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Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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alyant79 · 22/08/2013 09:02

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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SeasideLily · 16/10/2013 12:56

And my MIL had four, and also four children. X

Sundance2007 · 16/10/2013 15:04

Thank you all so much for being so lovely - and it really helps to hear positive stories.

I was meant to have medical management today but everything sort if happened last night naturally. Awful is not the word - i started having contractions at 10pm and had to call an ambulance at 1am as I literally couldn't even walk to the car. I highly recommend gas and air btw, once I was in hospital it was ok - lots of pain relief and tea and then I basically had to sit in a commode for several hours. (Sorry if tmi!!) My poor husband has seen it all now, me strutting round in a granny nappy, lovely!

I'm just so relieved it's all over, got back at 7am and have slept for most of the day. Feeling quite optimistic though, the doctors were really reassuring.
So just waiting for the wtf cycle to finish and then right back there with you in the ttc train ladies.

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alyant79 · 16/10/2013 16:16

sundance i'm glad that it's all over now. big hugs.

you are going to wait out the wtf cycle? not jump back in straight away?

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Sundance2007 · 16/10/2013 17:50

Thanks Aly - think I'm going to just until I get the negative pg test and then crack on!

fedupofrainydays · 16/10/2013 18:23

So pleased its over sundance in the physical sense. Hope you are doing ok emotionally though. I felt a bit shell shocked and so tired after my mc. Glad the doctors were reassuring too and you feel better about ttc again xx

Bezza2508 · 16/10/2013 21:53

Glad the worst is over physically sundance. I had the ERPC rather than natural miscarriage which, I must say, sounds very traumatic! Hope you are getting lots of rest now.

NerdyBird · 16/10/2013 22:33

Glad that's over for you sundance, and you're recovering well.

misschord · 16/10/2013 23:28

You are the epitome of posifrickentivity Sundance. Take care of yourself and fx for a sticky baby soon.

wingandtalon · 17/10/2013 09:33

So sorry to hear of your loss sundance. I'm glad that the physical part is over and that you are sounding positive.

NerdyBird · 17/10/2013 16:24

How are we all today?

Suspect I might be getting a cold as don't feel great, hope not as we are away at the weekend.

Not sure if anyone is POAS tomorrow, fx if you are

Fairypants · 17/10/2013 16:57

I'm sorry about your loss sundance. I too had a natural mc and felt like I was in a horror movie. I hope you have support getting over the trauma as well as the emotional loss.

I will be testing nerdy. I've given up on having any idea where I am in my cycle and whether there is any point in testing and just decided to test once a week til I get a BFP or af (so I at least know where I am).

Am really hoping to get a +ive sooner rather than later though as my gm is dying and I'd really like to be able to share the news with her. Sad

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alyant79 · 17/10/2013 17:13

Sounds like a good plan sundance.

Good luck tomorrow fairypants. and anyone else.

i'm feeling miserable today:
AF is due tomorrow, my temp dipped this morning and slight spotting and cramps have started. There is no point in POAS tomorrow and wasting a stick. DAMNIT! Come on body, get with the f-cking picture.

In an attempt to be positive I'm still trying to feel lucky for october. It was in this upcoming cycle that DD was conceived and the following cycle for my mmc. So surely one of those cycles will be good to me.

Lucky i'm going out for drinkies with a friend tonight. Nothing like a good cocktail when you're feeling down Grin Wine

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triplespin · 17/10/2013 18:00

nerdy hope you get over the cold. Not sure if I missed it but has AF arrived or will you be poas tomorrow?

aly oh no on the nose dive. Every morning we wake up with hope that the temp will stay up and it can so disappointing. I am sure the girly night out will help though. Hopefully your month will be the next one.

I will also be poas tomorrow but not expecting anything since I am only 9 dpo. My temperature usually adjusts downwards around this time in prep for AF. So I probably will only poas if it hasn't nosedived. Otherwise no point like you say aly in wasting a stick. This is so depressing.

Bezza2508 · 17/10/2013 19:55

Good luck to everyone POAS tomorrow! Really hope to see some BFPs.

Seeing the temp dive really is the worst, sorry aly.

Some random mod cycle spotting going on here. Never had that pre-MC so feel very annoyed by it!

fedupofrainydays · 17/10/2013 21:04

Mid cycle spotting can be due to ov or implantation. So might not be that annoying bezza!!

aly so sorry bout your temp drop. But please keep positive for next cycle! This is my first month temping so kinda dreading this drop pre af. Eeek.

Good luck fairy and triple and other POASers tomorrow.

SeasideLily · 17/10/2013 22:25

I'll only be 8dpo, so no point really, but I've been done out of 2 months' poas-ing by early af, so I might just for shits & giggles. Got a friend staying tomorrow so would love to know if i can drink, but probs best to stick to one glass. It's so unfair that the time we most need a cheering glass of wine we're not allowed it!

NerdyBird · 17/10/2013 23:15

Hi triple

Yes am going to POAS tomorrow, might as well. I've been doing lots of Googling and concluded there are three likely causes for my lack of AF and other random symptoms:

  1. PCOS symptoms have decided to flare up, giving me bad skin and no AF.
  2. Ovarian cyst, causing no AF, nausea, lightheadeness, bloating and fullness when eating small amounts.
  3. Cryptic pregnancy

I suspect it's the first option, but you never know. There appears to be loads of women who didn't get positive HPTs until late on in pregnancy or not all. I also discovered the 'hook' effect, where you only get a positive if you use dilute urine. Most odd. Just ordered some ICs so might try that when they come.

Fairypants · 17/10/2013 23:28

Good luck to everyone else testing in the morning, lets hope there are lots of bfp's aroundGrin

triplespin · 18/10/2013 08:02

nerdy have you had pcos before? I have had a terrible acne outbreak post mc and now wondering if it could be some hormonal issues. Good luck with poas. Never heard about the dilute urine. Maybe the hcg is taking a while to kick in, in your case?

Bfn for me this morning. So I am out (again) for this month. Bring on AF and roll on cycle 4 :(. I was quietly hopeful this month as I had a dip on cd 7 and then big rise in temperature after that.

fedupofrainydays · 18/10/2013 08:42

triple you are only 9 dpo!! Likelihood of getting a bfp before 10 dpo is minute!! Hang in there...

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alyant79 · 18/10/2013 08:50

triple: what fedup says. if your temp hasn't dropped yet then you're still in with a good chance.

nerdy and seaside and fairy how did your poas go?

on the topic of temps, here's why i love them: AF hasn't arrived yet, but because my temp dipped yesterday I was able to have a guilt-free cocktail last night. Advance warning of AF is really handy. And my temp was even lower today so I know that I wasn't a random one-off dip and i'm deffo not pg. Those few extra days of mental preparation for the arrival of AF are priceless (well, except for the cost of Wine Wink).

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alyant79 · 18/10/2013 09:16

totally off topic:
last night I had a dream that my boss came on to me. I rebuffed him, but i'm still feeling creeped out by it. Ugh. it gives me the shivers.
Anyone else have trouble shaking off the feelings given by dreams?

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fedupofrainydays · 18/10/2013 09:46

I had one the other day aly that I got it on with my MD. don't find him remotely attractive but I kept feeling embarrassed for the following days around him!!
Also had dreams when DH has left me and felt all weird around him for days! He then had one about me divorcing him that he couldn't forget about!! Prob saying we aren't secure in our relationship but we are and I trust him no end..! Hee hee

NerdyBird · 18/10/2013 10:01

Hi triple

Sorry about your BFN, but it is still early so you might not be out quite yet!
I have previously been diagnosed woth PCOS, but as I was on the Pill at the time, they told me to just keep taking it. I did wonder about it resurfacing when I stopped the Pill, but although my skin got worse, my periods were regular, and I must have ovulated at least once to get pg.

Anyway, BFN here this morning as expected. I do think it's probably PCOS kicking in Sad so if nothing happens over the weekend I'll go to the Dr.

I noticed my temperature is up and down at the moment. Earlier in the week it really dipped, but then went back up for a couple of days and now this morning it is down again. Am up and down emotionally too which doesn't help!

SeasideLily · 18/10/2013 12:59

Didn't bother p-ing-oas in the end, it's too early to know. Same goes for you triple, you are absolutely not out of the game! Think I'll start telling again, would like the heads up.

How frustrating nerdy, I'd start asking q's to your doc.

Often have unnerving dreams about either cheating or being cheated on-takes ages to shift the uneasy feelings!