Welcome Puppydogs, hope your stay is short and sweet. You are at the young end of the 40+ ttc, so I'll bet you will get your bfp soon. Good luck
Cloud, sorry to hear about the elephant in the room. I know what you mean. I found it helpful to write things down. I wrote poetry, posts in my blog about loss, a short story about the miscarriage,and I emailed links to my DH. I also wrote him an email telling him how I felt because I just couldn't talk it over with him without getting too upset. It helped a bit, but in the end I realised he just didn't feel it the same way as I did. Sadly, for me, I've had to do the grieving mostly alone. Are you still seeing a counsellor? That must help?
FF, sorry to hear that AF got you. Bloody bitch! Why can't she just FO and let the little babies grow?? As for getting the DH interested? Well, my DH is gagging for it because I am almost never interested, so he takes it when it is offered... I remember one lady on this thread years ago would start wearing vests a lot around the time leading to ovulation and that seemed to help
You are all so right about putting plans on hold whilst ttc. I don't think I really do that, as I've been ttc for so long now (5 years FFS), what I meant was that if I keep ttc and I am successful it will mean those plans will have to be set aside for a few more years. Honestly, that doesn't bother me too much, but my DH feels differently, especially as his dad is very unwell, and I suppose that means DH is faced with his own mortality.
I pretty well go about my life as if I'm not ttc. I drink alcohol, but very moderately. I gave up coffee when I got pregnant with DS, and have only just started having Mochas again (can't handle a proper coffee - too strong for my tastebuds and tummy), I try to eat well, mainly for health, though I suppose I have been trying low carb because it is good for fertility. I sometimes take supplements, but that too is for my health. I have acupuncture, which started out as a fertility thing, now it is a sanity thing.
Newera, I have acupuncture every 3 or 4 weeks, so that it isn't too expensive. If I was wealthy, I'd do it weekly, because it really helps my stress levels. But going regularly, even if not often, does seem to help me, and I wonder if that is why, at 47 I still have regular periods and seem to ovulate month after month? I was a bit concerned about the 12 day LP because it is shorter than it used to be. When I was young and fertile it was 14 days. I seem to sometimes be ovulating earlier or later too, and I think these things are indicators of getting close to closing time in Gum's womb. I feel pretty lucky to still be having regular periods, because by this age I think my mum was well into peri-menopause, though we haven't really talked about it.
I have had good news about my dad, which is a relief. The cancer is confined to the prostate and he'll have surgery, but we don't know when yet. My parents are clearly relieved, but still doom and gloom about having an Op. I wish they could be more glass half full, but they just aren't. My sister says they are like Victor whatshisname in One Foot in the Grave! And I agree. If I wasn't related I'd find it funny. Sigh...
Well, I have awoken this morning feeling happy as I've started my term break a week early! Hurray. I was feeling very burnt out and decided to take a week on my long service leave (I have 53 days I can use any time). It means I'll have a week before the 2 weeks school holiday break. I'm not going anywhere, it will just be a chance to get a few things done: spring clean my house which is awful at he moment, catch up on appointments with the accountant and get my eyes checked - things I've been putting off for months, take long walks on the beach and relax...I do have a bit of marking to do too, but I figure if I just spend a little bit of time, every day, I will get through the mountain.
If you wrote an essay, Newera, then I've written a novella!!