I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

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I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods...

I may have missed something Sal but why have you decided to do the artificial insemination? Is there more chance of getting pregnant that way?

{{{hug}}} for Vix.

ah vix it's so horrible isn't it?
I can't believe that you know someone who's lied about having a mc! I assume that she lied and said she'd had one (rather than had a mc and denied it)? What a nutcase.

I'm surprised your DH went through with it sal - I thought maybe he was just calling your bluff.
Have to admit that when my DH FINALLY came home last night I felt like pulling the cup out as well. Hmmmm... if it doesn't work this month I think i'm going to have to try and take it more easy next month. Romance - what's that?

Haha hilarious, you actually did it sal! Can't believe it. If this one results in a bfp, you know we'll all be at it, don't you?

I agree alyant, romance is fast evaporating in our household (though my lovely DH as keen as ever ). I was reading in the Toni Wechsler book about what to do if you don't get much/any ewcm and she suggests real egg white + syringe instead. Now that's when you know romance has officially left the building. (Quite intrigued by the idea though!!)

vix poor you. I hope your luck changes from hereon in! Your partner's ex sounds like a nutter.

I haven't posted for a while, but have been keeping up by popping in.

vix your post really moved me. It must have been so hard. In a way, I'm glad that I lost so much blood during my mc (like you, after a mmc confirmed by 12 week scan). I have to go into A&E, put on IV drip and had a ERPC that evening. I was spared the trauma of having to meet the foetus. I can't imagine how emotional I would be. And I know what you mean by you have to bury him.

Hi all,

Goodness me...as I've not been on here for a couple of days, I lost this thread and ended up on some other "ttc after mc" post where all the ladies were fighting and being horrible to eachother! Thank goodness for all the lovelies on here!

alyant - Glad your other half made it home to perform his duties! haha, at least cricket isn't as exhausting as some other sports...I'm officially banning my DH from football on smiley face days so he has no excuses!!

Mummy - Even if you don't read this today, I hope everything goes as well as can be expected. It's heartbreaking but you're amongst friends here...hope you make it back to us soon...this site really helped me after my mc.

Vix - So sorry to hear about your experience, it's horrendous, and soooo wrong that anyone would lie about having a mc. What's wrong with people??

Sal - what's with the artificial method? haha At least it sounds like you had fun - and how exciting that you're getting married next week! Congratulations!!

Phew - good luck to anyone performing the Friday POAS ritual, hope you get some good news. x

Is it just me or is anyone else who is awaiting the conspicuous absence of AF, terrified to cough or push for a poo?

Still convinced I mc last time because I stupidly lifted my neighbour's toddler into her car seat (started bleeding that same night), so am paranoid. Big pile of files for me to check before archiving is growing as I don't want to say anything to anyone, but am too scared to try and lift them!

So sorry for what you've been through vix MMC is such a terrible, awful thing. I had no idea before it happened to me. I hope we can help you onwards with your TTC journey.

birds that is rancid, REAL egg white?! I'd be worry about having a half chickenbaby

Glad you managed to DTD the deed alyant

Big news is I have a flashing smiling so its go go go!!! We are SO busy this weekend, I have no idea how we're going to manage it, but we WILL!!

Think of you mummy x

PS isit you made me laugh being scared to cough or poo I really don't think lifting a toddler would have made any difference to your MC otherwise no-one with young kids would ever get PG. Try not to be too hard on yourself and worry (easier said I know!)

haha isit I only wish i had an absent AF to be paranoid about...
as guff said though, don't stress about the lifting of toddlers or files, that will have had nothing to do with it

guff great news on the flashing smiley!! Woo! I didn't get to pee on my one remaining stick this morning because the monitor was stil displaying the peak smiley. I re-read the directions and it says it will display peak for 2 days, and not to pee after that. So that's it. Officially 2ww now, although somehow we have to muster the enthusiasm for dtd tonight too i am going to take a syringe home from work just in case

one more thing isit: POAS! It's friday!

Eewww birds rather you than me! Preseed may be preferable?! I also read that drinking grapefruit juice helps with ewcm. Hate the stuff but forced it down in the name of duty

Oh yeah I forgot it was friday, any POASers out there??

alyant so how long after peak smiley are you meant to keep DTD? A few days ideally I guess..? (if you're not both totally knackered and crying 'no more!')

Hi everyone! I'm wishing the day away today - can't wait for the weekend. I've been having weird bubbles and rumblings in lower abdomen today. I have been really sensitive to anything going on in there since the mmc. it's like I can feel things more readily. Have others found the same?

vix sorry to hear your story, sounds like you've had a very traumatic time of things

isit please don't worry about lifting etc. After my horrid 12wk scan where we were told the pregnancy wasn't viable, I (like many others have done) had to wait for a week for 2nd scan. I was really sure in my mind that the pregnancy was over and was kind of hoping things would start naturally (didn't want to have to make the decision between med management and a d&c) Anyway, during that week, I did loads of heavy lifting, including digging up half the garden and building a new veg patch. Nothing happened. This really proved to me that nothing I was doing in my day-to-day life could have caused my miscarriage, and I took a lot of comfort from that.

mummy thinking of you today

vix you poor thing that sounds truly heartbreaking. So sorry.
mummy hope things go as ok as poss. In my one experience the erpc whilst still obv a horrid thing to go through was far easier than the natural mc that preceded it.
sal very exciting your wedding is so close now. What's with the new dtd approach?!
birds I suppose that's an alternative to meringues for using up the egg whites! But seriously gross! Couldn't do that I'm sure. Isn't there a cough treatment that's meant to increase cm?
aly glad DH was still up to the job post match.
So do we have no poas-ers today? I'm 11dpo but have never had a BFP pre 14dpo so waiting a few more days. Luteal phase pre mc was 10 days though so whilst AF looks late my hopes increase. Although could it just be pregnacare conceive increasing the length of LP? Anyone ever noticed vitamins doing that?

I dunno guff. I read yesterday that you should dtd for 3 consecutive nights from peak smiley. There is NO WAY we can do that, so i figure we'll either dtd tonight OR tomorrow night and then call it a day. Tonight would probably be better but i'm not sure that we can manage it.
Those little swimmers last for a while, right?

It feels like we've been at it constantly all month but I just consulted my period tracker and it seems it's only been 4 times since last saturday . that actually doesn't seem very much, the pressure is obv getting to me.

alice i dunno about the vitamins - i'm taking sanatogen mumtobe and my cycle has been 24/25 days since mc. last month i was one day late but then AF came . Perhaps that was the vitamins starting to make it longer?
fingers crossed for you!!

aly I know completely how you feel about feeling like you've been at it all month & when you look at the app it seems to only be a handful of times!
Still it only takes one go so surely all this effort during the green weeks will pay off for us all...

My AF finally buggered off yesterday so today I've officially begun the improved healthy regime - vitamins, no alcohol and I'm trying to exercise as much as I can.

We had some people over for dinner last night, old friends of my husband's who we hadn't told about my MC as I don't really know them that well and it's not that easy to just drop into the conversation. And you guessed it, she's pregnant - she conceived just a couple of weeks after I did so it was odd to see her growing tummy knowing that I would have been the same by now.

Just feeling a bt sorry for myself today; I had to listen to all the details about how it started kicking this week, and getting exciting about the nursery, Mat leave etc. I'm genuinely pleased for them and it would have just been awkward to say anything after that, but talk about having your nose rubbed in it. I now have 7 pregnant friends. They're everywhere! aaaargh!!

ugh sundance I know, I know... they are everywhere! the whole world is exploding with preggos.
Thankfully most of the preggos I see regularly know about my miscarriage so they are very good at not rubbing my nose too much in their happiness.
But it's still hard to see them, especially the one who has exactly the same EDD that I did
chin up girls!! Posifrickentivity! In no time at all we'll be the ones getting all fat and uncomfortable.

Well done on the healthy regime. I'm trying to convince DH to do the 5:2 diet with me. I don't really need to do it but he does, so i'm pretending to go along for the ride. I can secretly eat at work

Thinking of you today mummy.

Any BFPs today?!

Been 4 weeks today since my ERPC and no AF yet. Grrrr.

guff if you are following the SMEP, it suggests BD the last time at one day after ovulation. It's because the egg survives about 12-24 hours after ovulation. You might have that long lasting one that is 24 hours! There's no need to BD anymore after that window. HTH

Mummy so sorry you're going through this again. Its so shit. Be kind to yourself.

Gutted we have no poasers today.

Well actually I did poas and got the 2-3 weeks I was hoping for. Starting to believe it more now especially as I have to wee so much at the minute. But still nervous so still trying not to think too far ahead which is hard as I so want this to be a healthy pregnancy. I guess only time will tell.

Sounds like everyone's busy on the dtd front. Interesting method sal! He he!