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Waiting to try for a baby

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AmandaCooper · 25/01/2011 15:16

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello! Smile

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evitas · 25/01/2011 15:34

Hi Amanda. Can I join you?

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AmandaCooper · 25/01/2011 18:50

Of course you may! It's exciting to have a brand new waiting room. We may need to organise a trip to Ikea.

I noticed a thread on the Conception forum earlier where people were pondering the Eternal Question (i.e. how to persuade reluctant DP) and I thought do you know, it's about time we had a fresh "waiting" thread.

May I ask why you are waiting, evitas?

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DizzyKipper · 25/01/2011 20:44

Grin Thanks for the thread, I'm waiting to conceive and see so many "November/ January buses" or whatever - gets frustrating. I've wondered how many others there are like me that want to conceive but are having to wait?

I'm waiting until July - it's when me and htb are getting married (we realised we wouldn't be able to afford to if we had kids first). I've been waiting for quite a while now and really just want to be able to stop waiting and get on and do it.

evitas · 25/01/2011 21:26

:) @ IKEA trip

My DS is almost 12 months and I would like to have a small gap between DC. At the moment I'm trying to finish my studies, so hopefully by may/june I'll start looking for a job and only after that I'll ttc.. at least those are the plans so far. I must say I loved my previous pregnancy. It was a very happy period of my life, maybe that's why I'm really looking forward to it now.

Dizzy I think it's a good idea to get married first. You can choose a fabulous dress without worrying about a tummy or a postpartum tummy :)

And you Amanda, why are you waiting?

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AmandaCooper · 25/01/2011 22:00

Evitas I'm starting to wonder myself, I'm sure there must have been a reason! Initially I was waiting to pay off debts and for DH to come round to the idea. I think we're just about getting there, but we've agreed to have a trip to the states this summer before we start trying.

So we could all be starting to ttc at around the same time.

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bebejones · 25/01/2011 22:35

My story is loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong! Suffice it to say I'm waiting on DH who is being a PITA! I have one DD who is nearly 2.6. I wanted a small age gap but I was diagnosed with MS & it has got in the way & now DH has decided that he may never want anymore children Hmm...he previously wanted 5!!

Anyway, that's the short version. I'm tired so shall be back 2moro to do proper catch up & getting to know yous! :)

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AmandaCooper · 25/01/2011 22:47
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Quodlibet · 26/01/2011 09:11

Hello all! Hello new people!

Maybe if we're all going to be hanging around for ages it should at least be somewhere nice like the beach so we can all get a tan...(although at least we felt like we were moving when we were on the train...)

Amanda your kitten is gorge. Has your DH stationed it on your laptop as a means of preventing you going on MN?

evitas · 26/01/2011 10:41

Quodlibet the beach :) ... I miss it so much. But I'm sure next time I expose my pale/translucid skin to the sun I'll need to apply sun-cream F50+ otherwise I'll turn in to lobster :)

bebe sorry about the MS. What happened to your DH to change his mind from 5 DC to 1?!

Amanda what a lovely kitten

LoveInAColdClimate · 26/01/2011 11:30

Waiting until April to finish paying off some debt - then can get cracking! Most excited!

bebejones · 26/01/2011 11:42

Quod - Ooooh beach, that'd be nice, although like evitas I'd probably need some F50 to prevent lobsterisation!

Evitas - Lord alone knows what made my DH change his mind. It has been a near constant topic on the last thread. I think it's down to his current workload, but he hasn't given me a reason because he can't, apparently! Hmm I'm still working on him though. I have stopped medication in preparation to TTC & it's not happening! Getting very impatient!

Welcome LoveInAColdClimate :)

JustShaggingForNow · 26/01/2011 11:50

Morning all - sorry for lack of postig this last week. Work is INSANE!! Grin

So - where's this beach? I'm assuming that there is a bar staffed by hot men and a restaurant serving calorie free meals.....?!?

Quodlibet · 26/01/2011 12:03

Calorie free meals and UV free sun. How's that?

I should introduce my waiting reasons as being something to do with DP wanting to get past a large career milestone first, which irritatingly perpetually seems like it's going to happen in about 9 months time but never seems to get any closer. Discussions continue on the wisdom of this strategy.

How fun to have some new waiters waiting with us, LoveInAColdClimate, evitas, Dizzykipper.

Speaking of waiters, who's manning this bar?

JustShaggingForNow · 26/01/2011 12:09

Perfect! I propose we clone Jake so he can be on the beach and the train...... and maybe Bradley Cooper can join him?!?

V exciting to have some new waiters here, Welcome all!!

My waiting reasons are that DH wants to "enjoy being jjust the 2 of us and save some money" and is insiting we wait until we've had one last big holiday and he's hopefully been paid a nice bonus. The holiday is being planned as we speak Grinand the flights are booked for April 22nd so as of then we will be SWI (unless he changes his mind again.......!) Only 3 more AF to go until we are officially TTC :)

snapshot · 26/01/2011 13:37

Hi ladies, mind if I join you? Smile

DP and I are getting married in the summer so want to wait until after that before we ttc.

In the meantime, a beach sounds like a great place to wait! Grin

BroodyRhi · 26/01/2011 16:27

Hello,

My DP has been on and off the idea of trying for a baby, we tried for a month, he thought if it happened it happened. I was so hopeful, but of course nothing happened.

He keeps putting off the date, one eve he said by time we were 27 so I was excited, that would be next year :) but then yesterday he said not until we had been married a year. We aren't even engaged yet. I am so ready and feel just like I am waiting for him before we start. I feel really old at 25! Its ridiculous as I know I'm not old but some how being 25 feels old without starting a family.

Now I am having loads of issues with my pill, breakthrough bleeding, headaches, mood swings, tiredness. want to come off the pill as I want my body to get back to its own cycle. Been on pill for seven years. And am worried that DP will have issues due to some surgery on a once floating ball, one is in its proper place, the other come and goes as it pleases!

Sorry for the rant! Cant talk to anyone else bout this,one friend already has a baby and getting married in December, another is trying after getting married a year ago. I want to join them sooooooo much.

Sorry again, its nice to know I am not alone.

Please can I have some gin?!

snapshot · 26/01/2011 19:27

Hi BroodyRhi

I know exactly how you feel! DP and I have been together seven years but theres always been something standing in the way of starting a family - moving house, going for a new job or promotion at work, and now planning (and paying for!) a wedding!

I've been broody for years and DP has always said he'd love for us to have a baby as soon as the time was right... now finally as soon as we're married there'll be nothing standing in our way, so we've agreed to start ttc later on this year. I can't wait, I'm obsessed already!

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AmandaCooper · 26/01/2011 20:30

Hey BroodyRhi, if you feel that way I would recommend coming off the pill and charting. DH and I are using the Fertility Awareness Method for contraception. DH was skeptical at first, but it's working out.

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AmandaCooper · 26/01/2011 20:33

Quod, you might be right - he's probably trained him to curb my MN addiction!

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AmandaCooper · 26/01/2011 21:41

BroodyRhi a lot of us have stopped the pill and are charting. Personally I feel that being off the pill has helped to move things along - although there was a bad reaction by DH at first.

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AmandaCooper · 26/01/2011 22:13

oops I said that twice! I wrote it on my Phone but forgot to post it and then wrote it again on the laptop and then accidentally posted the one on my phone as well!

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Picklehead · 26/01/2011 22:22

Hi, everyone! New poster here - and can I get some of that vodka, please?

My husband and I will be starting TTC our first sometime this autumn. A summer 2012 baby would be absolutely perfect - he's a teacher, so he'd get the whole summer home with the baby as well as two weeks' paternity leave. And we're not quite psychologically ready yet - there are still some things we want to do before we have a kid and neither of us feels totally ready, but we feel as though we're "getting ready to be ready."

But I have the cystic fibrosis carrier gene in my family, so I've gone to my GP and he's referred me to Great Ormond Street for genetic testing to see if I have it. If I do have it, then DH will need to get tested too, and if we both have it (very unlikely, but of course possible) then we'll need to look at various options, including possibly having to pay for IVF, which would mean we'd have to wait a lot longer. I don't think the NHS covers IVF unless it's for fertility reasons, not genetic ones.

Anyway, I blabbered on a little longer than I meant to, but it's good to be among people who are in the same situation as I am!

snapshot · 26/01/2011 23:02

Amanda, I've done that too. Came off the pill about two years ago when we were originally going to start ttc - unfortunately at the last minute dp decided we'd better wait till after we'd moved house.. grr! On the upside though its given my body time to settle down after the pill and my cycle has become regular. I've recently started charting ready for when the time comes Smile I know what you mean about how stopping the pill gets things 'moving along' - its like we're waiting now rather than still preventing IYSWIM.

Hi Picklehead
Its going to be around autumn time this year for us too, so same as you Smile Good luck with your testing, hope everything goes well for you.

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AmandaCooper · 26/01/2011 23:07

Picklehead welcome to the thread! Pull up a sun lounger, it's a lovely day to be lazing around on the beach.

This possible problem sounds fairly unlikely, but I can understand why you're worried. When will you know that everything's alright?

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AmandaCooper · 26/01/2011 23:13

Snapshot I hate to tempt fate but we've had a good run of BFPs on this thread - once people have started ttc that is. I don't know if I'll be as lucky when my time comes as I'm a bit older (33) but i'm hoping that being well prepared and informed will improve my chances.

If my time ever does come that is!

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