'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

Anyone heard from andi, have searched around but can't find her anywhere.

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hi ladies , have a " clinical " question. I have read some where that you have More Cm if you are preganat ( in the 2 week wait) but if i thought you lso had it befroe your AF was due?? i have read so many things!!!

Can anyone enlighten me please

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Thanks for the messages ladies.......

I got to see the prof today and got weighed..on 3 different scales. All gave different readings. anyway regardless of that I had lost the weight discussed. As predicted the goal posts have been slightly changed. He kept going on about how distorted my uterus is and that there would be a need for an overnight stay in hospital when I have an operative hysteroscopy. Again we went thru the pro's and con's. He is going to consult with the anaestatist re my BMI. He even said it should be OK cos I have a good neck. Aparently porkers like me normally have fat necks. Makes anaestatists job harder. I don't have one.
Anyway, I have to call in 2 weeks for an outpatient hysteroscopy appointment. If they see the fibroid on the outside of uterus they will remove it there and then. They would also remove the scar tissue. I will still need the operative as they have to reset my uterus.
I am feeling sooooooo stressed. I really want to cry but just feel it is pointless. Obviously I will carry on with WW and this will help when op date comes along. I just really feel as though I am wasting time. I have wasted too much already. This is all being delayed because of my weight. No one ever said it was or would be an issue. I should have realised it and just bloody dieted. I could really kick myself for waiting for a profesional to tell me when I knew I had to do it.

Just to add to it all AF is here 4 days early and the cramps are killing me.

Sorry...... RANT over I promise.
I'm off to recite some poetry and to have happy thoughts... forced

it wasnt that long ago but i cant seem to remeber anything from last PR!

Thanks FS x

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Oh Oinker, let it all out!!! I am so sorry that the visit was so frustrating. I am only going to say things that you already know, but we all feel at times we should have made other decisions in the past. It's okay to think that but the fact it, there is nothing we can change about the past and need to concentrate on what we can do now. It seems you are doing all the right things: getting the surgery ASAP and continuing with the weight loss. That is the best you can do and you are doing it!!! Hang in there and continue and rant as much as possible, because it is not fair!!! Oh, may I suggest to change your nickname to reflect a new self image? I suggest 'weellonetheway'.

Oinker - {{{{{HUGS}}}}

Nothing else I can say really, other than I'm thinking of you.

DH & I are doing well thank you - no major arguments as yet, which is lovely. No sign of ov, either, so think I'm going to try hard to stop stressing about it and let it happen if it does over the next couple of months. We move in 3 weeks, then we have my brother's wedding at New Year, so all in all, going to be busy, stressful end to the year!

Take care all
x

I am still my own 7+WW for AF. Still no signs.
I read that while you HGC levels are up (and there is still the faintest of lines), you don't even ovulate, so it might be at least another 2 weeks for me. Will see GP in the afternoon.

Babyfettle -- good you and DH are doing well. I know how it is to see one another after along absence. Ov or not, enjoy being together!!

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Morning All
The wait is over, got AF this morning, three days late had started to expect it, so not sure now to feel now.
A bit confused as i obviously ov more like cd 18 not 14 like i expected. I guess life after m/c is unpredictabile.
I'm enjoying a glass of wine now, home work for my conference guests!!!
I'll be pretty busy for the next 3 weeks so plenty to distract me. Hope everyone else is doing well.

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Rubies, I can so relate to your sentiments. After three years of ttc, during which time I got pregnant and miscarried only once, I can't spare the emotional energy to be too optimistic about another pregnancy. I hope nobody minds if I mostly lurk on here therefore and pop in only occasionally.

thanks firstar,

my dh won't let me drink at all during 2ww. Although annoying when now when i think i wasn't even preg.

Good analagy to think not preg though. I think this month i'm gonna try but not try so i'll be even more pessimistic

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Yes its defo Pineapple juice for helping with implantation. Am I the only one drinking it by the gallon?

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Good Morning firstar ANYONE ELSE AROUND
sorry for shouting a little quiet round here though.

I hope the dream is a lucky sign for you firstar.

Sorry to ask, but how long ago was your m/c firstar.

I can't seem to recall much about anyone, i think the first month or two after m/c life is a bit of a blur.
Anyone else want to confide????????????????????
I think you all know about me although here's a breif one- missed m/c at 12 weeks in Aug, previous preg ds and 2 m/c and one suspected m/c before him.

Hi Gals. I am in a very deep low. Stayed home sick yesterday. GP told me I was pg, but possibly early ectopic. I insisted on check up in hospital (it's already ridiculous that I had to insist on this) and was told I am not pg, probably leftover hormones. Supposedly, the GP had talked to the same ward that then later concluded exactly the opposite from the same information (namely HGC=30mIU/ml 6 weeks after ERPC). Then they did take my blood for another test, but this morning I went in and they told me, that the blodd sample got lost. I begged for the name of a gynacologist so that I can go private. They think now that maybe the ERPC damaged the uterine lining but won't look at it for another two weeks. At this stage I am in such a bad mental state that I wouldn't be surprised not to get AF even if everything is okay after all.

Oh Daph
that's terrible. So does that mean hormone levels are down now or do you need to get retested?

I vagely remember that one week after D&C i had to get blood tests and waited 3 hours in the ante natal ward with all the glowing bumps it was so horrible.

I hope everything will be ok soon, [hugs]

agree on the private part, I don't have health insurance as i think it's a waste of money, but if dp, ds or me have anything slightly serious i just pay for private. sometimes public is very good but sometimes you need to be looked after.

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