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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other... Part III

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YourFriendBrian · 06/03/2011 22:24

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

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OrangeGloss · 22/03/2011 08:25

Congrats Zam !! Grin from the same wee pot I got -ve with one brand, then +ve with another. As they say, a line is a line :)

owlbooty · 22/03/2011 09:02

Hello Zam :)

I forgot to say hello and congratulations to all the other lovely new people who snuck in here whilst I was away at the weekend :)

Whilst I'm here I'll just stick these here trout fillets up kat 's nostrils...I know that doom feeling, but do not let it win - the odds are massively, hugely stacked in your favour. Keep telling yourself that and try to believe it :)

MamaP hope you had a top notch birthday :)

My eyes feel like pissholes in the snow this morning. Can I please go back to bed? I'm afraid the blooming 2nd trimester is a complete myth. Grin

harassedinherpants · 22/03/2011 09:05

Morning!

Zam congratulations! I agree a line is a line, dd is the result of a very faint line Grin.

Orange thanks for your comment about cramps. Had them last time (Dec) too, so that didn't exactly set my mind at rest.

I have no advice about washable nappies! Grin.

I'm 5 weeks today and symptoms really kicking in now: metallic taste, keen sense of smell, tiredness, swollen boobs, nausea. Loving it Grin!!

Saw my kinesiologist yesterday and will see her every few days to get my hormone levels checked. She's already upped my p5p. Seeing the doc tomorrow, and I doubt very much I'll get any extra care, but going to ask if I can have an early scan at around 8 weeks (baby's heart stopped at 7 wks last time). Got to be worth a go, any tips?!

harassedinherpants · 22/03/2011 09:06

Owl cross posted! My sil also says the blooming thing is a myth, and she just swells lol. Hope you bloom soon!

katherine2008 · 22/03/2011 09:45

Thank you orange, pink and owl - I'm quite a sane person in the real world, but totally convinced myself on Saturday that I was a complete fraud and wasn't pregnant at all. Feel a little more relaxed now and have a scan booked for the 31st - so only 9 days to go (and counting!). Welcome zam - how exciting! Harassed I have had quite bad cramps on and off like you - but had them even worse with dd (now a cheeky monkey aged 2.6 - and they even had to test me then for an ectopic. I'm fx that the cramps are a really good sign again! Owl I can see your bloom just around the corner....

Collie2 · 22/03/2011 10:22

Hi everyone, I?m starting to feel a bit better so thought I?d have a bit of a catch up.

All this talk of what changing deodorant and moisturiser is all very interesting ? although a little scary I had never even thought about it. And no nail varnish???

My friend wanted to all the right things with her first ds ? like washable nappies, but she didn?t last long. Smile

mummya I have just looked at that link you posted to the ?make room for the baby? video. Amazing?.but scary!! I still refuse to think about birth, scares the sh*t out of me. As far as I am concerned a stalk is still going to deliver this baby! Hmm Confused Grin

Congratulations to iggly. And YAY to zam to, lovely to see you here from the mc ?fred.

Who mentioned all the poas they?ve done? iggly was it you? I?m now on 11 sticks (and that?s only counting the +ive ones!!) Blush

harassed very Envy of your symptoms kicking in already. I?ve still got my cramps ? I seriously have some form of pain/ache in my stomach all day which I can?t help but worry about even though I know its normal. I?m 18dpo today, which was only when I realised I was pg last time, with no sign of such pains. Confused

I?m just trying to get through to my GP now to make apt. Was originally going to try and avoid going till as late as possible in the hope that I could try and live in denial try to forget about it for a while, but I am clearly deluded in thinking that is remotely possible. So figure the sooner I see them and badger for a reassurance scan the better ? so I?d second harassed's plea for tips on how to get some reassurance. I am sorry to sound really naïve, but is it worth asking for my hcg levels being tested? I never had them done before, but wondered if I?d have more luck with that than a scan early on? If don?t get anywhere on the nhs, plan to have private scan at around 8 weeks.

Also, I could do with a bit of advice on dates? FF tells me my due date is 25th Nov, but it?s the 27th Nov based on my lmp and my 40 day cycle length. However, when you use the average 28 day cycle approach, my dates are 15th Nov ? a huge variation. This is what caused me no end of anxiety during my last mc as when I went for my 12 week scan, baby was 9wk3, which was only really a few days smaller than what I would have expected. The result being I spent the following couple of days convincing myself they were wrong about the mc as I also have a titled uterus which dr google says (so must be fact and not myth) this can often lead to babies slightly smaller in early scans. Was awful. So, what do I do? Do I leave it and let my gp/mw give me a due date based on a 28 day cycle, do I badger them to alter it (although reading old mn posts, people have mixed success in doing this), or do I lie about my lmp date?

Sorry for huge me me me post

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owlbooty · 22/03/2011 10:48

Collie definitely worth mentioning the cramps to your doc as it might help the early scan argument.

I think it's also worth being pretty insistent on your actual cycle dates when there's such a big difference - not everyone has a 28 day cycle so for some people the dates given are clearly going to be way out, it's much better they know that up front. My GP did ask me what my cycle length was before calculating the due date so I would hope yours would too.

Tunnocks get a cuppa, sit down, have five minutes to just breathe in and out. Plus I think a lunchtime treat might be in order, hmm?

KnitterNotTwitter · 22/03/2011 10:50

Zam congratulations.. as the ladies say a line is a line :)

Tuesday's list

Nickster 20+2 EDD 7/8/11 next scan 21/3/11
Orange 16+2 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 15+3 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 23/3/11
Daisybell 14+5 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 13+1 EDD 24/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 13+0 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 12+0 EDD 4/10/11 next scan 24/3/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 11+4 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 30/3/11
Emoo 11+4 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 30/3/11
Lovemysleep 11+0 EDD 11/10/11
KnitterNotTwitter 9+4 EDD 21/10/11 next scan 5/4/11
Onions 8+5 EDD 27/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 8+5 EDD 27/10/11
Velvetcu 8+4 EDD 30/10/11
IreneHeron 8+1 EDD 26/10/11
MummyAbroad 7+4 EDD 4/11/11
Hils74 6+6 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 6+5 EDD 9/11/11 first scan 31/3/11
Haffertee 6+1 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 5+5 EDD 22/11/11 next scan 4/4/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R

Any of our new ladies fancy being added to the stats yet?

DoubleDiffedDachs · 22/03/2011 10:50

Not a lot I can say to take your stress away but I know exactly how you feel - just take care of yourself and have a snuffle on the sofa if you need to. Hope your day gets better

mattsmama · 22/03/2011 10:50

TUNNOCK Have a good bawl and get it out of your system. All the worry and stress is building up and making everything seem worse than what it is - I feel the same and keep snapping every now and again at my DH too. No pushchair would have pushed me to the edge too! Work is work and just forget about it - your little bean is more important than any job.

Sit down and put your feet up Brew. STUFF EVERYTHING ELSE [GRIN]

mattsmama · 22/03/2011 10:53

double please add me to the list (says very very nervously!) I am currently 5 weeks and 5 days EDD is 17/11/11 first scan on 30TH MARCH which I am INCREDIBLY NERVOUS ABOUT. Thanks x Smile

katherine2008 · 22/03/2011 10:53

Tunnocks naughty DH. Crappy start to the day and so sorry to hear you are feeling teary. My DH took my car keys to work the other day when I was meant to be going shopping etc so had similar row. Perhaps you could have a chat with him when he gets home and explain your fears. With regard to the work problem, do speak to your boss. He is your boss and he should help work with you and protect you from issues which you cannot resolve! Grrr to boss.

Collie can't offer you any advice on dates but good luck. I have booked a private scan for 8 weeks - here in mid-Essex they couldn't give two hoots don't offer to scan you early unless you are in real trouble.

KnitterNotTwitter · 22/03/2011 10:54

tunnocks for carrying DS I suggest putting 'em on your back... Feels like much less stress/pressure on my abdomen if I do it that way...

KnitterNotTwitter · 22/03/2011 10:57

adding Mattsmama :)

Tuesday's list

Nickster 20+2 EDD 7/8/11 next scan 21/3/11
Orange 16+2 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 15+3 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 23/3/11
Daisybell 14+5 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 13+1 EDD 24/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 13+0 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 12+0 EDD 4/10/11 next scan 24/3/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 11+4 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 30/3/11
Emoo 11+4 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 30/3/11
Lovemysleep 11+0 EDD 11/10/11
KnitterNotTwitter 9+4 EDD 21/10/11 next scan 5/4/11
Onions 8+5 EDD 27/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 8+5 EDD 27/10/11
Velvetcu 8+4 EDD 30/10/11
IreneHeron 8+1 EDD 26/10/11
MummyAbroad 7+4 EDD 4/11/11
Hils74 6+6 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 6+5 EDD 9/11/11 first scan 31/3/11
Haffertee 6+1 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 5+5 EDD 22/11/11 next scan 4/4/11
Mattsmama 5+5 EDD 17/11/11 next scan 30/3/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R

Collie2 · 22/03/2011 11:10

tunnocks your morning sounds stressful. Agree with dachs take 5 for a brew. Your DH sounds like a love, and if you explain i am sure he will understand do his best to try to undertsand. But they don't live every twinge like we do and aren't high on hormones so will nevery really get it but bless him hes sounds like he's doing a good job of trying - apart from this mornings incident which i am sure i would have been pushed over the egde about to.

Try not to worry too much about work, your bean is WAY more important than your livelihood job Smile talk to your boss - do they know you are pg?

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katherine2008 · 22/03/2011 11:17

Tunnocks glad things are ok. Much kipper slapping all round...!

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mattsmama · 22/03/2011 11:24

knitter thanks Smile

mattsmama · 22/03/2011 11:25

tunnock we definitely need a kipper emoticon. I for one could do with good kipper slapping! Grin

owlbooty · 22/03/2011 11:26

Days before scans are always mega-stressful. No kippers for you today; a bit of pre-scan mentalling is par for the course in here Grin

I'd also like a kipper emoticon Grin

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nickstermum · 22/03/2011 13:37

(((teacake))) chill out babes xx second the knitter comment about trying DS on your back :) i refused to carry DS after my last bleed... and now i can carry him upstairs on my back Grin choo choo!! Feet up for you tonight my love, and an early night xx

Think of the 98% of pg go to term after the 8week scan where a heartbeat is detected.... and that only increases as time passes :)

collie not sure about dating. I know that where you are charting etc you probably have a case, but any MW with any sense will take into a/c a 40 day cycle - this will certainly be picked up on a NT scan. I was charting temps [although FF said my ov was 2 days later than it was] and my dates have been moved back 3 days only...and that was a 36 day cycle. Others on here have had their dates moved back quite significantly due to sizing etc. I wouldnt worry about it too much... the only time it becomes an issue is at term, if they are forcing you to go for an induction if they consider you are too overdue Grin

Congrats on 12 weeks MP

Daisybell1 · 22/03/2011 13:59

Hello all

Tunnocks sorry you've had such a bad start to the day, that would have pushed me over the edge too. Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better - have a hot x bun. Good luck with your scan, I'm sure it will be fine Grin

Hello to all the newbies - welcome to the friendliest fred (IMO) out there.

Collie and others worried about cramping - I went to the drs with bad cramps at about 4 weeks gone, and was referred to EPU for a series of early scans. All was well Smile. Just so you know, I've had period pains for the whole time ie 12 weeks. Sometimes they're general cramps, other times they're sharp pains. So far, all the scans have been fine, so they don't necessarily spell doom and gloom.

Ooh Knitter now I've complete bump envy. I'm nearly 15 weeks and, although there's definite podge, no bump yet Sad. I'm not sure if this is because I'm, err, retroverted inside, and so it may just take its time. I've also started having pains at the base of my spine and into my bum, which feels pelvis-y. Wonder if the two are related Hmm

Thank you for the advice about the card - will go and purchase something pretty.

Waves hello to everyone else there

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