Bring on New Year Bfp's, it's Just Shagging thread 13!

[DingDongBelle]

Couldn't stand a Fred with only a couple of posts left so I filled it up!

Here is the 13th installation of the Just Shagging saga. If you're a bit lazy relaxed in your approach to getting upduffed, come over here for a natter!

Fred rules;

1. Thou shalt shag as much as humanly possible in order to get upduffed.
2. Thou shalt not partake of OPKs, temping, or charting.
3. Thou shalt keep symptom spotting to a minimum.
4. Thou shalt share and with your fredmates where needed.

JSing lingo;

ERTD = Evil Red Tide of Dooooooommmmmmm. Or AF to most others.

Pant snot = Egg white cervical mucus.

Doing a kitten = Getting upduffed soon after joining (warning: may induce in other posters).

Viroid = This is you, dear poster. This is from the first JS thread when someone tried to type 'ladies' and it autocorrected to 'Viroids' - so there you go!

POAS = Pee On A Stick (of the pregnancy detecting kind, not from a tree). Also known as PIAR (Pee In A Ramekin - cos we're posh birds innit). Or PIATLH (Tea light holder) PIAWG (Wine glass) or anything else you care to pee in!

Shagging like something = JSing like a teenage nymphomaniac.

Giving a hooya = Giving a much needed slap to a fellow poster in danger of slipping into ttc obsession.

Contraband = Of COURSE none of us EVER partake of any silly opk's or temp charting. They are Contraband

The link to Part 12 is HERE

The link to the latest grads thread is HERE

Happy shagging shaggers

Ahh addicted! Sending you lots of positive thoughts and prayers! Fingers are crossed too!

Ahhh addicted everything crossed for you! I have never been as stressed as when we moved house, admittedly this was because my darlin' fella didn't lift a finger I arranged everything, from the offers to the mortgage to the packing of boxes, all he did was help lug boxes on the day...men huh. REALLY hope it all gets sorted. FX!

cleo that sonds just like my dh, although he has sorted out the mortgage (he works in finance) as in phoned and went through half of the application process before handing the phone over to me and letting me do the rest of it. Then its been me who chased them up, appointed solicitors, chased them, arranged to go and sign contracts, chased the mortgage some more, chased the estate agents to find out why its taking so long, phoned round removal companies for quotes, packed every box and bubble wrapped every fragile item. it was me who bought, wrapped and boxed up every christmas present, then unboxed and put the tree up when it was clear we werent going anywhere. its been me who has been stressed out over christmas whilst trying to have a lovelyu time with the girls, its been me who has delt with all the phone clls to the solicitors and agents. its me who has emaild him all the documentation so he could make a quick 5 minute phonecall and its me who is still waiting 1 hour 20 minutes later to see what the result of that phonecall was. and it will be me who will un pack every box and then do it all over again. not to mention its been me who has arranged every viewing, tidied the house and taken the girls out even at the most inconvienent of times (7pm when the girls should be going to bed, not wondering round tesco anyone!)

wow, that ended up in much more of a rant than I intended it to!

Oh addicted you poor thing what a complete bugger, it really is awful that people are allowed to pull out at the last minute like that. And and your DH for being as helpful as a chocolate teapot by the sounds of it....

Sorry it all went a bit wrong addicted....here's hoping you come bk and say its turned our just right!
Can sympathise with the useless DP....when we moved I also arranged EVERYTHING!! I'm sure men just have an issue with speaking to people!! Altho I'm glad I did, we would've ended up paying thousands more for our house if I'd have left him to it....he has no idea how to negotiate!!

phew, is it bad that I'm glad it's not just me who puts up with lots of nonsense from last OH? I do far too much for my OH but anything for an easier life huh, I would still be waiting to move if he was handling it.

On another note I am so confused....warning TMI past this point....I took a hpt this morning, before realising AF was here, got a BFN! (of course) What looked like the start of AF (pinky red when I wiped with a small spec of blood) has now disappeared, no trace on my pant liner, when I went to the loo earlier I had pale pink CM when I wiped, I'm now back to having creamy CM. I was due yesterday and am now a tad confused. I have light periods but they always need a liner for at least two days, this is taking the piss.

I'm glad I'm not the only one Elektra! It's good to know I'm not alone in these thoughts!

Thanks Kitten and Cleo. I shall test it out next time.

You know, I talk about stuff on here that I would never say to someone face to face!!!

that is odd, maybe af will start properly tomorrow? if not I would be taking another test tonight on friday, possibly even now waiting till sunday if still not turned up?

Oh Addicted that is all so traumatic and annoying. I can sympathise with the lack of man action when it comes to getting anything organised. Let us know how you get on.

Cleo, jealous of your light periods. Mega TMI sorry... I soak through a super plus tampon in two hours on the first two days of every period. The getting up in the night to change myself is worse than feeding a newborn! Anyway, what I would say is that if it is different to what you normally experience I would test again in a day or two. I do g want to get your hopes up but you never know.

Melody x

Hehe addicted that made me laugh. I'd have done several by now!!

do g??? I think that was supposed to be 'don't. Poxy phone!

Hello everyone just a quick hello to say happy new year, welcome to all the newbies, and congrats to the BFPs! I'm looking forward to getting home from holiday as I should have my scan date through by then (we get back Saturday night). Once the scan has happened I think I will start to relax a bit - I thought TTC was stressful (even though it was only a couple of months) but this early pregnancy lark is even worse. Grrrrr.

Addicted what a nightmare and huge disappointment for you with the house sale. I really really hope that things come good soon. Will keep my fx for you.

So... From the list of TTCers, who has had a BFP this month?

Oooh cleo implantation bleed maybe?

kitten i'm 16 days past positive OPk though so somewhere between 14 and 16dpo.....that would be too late for implantation wouldn't it? My body would be all geared up for AF. I hate the fact the witch is lurking, if I'm out for this month can't she just let me know for sure......grrrrr.

today has been a rolercoaster of emotions. I'm completely exausted and am clock watching, counting down to 6pm (girls bedtime)

The offer is 5k less than what we need it to be. they arent budging on the price (they have us by the balls and they know it! we are more desprate to sell than they are, they already lost out once, as they lost in the original bidding war, and know they will survive the 2nd time around) we are going to look at our finances tonight and see if there is anyway we can swollow the costs out of savings and 0% credit cards etc.

cleo it could be implantation, but i would have thought you would have had a +ve test if it were. but then I know women who have had bleeding at 6-8 weeks pg and been told its implantation.

right i'm off to put pjs on the girls and start the bedtime routine. do you think they will notice going to bed 15 minutes early?

Addicted, will they not meet you half way?? Are they def not going to budge? If they've come bck again they clearly love your house!! Any mileage in bluffing that its the original price or nothing at all? I'm a hard faced cow with negotiating!! Lol

I tried that frog, I asked them to come up 2.5k hoping they would come up at least 1k and they point blank refused to even discuss it saying they just didnt have the money.

I've told the agent we cant afford any less than 145, and we really cant, that 5k means we cant afford the house were buying, which means we will have to pull out and find a new one which will incurr abandonment fees and new search fees as well as paying for all the work the solicitor has already done and will need to do (expensive solicitor, we needed them as they are the best and have ended up using them ever since but they are not cheep!

But all thoes fees plus the 5k in loss amount to around 10k which means we just cant afford to move, so they loose the house anyway. but they are calling our bluff and I dont want to loose them. I just cant face going on the market again and doing all the house viewings and tidying and unboxing and ...I just canbt do it :(

Get your agent to do what you're paying them for and negotiate on your behalf. They should be bending over backwards to get your house sold at a decent price.

So, did they offer the 145 in the first place? Have they up'd the amount they originally offered? Their agent is either very very good and has told them to stick as you're pretty much between a rock and a hard place....or, they really can't afford it. Something tells me its the agent and that they really love your house. Also since they last lost out on your house, they clearly haven't found anything else that matched up to it. I know how tough this standing your ground business is though what a stress!

Are you on a timescale here? When do u need to let them know?

no sorry originally they offered 140, then a bidding war took place and we accepted another couple (the ones that pulled out) at 145. origionally our house was on the market at 160 so thats a massive drop down anyway.
I suspect it has something to do with the agent! We took them on board when tlg werent getting anywhere after 6 months, within 2 days we had 6 house viewings from nph (new agents) and 4 more from tlg. we accepted the offer from tlg and they werent very happy about it.

they are looking round the house again on sunday and luckly the people we are buying from are being really good about it and are willing to wait for us (although not forever!) We are going to number crunch talk t the mortgage company some more and see what we can do. then stand our ground at that figure

actually in the bidding war they offered 142500, which is what we asked for! but now they cant afford it.

Oh looking at the house again!?! They wouldn't be doing that if it was a definately no to more money!! Stand your ground, they want your house!!
Otherwise if the people you're buying from are so understanding, would they not compromise a couple of grand to make it all happen? I know its not their problem, but....

Hello all

Hi to Melody and Toby. Sorry about AF/strange spotting Cleo - hope it's what you want it to be.

Addicted - you poor thing - how stressful. I think Frog and MrsBri are right - your agent should be telling them that you won't sell unless they give you the price you need. Let them call your bluff, but I think you should stand your ground. They were the ones who rang back remember - so your/their(?) agent must have told them pretty quickly that it was back on the market, so they are back for a second go and think they can squeeze you down, but they must have been willing to pay the asking price or near it in the first instance if they got involved in a bidding war over it. If you can't afford it, you can't afford it - they'll stump up I'm sure. Good luck. Hope it goes your way.

Well, I received a great big book in the post today - 'Taking Charge of your Fertility' - I've already depressed DH by telling him what he should be giving up. He was most upset about having to do less cycling in order to stop his testes bumping the bike, not alcohol! Still, he just went out to get the one beer . . .

Having just read your last msg, scrap what i said.... Def stand your ground, slight compromise at most!!