Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

[MummyAbroad]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

Harassed - try not to panic and dwell on your past experiences... I'd say to get another scan as it will really reassure you (ignore the fact I declined an early scan only two days ago).

Daisy - IMO it's vital you get on with the woman - can you change her if you're not happy?

WIW - care in Dubai sounds fab... So many benefits in going private. The NHS care at St Georges couldn't be more impersonal if it tried but there are the benefits of things like the scans on tap. I'd say I just feel like a number when I go there (except their number machines don't even seem to work!) Hoping my GP will provide any hand-holding I might need as he is a legend.

Awful day ahead at work. Event I am working on is a dog. Wish I could press the fast forward button to next Weds.

Just scoffed a Pret a Manger "high-fibre" muffin (although desperately wanted a croissant au chocolat) and a decaf latte (which tasted bleurgh).

BTW - wanted to smack DH last night when he had the nerve to say (after I was a tad moody and felt pukey): "I'm not enjoying this pregnancy". WTF?! Well I'm sorry, DEAREST husband, but it's not there for your enjoyment so sod off. He did realise the error of his statement this AM and tried to make amends by reading a chapter of my pg book on the loo (and then make "helpful" suggestions of things I should and shouldn't be doing).

Morning all, have been quietly trembling in a corner for the last couple of days and freaking out about absence of symptoms.

But am just back from the lovely Fetal Medicine Centre and feeling much better. My bean is measuring spot on for 7+1 with a good strong heartbeat of 154bpm . All seen through the ultrasound, no need for the dreaded fanjocam.

Still very early days and I'm sure I've got a lot more freaking out to do over the next few weeks - and I'd feel much better if I was puking up every morning. But I am going to try not to stress quite so much...I might even add myself to the list!

Great news hadrian - and go on, be a devil, and add yourself!

Yes indeed lara - this time around it has been v good. With 1st m/c though the emergency department (only place I could go) were so utterly useless it left me in a rage for days (hormones too probably). I now am in regular contact with brill ob/gyn and midwife so feeling nicely taken care of. Have you got out of the dubai trip for definite?

Hey WIW (weekend for you today, huh?) I haven't gotten out of the Dubai trip (in that work don't know I don't plan to go) but I have put all the wheels in motion not to go. It all depends on my scan on Weds. If the scan goes well, I will call my doctor right away and ask him to do my unfit to fly note and then I will let work know about my pg at the end of the day on Weds or first thing Thurs AM. I will tell them I have been instructed not to fly and then they have Thurs and Fri to sort themselves out with getting someone else to go (I'm supposed to fly out on the Sunday ). If the scan goes badly (always be negative) then presumeably I won't be able to fly in any case so mentally I'm already not going for certain. For sure they will panic but these trips are horrendous - such insane hours and super short-staffed so exhausting.

I am however planning on going to Dubai on hol at the end of June (although will tell work I'm going somewhere close like France!!!). On that basis you must a) tell me if you want anything bringing from London (not that there's much from here that you don't get bigger and better in Dubai) and b), if you're around, perhaps we can grab a coffee....

Just to say all is thankfully well with the twins and they were doing nicely including one was sucking its thumb. Since ds does this too I'd better start saving for braces.

Daisy advice I received on picking a therapist for something else is that the most important thing is you have to like and be able to connect with them and that overrides any issues over what sort of therapy they practice. Obviously this was private so a rather greater choice but the principle remains the same.

Comgrats Hadrian and tigger

The thumb-sucking is unbelievably cute.

Random symptom-sharing for anyone that cares (actually not so bothered if anyone cares or not!) Feeling extremely pukey today. Feeding the pukiness tends to alleviate it, but not today. Just consumed a tuna baguette with salt and vinegar crisps and feel quite bleugh. Also, when I cough or laugh, I occasionally get the weirdest sharp twinge in places I've never, ever got a twinge before. Guess it's due to the moving of things. At least the pukiness stops me from wanting to laugh.

Anyone around the 11 week mark found that they have then developed food aversions? Suddenly I have developed a long list of foods that totally gross me out. Also the smell of some of our cleaning products (especially the dish washer tablets!) makes me want to vomit!

Only another 4 hours to kill till "home-time".... Wish more of you would post then I have a distraction other than work.

How you feeling, my twin, Blackkat?

Great news Hadrian it's such a relief to see that hb and Tigger the thumb sucking sounds sooo cute!

Scooby hope all well with you

Hairy really hope it's not what you think

HiHP sounds like getting that scan is a really good idea

Lara I puked my breakfast straight back up this am...grim, nausea seems to come and go, but we've had to change our washing up liquid and I can't use adult toothpaste, random....

Daisy so hope you can find someone that you get along with..

Thanks to pink and dachs for treats

to everyone else

Fab news Hadrian and Tigger!!!

Lara I'm also very pukey today...... maybe cos it's Friday??? Cant think of another reason .

I've gone off lots of things, mainly chocolate which is unheard of for me! Dh bought a new deodorant at the weekend and it makes me sick. Literally. It's been binned and he's banned from that flavour! I'm like Blackkat and also can't use adult toothpaste. Using dd's kids one and that's traumatic enough!

Blackkat - glad it's not just me with a loathing for certain household products. We're doing a big supermarket shop this evening and I think I will have to do a sniff-test of each product. Love the fact you're using kiddie toothpaste. Did you try others like Arm and Hammer (that taste quite different)?

Aha, the supermarket, I dare not go bcs of the eeeeuuuggghhhhh.

Online shopping the way forward for me at the moment.
No went straight to kiddies toothpaste, seem to remember HiHP suggesting it a while ago, can't stand bicarb toothpaste anyway!

And it was fairy liquid that made me want to chuck too...how odd, at least it excused me from washing up for a bit.... oh and feeding the cat, can't bear that either!! Essentially I am now doing absolutely nothing at home! Oh how the tables are turned.

Just been for my reflexology appt and my reflexologist, who was a midwife previously, said it was appalling that I had to wait til 12 weeks + to see someone given my history. She suggested calling to get an earlier appointment, but I've been told if I don't take the one in May, I'd have to wait till June. Getting about this now, but trying to hang onto the nice zen I've got from my appt, apparently my uterus is swelling nicely . I can see the lump on my foot!!

There was a smell in Tesco the other day....... I haven't been back. Luckily dh does our shopping.

I discovered the kiddies toothpaste thing whilst preg with dd, not great, but significantly better!

I also can't feed the cat without throwing up, and as she's a kitten have to do her litter tray too armed with plastic gloves. Must talk to dh about that actually, no reason why he can't do it. Except that he has no sense of smell!!!

. Blackkat, where exactly is the uterus-swelling lump if I may ask?

Raw meat aisle also makes me retch. Milk is quite a saviour for me at the mo - I get through a litre a day.

Deep down it does make me chuckle that you're stressing about your appointment now, Blackkat - especially when you were in denial for eight weeks!

Anyways - today's list... There seems to be some discrepancies between Onions and Irene's dates but I couldn't be bothered to count. Also a big discrepancy between the due dates of Delilah and Mattsmama. Ladies, if you're out there, please check your dates. Also - WIW, I can't remember if your due date changed. Anyways -

Friday's List (13th May 2011)

Tiggersreturn (TTT) 20+3 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 20+2 EDD 28/9/11
Emoo 19+0 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 18+3 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 16+5 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 16+5 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 16+5 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
MummyAbroad 15+0 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 14+6 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 14+2 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 14+1 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 13+6 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 13+3 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 13+1 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 13+1 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 12+5 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 18/05/11
wombatinwaiting: 12+1 EDD 24/11/11

Banana87: 12+1 EDD 24/11/11 NT scan 19/5/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 11+6 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
LaraMi 11+0 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11
Blackkat 10+4 EDD 5/12/11
Jigglebum 10+1 EDD 8/12/11
Hairylights 4+2

On the grads thread too:
Nickster 27+6 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 23+6 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 22+6 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 25/5/11
Daisybell 22+1 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 20+5 EDD 25/09/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 19+2 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Velvetcu 16+3 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

gah - I've had a couple of busy days and now I am pages and pages behind. I hope everyone is well.

I have a feeling I am probably going to spend less and less time in here now, partly because I have tons more work at the mo, and partly because I am actually genuinely feeling a bit confident ish about this pregnancy. God that is hard to write - it feels a bit like erecting a huge neon sign for the jinx pixies to come and get me. Anyway, I am 15 weeks today, and I can feel the baby moving

So it feels like I dont really qualify for the "newly updiffed" or "freaking out" qualifications of the room any longer. I will however be popping in when I can to see how you are all doing. The support in here has been fantastic and I dont for a minute want to leave all you guys without knowing how it all turns out for you.

Hope everyone has a lovely day. xxxx

Mummy maybe it's time to join the grads? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1175496-Pregnancy-post-mc-Totallys-grads-continued-part-7. I've only just got up the guts to do so.

Glad you feel movement. It's much more reassuring once you do.

mummya so good to hear that you in that place, fantastic.

lara, my reflexologist told me it was swelling, but she isn't working the "pelvic" region so as not to put too much stress on my system. I think it's near the heel, on the inside but please don't go stressing looking for bumps, mine comes and goes and is more pronounced on one side where the sac is attached.

Hello! May I join you ladies? Most recent mc in Jan this year, positive test yesterday (then again this morning). Fear level currently high to hysterical not helped by really painful cramps for the last week. Overwhelming feeling of negativity mixed with desperate hope. In summary - bonkers.

Clearly haven't told anyone as so early and husband said this morning he doesn't believe home pregancy tests and that if I bleed before 12 weeks he's just counting that as a late period. Apparently mc are a bit tedious who'd have thought! Am I wrong to think he doesn't understand? Was going to put something about 'inserting' 'sideways' and 'orifices' but didn't as don't want to make a bad first impression!

Sorry pressed post too soon. Meant to say that I hope you are all well, and that things are progressing in a happily tedious manner!

Welcome mamarara! I see you mention fear, hysterical & bonkers....... you'll fit it just fine .

Soooo I think I may have just blagged myself another scan, unless they check all the records and see that I had one the week before last. Fingers x'd, just waiting for them to phone me back.

mamarara - although genuinely supportive and the rock of my life, my DH can come out with some gems. Generally I think it can stem from the fact that men tend to internalise matters and don't share the minutia as much as us womenfolk (minutia - us?!) and so the way they deal with potentially stressful situations can be quite sweeping / black and white. My husband too seems to fear that any new additional tiny symptom marks the start of an immense decline in our relationship for the long-term future. I hope think it's just a bit of nerves from his side. The last mc was quite traumatic for him so he wants to protect himself from getting hurt again.

I am sure that as the days and weeks pass and your DH realises that yes, home pg tests are the real thing and yes, his wife is pregnant, then he will change his view.

ps - remember too our bodies are way more complex than theirs - a bleed for us can mean a million things that many men probably can't comprehend (my DH is too grossed out to get his head around CM hahahaha!)

Just a really quick one to say the scan went well and all looks like I'm measuring fine, just over 8 weeks. Actually got a good look this time-could see the little head shape and arm buds forming!

Now I'm booked in for my booking in appt on Monday, fingers crossed that I'll actually make it this time, get to see a midwife and get my hands on a pregnancy book!

Glad tiggers scan went well. Hope everyone else doing well.

Oh and I'm also suffering massively from aversions to food-pretty much anything makes me want to puke apart from crisps, chicken soup, cheese sarnies and toast. Tomatoes and onions are evil at the mo, so is frickin bacon, ham or anything like that!

Ready to add yourself to the list Doo? We need more ladies!

yay for great scan results ninu hadrian tigger and doo (hope that's all of you.)

mama welcome and congratulations. my dh doesn't "get it" either, on the way to my first scan after a bleed in this pg my dh said before we even got in the hosp "you won't get another 2 weeks off if it's gone wrong this time, cause they'll expect you to be used to it." used to it??? a) i've only had one and b) regardless i don't think you ever get used to it. But then my dh is an arse.

hairy i hope you're ok.

Just found out im 1 month pregnant after a previous miscarriage at 12 weeks 4 months ago. sooo nervous that i will miscarry again. have stomach cramps but been told this is normal. but this is how my miscarriage started before.. im trying to be positve.

Yay for the good scan dooscooby

I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one with wierd aversion to household items. I can't stand the smell of either Ariel liquitabs or lenor liquid. I've had to wash all my clothes, and keep on sending DH away when he digs out one of them from the drawer.

Also I no longer seem to crave chocolate.