I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods...

[Conina]

fod I just think I'm going a bit bonkers. I know I'm setting myself up for a fall and so I've not got any tests in the house deliberately cos that way utter madness lies. I'll fairly sure I'll start AF today and I've just managed to convince myself to be sick!

And yet, I feel really really sick. I'm telling myself in the day that I've just eaten too much, but that doesn't work for right now...

Its far too early in the morning to be this far down a theoretical cul de sac... I'm annoyed with myself for getting in this position - "the test said negative, now just drop it" is what I'm saying loudly. No obsessing was part of my deal with myself for ttc.

You take care of yourself x

[Bakingtins]

Just wanted to add some ((HUGS)) for fod and say that any one of the three heaps of crap you are dealing with at the moment would be enough to knock you way out of kilter, so with all three on your plate you must be really struggling. There is no shame in getting some outside help if you are not getting what you need from family.
Is there any news on your tests? How long do you have to wait for results?

[alyant79]

fod I've just tuned in after a couple of days off... I'm SO sorry that you're having such a rough, terrible time of it. I don't have any suggestions, but someone else said that maybe counselling might be a good idea? Sounds good to me.
I just want to add that I also feel like my DH doesn't really have a clue how I'm feeling. I try to tell him, and I've also told him that the fact that he seems completely fine and not sad at all make me feel like he's a complete and utter bastard being uncaring. I still don't think he really gets it. But how can he? It's not his body, not his hormones.
So in summary - can you give your DP another chance? It seems to be a common theme that they just don't understand, and perhaps we shouldn't expect them too. On the other hand, even if they don't really understand what we're going through they should still be able to offer a shoulder to cry on. It's the least they can do.

Welcome newbies

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Conina I was in exactly the same boat as you last month. I went 8 days late with all of those symptoms, and there were a LOT of others around the pregnancy and conception boards.
As I said up there^^ I think it's to do with the sudden warm weather and the changes in the UV levels in the last few weeks.
I hope it's different for you though. A BFP on the thread is always nice.

[GuffSmuggler]

Morning everyone,

Couple of days post AF and I'm itching to buy some OV sticks, haven't used them before and was trying to be "cool" about the whole TTC thing and make sure we DTD every couple of days in the approx OV timeframe which start this Thurs.

Rapidly not being cool though. Shall I just buy some sticks? Hmmmm

Hope you're feeling a bit better today Fod x

[GuffSmuggler]

It's enough to drive you crazy this 'am I, aren't I' bit, am not looking forward to that part.

Hope it's good news 'corina' but I know it's awful the not knowing bit.

[alyant79]

guff that's my plan - i think my "fertility window" will be approx wed to wed (ov on saturday maybe), so we're going to attempt to dtd every 2 days (or more if we feel like it) and see if it works.

if it doesn't work this month i might get some sticks though.

[Rockchick1984]

Hi all, I've been loitering around since my MMC last month but AF has been and (nearly) gone so I'm here properly now if you'll have me?

Guff I think I'm going to use OPK's this month just to check I'm ovulating etc, I've got some cheapies though as I don't want to spend a fortune! Used them for the first time the month I fell pregnant and learned I ovulated much later than I thought so they can be beneficial but I can see how easy it would be to get obsessive with them :)

[GuffSmuggler]

alyant yes that was my plan, see what happens this month and then get a bit more technical next month. Ok, I think I'm going to stick with that (no pun intended).

There is going to be a lot of shagging over the next couple of weeks, I think a few of us are coming up to our fertile window.

EVERYBODY WARM UP!!!

[Emki]

Hello all and sorry to see newbies but this is a great thread for sorting your head out

In reply to the person who is waiting for their first AF after erpc mine came after 10 1/2 weeks - I asked to go for a scan at 8/9 weeks and thAt helped as they could see I just OV so I knew that AF would be on its way.

So this will be my first month of ttc since mc - eeek!! Trying to not get anxious - was in this place a few months ago after my first mc but I do feel more relaxed a tiny weeny bit.... Ish .... Hoping for the best for all of us this month but trying to convince myself that its ok if it doesn't happen this month however it does matter and ill be in floods of tears

What nice things have people got planned this week??? We didn't post on Sunday so wondering if we should do it now....??? .. Xxxx

[DearlyDepartedMrsFinch]

Hi all, room for a little one?

I had a MMC last month. Baby died at 11+4; medically managed MC on 26th April. Now name changed, and dusting myself off and ready to try again. Two DC already.

I'm building myself up to take a HPT to make sure it is negative. Feeling a bit blue about it all really, although a negative is a good thing, right?

And then hoping to convince DH to get back on that horse so to speak

[DearlyDepartedMrsFinch]

PS Re. iron. Don't take your iron tablet with a cup of tea as that inhibits absorption. Try taking it with a glass of orange juice, as the Vitamin C aids Fe uptake.

[alyant79]

welcome mrsfinch: hopefully this will be the only time you're hunting for a bfn - at every other time you'll be disappointed, so you need to be a little bit pleased this time... it let's you know that you really do have a nice new house for a new little embryo to make its home in.

I was actually very happy with my first bfn post mmc. had a few dramas and in the end it was about 6 weeks after my first medical management that I FINALLY got a negative. I even danced a little jig. The hundreds four bfps i got post-mc, but before that bfn did NOT make me happy

emki good reminder re nice things. What is yours?
Mine is that I've got a date night with DH tonight and am going to the movies. and on saturday we leave for 2 weeks holiday in the sun, yeehah!

rockchick, I'm glad AF is on the way out for you.
guff I am limbering up

I have already calculated potential EDDs if I get pg this cycle or next. Trying to convince myself that if we miss out this cycle, next will be OK too - it's either the beginning or end of Feb: same month, so it's basically the same, right?? emki i will be in floods of tears too if it doesn't work this month

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Am I the only person on here who dislikes the start of the month more than the TWW? The first few days after AF are so redundant! Ovulation should take at least a week after AF, The TWW is something to think about obsess over. The first few days are seemingly pointless!

[Emki]

I feel the same saggy I'm just finishing up on AF and wondering when ill OV - feel a bit low too and really thought I'd be pleased to be moving on but all I see is a huge mountain to climb!!!! Again!!!!

Ooh aly well done - lots of things... I don't have anything yet ... I'm hoping to do a yoga DVD when dd gone to bed but not exactly looking forward to it ...... Think ill book a massage for Friday after work - yes I will! Anyone else doing something fun this week?

Welcome mrs finch and other new people, hope you're not here for long xxx

[GuffSmuggler]

Oh FFS, had 2 days clear after a week of AF and it's come back again tonight, what is going on!?

[Misspositivity]

Hello to new guys. I have just joined myself - sorry we all have to meet like this

Well bit of an update - had a routine blood check last week and have been called back to get more tomorrow (blood tests was only thing they could check until i have a 3rd miscarriage). It appears I have high potassium - not sure if this can cause miscarriages - possibly clutching at straws. Anybody any ideas???

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Eat less bananas?

[Bakingtins]

It's a very common error if they contaminated the serum sample with EDTA (anticoagulant from the haematology tube). They filled the tubes in the wrong order. Don't fret.

[Emki]

guff grrr very annoying for you ! Fingers crossed it'll just be a final bit then all gone and you're ready to go! Cxx

[Misspositivity]

Thanks bakingtins. Yes just spoke to my friend who is obs/gynae consultant she said the same and expects next test will be fine.
I think she finds it amusing that I have a different thought each week as to why I have miscarried twice. "my immune system is murdering my pregnancies" was probably my most random reasons.

saggy. I love banannas already trying to give up diet coke. Can't give up banannas too :-(((


Is anyone else getting acunpuncture? If so what do they think.

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Sorry. In actuality I have no idea about potassium!
I hope it gets sorted for you.

[littlemisswednesday]

Just checking in to the new thread. AF due on Friday - trying not to get my hopes up too much again this month (although this is the first month since MC in October that the OPKs have registered any kind of ovulation, so this is at least positive even if its a BFN at the weekend).

Sorry to hear that it's been a bit turbulent for peeps this last week. I have to say that my other half has been amazing throughout, even though at the start I got very upset at how quickly I felt like he'd got over it. I kind of made myself accept that it just wasn't the same for him, and have tried to appreciate all the support he's given in other ways instead. As others have said, it can't possibly be the same for the men - that's what I come on here for, to lurk and occasionally post and get that support from people who DO completely get it :). Thank god for the Internet!

After months of feeling rubbish, finally felt like I'd come out of the other side the last few weeks. Unfortunately my Gran died at the weekend and now I'm having to try very hard to stay positive and not let it drag me back into the spiral of stress/depression that I'd been in since October. I suspect that this was why it took so long for me to start ovulating again so don't want to go backwards now :(

[OneLittleToddleTerror]

I have a busy weekend and just caught up with the updates.

fod I'm so sorry to hear you had a tough time. Hope you are feeling better now and getting some support in RL. Most men can express their feelings very different from most women. I use most, because I'm a very logical person and in that respect I'm more 'male'. (And probably why I did science and work as an engineer). Anyway, what I'm saying is that I'm very good at compartmentalising my feelings. I went back straight to work after the MCs and had no problem putting on a brave and smily face. I can totally forget about it if I'm kept busy at work. However, I know I'm still mourning because I cry everytime I'm reminded of babies, or seeing siblings play together. Or even seeing DD playing by herself and how lovely it would be if she had a sister to play with. They bring back the feelings I've stashed away. I'm more prone to tears because socially I don't have to inhibit my feelings as a female. Men however have been conditioned their whole life not to cry.

To all the other new joiners. I'm so sorry you find yourself here.

As for me, I'm still on cycle 0, but have been charting and doing ewcm. I am seeing a dip in bbt this morning so I think I might be close to ovulation day. We BDed last night, and hopefully again tomorrow night. Either way, I will be happy for both AF or BFP this cycle. I'll just be relieved things are going back to normal.

[Chipschipschips]

Can anyone give me a reason why I should/shouldn't POAS on Friday? I MC'd 11/04, bled for 10 days and haven't been using OPKs so no idea if I ovulated but the temptation to to test is overwhelming.