'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

Welcome Pinkranger

I has a missed mc, baby died at 5 weeks although I didn't find out until 10 week scan. I feel the same, it's as though it is supposed to just get forgotton somehow.

Good luck with the ttc.

thanks edie , have been seeing your threads , hope its all going to work out good for you , when do you get your bloods back?

He just said a few days. I know he will telephone me with them as he is like that.

Feel sure I will get a visit from AF any day now. It's been 6+1 weeks so surely it should come soon??!

Cool new thread.

Right.As ovulation date approaches I want an opinion. Is it best to try b4 ovualtion date or after. I was originally going to try for a boy but after the m/c I realised that I really don't care what sex it is. So when is best to focus the trying.

Always best to try before. That way the egg will be at its freshest when fertilisation takes place, the idea is that you have sperm there ready and waiting for the egg, don't forget that it can survive for anything up to 5 days after Bding.

Just reading back on D4phne's post. I'm not so scared about getting pg again. I'm scared of m/c again. I run the scene over in my head when I see the two lines on the thread not the usual one. Instead of feeling happy. I feel scared. Don't know what will happen when I really see two lines and it isn't just in my head. You are physically ready a month after the m/c but emotionally can take much longer. I thought I was over it until a friend brought their baby into work and I collapsed into a gibbering wreck.

Hi Typhoonsmum. Yes, I understand completely. I wanted TTC and I want to be pg again. But now with this nonvanishing faint line I am very scared that I might have fallen pg again and something is wrong again. I had a blighted ovum before, so something had gone wrong the last time at the earliest stage.
I understand as well with your friend. One of my best friends is pg (she was 5 weeks behind me, we had plans to rise the kids together ...). She just got her 12 week nuchal and showed me the pics of a kicking healthy baby. I am very happy for her but at the same time I can hardly bear it. She is very considerate but, bless her, she has no idea what I am going through. How could she? I just have to think of this pics and I am a crying wreck. Think it might never happen to me (I know this is way to early to think along these lines, but these are my fears).

i would say cover all bases for bding with Ovulation -
last time i ovulaqted on day 17 /18 and bded on day 16,17,18 and it worked for us. wasnt meant to unfortanly but it did work x

Pink ranger I too m/c in August (12th) and was 10 wks pg, saw a heartbeat at 8 wks and baby died a couple of days after-so we would have been due together!
I'm desperately wanting to TTC, but waiting for test results, have just got brave enough to look at the TTC threads, and wanted to let you know that I know how you feel

Hi Josie!!

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Hi everyone ,
sorry about your m/c jossie, my due date was 11th March. If you dont mind me asking was there other reason why you got scanned at 8 weeks ( just curious)
Well my OPK gave me a smiley face this morning which made me - Glad that i am Ovulating at least. We bd last night but Dh is away tonight so it will be tomorrow... then we will have that awful 2 ww!!!

Hope everyone is well xx
November could be our lucky month

Yes best to BD as much as poss-they say every other day through cycle. Just pointing out that the time before ov is esp important. Good luck.

Josie-so glad we heard from Lynne in the end. Thanks for our thread!!

Typhoonsmum I couldn't agree with you more. I m/c 10 days ago so the hurt is still very much there. I am keen to TTC but we have agreed to leave it until the new year after we come back from Christms abroad. I am terrified of m/c again.

I have a wonderful GP who is so positive about my chances that I wish I could have her on tap here at home. She has advised to keep work and home separate, take regular breaks, eat well, keep healthy and enjoy myself as much as I can.

Hi All
Welcome Pinkranger, Jossie and Gillian- Hope you move on to pg and post natal threads soon. Which will go lighning quick once those bfp's come.

I'm also thinking of taking a break if i don't get a bfp this month, I find I'm becomming a little to obsessed and just need to enjoy things. I hope know one minds me saying but i have been on the positive month threads a wee bit, but it all seems a little too full on, I think we have a more relaxed pace.

Daph - I had 2 missed m/c + 1 suspected m/c and then baby ds which i concieved on 1st try then another first try concieve and missed m/c at 12 weeks in Aug.
Typoons mum - I reakon I concieved ds on day of ov
so this time I'm actually trying a little earlier for girl, but I don't mind, after all this you want healthy!
Although I don't temp or test so have no real idea when ov after m/c.

GP just phoned. Hormones are v low so not pg. Very relieved that I know now and am looking forward to AF coming so we can ttc next month.

Hi Edie

At least you now know one way or the other - IYKWIM in your case only, I hope AF hurries up, so that you know where you are and can start again.!

Hope everyone else is well - internet connection failed at home last night, so haven't had a chance to catch up. At work, so shouldn't really be on here now.

Welcome to all new - sorry you are here, but hope you find the thread as welcoming, supportive and friendly as I have.

I agree - having been "visiting" other threads, I like the calm, friendly, supportiveness of this thread - maybe it is because we've all been through the awful experience of mc and are all slightly worried, while at the same time excited about the thought of BFP.

2 days to go for me til DH back!

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hello you lot

I first conceived Jan '05, then had MC in the march.
After that horrible time we knew we REALLy wanted to get pg.

It took 8 months of trying, but finally in Oct 05 got pg again, after I had had a relaxing week off work, walking miles everyday staying at my parents house, and even getting tipsy a few times.
I had been so desparate to conceive again I had stopped drinking, etc, almost had my life on hold which wasnt helping me. When I let go a bit, it worked (thank god)

Best of luck to you all, you are at the start of such a wonderful journey.
I know how awful AF is every month, esp. as the symptoms of that and PG are identical, it is such a nasty trick of nature...so you think I am! I am! I am! every pigging month.

I found it very helpful to keep a diary through this hard time, all of my feelings etc.
I hope it will help my sister, who has endometriosis but wants to conceive next year, please god she can.

Lots of love to you all, and remember, all of this trying is supposed to be the fun bit! dont get too clinical in the bedroom xxxxxxxxxx

Hi and welcome to everybody. I tested again and got BFN. So I am with everything 4 days behind Edie. I suggest we rewrite the textbooks and state that it can take 6 weeks before the hormones are less then 25mIU/ml. Might help women in similar situations, since it would have helped me.

Everybody who is new: If I will m/c again, I will monitor my hormones by pg-test to know when they are down.

Edie, hope AF will arrive soon for us!! Won't TTC right way this time (will see DH not before Xmas anyway), since I learned I was definitely not ready for the limbo. Think about quitting job and moving back to DH, but am worried that this way I will set myself too much under pressure TTC. But at least we could go through it together. Will relax a little, not make any decisions too soon and let you know.

Good luck to everybody on 2WW. Maybe November is it for you?!

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Babyfettle - yay! to dh coming. How's your CM today?? (Oh the things we say on these threads!)

Edit & D4phne - it sounds strange but am really rooting for your AFs coming very soon - what a rollercoaster the last week has been.

D4phne - holding off ttc sounds quite sensible. Going to the US sounds good in respect to being close to your dh, but 'tis a shame you have to give up your job for it. IMO you are right, if you don't fall pg straight away it will put more pressure on your ttc efforts because you'll have nothing else going on to distract you and everything will be hanging on you getting that BFP. It is a very tricky one.

I am in a bit of a dither at the moment. AF didn't really come yesterday, I just spotted lightly for a while and then nothing after 6pm and nothing at all today. The quandary is that I have to do my blood tests on CD2 or CD3, but I really don't know when that is. I don't know whether yesterday's spotting counts as my AF (in which case I should get my blood tested tomorrow) or whether it hasn't started yet and I should leave it until later. I am normally a superplus tampon girl on CD1 & 2, and AF normally lasts 5 days. Am really confused. What would you do?

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Hi Rubles. Thanks for your kind words. Will hold off
with making decisions at least until X-mas.
I second firststar. I would go and have the blood test done just to make sure and if AF arrives later, just go again. This way you won't have missed anything. Also agree with firststar, that there could be other reasons...?