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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Going Clucking mental? Old birds gather round.....

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 13/05/2014 10:54

A thread for the older ttc'er. Join us in the chicken coop for support, advice or just somewhere to rant.

Here's the old thread for those wanting to do serious lurking:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1978730-Old-birds-wanna-join-the-coop?msgid=47008448#47008448

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AnnieHoo · 18/08/2014 20:23

Erm... I could have that wrong. Might be longer. It's really confusing Blush. Thanks though!

patch77 · 18/08/2014 20:30

With my 6 week old nephew. Very cute but also very jealous of his parents. Not fair!!

Dontgotosleep · 18/08/2014 22:10

D.D is unexpectedly staying out at her friends,so I've summoned D.P over for some baby making. which he has gladly obliged. He's Just text me saying he's on his way I wasn't really fully in the mood over the weekend and only dtd once and I've googled that today is my most fertile day, so glad I haven't had to let that slide.
Hope everyone's okay.

AnnieHoo · 19/08/2014 09:46

Good work dont go,keep going. Wink

Sparrowlegs248 · 19/08/2014 18:17

Afternoon old b

Sparrowlegs248 · 19/08/2014 18:20

Grr. Afternoon old birds. Been keeping a low profile for a while but now I have a question I am back. I have blood tests to have inc day 21. My cycles are generally 25 days with the very odd exception (13/17 have been 25)

What day should I have the tests?

Thank you. Hope you are all well and there have been some bfps!

Dontgotosleep · 19/08/2014 18:40

Ha ha thanks Annie. More action booked for tomorow but none at the weekend as I'm taking D.D and Dnephew to pontins.

stubbornstains · 19/08/2014 19:29

Hello nottalotta, it's supposed to be 7 days before your period OR 7 DPO Hmm. If you don't know when you've been ovulating I'd go for Day 18. (which I did, and then my cycle decided to be 23 days that month- ho hum!)

Erm......I hardly dare ask, but....inshock, are you there?

Inshock73 · 19/08/2014 20:50

Hi Stubborn I'm lurking :) I'm about 13 days late now and still not testing. I think I know what the answer will be but I'm totally in denial :) Today I felt so rough on my packed commuter train I wasn't sure whether I was going to be sick or pass out. I had to find a seat in Victoria train station and sit down for almost an hour and wait for it to pass. I read today the mc rate in 40+ is 1 in 2 with 70% in the first 12 weeks. I never realised it was so high! I'm 41 now! So still afraid to test incase I get excited.

stubbornstains · 20/08/2014 08:59

I read it was 40%- that's nearly only 1 in 3! So that means the odds are in your favour....believe my statistics, they sound better!

I do know what you mean though- I have yet to even get a BFP, and I am already dreading the wait after the 2ww- yes, the 8ww to get to the 12 week scan.

I've also read, though, that a large amount of MCs happen at the 5-6 week mark. Now, if you had a normal cycle this month, you would be nearly past that point already.....fingers and toes crossed!

AnnieHoo · 20/08/2014 10:20

inshock. I've got my quietly chuffed face on for you today Smile. I totally understand, unfortunately when you're a bit older and have been through mc already you don't react the same way. You sound rather swan-like and serene..

It's wise to be calm. The way someone put it on another thread was "putting sandbags around your heart".

My ob/gyn said 1 in 4 but the stats don't really matter, if it's meant to be it's meant to be (sorry for awful cliche but it's true!). Xxxx

stubbornstains · 20/08/2014 21:08

Right cluckers, you probably won't be hearing a peep out of me for a week or so.....off camping. I really hope the guru that is ohyoubadbadkitten on the weather threads is wrong, that's all I'm saying!

We're going straight to my parents' from there, so expect some covert posts full of barely concealed desperation.....

I will be thinking of you all- especially inshock....

Dontgotosleep · 20/08/2014 21:17

Enjoy your holiday stubborn. Hopefully you'll come back with a little suvernier.
I'm going to pontins in Fri but not with d.p,so will have to fit lots of sexy time in tomorrow.
Hopefully there'll be some bfp's on here when you return.

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 20/08/2014 21:52

Have a great holiday stubborn

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AnnieHoo · 21/08/2014 09:22

Enjoy your holiday Stubborn WineGrin

Tranquilitybaby · 22/08/2014 01:20

Inshock quietly confident for you. You need to test if you're feeling like that my love.

stubborn enjoy your glamping - hope the sun shines.

AF arrived two days late but it's ridiculously light, I don't know why but I had a bit of a panic Attack a couple of days worrying it could be another ectopic. Suffering a loss makes TTC such a scary business doesn't it? It's horrible.

After what happened with my last one, I'm going to have to test next week just to be sure it's not positive as that's what happened before. Not sure if we should carry on with this constant fear and worry tbh, or just be grateful for what we have and admit defeat. :(

Sorry for the downer of a post but thanks for letting me get it off my chest x

purplemurple1 · 22/08/2014 06:43

Thought I'd pop back and say hi, it's been a long time since I posted. I had a mc and then needed to get back on the hormone tablets for a few months to get my cycle back and start ovulating. And was lucky enough to get a bfp first time out the gate! Didn't want to jinx it before a scan by telling people (silly I know) , but I've had my scan now and all seems ok with her, due 21st Jan.
Here's hoping the good luck rubs off and you get some more bfp soon. x

Tilly73 · 22/08/2014 09:38

That's lovely news purple SmileSmile
Have a great holiday stubborn
Haven't posted for a while..nothing much happening..no egg on my cbfm but we are Dtd as it keeps reading high
Inshock I'm quietly happy for you Smile
Hope everyone has a great bank holiday WineWine

Spangila · 22/08/2014 10:07

That's such great news Purple Smile

And any news Inshock???

I got a BFN this morning but it was possibly too soon. Mind you I've cramps now that suggest AF could be on her way...

lucieloos · 23/08/2014 10:38

Hi there, just found you on the new thread! Haven't been on here for a while so have lots of catching up to do. Just wondering if anyone has a similar experience they may be able to share with me...

DH and I are both 35 and ttc#1 for 6 months. Decided to bite the bullet and have some initial tests done. DHs sperm analysis has come back, all good but motility is a bit under the norm. It's meant to be 32% of fast progressive swimmers but he had 27%. Clinic has told us this could have a significant impact on fertility! Everything else is really good though.

His count was way above what they were looking for, they wanted 15million and he had around 54million. Everything was fine with shape etc. The sample he produced was a little under the volume they were looking for, could this affect the motility results? They said that was probably from the stress of producing the sample at the clinic than anything else. He has to be retested in 4-5weeks. I've got him on loads of vitamins now hoping they might help but does anyone know what effect 5% difference might have on our fertility? Is it really going to have a 'significant' effect?

dunnoreally · 23/08/2014 17:45

Is this the right thread for me? I am 39 but I already have 2 children (9&5).

We have just started to try for another. For some reason I feel it really isn't going to go well. I don't know my cycle or anything and, for whatever reason, I just feel that this won't go well.

I so so so want it to though!

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 24/08/2014 13:31

Welcome back lucieloos, sorry, your question is too specialist for me to help. Hopefully one of the other old birds will be able to help.

dunno, you're most welcome here. A great place for support and advice.

How's everyone else getting on?

purple, 1 of the original old birds, massive congrats to you!

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dunnoreally · 24/08/2014 15:20

Thank you :-)

I have a horrible water infection which is annoying as I'm about ovulating.

Just another little 'you're too old' message from my old body! Never had this trouble when a spring chicken!!

BingoBonkers · 24/08/2014 15:29

Can't believe I'm posting but I think we have finally agreed to try for a third child. Even typing it scares the living daylights out of me but at the same time gives me butterflies. We must be crazy. Actually we are crazy. That much I do know.

We are both not far off 40. I think that if we were younger I wouldn't have such Fear. This Fear has been overruling me since March and it's taken until now to make a decision.

Hope you don't mind me joining you?

Anybody have any recommendations on which online ovulation calculators are good/accurate?

Good luck to everyone TTC and hope you all get your deserved BFPs.

dunnoreally · 24/08/2014 15:33

You and I are in similar boats BingoBonkers :-)

It's taken DH and I ages and ages to make this decision. I've wanted to go for it for 2 years but DH said no and has only just got into the idea.

I have lots of Fear too.

And no real knowledge. I bought some sticks to predict ovulation from Amazon and that's it. I really need to up my game here!