with us and give us ttc advice - we greatly appreciate it and we genuinely can't wait to hear how each pregnancy milestone goes in your own journeys - after all, you deserve them!

Butterchunks · 01/04/2015 16:35

Eskimo: how did you get on with your appointment today? any help getting af to show her face any time soon?

and you sparkly, you had a appointment today too. How's it go?

purdey: how's the tooth? my dp is off to dentist tomorrow to get a wisdom tooth pulled out , I might let him have a few of my secret stash of solpadiene if he behaves himself.

juney, are you working on any plans to get yourself full of jizz this month or are you busy with t'Easter hols?

everyone else: what's for tea?

GlitteryLipgloss1 · 01/04/2015 16:53

LETS ALL JUST GET ALONG.

Right, whose next to piss on a very fucking big stick. x

tessiegirl · 01/04/2015 17:06

Well, I am excited as I got my crosshairs on ff today!!!!! I couldn't be arsed to put today's temp in this morning as I thought it still wouldn't confirm, but when I did this afternoon I was so bloody pleased to see those red lines!! Yippee!!!!

We are having chicken chasseur for dinner tonight, what about you butterchunks?

purdeypie · 01/04/2015 17:07

You know what? It has taken an awful lot of soul-searching and angst for some of us to come here and ask for pregnant ladies to quit the chat about morning sickness etc. It is fucking Not On that a couple of you then come here all upset and talking of banishment. Not on at all. How can you not see that these TTC threads naturally progress to grad threads? How can you not see that our joy for our fellow bus passengers' BFPs is also coupled with sometimes painful disappointment and heartache for ourselves? I'm not going to apologise for stating that these threads are for those trying to conceive and that any chat about morning sickness/painful boobs/cravings is deeply inappropriate. That is all that has been said, and I think it's time we put this issue to bed. You know we all need your support (if that is what you are claiming you want to give us) and you know we are all fond of you. You are pregnant and we are thrilled about it. Please don't come here crying that we have been bastards. Have a little compassion, please.

purdeypie · 01/04/2015 17:10

Where is Abi with her BFP? That should lighten the mood Hmm

Butter, the toof is ensconced safely in my head and I have been instructed not to chew toffees. Oh how I laughed all the way home...

DizzyMerry · 01/04/2015 17:12

Purdey Abi can't POAS today as her shopping hasn't been delivered.

Has Sparkly been on? How did your appointment go?

Eskimo how was your appointment today?

Marmite27 · 01/04/2015 17:16

I haven't at any point mentioned any symptoms. The only thing I did mention was that I was having a scan this week. Something previous grads of the busses have done.

I'm actually really fucking upset about recent posts, and do feel banished, by people who I have only wished good things for, and really don't want to be part of your precious clique.

purdeypie · 01/04/2015 17:24

I wasn't referring to you, then, was I? Marmite, you need to see this rationally. It isn't a clique. It is a TTC thread - and a huge one at that - with an increasing number of pregnant ladies naturally wishing to talk about their pregnancies. What some of us are saying is that that kind of chat would be best saved for your grads thread. Numerous lovely, lovely women have come here to say how valued your advice and your tips have been and that they don't want to see you disappear. Those of us with stronger opinions have asked outright for no pregnancy chat. Please tell me what part of all that made you so 'fucking upset'...

loopylou1984 · 01/04/2015 17:32

What has happened on our lovely bus? Did we lose the zen den?

Surely the busses should be the same as they ever were? Just anyone ttc anytime can be on this one?
On the other busses the grads hung around in the early days before finding their place on an antenatal bus, then popped back in on occasion to update us on their news and cheer people on, can't this bus just be the same?

I value the advice of everyone on here, X

Marmite27 · 01/04/2015 17:39

Ultimately to me it feels like I've been told to leave, as I'm upsetting people.

Fine, if that's what you (collectively) want I will. Simple resolution. But it's upset me. That's how I feel, and my feelings are no less valid than anyone else on here. Or so I thought.

Ah well, fuck it, it's only words on a screen at the end of the day.

Sweets27 · 01/04/2015 17:46

sammylou, very wise words.

I think this is maybe a bit of a storm in a teacup, as we're probably all on the same page - grads might hang around for a bit and then naturally migrate to the AN threads. I don't think anyone's intending to ramble on here about pg symptoms - the chat on here is clearly about the ttc journey. It would be a shame if anyone getting a bfp felt they were booted unceremoniously off the bus right away, but I don't get the impression that's what anyone is asking.

I'm sure it'll all be ok if we let the bus run its natural course and get back to the TTC chat Smile

eskimolaura · 01/04/2015 17:49

Ok, I had an hour out. I had a cup of (reduced sugar) tea. I ate a bagel. I decided against the Nutella and had jam. I'm not sure if this was the best decision I have ever made, but it seemed like a good choice at the time. I had a cuddle with my dogs. (This was tricky as they were both doing their best Michael Flatley impressions because they thought I had stood up to feed them; obviously I only exist to serve them, but I'm kind of ok with that). I turned on the TV and saw Alexander 'Zander' Armstrong's Elvish features staring back at me with his wry, boyish smile and I thought... ya know what? Life ain't bad. I then realised that my post had neglected to comment on the one key significant thing to happen to this thread in days... Cute Little Easter Bunny Ears Shit the bed. No, I didn't, but only coz I'm not in bed. How could I have missed them?!!! Easter Shock

Now to catch up:

Nomio Massive congratulations for the offer!!! You is going to be busy, busy, busy, but what exciting times eh?!!

Crème Sorry for AF. Boo hissss

Tessie Did you manage to get through your ironing? I hope you haven't been buried under an avalanche of laundry.

Mummy Have a fab Easter (even though you probably won't read this, ever!)

Aurora I am totally with you on the whole salted as opposed to sweet popcorn debate. How do you stand on the sweet and salted popcorn? It's a revelation!

Purdey baby I'm so glad you were able to sort the tooth. No popcorn for you... (popcorn crumbled my tooth a few weeks ago)

Sparkly I have searched and searched but I cannot find an update from you on your appointment. Did I miss it? How did it go?

Ok... update from me re. my appointment. It was pretty inconclusive. She said my ovaries look slightly enlarged. She said the follicles around them look a bit on the small side and that they are all the same size. She said I haven't ovulated recently. She said that the report and the photos would go back to the consultant, who could exclude PCOS when he sees the photos??? (I take it that this means he could also diagnose it when he sees the photos???) Confused She said they would take the photos and the blood results into consideration when they look at everything. She wouldn't rule out PCOS. On the plus side, my womb lining looks fine. I am relieved that she said I have no glaring symptoms of PCOS, but wary that she didn't rule it out.

I called my GP yesterday and told him about the whole HSG situation re. when to have it if I am not having cycles and he prescribed me another course of progesterone to bring on a bleed. I say 'another course'; he actually prescribed me 6 courses... that is 60 tablets. Easter Shock His reasoning? So that I have them in supply if I need them. I'm guessing that he thinks I may need to have further tests at a certain day in my cycle and that this will save me having to call again.

So, I picked them up earlier. Plan now: Take the tablets for 10 days. Have a withdrawal bleed. Beginning of withdrawal bleed- call up to get an appointment for my HSG. Have HSG. Hopefully ovulate (who knows???) Fuck like (Easter) bunnies. Day 21 and Day 28: have blood tests to see if I have ovulated. POAS if the tests are positive. Camp out at the fertility clinic if I haven't ovulated and demand answers from my lovely gynae. Phew.

I have one more post to write, but I want to save that for a box of its own...

Pixa · 01/04/2015 17:49

I am really surprised by the way this has escalated.

This is supposed to be a safe and supportive place.

I think we are all roughly saying the same thing? It's just about the way it's being interpreted.

Hope we can come to a positive resolution soon.

Ps - Dojo you may have a message about me possibly joining the FB group! Smile

loopylou1984 · 01/04/2015 17:50

Ok well with that, I am on boring calendar day 2 :(. However I did just buy some EPO in a bid to improve my CM. Have realised though that we will be away sharing an apartment with PILs at the start of what is usually the fertile period! Confused Xx

Oysterbabe · 01/04/2015 17:51

So for dinner today I'll be making lentil, bacon and roasted pepper soup. We have soup for dinner on Wednesdays..
#bonkersweddingdiet

tessiegirl · 01/04/2015 17:52

Marmite I'm sorry but I feel the need to rant Angry When have you ever been asked to leave? All we have asked is please can we have a little understanding and acknowledgement of people's feelings and can pregnancy talk be discussed on another grad thread. For you bfp'ers to pop back with news of scans etc is exactly the kind of stuff we want to hear about, just not the everyday symptoms of pregnancy that may upset some on here! In the meantime please continue to chat about everyday stuff on here with us and give us ttc'ers advice!!! Is that so hard to grasp?!

tessiegirl · 01/04/2015 17:53

Sorry ladies, as you were.....

Nomio230 · 01/04/2015 17:55

Eskimo, I am really pleased that you are finally getting somewhere. Even though you don't have any answers yet, you are on the way and have a plan in place.

I am desperately hoping that the notes from our old surgery make it to the new one soon, then I can be re-referred for IVF & get things moving again. It is ridiculous that it still takes several weeks to transfer them.

eskimolaura · 01/04/2015 17:55

Mary's I am so very sorry to see you back here. There are no words. Please join us and take some time to come to terms. Flowers

auroraboringalis · 01/04/2015 17:55

Abi can't POAS today as her shopping hasn't been delivered.

Love this! So first world, innit! Easter Grin

eskimolaura · 01/04/2015 18:03

Oh Tessie Good, you're there. I was about to send out the St Bernards. Easter Grin

Nomio230 · 01/04/2015 18:08

Marys I am so sorry to hear your sad news. We are all here for you if you need to shout/cry/rage about how unfair it is. Flowers

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