Mourning our angel babies but still hoping for the future: let the swi commence!

[TooImmature2BMum]

This is a thread for those of us on the bereaved mother's thread who want a place to moan about the perils of ttc without upsetting anyone over there. We've gone through at least one pregnancy, and we know what it is to hold a baby whose eyes will never open, or to have lost a baby after a few days, weeks or years. We know the fear, but we're going to go ahead and do it anyway. And then do it again, especially in the middle of the month!

Newcomers will be welcomed with all the hand-holding and wisdom we can summon up - and that's a lot! Come in and join us: the door is always open.

Blue have a lovely holiday. X
Shame you ve all had such bad experiences with the NHS I can t sing their praises highly enough and not just because I work for them. The care I had with Georgie and this time has been fabulous from start all the way through.

angel was being a bit negative towards the NHS but only those few staff members, my midwives and I have 8 in total were amazing, and the registrars I saw were great too, really caring. Im hoping they will be great this time aswell.

Ive been very calm today, no crying, been chatting to my bro about his baby. Must be hard for them to go home when hes still at the hospital. Im sure hes going to be home soon though, fx. He was saying when he took his wife into the hospital (she didnt want to go, didnt think she was in labour) the midwife they were given had my name, he thought it was a sign that the baby needed and was on its way, and that he took the right decision. Apparently the high blood pressure could have been because she was winding her self up over the birth becasue of what had happened to me. And now hes in the baby unit not going home for a while, the poor love. I wish I could be there the help them out and offer them a strong shoulder to take some of the burden. My mum has just told me Im ever so strong and shes in awe of me. Nicest thing shes said to me in a while.

Its really weird keeping this pregnancy a secret I know its only been two days but its weird, I kind of like it. No pressure, no judgeing because nobody knows. I said to DH earlier wish it could be like this the whole way through and we jsut announce the arrival and not have to deal with everyone elses emotions. Im sure thats going to wind me up more than anything during this pregnancy is everyone elses emotions being pushed onto me.

Green, I know what you mean! I wish I could get right through my next pregnancy with no one knowing at all, except for maybe my sister and mum. Not possible, but I just can't be doing with everyone else commenting. I've already decided that this time I am going to tell work that I don't want a collection and card or big send-off like I had the last time. I just want to slip away and if they want to do anything then they can do it after the baby is safely here.

Another on the OPK this morning...4 days running! Starting to get v excited now. I am going to buy a pregnancy test this afternoon and really, if it is negative, then I am still ovulating, so I can't get too upset.

fx crossed tooimm

Ohmigod ohmigod, BFP!!!! I am so excited the pee is not even dry yet and I am on here just so that I can tell someone! I can't sit still. Eeeeeeee! God, it was hard work waiting for the PIL to leave so we could go buy a test. It was a FR test - DH wanted to fob me off with the cheap Tesco ones, but I wasn't having any of that!

wow too thats great news, this thread has certainly been lucky for bfp's! do you have any idea how far along you are? Massive congratulations x

Not really sure - my last period started on 18 June but I got BFNs on 18 and 21 July...maybe 4 or 5 weeks? I am still high as a kite. Don't think the reality has sunk in yet. I've told DH, Mum and my sister but they have all been well warned that it's very early days yet and this bean might not stick, so not to tell anyone else! As my sister said, you don't want to tell anyone who might be annoying if it doesn't work out.

tooimm youve just made me cry! We are pregnancy buddies! Yayayyyyyyyyy I am so thrilled for you. So I guess that ov stick test things is true. What a lucky thread we have.

Thanks Green - don't cry! It is nice to have pregnancy buddies, isn't it? You and me and Ciwi and Cheese are all pretty close together. How fast did you all call the MW to get a booking in appt? Would calling tomorrow be a little early? Now I need to find out how I go about getting a different obstetrician who can actually read

Have counted - I am 6+2 according to my last period, but I think it's more likely to be 5 or even 4 weeks.

I keep having to look at the test again just to see the two pink lines!

I rang the hospital when I was 4 weeks because my meds needed changing and i needed my levels checked. I know the midwife in my GP practice won't see you till you are 6 weeks though. This thread has been very successful so far. I really hope we can all hold hands all the way through x
Major hand holding needed on my part at the minute, I am so nervous about my scan tommorrow, I am all but convinced I am going to get bad news, my sickness has settled right down over the past couple of days but that did happen last week too and then it came back again, boobs are still sore and I am still tired but am worried about the lack of nausea, other than that I have no reason to think anything is wrong but I am so scared, I am tempted to just wimp out and not go at all. Sorry if I am putting a downer on things but I can't get it out of my head.

Don't worry about the lack of nausea - enjoy it! Good luck at the scan tomorrow, and please don't wimp out, because it will probably be very reassuring. I noticed last time that my nausea was worse when I was tired, so perhaps on a Sunday night you are more rested than you would have been throughout the week and that's why you don't feel so sick.

If you have to be 6 weeks for a booking appointment then I shall just tell them when my last period was and leave out the bit about probably having ovulated late! My community midwife has been lovely and did lots of home visits after Thea died, so I can probably call her and she'll start sorting things out without waiting much longer.

I haven't any particular symptoms yet apart from needing to pee every 5 minutes. And I'm a bit headachey but I think that's just the adrenaline wearing off!

Oh my god! Congratulations too! I am so happy for you, i really hope this is a lucky thread for me and this is my month!
I really am over the moon for all you pregnant ladies, if anyone desreves it we all do! Fingers crossed for sticky beans and boring uneventful 9 months.

Oh Too that's fantastic news. I'm so thrilled for you.

Ciwi everything will be fine at the scan, don't allow the negative thoughts to take over. And that goes out to all of you lovely ladies. If there are any people deserving of happiness, it's us! And it WILL come to all of us at some point and we'll all get to hold our beautiful, healthy, living babies x

Thanks Jane and Mel. FX for you both! Absolutely right that no one deserves it more! How are you doing, Mel?

Huge congrats Too xxx
Good luck Ciwi. xxx

I'm doing ok. Still nothing happening which I think is more frustrating as it just delays trying again x

Spoke too soon I think . At least this will be better than a surgical intervention. Had a wee cry but think I'll be ok x

Mel hugs ((())) xx

thanks for your kind words mel, hope you are ok. If things have started to happen naturally then I hope it is all over quickly for you and you can get back to ttc. Have you had a mc before? I know with mine, once it started properly it was over in a few hours though I did continue to bleed for about a week after. It's a horrible thing to go through. Take care of yourself xxx

Just about to get to bed but popped on and Too that's wonderful news! Congratulations!! I thought the ovulation test being positive was a bit suspect :o I saw my gp and he referred me to hospital right away but not seen midwife yet. She left a note for me and wants to see me this week coming.

Mel (hugs) I hope it's not too painful for you, physically speaking. xxx

Ciwi I'd go if I were you. I don't have many symptoms either, headachy but NO sickness, occasional nausea but that's about it; oh and more tired than usual. Mood swings but that's a given with me! Hope it goes well if you decide to go

ciwi good luck Im sure its going to be fine. fx

mel hugs, I hope your not in too much pain physically and mentally.

Sorry ofr the tear but having four of us pregnant at the same time was a bit over whelming. I hope we all have sticky pregnancies. We have already given ours a name its called 'the beanbag'. Last time we had 'Bubble'.

I hope in the weeks to come more of us join the ranks of BFP! fx for everyone.

tooimm I m not calling the midwife yet we are going to see the consultant for the post mortem results, so we thought we would discuss it with him then. If I didnt have this appointment I would have rung her this morning. I didnt have my booking appointment with the midwife till I was 8 weeks last time.

mel i hope you are ok and it's all over soon for you. Thinking of you today (())

Hi all, I've never had a mc before so just thought that that was things kicking off after slight spotting last night. Kind of like a warning bell for me, but there has been nothing else at all. Why can't the body just deal with this really quickly? I thought there would be a reasonable amount of bleeding initially?? Sorry if tmi, just a bit hacked off x