TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

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Hopefully we'll see more BFPs on this one!

Who's due to POAS next?

Hope so Lindsay :)

I ain't doin' it this month! POAS, that is. Well, I will if I'm late but I have resolved not to until i am a week late. Controversial I know but I have waited a long time for this holiday and I want to at least enjoy the first week of it. If AF comes, she'll be gone after the first few days of the holiday and if she doesn't, I can test after a week and because of where we are going, I can tell DH in a really amazing location. So win/ win, I say. :-)

DON'T LET ME TEST EARLY! lol

Hell

Thanks Blue and May! I think I'm preparing myself for the worst which is odd as I'm a born optimist! Hopefully they'll stick me on Clomid and give us a fighting chance! Otherwise I'll be taking a leaf out of Lil's book and finding chocolate and booze! there's a bottle of wine waiting in the fridge already

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Helli ladies, I have been awol for quite some time. Decided to take a break from obsessing and have not poas at all, be it opk or hpt. Have just dtd and seen what happened.

What happened? Sod all. So, turned 37 and went to the Drs eventually. I have a pot for DH to deposit in and paperwork for my bloods inc day 21 test.

My question is this: should i have it on day 21 or day 18 give that i have a 25 day cycle?

Hope there has been some good news for those I know here.

Welcome back Notta. You need to have your day 21 seven days before you're period is due :-) so yes book it for day cd18. If you test too late your progesterone might have dropped pre af looking like you didn't ovulate.

Deffo no poas here. Given up until our appointment in 2 weeks time. This time in a fortnight we should know what our next steps are! Dh has his advanced sa tomorrow. He says he worried about it bless him. The results more than the doing. Saying things like 'what if it shows nothing can be done?!'. He's getting lots of cuddles from me :-)

Thanks Victoria Sorry you are still here, in the nicest possible way! GP said day 21 but i was sure it would be earlier. So I'll go for 18then. I do have the occasional longer cycle but very rarely.

DH is already convinced its him with the problem, bless him.

Sorry that was me, somehow used a different name.

Confusion is a good name notta!

Go with the earlier date but if levels aren't right you'll have more than one test before they write you off so you get a couple of chances to get it right.

Victoria well done for supporting so well. It's so hard for both of you and it's so easy to forget about the other half at times. Good luck.

Lil. Good luck and I hope clomid is an option for you.

Laura you're so right! We're well overdue a bfp. Come on ladies! I'm not in with a shot so sending positive thoughts to all those with a chance.

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no CLIM d for me may....that was someone else. and I can't remember despite just reading! sorry, tired brain!

as for the picking yourself up again, yeah, that's the bit I'm struggling with. if anyone has some PMA to share let me have it!

CLIM d?? that was meant to be clomid!

Sorry Lil - it was Laura hoping for clomid.

I'm not so good at the picking myself up bit so not sure what I can offer other than to do something you can enjoy. For me is always getting outdoors and active that helps me put a few things into perspective although it doesn't take away the pain just lessens it a little.

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Last night I really wanted a baby!

Missed your post before Lindsay - good call I reckon to wait it out! Where are you going on your fabulous holibobs?!

So DH and I had our first appt today at the hospital with the fertility nurse who was very lovely and supportive. Bottom line? I need to lose 2st before she'll give me any Clomid. I've been given drugs to induce a bleed and also paperwork to order day 2-5, 21 and 25 tests. I'll be going back for a scan too soon. It's very strong stance though - she would only give us an appointment to go back when I said I'll have lost the 2st so we've booked in for 6 months time. Have just been out for a 20 minute jog - clearly no time to lose.

Concerns re DH's swimmers was right - apparently they're looking for 15 million in 1ml fluid and DH has 1 million. She didn't seem overly bothered by this and now he thinks he's fine. He's going to get a re-test too. I told her he eats crap and drinks tons of pepsi and her reply was 'well you can't really change what he eats can you'!!!!! Cheers. Totally my fault then and now I look like an awful naggy, bossy wife!

Anyway, we've come away with something of a plan for 6 months which is more than I was expecting to get so I'm quite pleased really. Of course nothing is apparently stopping us conceiving naturally - as long as we manage to time things when I actually ov! Oh she told me to stop poas too (just after I ordered a load of new ones off Amazon, naturally!!).

I may still investigate going privately and seeing if they'll take a chance on the fat bird....

Victoria - hugs X

Laura - am I missing something? You can't change what dh eats but you have to lose 2 stone!?! Have you had any tests yet or will these be your first ones? 1 million is quite low. Our gp told us that equates to 7% of what is normal and therefore would take much longer to conceive. Sadly dh 2nd test had nothing so I now think that 7% was a good chance!
Do you mind me asking what size you are? I'm dreading being told I need to lose weight but have no idea what the cut off might be.
Good luck. Having such a clear incentive should help shift those pounds.
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May I know ha! Very contradictory! I'm 5"2 and weigh 13st 3lbs - I'm a size 16/18. It went on the BMI though - she had a natty little device which told her my BMI is 34. She needs it down to 30, if that helps you!

I've had bloods done with the GP but because I wasn't having cycles to speak of she's disregarded those and given me drugs to bring on a bleed...

I'm more annoyed at myself - I lost around 2 st for our wedding 2 years ago and have put it all back on - if only I could've held back a little and we may not be in this position now at all. Argh!!

I figured 1 million was pretty low too, but I'm not so worried about that as I am about this seemingly epic challenge ahead...typical it all comes down to me again, like just about everything else in my life/marriage!

Laura that's mental that she said that. 1million is low. do you think you can encourage dh to go healthy with you on the "do it to help me" line?

Vic hope you're OK.

I'm fine guys, well same old. Think I'm just having a mini panic that A-we'll not be accepted for ivf or B-we do but it doesn't work. Hate not being able to commit to any plans for the next few months in case we are offered treatment this side of Xmas. I'll be ok after our first appointment with the clinic in less than 2 weeks now!

Hope you're all ok x x

Oh and what on earth has happened to mn mobile version? Really hard to navigate!

Laura They really are obsessed with loosing weight...my gynae put on my notes I wasnt ovulating because of my weight....but im not doing it all on my own and I havent lost much!! Im size 14 and 13 stone 5'6.
Ive been exercising every day for 2 weeks and its killing me so better start loosing some weight!! Good luck!!
I dont see why she couldnt get your dh to eat healthy to though.

Vicky I noticed the mobile version this morning bloody annoying I couldnt work it out lol. Hugs lovely try and be positive IT WILL HAPPEN!!!

Today I am excited because I have ewcm lol im due to ov again this next couple of days, its so nice to see my body doing what its supposed to.

Hope everyone is ok

About weight..... For ivf on the nhs you need to have a BMI less than 30. In some areas they said both partners need to be below 30. In our forms they asked me my weight v height but not dh thank god as worked out he's BMI 31! So ladies its the BMI not the dress size you need to calculate. Good luck.

Just to clarify I didn't mean you'd all need ivf! I was just getting at the fact that BMI 30 plus is medically obese and doctors blame every condition going on it and don't like treating 'fat people'

Afternoon ladies.

Sorry about the nurses attitude Laura, that's ridiculous! Silly mare :/ I second lil's suggestion though, a few lifestyle changes made a big difference to my dh's results second time round.

Don't lose faith Vic! (Hugs)

And keep up the good work blue, it'll be worth it in the end! :)

I'm on cd15 and haven't peed on a single opk this cycle, I'm quitting them! (I was a right moody cow last month and don't think obsessing was helping much..)

Thanks everyone. I have just used the nhs online bmi calculator and come out at 29 so seriously overweight but hopefully ivf friendly!

Still that's only because I've lost 10 lbs over the last 6 months in preparation! Have taken up swimming and running and it seems to be doing the trick.

We'll all get there in the end!

Hi ladies, quiet in here. Up to much this bank holiday? I'm frantically cleaning the house before my folks come down tomorrow. Its seriously gross as I just can't be arsed to clean lately and no one ever comes round anyway! Not a lot else going on really. Just glad to be off work for 3 days, mental there at the moment!

Hope you're having a nice one x