Fab Forty-Plus! Where are the BFPs...

[JBrd]

To keep this thread going, proving support to all of those of a 'riper vintage' wishing for a baby...

I have received so much help, advice and support here, so although I technically have graduated, I thought I'd get the next thread going to keep the momentum.

DDs 4th birthday yesterday. On waking up in the morning I went in to her room.
Me: wow you're 4 today - I think you've grown in the night.
DD: still not a big sister though.
gulp

Oh Grizzer...((hugs))That's hard. If only she could understand that you are trying so hard! My DS (5yrs) said to be yesterday,"I would like a little sister.No, brother...please?" I had to say, "that would be nice, but we are so happy to have you in our lives, and you do have older brothers and sisters to love".

It's hard when it is all you want too.

Mumalah, pleased to hear that AF finally turned up. Get ready for a shag-fast

Hi ladies could I join you please? I am also on the prednisoline thread but I am aged 44 and have noticed your thread this morning. I am under Dr S in London for thyroid and NKC treatment with steroids and other meds. We are on cycle three of ttc no 3.

Hoping for that Bfp this month but seems to be taking longer this time! My last successful pregnancy was achieved on first month of trying and that was aged 42 - very lucky I know, so was kinda hoping for a lucky break again! I have had to strongly persuade my OH to try again and he has agreed albeit very reluctantly! He is worried about both our ages - he is a few years older than me and also worried about me with the medical issues etc. Think that is subconsciously affecting me as he has said he only wants a few tries and also I am worried about my age and even with all the medical issues I can't explain this urge to have another baby - it is so strong!

Hi ladies, hope you are all well. So af arrived on Friday (first since stopping pill) bang on my due date which I really wasn't expecting, thought my cycles would be messed up for a while. Not complaining though And so I guess this is our first month actively ttc #3. Not expecting miracles as I'm almost 43 but had ds1 at 38 and ds2 at 40 so I know it's possible, just might take a while...

Welcome, mattsmama!
I have to say my jaw dropped when I read you were successfull on the first try at 42! Wow!
Good luck and hopefully you won't be ttc for long this time around either!

Grizzer Had this conversation for so many years with dd. OMG.
Even now that she is an adult she still hopes to be a big sis.
At least now she knows how hard ttc is. And she is so supportive. It will be a longer road for you before dd understands, BUT hopefully it won't come to that!

Happy Sunday ladies! Off to the house again. Came at at 3am and am totally kaputt. But moving in on Saturday and we need at least two rooms finished.

xxx

welcome mattsmama! Why are you on pred and under drS? Too many mc?

Grizzer, even I get thr "when will I have a little sister? " from my 4yo, never mind me pointing out to him he has a big sis and2 big brothers! they just seem to never be happy with our efforts. of course it is heartbreaking though, I have to admit. I hope you will fulfil her dream soon!

Linda, i would be also very optimistic with your history, why the hell not? Sure you will have another one soon!

My 4yo is OK, been out skating already today and a little walk, and managed a dtd yesterday. OPK still neg, so wait for it to indicate surge is coming. i am really going to be very economic, hopefully also effective this month eith this ttc business:-)

[jass]. I've always been very lucky in conceiving more or less straight away but my very first preg ended in mc. Then my second pregnancy was ok however towards the every end I felt quite poorly and after my ds was born found out I had hypothyroidism. This was only picked up when he was 6 months old and to say I felt ill is an understatement. Didn't feel up to trying again for no 2 until 4 years later and unfortunately had another mc (again at 12/13 weeks) like my first mc. Then I kept getting pregnant quickly but kept having chemical pregnancies. I saw Dr S and was told I had high NKC and very high thyroid antibodies hence the pred. Very luckily got pregnant on first cycle under Dr S with my second DS who is now 2. I am blessed with two gorgeous sons xx

I kept having strange reactions over past 2 years that got more frequent - similar to allergic reaction (but not an actual allergy) where for no reason and very randomly and suddenly I would have severe diarrhoea and itchy urticaria all over my body which would last about 30 minutes -(absolutely awful) and for this reason Dr S put me on the Hydroxychloroquine this time as well as the pred.

Good morning ladies, I hope you are all doing well! Just wanted to wave a quick hello, as you have been asking so nicely asking how I am!
10+1 today, and I can't help starting to become a bit more optimistic... Trying to resist, as so much still can go wrong, but I am still having lots of sickness (in bed with it all afternoon on Saturday). I've started to put on weigh because the only thing that helps is eating
I'm going to have the Harmony test in London tomorrow, together with another 10 scan (part of their package). Will have to go alone, as DH has to pick up DS from nursery, but I'm feeling confident that I'll manage.
Then we're off to visit my mum in Switzerland later this week, which should be nice. The idea is to take DS skiing (or playing in the snow) for the first time, but with this nice weather, we might need a back-up plan...

Wishing you all lots of luck and BFPs!

JBrd, all is certainly OK with that kind og morning sockness! i hope you will still have snow in switzerland (I am skiing from Fri to Wed as well, where I am going there is still 120cm).

mattsmama, i see. You similar to me then. Only I have had no luck on pred neither. can only take it from bfp as it takes my OV away if i try to take it from OV, maybe because of that. I fall pg all the time but hcg reaches 100-300 and then comes down again.

mozarella, how are you now? Where you do a scan these days?

Can I join? This looks like the thread I need!

I'm 40, TTC#1. Trying for 20 months now. MMC in Nov 2012. On 3rd round of clomid. DH sperm test OK.

Just didn't meet the right guy until I was 37

Hi and welcome, AnnieHoo!
So sorry about your loss.
Sometimes the right people don't come by till later. That just how that shit rolls.

Oh JBrd! I'm envying you your morning sickness!
SURELY its a good sign? (The m-s; not my envy!)
Take care and have fun on your trip!

xxx

Welcome Annie and sorry for your mmc. Hope the clomid does its trick!

OMG . I did a test this morning . no particular reason i just had one last test and i am gob smacked. second morning urine and there's a lovely pink line. Its positive!

however boobs not very sore and i realise there's only a slim chance that the pregnancy will be successful but its a start.

O.M.G hopeful

That is AMAZING news! Today you are pregnant - (stick baby stick)

Hopeful that's fantastic news, I wish you all the best for a healthy, sticky bean

I've decided to give the cough medicine a go to see if it helps with cm, have any of you ladies tried it? x

jbrd how did you get on with at the harmony test /scan? Good news on the sickness!

Welcome mattsmama and annie - May your stay here be short and sweet! I didn't met my DP until I was 40 (second crack at the whip for both of us )

Finally got all my results back from the miscarriage clinic - nothing wrong with me or DP that could indicate there is a cause for my miscarriages. I was a bit disappointed as I was hoping for an easily fixable issue but sadly they can't fix my age . My cycles are still wonky after MC - 57 days the last one but I did finally ovulate so that's something. So I am having acupuncture again to try and regulate my cycles and back to weight watchers to try and shift this annoying 10lbs that is hanging around annoyingly reminding me I am middle aged

I am due another transvaginal scan when I can get to the clinic to see if any cysts are the culprit, the last one was clear but I have an ache in my groin which has been quite persistent so it's back for another check up. Cd11 here and we are back SWI in this hope that this month ovulation happens at a "normal" time!

I have started to investigate whether donor eggs might be the way forward for us...DP isn't that keen as he thinks we should just adopt but I would like to carry a baby through pregnancy if I can even if it can't be mine from a biological point of view. I think he needs a bit of time to come round to the idea and like a Canadian mounty I always get my man in the end

Hi linda I have not tried cough medicine but I do take evening primrose oil up to ovulation (1000mg - should I take more?) and we are using conceive plus around ovulation time as I figure a bit of extra help get the swimmers on their way can't hurt . I don't really get EWCM more like very wet CM instead. Anyone take anything else?

I've got conceive plus aswell, I'll give anything a try, lol x

Oh oh oh- Gum- wow, can I get a little excited? Great news.

gum YYYYAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!

My jaw literally dropped to the floor just now. Having to really restrain myself to not do a little dance here in the office!

That is the most amazing news!

Scan all good yesterday, bean still there, with a heartbeat

Thanks. I would love to get excited but I have been here three times before and I don't want to get my hopes too high.

I had a very vivid dream about twins this morning and it wasn't the first time. I am not sure that twins would be a good thing at age 47...

Of course this month I haven't taken any folic acid or multi vitamins
I will start today. I wonder if I should be taking aspirin too. Any ideas?

I am keeping this little discovery to myself. Last time I miscarried around 6 weeks so that will be my first milestone and I won't even consider telling DH til then.
I don't even know if I will bother with the doctor unless I make it past 9 weeks. An ultrasound won't put my mins st rest because I had Greg ultrasound in the past and still miscarried.

Boobs sore again tonight . I took another test this afternoon. was faint but I had been drinking water all afternoon. I will probably POAS again in the morning.

For now I am pregnant and that does make me happy.

Good yo hear from you Greenlizard.

jbrd. cross post. lovely news after your scan
I also did a happy dance this morning.

Ugh. on phone. I didn't have a Greg ultrasound. it was a good ultrasound!

gum that's great news!!!!! I'm keeping everything crossed for you ... You deserve a sticky healthy baby for lots of reasons including the encouragement and positiveness and empathy you've shared with all of us on this thread!
jbrd good to know about your scan
DP has dropped the subject "I will bring DD to China" .. I hope he may have understood it's non sense..anyway luckily DD doesn't have a passport yet and he can't do it without me..and for now I won't agree..
I am enjoying a break before next exams and generally he seems also in a slighty better mood..
Next appointments: us on 19 march and MRI on 27th.. I am trying to be prepared to further bad news while still hoping for good ones..if that makes sense..
I have already joined three swimming classes and it's really beneficial for body and soul.. I had given up physical activity centuries ago

Oh my god gum ! That's bloody fantastic ! You so deserve that BFP ! xxx