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Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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alyant79 · 22/08/2013 09:02

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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NerdyBird · 18/10/2013 13:04

Yes it is frustrating.

Also have just confirmed unlikely to get much help if it is PCOS as my boyfriend has children already so that means have very limited treatment options.

Great.

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alyant79 · 18/10/2013 13:38

if it is PCOS nerdy i know quite a few people with it who have kids, and they have had them without any treatment.
so i'm sure all will be fine in the end. try not to worry about that on top of everything else (i know that sounds so trite, but...)

glad i'm not the only one with uneasy dreams.

yesterday i did a bit of googling for "trouble conceiving 2nd dc after easy 1st dc" and "trouble conceiving after mc" and found lots and lots of comforting stories of people having massive differences in ttc length despite no obvious cause. Obviously it's all just random and really there is nothing we can so i'm going to try so, so hard to just go with the flow and relax.
I bet if I was trying to use temping to prevent pregnancy i'd be knocked up with triplets in the blink of an eye.

AF has arrived now, by the way Halloween Angry

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SeasideLily · 18/10/2013 13:51

Oh, poo for af aly :-(

My sister has pcos-the sister that's now accidentally 2 months upduffed, after 1 week off the pill. Pretty bad pcos too apparently. So its def not mutually exclusive to having babies!

Sundance2007 · 18/10/2013 13:54

Good luck to anyone POAS today, and keeping fx for anyone in shagathon week/2ww.

Having issues with my mother today! It's only been 2 days since the mc and all I want to do is sleep and try it to think about it for a couple of days, we politely asked for everyone to just give us a few days to get our heads around it, but my parents keep bombarding us with txts asking when they can see us....bloody hell!!
I know she cares, but it's bad enough having to deal with your own bereavement let alone handling someone else's tears.

Bezza2508 · 18/10/2013 13:55

You're definitely not out yet triple. It's still early days!

I know a few people with PCOS who have still got pregnant nerdy. Also, I thought the rule about no help if you already have children only applied to IVF. I didn't realise it applied to other fertility help e.g. Clomid.

Sorry AF has arrived aly. Good news that you could enjoy a guilt free drink though!

I suppose the spotting could be ovulation spotting (it's definitely not an implantation bleed) but I still don't like things being different to how they were pre- MC.

Chattycat78 · 18/10/2013 14:47

Hello! Please can I join? I had an ERPC on wed after finding an empty sac at 8 week scan:( I'm also running out of time as I'm 34 snd this was my first pregnancy:( I'm scared it might not happen for us now and we were about to start fertility tests as it looks like I have low ovary reserve:(. Not quite ttc again yet, but will be soon. Any positive thoughts welcome:)

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alyant79 · 18/10/2013 16:44

hi chatty. so sorry about your empty sac. I had one of them too - found at 12 week scan. I don't know why the dastardly things hang around so long...

i'm 34 too and we're totally not running out of time at all. I just heard a story the other day about a new mum who was 48 Shock it was an accident and they were pretty surprised.

sundance tell your mum to go jump.

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cosmickitten · 18/10/2013 17:18

So I've had my second scan and against all the odds everything is great. From measuring a week behind at 6 weeks little dot is currently bang on 8 weeks now. It is stil early early days but sonographer said everything looks as good as is possible for 8 weeks. Still feeling scared but now allowing a little hope to grow.

Thinking of you all and hoping that 2014 brings babies for us all x

triplespin · 18/10/2013 18:15

Wonderful news cosmic !! See things can happen against all odds and against what doctors say too.

I have always wondered how come most movie stars have babies after 35 and that too several! Even if it is IVF the chance of success are not 100% there either. So envious.

aly sorry to hear that AF has arrived. As you say it's nice to know though in advance. Your comment about triplets made me laugh! That's true with our luck that's probably the best way to get pg.

Thanks everyone. You are right I shouldn't count myself out just yet, but last time I did get a bfp quite early on and so think its probably not going to happen this cycle. Anyway I am off to Italy, so hopefully will not be thinking about all this for some time! Yay!

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alyant79 · 18/10/2013 19:35

Cosmic that's so, so fabulous. Hooray!

Have a great time in Italy triple

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Bezza2508 · 18/10/2013 20:16

Great news cosmic, so pleased for you!

Sal1977 · 18/10/2013 20:47

Why hello there campers! Just spent an hour catching up on the news!

Sun , I'm so sorry darling that you are going through this shit again, I'm thinking of you.

BFN's all round in the week I was away feeding my face on an all inclusive cheapo honeymoon WTF ladies?? I expect more positives next week please! Grin

My due date was on Saturday and was feeling alright about it until my 'mate' decided to have her baby on MY DAY!!! I know it's not her fault but my God I'm bitter about it!! I'm also proper f*cked off that her husband thought it appropriate to text us a photo, knowing the situation and knowing we were on our honeymoon when we should've been having our baby! Grrrrr

Not quite sure how to deal with the bitterness to be honest and I have horrible thoughts sometimes that I daren't share with anyone and worry me that I'm a vile person!

Right, onwards we go! No +ov this month but temp increase a day early which meant we only managed 1 maybe 2 DTD in the window of fertileness. Pissed off about that as well.

Bah. On the upside, DH is working tonight and I have a date with a Double Decker. And I bought a wicked genuine fake Chanel purse in Turkey! Grin

SeasideLily · 18/10/2013 21:57

Amazing cosmic, what fantastic news!

SeasideLily · 18/10/2013 22:01

Cross posted - sorry you're feeling so blue Sal, it's hard enough to do what you're supposed to all the time, I wouldn't beat yourself up about not thinking what you're supposed to. And dtd twice in the window should be a-ok, surely? I hope you had an amazing honeymoon nevertheless.

Fairypants · 18/10/2013 22:22

Sorry it's BFNs all round todaySad (me too)
And sorry your having such a struggle sal, I hope you enjoyed your honeymoon anyway.
It is so good to hear your news cosmic, I think we need some good news.
Today is a month since my mc and this bfn means I won't have any news to share with my gmSad

NerdyBird · 18/10/2013 23:30

I was feeling quite miserable earlier. And don't worry sal you're not the only one who has thoughts like that, it would be impossible not to be affected and it doesn't make you a bad person.

I do know it's possible to have kids if you have PCOS, but right now it doesn't feel like it. When I read the CCG policy for our area it wasn't clear whether they would treat me or not. Possibly it would be limited to clomid or metformin or something but no IUI or IVF.

I did try testing again this evening with dilute urine, to see if I was having a hook effect but still firmly BFN.

Glad to hear your good news cosmic, I hope everything continues to go well.

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alyant79 · 18/10/2013 23:45

So sorry about your gm fairy Sad

Welcome back sal! Glad turkey was nice, but sorry about your mate having a baby on your day and texting you. 2 dtd in fertile zone should be enough. That's got me pg twice before and is pretty much all we manage these days, despite our best intentions probably why I'm not pg again yet

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Bezza2508 · 19/10/2013 09:12

I think feeling bitter is totally understandable sal and I'm sure we've all had some pretty dark thoughts. I know I have! Hope you had a great time though!

SeasideLily · 19/10/2013 22:09

So, today (9dpo) I got a metallic taste in my mouth, but now I'm really irritable, like pms. Af's not due til Thu/Fri, this is too early for af symptoms right?

Also, sorry I didn't welcome you before chatty, so sorry about your mc. I hope you're graduating to bump threads before long.

Bezza2508 · 20/10/2013 09:29

I think I forgot to welcome chatty too, sorry. I got distracted by cosmic's good news! Sorry to hear about your MC. Take it easy over the next few weeks whilst you recover. It's definitely not too late at 34!

Sounds promising seaside. Fingers crossed for you!

SeasideLily · 20/10/2013 09:46

Thanks bezza - Actually af must be due wed, so maybe not too early. Whevs, I've decided there's no symptom other than a +ve pg test now, so I shall try not to spot them!

Chattycat78 · 20/10/2013 10:26

Hey guys, thanks for the welcome! Sorry to hear your stories too. Sal, in particular it must be tough that your friend had her baby on your due date. It also sounds like they ve not been hugely sensitive about it! I think people who have n t been there don t understand. Good luck to everyone else waiting for news. X

wingandtalon · 21/10/2013 12:11

That's great news cosmic.

Sorry to hear about your empty sack chatty I hope you wont be here long , in the nicest possible way.

Bezza2508 · 21/10/2013 12:57

I need a bit of a rant, sorry ladies! Had positive opks on days 15 and 16 then had some spotting on days 17 and 18, so although I'd never had ovulation spotting before the MC I was quite hopeful that I'd ovulated and gone back to a similar cycle length as pre-MC. BUT, I haven't had a temp rise and so I thought I'd do another OPK today (CD 22) which was also positive and I'm also having really bad ovulation pains. I'm in a massive mood now cos we haven't had sex since CD17 and I think it's probably going to be too late tonight. I also really have trouble sleeping before ovulation and so I've now had around a week where I feel like I haven't slept. I just want everything to go back to how it was pre-MC.

Sorry for me me me post but I just feel glum :(

Fairypants · 21/10/2013 13:25

Sorry your cycle seems so out of whack Bezza. I can't really offer any suggestions as I really don't understand these things but maybe Brew and sympathy.