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I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 03/05/2013 11:25

I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods... Grin

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BirdsDoIt · 06/06/2013 09:21

Such sad news mummy, I'm really sorry. Please lurk away. And take care of yourself.

Thanks for the encouragement on the bbt front, penguinita and others (sorry I'm on phone, can't scroll back to see who it was) - good to hear temping is worth it! I will persevere...it's just difficult because I've got no clue what's normal for me, as it's the first cycle I've tried. Also I find the idea that I have to take my temp in the first minute after waking quite stressful - every time i wake up in the night I jolt myself into being 100% wide awake by thinking oh my god I'm awake - what time is it - should I take my temperature - only to discover it's 3am! And then can't get back to sleep. Insanity. Think I'm getting over that now - though the first five days of my chart are pretty much all over the shop as a result.

I'm pleased to report that DH was ready and willing when I got home. Fertility friend app says I've ovulated but I'm not 100% convinced so might carry on with the DTD marathon for another week just to be sure...

saggy as others have said, it's not over till AF arrives. Fingers tightly crossed for you.

emki it's really difficult isn't it? Sorry you've got that happening at work as well. i feel like i want to banish all pg ladies from my sight until i've managed to get pg again myself. Totally irrational because as someone said to me, they're not having YOUR baby. But still - so tough having the visual reminder of where you could have been, while desperately trying to switch off that thought. i don't think i've ever been so envious of other people before!

Rockchick1984 · 06/06/2013 09:38

So sorry Mummy, take care of yourself.

I'm still here, lurking mostly as the thread moves too fast for me to keep up with while posting on my phone! I'm on CD 8 so will start on the cheapie OPK'S this afternoon although pre-mc I tend to ovulate fairly late in my cycle, I just want to make sure everything is back to normal - am trying to lose a bit of weight as well, when I conceived last time I'd lost half a stone (which has now returned) so fingers crossed that will help as well!

GuffSmuggler · 06/06/2013 13:15

Oh mummy I'm so sorry, it is just shit Angry

GuffSmuggler · 06/06/2013 13:22

Hi rock I'm on CD10 - I think we had our ERPCs around the same time so hopefully we can get upduffed in the next week at the same time too!

alyant how many days of high fertility was that before peak, about 4?! I hope my sticks give me a slightly shorter window not sure we've got the stamina!! Keep me posted how many days peak you get.

birds well done on commitment to DTD, the best way to get over rage at other PG women Grin

OveranxiousUnderated · 06/06/2013 13:29

Hi everyone Smile

Sorry about your news Mummy x

BakingBunty...Wow that's great news Smile

Sounds like there is lots of DTD going on fingers crossed for BFP's!!

I rang the Dr's for my next hcg level and she didn't give me a figure but said they are "ongoing with a viable pregnancy" so I am continuing to pray! Then seeing Dr on Monday morning where I intend to beg him to refer me for an early scan following the original 'period' and just general nervous wreck that I am!

x

alicebear · 06/06/2013 13:48

So sorry mummy that just sounds so awful. Hearing about what's happened to you and tins just makes this whole ttc after mc even tougher. That is just so awful for you. Totally get you needing a break from ttc for a while.
over glad hcg heading in right direction & hope you get an early scan.
aly good news the flashing smiley stopped flashing. I like the sound of those opks so might get some next month if/when we get there.
saggy hope you're feeling a bit less ragey today.
I admire anyone who can stick at bbt ing. I tried once but couldn't get used to doing it first thing so gave up. Think it is the only way to be sure you've ov'd though.

alyant79 · 06/06/2013 14:03

yep guff it was 4 days of peak followed by the high. I've only got one more stick left so won't be able to let you know how long it lasts, unless it's gone already tomorrow.
Now I have to wait and see if when AF comes 3 days later than normal, since my ovulation is apparently 3 days later than I thought, or whether I just have a short luteal phase.
I'm hoping that I get pg and never find out the answer to that question Grin

over that's rubbish!! I mean it's great news that the levels look good, but wtf wouldn't she give you a number so that you can make your own educated judgement????????
imho they should defo give you early scan since you had the "period". That's what they did for me in my first pregnancy. I should have lied in my second pregnancy and said i'd had bleeding so to get an early scan then too, could have picked up my useless empty sac faster

alyant79 · 06/06/2013 14:58

DH has just told me that he's going to play cricket tonight.
WHAT???? WHAT????? He's meant to be coming home early to impregnate me Angry
bastard.
Doesn't he know peak smiley means drop everything else and SHAG, RIGHT NOW Angry

nearlyreadytopop · 06/06/2013 15:30

alyant your post made me laugh, thats totally how I am.Grin
mummy thats rubbish, im so sorry.
I am in the 2ww and have thankfully ran out of cheap pee sticks or I would be testing everyday.
and im feeling quite proud of myself as I just told some girls in work about why I was off for so long. they were lovely and I didn't cry.Smile

Mummytothearkbuilder · 06/06/2013 16:38

Thank you for your messages ladies. I have my ERPC tomorrow and very nervous - I just hope it doesn't start naturally beforehand as I do not want to go through it naturally again :-(

I am going to continue to lurk - good luck to you all xxxx

BakingBunty · 06/06/2013 16:58

Thinking of you so much mummy.

overanxious what brilliant news about your hcg levels! Cannot understand why your doc hasn't sent you for an early scan. Are there any EPUs near you that you can just turn up to? Or are they all referral only?

alyant sounds like a post cricket seduction routine is in order Grin

First bout of feeling properly pukey on my way to work today, which I was perversely pleased about.

alyant79 · 06/06/2013 20:08

you'll be fine tomorrow mummy.

alyant79 · 06/06/2013 20:09

ps DH not home yet. I can feel my egg going stale every minute Angry

BirdsDoIt · 06/06/2013 20:23

mummy will be thinking of you tomorrow - it's definitely not as scary as you think it's going to be - I was really worried but kind of forgot that there would be lots of lovely people looking after me - the doctors and nurses were really nice, even though it all felt a bit surreal. Stock up on magazines and films to watch for the next few days so you can properly rest up afterwards!

alyant hope he's home soon!!!

Misspositivity · 06/06/2013 20:35

summer. I am so sorry to hear this. Is understand the emotional draining part. We had two mc one in feb then again in April. Giving it another shot now but There is still immense sadness. Take care of yourself hugs!!!

alyant I only got one day of flashing smiley and then a peak yesterday. It won't let me test again till smiley goes away. Is that right or an I being silly.

saggy. May your AF bog off.

Seems to be quite a few testing with me on 21st June. Let's hope it's a big day for BFP.

BirdsDoIt · 06/06/2013 20:39

Yep I think I'll be testing on 21 June with you, missp.

Sal1977 · 06/06/2013 20:42

Don't worry about the ERPC bit too much Mummy, the procedure itself is nothing to worry about, just concentrate on letting the emotions flow over yourself as they come. They're there for a reason and are all part of the healing process.

In other news DP went and bought a syringe today and just announced that he was looking forward to a w*nk later instead of having to perform!! Haha, the whole thing is hilarious!!! If you google 'home artificial insemination' loads of stuff comes up...I couldn't believe it!

We're getting married next Friday, so at least we have some proper shagging guaranteed!! Haha

alyant79 · 06/06/2013 20:44

missP i think that sounds right. I was VERY surprised to get 4 days of flashing smiley.
I'll be testing on 21st too, unless AF gets me first (she's due on the 19th i think)

alyant79 · 06/06/2013 20:46

sal that's so funny. You must have really worn the poor bloke out

pps he's STILL not home Angry Angry

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 06/06/2013 20:55

YAY for Over! Grin See! I told you 400 was ok! Grin

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 06/06/2013 20:56

Mummy we are all here holding your hand. {{{hug}}}

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vix2812 · 06/06/2013 21:22

Thanks to Alyant for the welcome,
Reading through some posts, it's amazing how many of us are going through the mill of TTC.
Just remember girls, when it's meant to be, it will be. The child you eventually catch with and you give birth to, is who they are through the good and the bad you've had to experience. And you'll love them for that.

I didn't explain much about my m/c, or why I'm here. So here goes;
I used ovulation tests and conceived the first month testing. Around 9 weeks i told the Dr to get my 11 week scan. On April 29th 2012, I had the scan which told me the baby had no heartbeat. I had a missed miscarriage. I decided to wait and see for 2 weeks before agreeing to medical management. I took the oral pill and everything came out that night (May 20th 2012). The following 4 weeks was arranging it to be buried. As i m/c at home and we had to 'check the contents' of everything, we saw him/her (personally i think it was him). Once we saw him/her, we couldn't do anything other than bury him. He/She was 12+1, and had all the general features, even eyes and nostrils.
The emotions involved are so complicated, I was angry at the baby for being weak, my partner for maybe not being so supportive during the pregnancy (i was working 2 jobs, when he didn't), i was sad and greiving, i was envious and jealous at other mums-to-be, i was bitter and cold.
The worst part is, i've known and heard of women that lie about m/c. One woman was my partners ex, and caused our first few months together to be hell. If she'd really had a m/c, she never would even think to lie about one. I wouldn't wish this on an enemy, the most traumatic experience for a woman.

Besides from that, there is hope. My very own sister-in-law m/c and conceived my beautiful niece only 4 months after, even after an infection caused by left-over tissue from the m/c.

Penguinita · 06/06/2013 21:53

Oh vix, you poor thing, that is so sad. You might not feel it but I think you are really strong and brave to have come through that and still to have posifrickingtivity. Thanks

Penguinita · 06/06/2013 21:55

Sal, I think you should tape a photo of yourself in a bikini to that cup. Just to remind him of the real thing in case he gets to like the cup a bit too much... Grin

Sal1977 · 06/06/2013 22:04

Seriously.....that was the most unromantic moment of receiving baby juice EVER but easy least for me!

Now laying in bed, bum on a pillow, awaiting a bloody miracle!! Hehehe.....

I was soo tempted to video him under the duvet doing his thing I am evil. Wahahaha!!!

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