TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

oneday a BFP!! Oh congratulations!! I know it must be a mix of emotions, but stay positive, you're pregnant!!!!

Congratulations oneday

Aaaaah congratulations Oneday . Annoyingly you can't zoom photos on the mobile app so I can't enjoy your photo, get yourself a digi and savour the lovely 'Pregnant' word. There is never any arguing with strengths of lines once you see it written down.

I am feeling rather jolly after being on 5:2 for 2 weeks and losing 4lb!! I can feel my hipbones again, so cool. Slimming World just wasn't getting me past a size 14, i am so close now to getting back into my size 12 trousers again. Hoping this will obviously soon be blighted by a pregnant tummy but my realistic self knows that's highly unlikely lol. Spin class at 10.30am, always makes me feel fab xx

Ahh! Congratulations oneday oh that's fantastic news!

I love 5:2 seb 4lbs that's great weight loss well done you

Just zoomed in to the photo it's a good'un that one!

oneday congratulations!! Wow!! Ah try to enjoy it, focus on today - don't think about tomorrow and just build up to it over the next few weeks. So pleased for you! No wine and cheese for you today .

Flashing smiley again and negative stick - looks like my surge has been and gone and the dual hormone test missed it! With it being my wtf cycle I'm going to stop obsessing now, if that was my surge then it's been and gone and I won't know if ovulation followed or not. We've DTD loads so I know there's nothing more we can do. I'm relieved actually, although I don't like being out of control it's nice to know that I don't have to take responsibility anymore.

My Ovia app has matched exactly, it had predicted my next AF to be 2 weeks yesterday before I'd added the positive opk. So I have a little more faith in it than I did.

So it's on with the TWW, this is never ending .

sebsmummy that's great weightloss, I'm plugging away at Slimming World to shift the first stone then I may take a look at 5:2. It's hard to keep going with SW .

I'm thinking that at least each month I'm not pregnant I can lose weight so hopefully when it does happen I'll be closer to a healthy weight. Something to focus on at least .

Thank you everyone. I really really thought it was out this month, gassy and lots of toilet trips (plus the negative test at 10dpo)

Peeing like a racehorse for the last 3 days which I didn't have with my first pregnancy and have lots of cm.

I just hope at some point I can let go and start to enjoy it. I did everything perfectly last time, not a drop of drink, nothing passed my lips that was unpasteurised etc and still the outcome was heartbreaking so I'm not going to obsess about all of that this time, may even have one glass of fizz at the festival today.

Whatever I do, I can't control the outcome of this so I just need to relax. I really don't know how I'd deal with another MC so pease god let this one stick.

Congratulations Oneday and Lauren - now think positive thoughts!

As for weight loss, I still have a whole friggin stone to lose from my pregnancy. I don't even understand how I managed to put on that much because it didn't feel like I ate loads. I was hoping it would be water retention and I'd therefore lose it quickly after the TFMR but haven't. I lost a measly 2 pounds and don't fit into my pg clothes or my normal wardrobe either. I KNOW this isn't a real problem. I know. But it's a daily bloody reminder of what could have been...

A good friend of mine is moving back to London soon and just announced she's due the same time as I should have been. This never ever ends, does it? Hugs treacle , I feel your pain

Thank you ladies xxx
Woken up to baby pictures. Ugh.

Oh gosh, congrats oneday!!! X

Congratulations oneday Its totally normal to feel worried and anxious I completely freaked out when I got my bfp but gradually ive started to relax.

my motto is today im pregnant. I just take it one day/appointment at a time otherwise I start panicking.

Seriously upset today :( seeing all the baby pictures and my friend saying how happy she is.
I am happy for them but just wish we were preparing to have our own family.
So much for a nice anniversary. I'm trying to enjoy it for DH but struggling :(

Thanks sunbathing. I feel like that.
I feel a bit like "it's not faiiiirrr" then I tell myself off for being childish.
She's my oldest friend and we started ttc around the same time. I just can't bear it :(

Bloody hell. I miscarried in May, I should be coping by now surely?
Don't think it helps that we're having a break from trying.

Oh Sunbathing :( your friend sounds as thoughtless as mine. Sending you big hugs too.

I just can't help feeling I deserved one day to be happy. Why did he have to be born on our wedding anniversary??

My due date was December. See that's the other thing, I wasn't even very far along in my pregnancy.
We will definitely be trying next month. I need my little family.

Oh sunbathing that must've been hard :(
I started miscarrying at 8 and a half weeks. It was never right from the start.

Yeah, I'm on cd10 of the not trying cycle so only a few weeks before next af.

I really hope you get your bfp and happy, healthy baby x

Right. Forget avoiding wine to get rid of the thrush, I'm off for a bottle of champagne or two.

sunbathing I'm sorry you have such an insensitive friend, she doesn't sound like she deserves your friendship. Give yourself some space from her and ask yourself in a few months if you miss her. If the answer is no then I wouldn't even try to get in touch with her. It's not a very nice feeling to be treated so badly by someone who you consider to be a friend.

treacle enjoy that champagne!

I've had a bad day, I thought I was ok and I actually was this morning but as the day has gone on I've felt worse and worse. Then DH decided we needed to go through the baby stuff he brought down from the loft. I've just sat and cried for about 2 hours whilst going through all of DS's sleep suits, the thought of not ever needing them again is so overwhelming. We're passing them onto SIL, which in itself isn't a problem as I would always have done this anyway. It's just the god awful timing, I only miscarried 2 weeks ago.

I think the sting was when I saw all the equipment ready to go, absolutely everything. I wasn't expecting that, it's like DH thinks we'll never have another baby in the house and I feel like I'm the only one with any hope left. We bought everything the first time with a view to making it last for all the other children we were going to have, just knowing that it was intended to be used so many more times makes me sad. We should have had 2 by now and then another in a year or so. I'm older now, if we manage another one soon then he or she will be our last. So we have virtually no baby things left in the house or the loft. And we're taking the cot apart to move DS into a proper bed. It's all a bit overwhelming and I know I've been so lucky to experience having a baby - I don't take one single second of it for granted. I just wanted to give DS a sibling, I'm massively anti social and baby groups and friends didn't really work out. DS has no baby friends and he just loves other children.

DH and I are both from large families, we have four siblings each, I can't imagine DS being an only child.

Sorry for the self pitying, I feel better now it's out! I'll probably read back on this tomorrow and give myself a slap. I don't even drink, otherwise I think I would have downed a bottle of wine by now!

Hi ladies

We've been in London for the day which was lovely but exhausting. We were with friends so I'd already made the excuse to drive us to the station but then did have a shandy when we got there so as to not raise too much suspicion. Seriously shattered now though.

I'm sorry some are having a hard days and I'm sorry if my news hasn't helped that. I know what it's like when you're pleased for someone on the thread but still desperately wishing it was you. I knew you would all have kind words and understand how I feel though. We all so deserve some happiness after the shitty times we've been through. And believeme, I fully appreciate how incredibly lucky I am to have caught again so soon. I by no means want to sound ungrateful when I'm not automatically excited and jumping for joy but it's so hard to let myself get excited.

Sorry for anyone who's had insensitive friends too. What's the frick is wrong with some people? Oh, and re the Facebook thing; after going through what I've been through, there is no way I personally would do a big fb announcement. Me and DH really aren't that sort of couple anyway but knowing what I know now, I'd hate to think I was making someone feel like I did seeing all the photos etc. Of course people should be able to announce their wonderful news however they please but personally I won't be.

Oh blink it sounds like you're having a really hard time. Don't give up hope. I think men just don't form attachments to things the way we do sometimes.

Glad you've had a lovely day oneday.

My friend has been sending me pictures all day. I'm trying my hardest to be positive. I am so happy for her but I wish she appreciated how lucky she is. She's had no problems, a 9 hour labour and a beautiful baby.
All pregnancy she's moaned about how she "feels sorry for herself". She needs to treasure every bloody moment. Anyway, we've had a nice anniversary dinner :)

Did you have a nice time away treacle? And how ware you getting on with the t situation? Any further with Drs etc?

We're still here, it's lovely and serene :) don't want to go home.

Had my diabetes blood test, got to have a swab on Tuesday :( just be glad to get rid of it!

How are you feeling about your bfp?