Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

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Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

So relieved others feel the same - worried it was a bad sign... fingers crossed. Thank you....

Glad you're joining the list, Jiggle!

Am working from home today. Just fell asleep, lap top next to me on sofa - have a conf call in ten mins and don't know how I will have the energy to do it.

Blackkat - I find I feel nauseous if I don't eat something every couple of hours.

Lara we all have a dark side

Any news from cep?

I did a dreaded cb digi this morning, after having a panic yesterday. Slighlty relieved, as it's gone from 1-2 weeks last tuesday at 11 DPO when af was due, to 3+ weeks today, 9 days later, and I should be 5 weeks today, which fits. So, panic abated for the day. I now have no poas sticks left in the house to drive myself mental with.

Hope you're all well, am trying not to spend much time in here til after 6 weeks in a vain attempt to stop my mentalling. Or bury my head in the sand. One of the two.

Waves to all, you lovely people.

cep where are you girl? waiting for you...

Lurking for cep

lara I've only just come back from holiday and I'm off already. My sickness came back with avengance yesterday lunchtime and lasted all night. Still felt rotten this morning so called in sick, and spent the day inbetween the sofa and the toilet basin!! Yuk!! I've managed to just work from home so far too, but I really needed proper rest. I really need to be in tomorrow to catch up on a few urgent things but I'd really like to just have another day of rest.

ymotBFP glad the cb didgi went up!! It's a big relief! don't be too quiet we like having you around, and the mentally is compulsary!

Also meant to say thanks to mummya for the advice and sharing your story. I don't think me lying about my LMP at this stage will prob do any difference if there scan shows the same dates, and I'll need to given them the printed report for the NT results so no way of changing it. I suppose I just need to be strong and stubborn in the end if pup is late. I was actually 2 1/2 months prem, does anyone know if that effects the chances of you being early? I'm an only child so no other labour experience for mum. She was a smoker too, I'm not.

Hello all :) Just had another peek at the dachspups and they are both very wriggly and still seem to be a boy and a girl, which is reassuring!

doc was making me v with his photos of his holiday in Bali which he's just hot back from

Am now going to totally mental until the 20 week scan but am trying to capture some Zen, so if you see any can you send it in my direction?

collie plenty of time between nuchal and due date to get the pen out - they only look at the big number hand written on the front page of your notes>

yrmotb yay for evil CBD increasing :)

evening ladies.

hihp yay so pleased for you hon.

dach how sweet.

jiggle i told my ds (3 in a few weeks) cause he kept jumping on my stomach, he knows it's there but doesn't say anything about it. If you ask him whats in mummy's tummy he'll say baby.

Scan went fine, heart still going, although they don't tell me how fast. Nuchal measurement a little high for my liking was 2.1 but still within limit for my dates. They did however put my dates back again although i disagree, she did say the scan is give or take 5 days. they've now put the date at 10/11/11 but i don't want to change it on list as i don't agree. So just have to wait for blood test results now, will call within 5-7 days if high risk. Ds kept saying baby in mummy, was so cute.

Ah, cep your ds sounds so cute. And good news for the scan. How far did they change the dates?

dachs yey for the double trouble. I'm sure I saw some zen before. Let me try to wonder where

Cep so pleased for you, I know how worried you were, such great news. I hope you get to relax for a while now.

Zen, who mentioned zen, I keep losing mine! If I find some I will offer it around liberally.

Lara I'm having to eat little and often, and all the things I seemed to like two weeks ago make me feel ill now, [frustrated emoticon].

Jiggle so pleased that you're going to join the list, (not that I can talk about joining the list)

Battery, Scooby good luck tomorrow, thinking of you both

Shame tomorrow isn't a bank holiday eh...

yrmotb 5 days which isn't much but blooming annoying. (still don't believe it.) he can be really cute bless him but he is definately a typical boy.

blackkat thanks, i am feeling a lot more relaxed now, hopefully i'll get good results back from blood test and i can totally relax.

good lucks for the scanners tomorrow

wow sooo much news!

great news from the scanners so pleased for you and for batterys levels.

Izz I've been dopplering for a week or so now and have found a hb every time with no probs so it wont be long before you get it if you cant just yet. I'm hearing bean kick on it too now and its all wonderful

mummya I'm glad things have settled down for you.

yrmotb I confess to cbdigi checking a week after my bfp too.

blackkat yay you're on the list :)

Sorry i cant remember who was talking about cramps but ive had them quite bad, sometimes i have twinges which make me wince. Also with the stretching out - I've been worried abnout doing it too but i feel like I need to all the time!

Great news about the scan cep.

Completely bricking it about mine today, hence the waking at crazy hour. Haven't done any cb digis or had any bloods done yet so I'm terrified they'll be nothing in there. Should be 7+2-eek!

Good luck battery you fellow scanner x

Morning all

Can I mental for the moment? (Appropriate word there as you'll see).

Dr has referred me to the Community Psychiatric Nursing team. I have an appointment on the 16th to discuss medication I don't want medication at this stage, I want to try talking therapies first, and am cacking myself that things are really that bad.

Plus I haven't had any mini-farmer movements for a few days now. I know I come and go at this stage, but am still freaking out.

Sorry, Me Me Me again.

Hurray for harassed dachs and cep for yesterday's scans - great news!! cep that's annoying re the dates - I would stick to yours if you're sure.

Good luck to doo and battery for today - those hcg numbers look fab though battery !!

velvet good to hear dopplering is working for you . Dh wanted to give it a go last night but I said we should at least wait for the gel and the instructions to turn up before we try - aren't you all proud of my self-restraint?!

Actually am glad I got the Doppler because I spoke to the mw yesterday for booking in blood results and she was telling me she doesn't listen in at 16 weeks anymore . I did point out that that was the only way I found out my baby had died and that otherwise I wouldn't have known until my 20-week scan. She said that I would have started bleeding by then but I don't think that's necessarily right - I was 17 weeks and the erpc and baby had died at 14 and I had no signs anything was wrong. And anyway surely the sooner you know, the better?

Anyway rant over, but I'm pleased I've got my own Doppler or I think I would go mad. Given that I'm also paying for all my own scans, I really just need to buy a blood pressure monitor and learn to take blood then I can carry out my own ante natal care completely

Hi daisy what has the doc referred you for? Is it anxiety? There's likely to be better access to psychological therapy in your area these days after lots of money has been put into it nationally in the last few years. No-one will make you goon any meds, it's entirely your decision. Not sure if you've had treatment before but there are also some really good self-help books (not the paul McKenna type!) out there.

Hopefully the other ladies will comment re movements etc but I'm sure all is fine. Would you be able to get a reassurance scan?

X-post daisy be firm about the meds/talking therapies and I'm sure they will be open to it - ime they usually prefer that route anyway.

Re the movements, it can vary hugely and I'm sure it's fine, but there's no point stressing about it - if it's worrying you at all ring your mw and get checked to set your mind at rest, then you can relax a bit. As I said, I'm sure it's fine but better to check than to add to the stress xx

daisy The CPN will assess you - and with your input they will be able to put together a plan of care for you. They won't automatically put you on meds - it will be to discuss what is right for you, and if you want to get some therapy now and not meds, I am sure they will take that into consideration xx

dooscooby What time is your scan? Mine is 11.15. Heres hoping we both have good outcomes! xx

izzyI think the doppler is a good thing. My friend has one, and she is due to give birth any day and said I can have hers when her baby is born :)

Am going to try and kep calm until it is time to leave for my scan

Sorry I haven't been around much so too much to catch up on but fab news on everyone's scans!

izzy seriously, I am absolutely about the way you're being treated. DH and I were having a conversation about the 'free' NHS last night-doesn't seem like great value when you have to pay for your own miscarriage investigations, your own scans and your own MW..... ho hum. Probably shouldnt start the day with a rant on my views on the NHS.....

daisy huge hugs. Like the others say, they can't force meds on you. It's great they are taking you seriously though. What did you decide about a gender scan in the end? This might be stupidly naive but is it worth trying something like hypnotherapy with a reputable
hypnotherapist as well? Please ignore me if that's just ridiculous.....

Have a fab day all xx

Good luck today dooscooby and battery and any other scandudes today xx

Bit of a late catch up but hooray for cep scan and battery HCG levels. Good luck to the scanees today.

Loving the name changes for yrmotbfp and collieandpup

Very impressed with the self-restraint izzy - when are you expecting the gel? Also on your behalf at NHS.....

Finally well done to blackkat for putting yourself on the stats - a big milestone

Morning!

Cep and Dachs - yaaaay for good scans . Cep your ds sounds adorable.

On the subject of other children, does anyone have any tips for throwing a very savvy nearly 5yr old off the scent? She thinks I've got a tummy bug at the moment, but I was properly ill this morning and she told me I had to stay at home today as I'm poorly........ Feel guilty for not telling her, but it's just too early imo. Plus she can't keep a secret!!!

Daisy huge ((())'s, and I agree with everyone else that they can't force meds on you. Stand firm and I'm sure they'll listen to you.

Izzy I have a bp monitor from when prg with dd (raised bp very early on), feel free to have a borrow. I'm sure it'll be less hassle than going to mw......

Good luck battery and dooscooby, and to any other scanees.