Fab Forty-Plus! Where are the BFPs...

[JBrd]

To keep this thread going, proving support to all of those of a 'riper vintage' wishing for a baby...

I have received so much help, advice and support here, so although I technically have graduated, I thought I'd get the next thread going to keep the momentum.

Fab news gum!! Keeping everything crossed for you x

Well I am now officially on the 2week wait - its gonna be a long 2 weeks!

Gum - how exciting! Well, I'm crossing fingers and toes here for you. xxx

Gum such lovely news - congratulations!! Might be worth a trip to dr though. Maybe there is something they can do in the early days to help prevent mc? I have to inject clexane if pregnant & I googled it last time to make sure it was safe & many women were calling it their 'miracle drug' because they'd mcd before but went full term after using it. Really hope this one will stick for you.
JBrd so happy things are going well. Hope morning sickness eases soon though.
I am due AF on Friday. I keep getting the odd twinge so pretty sure she's on her way. I had my 7 month pregnant friend here all weekend. So lovely to chat baby stuff but I am so jealous. I went up to the loft & got down a few baby bits to give her. Hope I'm asking for them back soon!!

Sorry, just reading back a page or two. Green good news re mcs but I know what you mean - if nothing's wrong then why does it happen? Hope you manage to persuade dh but either way you will have a child that you love. Are you allowed to start the adoption process while trying other options or do they like you to be 100% adoption & nothing else? You could start exploring both options.....
I've been using preseed for the last few months. So many reviews on amazon saying they got pregnant first month of using it. Might try conceive plus next. Might even mix them both together & double my chances!!

Gum !!!! Congratulations, that is fantastic news ! I'm so happy for you xxx
I've been taking aspirin daily since my BFP (like you I'd stopped my supplements weeks before as we'd decided to stop ttc!). I didn't contact anyone until I got to 3weeks+ on a clearblue conception indicator test, then I phoned the EPU where I was booked in for a scan. I didn't see the GP or actually register the pregnancy officially until after I'd seen the heartbeat on a scan but like Grizzer has said, maybe your doctor would prescribe you something? Would you need to have an early scan organised through your GP or can you self refer?

JBrd glad your scan went well and time passes quickly till your Harmony results come through.

green hope your cycle is back to normal this month. My DB and DSIL have started the ball rolling with regard to adoption even though they are still going to have IVF later this year (they've had several failed cycles already). They wouldn't rule out still adopting even if the IVF works.

Hello to everyone else, commiserations to anyone who has had AF arrive, good luck to everyone coming up to ov or in the 2ww,I haven't had a chance to catch up properly but had to post when I saw gum's news!

JBrd meant to say HOPE time passes quickly till your results come through!

Good morning and thanks so much for all the lovely comments.

I think the excitement will be short-lived and I'm preparing myself for it. I did another test this morning, first morning wee and it is lighter than yesterday. It should be getting darker. However, cervix is very high and soft, which is a good sign and boobs feel funny. Temperature is sky high too.

But I am realistic about the odds, and I really do have a full and happy life (which I would have happily added to) so I know I will be okay. I would love to be a success story and a source of inspiration to others ttc in their 40's.

Irish, I would have to see the gp for a referral for a scan. I don't really want to do anything at all unless I reach the first milestone of 6 weeks. I haven't even passed when AF is due (today or tomorrow), so for now it is one day at a time, and hoping that whatever happens, I will be ok.

Grizzer, I've had all the miscarriage testing and I didn't have any of the clotting issues, but I have heard that aspirin is also helpful in cases where the body might reject the emby. I am sure my miscarraiges are due to age and faulty eggs, I've also had my progesterone tested and it is fine.So I don't think there's anything that can be done, but I will take the aspirin and the supplements. I am supposed to be on a "fast day" today, but I am not doing it whilst there's even a tiny chance that I am pregnant.

Mozza, I am glad that your DH is being better, and it is great that you are doing some exercise and feeling good with that.

Grizzer, I've just sold the last little bit of maternity stuff I had on Ebay (murphy's law, 'eh?) but I put off selling the baby clothes I have, I though I'd do it at term break, but maybe I won't need to?

For today.: OOH!! Congratulations, Gum!!
Ha! Good thing I squeezed in 5min of MN time! I wouldn't have know till next week, which would have been such a pity!
Keeping fingers crossed! Good thing with all the other signs, tough!

JBrd Now look at the little mäuschen growing!
I think that by this point it would be impossible for me not to walk around with a stupid grin in the office!
Hope the morning sickness is easing off?

Mozz Happy to hear you're happier. I love running but haven't really done much of it since the mc. I think that is part of the reason I felt so down. Started two weeks ago but now have a cold so I have to stop.
I'll be thinking of you on my runs next week!!

Hello everyone else, sorry if I missed your news. Just did a quick browse. Off to the house as we're moving this weekend and its still no ready at all!

Thinking of youse!
xxxx

Hi girls. I saw my GP today, mainly because I had to take DD in for blood tests, and I managed to get an appointment.

His response was pretty lovely. I told him I was very realistic about the odds of miscarriage etc. He said he was astonished that I got pregnant at all, that I am obviously very fertile for my age, but he didn't think my chance of miscarriage is any higher than it was when I had DS. He seemed to think I should prepare myself for the reality of having a baby. Bless him. I don't feel even remotely close to that kind of optimism. He is more concerned about trisomy at this age, and wanted to talk about testing options. He already printed out the request for bloods at 10 weeks and nuchal fold ultrasound at 12 weeks. Way too optimistic I think.

In fact I came home and POAS, and it is barely +. I think I need to prepare myself for the worst. Of course I'd recently drunk 500mls of water, so that may have made a difference . I guess it is a case of time will tell.

However, I have had a very strong metallic taste in my mouth all day, which is a definite symptom I get when pregnant.

I also asked the doctor about progesterone and aspirin. He feels I wouldn't benefit from either as my earlier tests showed that I didn't have a clotting issue. However I don't know that it would do any harm, would it (the aspirin)? I am tempted to take it anyway.

The doctor kept saying, "it's so exciting", but I just can't allow myself even a glimmer of excitement or hope right now. God knows (as most of us do) these early weeks are utter torture.

I have felt teary all day - I don't know if it is hormones or the thought that I might have to lose another bean. I am going out to the garden now to try and cheer myself up a bit. And until AF turns up, I can still say, "Right now I am pregnant". OMG! I am pregnant!

Gum - for me first morning urine always gives a weaker result than second morning urine. One test being lighter means nothing - keep positive thinking!

Gum!!!!!! Just seen this and am so pleased for you. Of course, I totally understand where you are at, and the fainter tests would make me worry too I'll admit. HOWEVER, my tests also get stronger through the day, and first urine has always given a heart-stopping fainter line. Nothing you can do but wait of course, but whatever happens the fact of a bfp is encouraging for you too of course and shows that you can indeed still get pregnant. Have you told anyone in rl?Will cross everything for you!! xxxxx (ps, how are the temps?)

Take the aspirin Gum it can't hurt but it may help.
I will be waking up to AF tomorrow. Another month of seemingly doing everything right. It's just not happening for me. I know all the relax & don't think about it lines but I can't do that, I think about it all the time!
Well, next month's ovulation comes during some time off work so maybe that will help.....

Grizzer, hang in there. I know it is hard ttc month after month, but you just have to keep going. Even when you are doing everything right (which must help your chances) I think it is a matter of waiting for the right egg and sperm combo.

I've done another first response test this morning, which is positive, but no darker than yesterday and still lighter than the first test I did at 12 DPO. This doesn't bode well for me. At 14 DPO I usually have very clear positives. However, it is possible that this box of tests (which are different from the first test I did)have less dye,I suppose. I realise I'm grasping at straws, hoping there's an explanation, but the truth is, I don't feel all that positive about it. Although I have the metallic taste in my mouth, I don't have many other symptoms that I usually have in early pregnancy, like tender breasts, nausea, extreme tiredness. I guess there's also the possibility that it's a late implanter. I did have some brownish discharge at 11 dpo, so maybe...

Deige I haven't been temping, though I have taken my temperature once I got up, on the day of the + test and it was very high. This morning (again, after getting up, I didn't have the thermometer by the bed) It was over 37 again.

I've only told my Dr in RL. I cannot see the point in upsetting the balance at home by telling DH at this stage. It will happen when I can no longer keep it to myself, when it becomes obvious to him, or at about 10 weeks when I feel surer I just don't know how I will start that conversation. I nearly let it slip yesterday. I wasn't going to tell him I'd been to the doctor, but he asked how much DD's visit to the Dr cost, and I told him, "It was $70 for both of us". He asked, "Why did you see the Dr?", and I made up a story of how I'd been feeling tired too, and wanted my iron tested, like DD. I guess I'll use the blood test as the conversation starter (if the pregnancy progresses).

If the HCG isn't increasing (which is what seems to be happening, as the tests aren't getting darker - the internet cheapies aren't even giving me a faint line ) how long do you think it will be before AF comes?

As much as I don't want to think about it, I couldn't help but think about how if all goes well, I'd have a month old baby at Christmas! How wonderful that would be

I'm sorry I keep banging on about my plight, especially when I know so many of you are ttc, I will go mad if I can't talk to someone about this.

BTW, when I was talking to the Doc about testing, I mentioned the Harmony test. He'd never heard of it! I guess I'll do my own research. I think it might be available in another city,and might cost $1000! If that's the case, I doubt that I will be having it done.

Anyway, no point thinking about it now...

Hello and good luck to all! DS was a natural conception at 43. We will be trying for number 2 soon.

Sounds like there are grounds for cautious optimism gum - temps are especially reassuring. I didn't realise af wasn't even late yet! I wouldn't look for a darkened like the day after the last test - epu here has said repeat tests after 3 days as this should give sufficient time for hcg to double etc and show up in a darker line xxx
Welcome snow . My last dc was a natural conception at 43 too, and I wish you every luck with dc 2.

Thanks Deige. As you can see, I am trying very hard to be optimistic and have named changed to reflect this. Hopefully I will get to keep my nickname and actually go to term and actually have a wee baby.

I have felt yuck most of today. I am at home with DS who is unwell, and dealing with his vomit has been really hard. I also had to deal with cat poo! Eww! I used gloves and thoroughly washed my hands. I've had a very familiar sinus headache I've had in the past in the first trimester too. Also had an afternoon nap. All good signs I suppose.

I don't have anymore first response tests and don't even want to use the internet ones (they don't even have a faint line) so I am not going to test again, I think. I will wait and see what happens. There's no point torturing myself with faint tests, might as well wait for a week or so, or see if anything else (AF) eventuates.

Hi again everyone. Hope you are all well! Just wondering about ovulation pains. My chart said I would be ovulating tomorrow and I have had gradually increasing cramps all week. Is this normal? If so then I am delighted that my cycle seems to be back to normal after coming off the pill. I also felt a bit nauseus at the beginning of the week. We have been DTD this week as much as possible lol! Even setting my alarm early in the morning pmsl! Such fun to be had though !

Quick update from me - no AF!! I don't know what to think. I've gone back through my diary & all my cycles are definitely 31 days. I always get AF first thing in the morning but not a sign. However I do feel crampy & just have that feeling it's coming. Ran in to sainsburys on way to get dd from nursery & bought one of their tests. Bfn. I was a week late before I got a positive with dd though. My head is all over the place. I had prepared myself for her arrival this morning & now the hope is creeping in. I don't think there's any point in testing tomorrow. I'll just have to wait & see what the new day brings.....

Gum...congratulations!!! Wonderful news and although I would be nervous as you are still today you are pregnant!
My lines only got darker much later thos last pg. I came to understand that implantation took forever.
My fmu never gave a good result and the tests from the internet conly showed my pg much later. It had to ve a first response to show anything until the 16dpo.

Great news Gum!
I wasn't too hopeful about this pregnancy, I put the spotting down to possible implantation, and then a few days ago did a clear blue digital, which came back as 1 to 2 weeks. I was expecting it to say 3+ , so that got me thinking, then I realised that as is not used FMU, the result may have been wrong, so I did another this morning, and as I'd finished on the loo, I realised I was spotting again, and the result was still 1 to 2 weeks. So I think this pregnancy is set to finish. Sad, but altogether not unexpected.
Sorry to come on and depress everyone!

MelMc, I have always had ovulation pain, but I usually have it around O day or afterwards (I think, though don't know for sure). It's great that you are having fun ttc - some of us long-termers have gotten very sick of dtd

Oh wishing, I hope it's just a slow implanter for you. I have read over and over that the digitals can be wrong and cause worry, but I do understand that you just want to know what is going on.

notsoold, thanks for your input. The IC tests aren't even giving me an evaporation line which is depressing. I am 15 DPO today and with fmu the IC was negative. I don't have anymore FRER, so I think it's just a matter of wait and see. If I am going to miscarry I'd rather now than later, but the truth is I really don't want to lose this one. Unfortunately I keep seeing myself sat by the Christmas tree with a tiny baby. I really shouldn't do that, I know, but I just can't help it [incurable emoticon]

DS was vomiting until late last night, but seems okay now,thank goodness! I was not enjoying that at all. And now I am quite tired.

Grizzer, great news that AF hasn't turned up. Any other inklings of a pregnancy? How are you feeling?

I was astonished that the night or two after ovulation this cycle I woke in the night with a terrible shooting pain in my right breast. At the time I worried that I might have gall stones or something wrong with me, but then it was gone. In hindsight, I wonder if it was conception? I know that sounds a bit "woo-oo", but it was a bit of a coincidence that it happened near ovulation. I hope what's going on with me is a slow implanter, but last time I had tests that never got very strong lines, then I bled, then I had symptoms again at 6 weeks, but then bled again and it was over. I worry it is happening all over again.

Time will tell.

Happy Saturday everyone!
Mel I think I get ov pain a few days before ov. Always seems to be on the right side which is odd as, according to a scan on my ovaries, both show signs I'm ovulating. I'd take it as a good sign that everything is normal. Keep dtd - can't believe you're setting your alarm for it - I don't let anything disturb my sleep!! Get me while I'm fully awake or leave well alone is my mantra!
Sorry things don't seem to be progressing wishing hope it's just a dodgy test but it's such a worrying time.
Hufty loving the new name! I think you are becoming quietly optimistic & that's so good. I'm having the same thoughts re Christmas baby. I actually googled my due date last night.! So silly to get my hopes up when I only have negative tests but a late AF is so rare for me.
I have heard some people know straight away when they've conceived. I have to say I once dtd and afterwards, while I was lying still to hold everything in, my belly gave a huge sort of spasm. I laughed about it & said to dh that's the baby. I got my bfp that month!
No other symptoms for me but I do feel shattered & have had a couple of moments of 'need to eat now or I'll faint.' Surely if I'm pregnant but not getting positives yet I won't be getting any symptoms though?
I'm going to calm down & try not to think about it. I'm sure AF will show. SIL is visiting for the weekend so at least I'll be busy. Keep everything crossed for me please xx

Fingers crossed Grizzer!!!!
hufty, really hope you get that line on the internet cheapies in the next few days. I had negs with ICs on this last pregnancy until 2 days after af was due (I still have them actually and they never got darker as some tests do days after!). I didn't test again then until af was about 2 weeks late, and got a clear (though not especially dark) second line then (by which time I was feeling nauseous). Are the temps still looking good? Slow developing line would certainly fit with the spotting you had a few days ago xxx
wishing really hope all is well, have been there with the stupid digitals. One good outcome, one not so xxx

Thought I'd upload a recent piccie of Laurie too while I have the chance!