Going Clucking mental? Old birds gather round.....

[Gingerbreadlady1]

A thread for the older ttc'er. Join us in the chicken coop for support, advice or just somewhere to rant.

Here's the old thread for those wanting to do serious lurking:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1978730-Old-birds-wanna-join-the-coop?msgid=47008448#47008448

Hi dunno, One minute I'm really keen and then cold feet sets in and I change my mind. I've lots of concerns about it being a healthy pregnancy, healthy baby, will I ruin the lives and relationship between our DC, what will friends and family say, how will I cope? DH uber keen. So keen it's ridiculous. Well it's not. It's lovely. But also irritating. He's not the one who will be pregnant, worry like I do, have to look after two children whilst pregnant and everything else. It's like I can find lots of reasons not to which makes me think perhaps It's A Sign. Then I kick myself up the arse and hear my biological clock booming away.

Yes. Exactly.

I have one with a developmental disorder and the idea of anything 'harder' to deal with coming along - makes me feel.....panicky. I feel I'm pushing my luck. I have absolutely no issue with the idea of another special needs person coming into our lives, I'm just so concerned about my own coping. How would I bloody manage? Would it destroy the marriage?

I'm also fat, so I know I'll be a physical wreck if I can even pull off getting pregnant. I also work nights and day shifts and I have plenty on with all that really! I'm always exhausted anyway, how I think I'll deal with a toddler bouncing out of bed at 5am I have no idea.
Dh works 50 hours a week minimum and childcare& finances are a constant worry.

But I want another baby. Our little family isn't finished yet. I guess I will cope with whatever is chucked at me. Like you do.

Arggghhhh!!

Then I see a baby blanket and I go all melty.

I just wee'd on an ovulation stick and the faint positive of yesterday (that I assumed would build into a stong ovulation surge today) has completely gone . Where has my ovulation gone?

I feel like I am also pushing my luck, being greedy and therefore something won't be straightforward or as expected which is nuts but a nagging doubt. It's like I've an angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other and I swing from shoulder to shoulder.

We have v little family support too and there is a definite space around the dining room table.

If the baby had SN we would love s/he regardless and I would do my very best to cope. Same as I am doing now with my DC. I'm not super mum by any stretch I'm just doing the best I can and every now and again I worry that throwing a third into the mix might be a bit gung-ho and crazy. Then in the next breath I worry no more and see pregnant women, newborns and squishy 6mo everywhere and start trying to figure out my cycle!

Three words: Shoot. Me. Now.

Hi Dunno and Bingo. Welcome aboard.
How's everyone else.
I can't believe how fast these cycles come around. A.F is due on next Monday.

Welcome Dunno and Bingo

Hi Dunno and Bingo welcome!
we're also attempting TTC no. 3, but suffered a loss (ectopic) in April.

How old are your children bingo?

Ours are 12 and 9 so would be a BIG age gap for us!

News from me. AF was very light and didn't last that king but I POAS this morning (Cd8) and it was negative so I'm in the clear for another ectopic I think.

Just got to definitely decided if I'm brave enough to keep going with TTC or not as I'm finding the unknown so stressful.

Any news Inshock?

There must be somebody due a BFP soon! X

Long bit king! Dur

OMG this phone! Just ignore me!

Hi Tranquil. The witch is due to visit me on Monday so if she doesn't show up I'll be testing Tuesday.
Been feeling down a bit today, hormones I guess. Seeing D.P Wed past my fertile period but it doesn't hurt to practice.
Hows you and everyone else.

Thanks for all the welcomes!

Tranq I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I do understand what you mean about deciding whether to go ahead or stop. Early hours of this morning I was unsure again and now I'm the cold light of day I am keen again. I just don't know what I want but then I was like this with my other two. If I were younger it wouldn't be an issue and I'd be very excited to be trying but for some reason I'm having doubts and cold feet. I think I worry too much about the reaction we would get. So many people around us talk to us as though we are done and are very anti more than one or two which makes me anxious about having another and then having to announce being pregnant.

Our two are 4 and 2. If we were lucky enough to get pregnant now or around now (and now meaning the next few months) our youngest would be maybe 3-3.5 when the baby is due/ born which would be easier in some ways than the gap between dc1 and dc2.

AF has been and gone here so need to figure out when the best TTC dates are and get TTC or not as the case maybe. Understandably I am driving my husband crazy with my decisions or should I say lack of decision.

Good luck to you testing don'tgo I hope she doesn't arrive!

Bingo - it's hard isn't it. I wobble from day to day now despite wanting it so much for a few years. Don't worry about what others thing, just think how much you love your two kiddies now and how you'll feel just the same about a new little one.

X

Hello folks, back from camping and enjoying being clean! Welcome to the new people, and congratulations purple! And I can't believe there's no word from inshock.....

Well, it's 10DPO and my temperature's dropped and I've started spotting, so here comes AF. We're at my parents at the mo, and went to buy DS's school uniform today (wibble). I so wanted to be pregnant by the time he started school .

Hi all just popped by to say Hello. All is fairly well with me. I'm still here lurking in the background reading this thread. Can't believe there is no word from Inshock hope she is ok?

Just jumping into the age gap of the DC, mine are 14, 11 & 4 so quite a big difference.

Bingo just ignore what others think or say to you. It's an individual choice and up to you and your OH.

Hi all. Hope everyone's okay. Just to report I've got a new username. I get bored easily with my usernames. I was drinking tea last night out of my light house mug and I love ghosts so I came up with this new name. (Ex dontgotosleep).
I feel all heavy underneith the witch is definately on her way. Hope she at least holds off till tomorrow as it's action night tonight.

Thanks Tranq and mampam. I know what you are saying is right. I've got a friend going through a tough time and I think any baby news from me wouldn't be overly well received and it's playing on my mind.

Hi mampam, glad you're doing ok x I'd love to know how Inshock is too. Please update us mrs!

I'm feeling more positive again after my wobble. Ovulation is nearly here so we started TTC already in the hope it'll work this month (got to be positive!)

X

Sad face. The witch has just arrived. Knew she was on her way.

Big fat meh ghost . Onwards and upwards eh....

OOh Ghost for short. I like it.
Thanks stubborn and more practicing for next cycle. Every cloud and all that.
How are you, and indeed everyone else.

Oh, AF arrived yesterday, so that was my Duvet of Doom day. Feeling alright today. After 8 months maybe I'm starting to be able to scotch the expectation that it's going to happen instantly....

Ghost and Stubborn sorry that the Witch has appeared.

We are kind of TTC. Sort of not.

Thanks Bingo.... Aww sorry A.F got you too stubborn.... I'm having a snuggly day with D.D today.... Just getting on the couch and eating loads of chocolate.....

So sorry AF arrived ghost and stubborn. You both need chocolate and lots of it. Hugs xx

Bingo well that's sounds better than definitely not. Relax. X

CD 14 for me and we've DTD /BD whatever you want to call it three times in the last 4 days

Not peeing in OV sticks or anything like that, just trying to relax and enjoy the ahem rude so to speak!

Really would love it to happen this month x

Ride / rude, whatever lol!

I thought the original spelling was the most apt! .