Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Hello all, can I join you?

I had mmc at 13 weeks, last Wednesday.... had no idea I could bleed so much. but we are already looking forward to how we can improve our chances next time round (I'm 42, eek).....

Welcome daft sorry to hear about your mmc, it's really not fun is it. Glad to hear that you're feeling positive and looking forward with hope.

Welcome daft sorry you find yourself here, hopefully your stay will be short and sweet! I think most of us are in our 30s and 40s so you're in good company!

Take the next few weeks as they come as you'll have good days and horrible days and talk talk talk to us as the chances are we've all felt exactly the same as you!!

We're a mental friendly bunch and will help you in any way we can! Lots of love to you at this frankly SHIT part of your journey! Mwah! Xx

bezza try and get over your grumpiness and DTD tonight. You never know, you might just catch it. You'll at least feel better for having tried.

Hello all newcomers, sorry you find yourselves here but hope it's some comfort to know people understand what you're going through.

Just an update, no AF still but Dr. appt on thursday morning so I'll see what comes of that.

bezza I think it's entirely possible to ovulate twice in a cycle, so maybe that's what's happened?? X

bezza I agree with nerdy. If you can, get on and do it tonight. If you just had a positive opk then you can deffo catch that egg! The same thing happened to me near mc. I had all the ov symptoms twice on one cycle. Was v confusing.

Just catching up... Great news cosmic so pleased for you!!

Welcome new ladies... Silly phone won't let me scroll back to see your names but welcome to you.

How frustrating for you nerdy, I hope the doc's got some explanations for you.

bezza someone on here had ov symptoms twice a couple of months too-it does sound a possibility. Hope you catch that window.

Sorry Bezza, my last cycle was like that too. We did the DTD week, then FF reckoned I didn't ov until CD19, so way beyond the window. Some doctors seem genuinely surprised when I talk about having a short luteal phase, like they think it's totally impossible not to have 14 days between ov and AF.

I'm in a ranting mood as well. My stepdaughter has just announced that she's PG with her third child, and of course my DH is thrilled to have another baby in the family. Gutted that I can't be the one to provide the new addition. Plus she is a REALLY gushy person who doesn't know when to keep her mouth shut, and I just don't think I can cope with her squeeing her way all the way through the next eight months.

Welcome chatty and fx seaside. xxx

Well, with her usual sense of crushing inevitability, af's arrived. Thought she was early at first, but she's been early for so many months she's actually bang on time.

Forgotten even what cycle this is - 5 or 6. Not too low as it wouldn't have been a good time to have to go for emergency scans, and two long haul flights in the first two months wouldn't have been ideal...but still. Another month closer to my ectopic anniversary. Holiday starts tonight - bring on the !

Not having a good day today. MMC was in September but some days it still feels so raw. The book that I'm reading set me off today, one of the characters talking about having two heartbeats and the like. I just started bawling... on the bus on the way into work. I'm sure the rest of bus thought I was a crazy person. I hope this gets easier with time.

Sorry to hear that AF has arrived seaside enjoy your holiday.

cosmic that's great news, so pleased for you.

Just wanted to drop in and welcome any newcomers, so sorry you find yourselves here, though I have to say that I would probably have murdered several people had I not been able to rant and rave on here over the last few months! Hopefully your stay will be a short one.

So last week was the week from hell, today is exactly one week since the second mc, at 11+5. Dh and I have cried lots, and lots and lots, in the most random public places which is a bit embarrassing so I really feel your pain Wing, experience tells me the sadness will come and go in short phases, but keep thinking positively hun, we will all get there.

I've been doing some research, (as you do), and have found a lot of stuff about taking 'baby' / low dose aspirin during pg...has anyone else come across this? One explanation for repeated mc is a blood clotting problem which I have now pathetically self-diagnosed :) That said, the nurse did send off the 'evacuated products' for some sort of testing to see if there were chromosonal issues so also waiting to see what those results come up with in a few weeks.

I've finally stopped bleeding so now its a case of letting the wtf cycle begin...think I'm going to start peeing on opk's asap and crack on!

Sorry for the mammoth sized msg, but wishing everyone good luck for any news they want this week.

Welcome daft. Sorry you find yourself here. Hope that physically things get back to normal quickly so you can start trying again.

Sorry to hear about your stepdaughter misschord. All pregnancy announcements can be difficult but that one is particularly close to home. Have you told your DH that you're finding it difficult?

Sorry AF has arrived seaside. Are you off anywhere nice?

I'm not surprised you're feeling low, wing. A month really isn't a long time and it is such a hard thing to deal with. Don't beat yourself up for feeling down.

Good to hear from you sundance. Hope you're taking it easy. Aspirin was mentioned to me by the council rant I saw after my MC. It was mentioned as I have antibodies that affect my liver function and she suggested I discuss it with my GP if I have another MC. I think it can interfere with things though if you don't really need it. Maybe it's something you could talk to your GP about?

The deed was done in the Bezza household tonight. Negative opk today and I had some cracking ovulation pains yesterday so I think it might have been too late but it was the best we could do. Sorry if I seemed grumpy, I am just frustrated that after three months my cycles are still not back to normal.

Consultant, not Council sundance! Bloody predictive text.

oh bugger seaside what a bloody bitch. how long is your cycle these days? mine is also short - around 25 days. I try to look on the positive side and think that at least we get to have more attempts!
misschord my doc was also surprised when i mentioned short luteal phase, said that it doesn't ring any alarm bells. hmmm.

wing and sundance i'm sorry that you're feeling so miserable, but it's totally understandable. sundance at least your DH is on board with the sadness. I was really pissed off at mine because he didn't seem sad enough.

welcome daft, so sorry for your mmc

bezza i think you're still in with a chance

hugs to all and chin's up! we'll get there

Sorry misschord, I missed that about your stepdaughter-posting on phone at work. I sympathise, it's really hard when it's so close.

Thanks aly-it's 27 days now, but I think not quite 14 between ov and af. I don't think it's short enough to worry about though.

Off on a grand family tour-so looking forward to seeing my pg sister, I'm almost successfully compartmentalising her pg and my failure to launch. Almost. She's so stressed, and they're really going to struggle for money, I can't really be that envious of her tbh.

wing and Sundance, my heart goes out to you both. Xx

I know what you mean about your DH not being sad enough aly. My boyfriend was similar. These days I wonder if he even remembers it happened. I know he won't have remembered it would have been my due date in a few weeks.

i had to remind mine nerdy. i wasn't going to let him forget.

now that it's taken so long (and still might take longer) to get pg again I think he's getting more sad. or else he's getting better at learning how i expect him to react

Ladies, we need to start thinking of a new thread title (I'm happy to start it off)...any ideas??

Thanks Sal. I'm drained of inspiration this close to 5pm!

I reminded my DH of the due date too. Was sweet, he bought fizz and we just curled up and toasted it. Will probs be drinking through my surgery anniversary too...at least my timings mean I won't be on the 2ww over Christmas. Need booze with all of my family!

Ugh. Such a shite day.
One colleague asks I'm if pregnant again. And then proceeds to ask why not as though its my DH who won't let me / doesn't want one. No, bloomin nature isn't letting me or some other dark force!! I almost considered giving him all the low down on project desperate but held my tongue
Other colleagues over lunch chatting about 'no, no I defiantly don't want to do all the kid thing again. I have my two or three' so they are all done and I'm desperate to be pregnant again. Right now I don't give a flying f*ck about my career and just to grow my family and trying to pretend I do care about my career is so tiring.

One pregnancy announcement and one birth

Agggggghhhhhh!! Sorry. Needed a rant.

Thanks all. It helps so much to know that I'm not alone - it feels pretty isolating sometimes, all this bleeding in secret! :) also brilliant that you all know how shit it can all be, and are not afraid to say it,

Fedup - sympathy for your bad day - I know what you mean - horrible day at work today, someone brought their amazing little baby girl into the office and looked so bouncy and happy being a new mum.... and I couldn't say anything, just smile weakly.... bleagh

Hello tempers amongst you... How long after pos opk do you norm get temp rise? Paranoid I'm not ovulating now after all. Pos opk was Monday morning and no temp rise yet. Should I be worried?

Ps daft
Ouch. Well done you for getting through that. That's got to be the worst so soon after mc. Not sure i could have done that. Assume work don't know? Big hugs xxxxx

oh daft what a bad day indeed. poor you.
and for you too fedup. bloody everyone has babies or is preggo, or has already been there/done that. why not us? not fair

i've only done ov sticks AND temped for two cycles (now i just temp). one month i got the pos and then temp rise one or two days (not sure if it was a slow rise month or not) later, and the other month it came 3 days later. So if you get a temp rise tomorrow that'd still be on par with my experience.

Nice story from my acupuncturist yday for those worried about time ticking-one of her patients just had twins...at 49.

P.s. Sal what about 'It WILL happen...just relax!' Rofl.