Waiting to try for a baby

[AmandaCooper]

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello!

[Ratata]

Congratulations buddhagirl awesome news! I'm getting married in 7 weeks eek... wedding planning is so much fun, enjoy it!

tostaky have fun :D

Amanda haha yes I should not have doubts! Glad to hear that other folks have thoughts about what life is going to be like when things are so self indulgent I'm back to being broody though, someone at work brought their newborn in and she was so cute in her little pink outfit. I REALLY wanted a hold but couldn't bring myself to ask. She was in her carrier all snug and sleeping anyway. Btw my big day is in 7 weeks!! 12th November eep!!

alexeliza we will be TTC in Dec as well :) Really not long to go now is it!

MsWeatherwax so sorry to hear that, it's hard when partners aren't on the same timeline as us :( Big hugs. Maybe have a good chat with him to tell him how much you want to try sooner rather than later.

Aw mrspear why does your DH not want another? Just not yet, or not at all?

[Ratata]

I'm back to being broody again btw... the non-broodiness lasted all of a few weeks. Then I saw someone's baby and was like ahhhh.

My sister in law gets her 20wk scan in a few weeks, she's really excited. I'm so excited for her. It's really brought us closer together. We were fine before but just didn't have much in common. Now she's pregnant and she knows I will be TTC in Dec we have lots to talk about. :)

[wannabemum24]

Am still trying to talk my DH round to TTC in Dec. I think he is up for it, just nervous! I would rather him be totally happy about it though! Congrats on forthcoming wedding Ratata! Enjoy it...it's a lot of fun !

[wannabemum24]

Oh, and I'm totally with you on the broody front! It's hell!! Can hardly stand it! My eldest sister has a two and a half yr old and a 7month old and boy does she look exhausted! It's a total mix of feelings for me...broody as anything, but quite terrified at the same time! Gah, it's gonna happen one day!

[MsWeatherwax]

I had a chat with DP. It's odd that he's normally the pessimistic one whereas with this he's really optimistic. Think he might have been hurt when I pointed out that aging affects sperm too though. I think he gets how I feel, though. Even though partly what I feel is scared of losing my freedom, all mixed in with the broodyness and the PMT. It is strange wannabemum24 that mixture of scared and broody.

[wannabemum24]

@MsWeatherwax maybe it's a good thing you said that? At least now he understands how you feel and that must be a good thing! I have found that I can't stop thinking about babies and pregnancy SO, I am trying to occupy my mind with the possibility if a wee tattoo! Keeps me occupied anyway :)

[wannabemum24]

And yes, it is strange, the mix of feelings. I don't like it all that much and I doubt it will change! I love being able to go where I want, when I want! Oh the troubles of being a woman

[AmandaCooper]

Wannabeamum that made me laugh - distracting yourself from broodiness by contemplating body art! Just don't come away sporting a tat of a pram or something!

[wannabemum24]

I know! It's stupid really...well, my DH thinks so! It would be a tiny butterfly with the breast cancer ribbon as the body. My mum is terminally ill with the bloody disease so it would be a tribute to her. It's just so permanent! Then again, so is having a baby!! Gosh, I must do some work! I hate work...

[redrhumba]

hi
i'm new to this site but also waiting to try, i hope you don't mind me joining, i have a 2 year old son and am so desperately broody its unbelievable and with so many close friends currently pregnant its only gonna get worse, however my hubby's not so sure about another yet so i'm trying to convince him and wanting to come off the pill at the end of this month but i'm not holding out much hope of it.
great to meet others who are also waiting x

[alexeliza]

Hi All
I'm back from our lovely week in Norfolk - we had such wonderful weather!! Everyone kept saying that we'd caught the best of the summer..... like we'd planned it that way!!
Am as broody as ever as well..... everywhere we went, I was thinking, oh if we had our children, we could do that together or wouldn't the kids enjoy this!! It's crazy, my DH is always saying that we have to have a baby first before thinking or planning anything we can do....... but it's hard at times.
Hope everyone's well - congratulations Ratata on your upcoming wedding as well!

[lthewife]

Hi all,

New to MN, I've been avoiding it for years as DH was in the never wants kids camp and I was of the broody but maybe one day and could live a fulfilled life without persuasion. For him it was typical fear of fatherhood. Couldn't afford it, too selfish, would turn into his father, wouldn't be a good dad, what if we had a child and he didn't love them, blah blah blah.

Had the semi regular "chat" with DH last night and he's changed his mind! So I've officially gone from waiting to be allowed to wait, to actually waiting if that makes sense! Yay!

We're planning on waiting until around the end of 2013 for a few reasons. We're only 5 months in to married life, DH has recently left his job and started our own business and we're currently living in a tiny 1 bed flat in London. So the plan is to move to Norfolk next year, get the business a little more established with some savings in the bank and get ourselves in to peak physical condition.

I just hope he doesn't change his mind once we reach the end of 2013. I'm hoping that because it's a decision he's come to by himself rather than being pressurised into it he will be fine. I wonder which is going to be more frustrating though, the hoping that he would come round to the idea or the "yes, but in a couple of years" wait? I guess I'll wait and see!

[WeeSooty]

Hi everyone,

Was hoping I could join as well, except I seem to have the opposite problem from everyone?. My husband is dying to start trying for a baby and I?m holding back!!

So far this year our timetable for trying has moved from June (when I finished uni), to September (after our holiday) and now the official, I can?t push my luck anymore, trying month is January 2012, cause I wanna enjoy a Christmas where I can drink!

So am I ok to join just now?

[redrhumba]

Hi. i only found mn a couple of days ago, i'm still waiting and hoping to stop ocp at the end of this month but i have a feeling dh will change his mind!
nice to meet you ladies x

[Zara1984]

Hello all! I feel like I have made a big step because I now post in this thread rather than my "Ditherers Anonymous" thread! Am no longer dithering about when to have kids, am now waiting to TTC :) Such are the semantics of pre-pre-TTC.

DH and I, last night confirmed and agreed upon The Project Baby Plan. Plan is this:

• we will start TTC April 2012. It's official! My current job contract expires in December 2012, so we would want a baby to be born after this at the very earliest.
  
• I am going off the pill now to reacquaint myself with my cycle obsessively learn about my cycle, charting and everything in between, and we'll use condoms in the meantime.
  
• I will get a full reproductive check-up, including blood tests to tell me about my ovulation in the meantime.
  
• DH may get semen analysis done (after talking to his dad) because of family problems with sperm quality
  
• I will start taking prenatal vitamins and generally keep up with my (existing) healthy eating and good exercise plan to make a healthy baby :) :)
  

Am I a micromanaging, over-organised obsessive nerd? Yes.... but I find this stuff exciting

[notthehippopotamus]

Welcome Zara1984 and lthewife, WeeSooty and redrhumba. I think there have been other new people too that I've missed: I've been away from the thread a bit because work has been so stressful - just as well I'm not TTC yet really.

WeeSooty it does make a change on this thread for you to be holding back not DH, but you're just as welcome. :)

Zara1984 congratulations on making the move from Dithering! You sound highly organised but in a good way. I'm not quite as organised as you but sympathise, as am definitely having to restrain myself from over-planning and over-analysing. I'm trying not to go that way for fear it will make it difficult when things don't work out the way I want them to straight away. Plus being something of a coward and the fainting type I'm not sure I would volunteer myself for blood tests unless I knew there was likely to be a problem!

[wannabemum24]

I got the tattoo!! Ha ha! As I am fairly new here, can the regulars do a little intro or is that not allowed on MN? If it is, hello!! I am 24, married for 3 years on the 18th Oct and DH and I are hoping to TTC in March next year after I am MOH for my BF at her wedding. Nice to meet you all [waves and grins enthusiastically]

[LydiaWickham]

Can I sign up too? our plan is to get Christmas out of the way and then have a lot of sex. I really would like to try now but a) would like a winter baby and January would get sept/oct baby, which is early enough for me to feel winterish (ok, it'll be an Autumn baby, but the nights will be drawing in) and b) I will be able to have a drink over Christmas (which will be at the ILs, so will need it).

Other that than, I also want to get in shape a bit, hoping to be super fabulous before ruining it all again. Not sure if that will happen....

[LydiaWickham]

(That sounds like we're not having a lot of sex now, that's not a problem, just not sex with intent)

[wannabemum24]

LydiaWickham that made me roar with laughter! I'd like a winter/autumn baby too It's v exciting! Just enjoying practicing now

[LydiaWickham]

Always nice to make someone laugh!

[redrhumba]

afternoon ladies.
well another friend announced her pregnancy yesterday thats now 5 in total and it made me mega depressed, had a cuddle with a little baby this morning and now i'm all broodied up again!! i have a couple of weeks left on the pill and i need to broach with dh again about stopping it but he says i'm getting on his nerves!! he did say 1 more month but has said that for the last few so now my pack of pills is strategically placed so he sees them going down!

Zara1984 - you sound well organised and its good to get a plan in place to get your self healthy, i'm taking my folic acid and eating healthy altho that is more to do with needing to lose a bit more weight.
wannabemum24 - i love weddings, we've not had one for a while, some friends are getting married abroad next year but i am hoping to be pregnant so will have to cross that bridge if it happens!

[Zara1984]

redrhumba Gahhh I know what you mean about seeing babies making it worse. Seeing pregnant women doesn't help either.

In terms of organisation I have to restrict myself from going TOO overboard. My over-active imagination wondered if I should buy summer/autumn maternity clothes which are on sale now for next year... telling my brain to just hold its horses there....

But in the meantime, have now acquired:

• pre-natal vits (6 month's supply)
  
• omega 3 fish oil capsules (6 months)
  
• digi thermometer and chart from Boots. Charting will commence next month (along with blood tests at Marie Stopes... or maybe I should wait till Nov).
  

Heehee when I showed it all to DH last night he was quite intrigued. He's a scientist, and was concerned about the potential inaccuracy of data (things that knock temperature off-balance) and using a paper chart. He said that after I've got about 3 months worth of data, he'll take it all to work and put it through graphing/plotting/calculation software to produce a comprehensive analysis and details of trends. Hahahaha!!!

When it comes time to actually TTC, I'm going to get myself a Clearblue Fertility Moniter from cycle 1. DH agrees that previously acquired data will be scientifically inconclusive and greater accuracy will be required when we're actively TTC. We are actually really fun and normal people, I promise... it doesn't sound that way

I will provide a comprehensive run-down of the bloods and what it all means when I get them, in case anyone else is interested in being pre-TTC OCD as me....

[Zara1984]

A further thought for the afternoon... are there any other vitamins I should be taking? Evening primrose oil to regulate my cycle? Standard pre-natal vits and omega 3 is what What to Expect Before You're Expecting recommended....

3 for 2 at Boots right now, might as well stock up hehehe..... discovered lots of this baby stuff gets you extra Boots points which is good for getting No 7 makeup haha!

[lthewife]

Zara totally with you on the early overboard organisation. I've still got around two years before we're planning on TTC but I've already been looking into potential vitamins, getting up to speed on charting, looking at pre conception health checks etc. All totally unnecessary at this stage. I'd even considered a CBFM, just because, you know, it would be good to know if there's any weirdness going on BEFORE we actually get started right? Totally OTT!

For now I think I might just dig out my old persona monitor and buy some more sticks, just so I can feel like I'm doing something. It does almost exactly the same job after all, it's just you get a green light on "safe" days and a red one on risky days. I gave up on using it when DH was very much anti baby and couldn't let go of the condoms. But I figure now he's changed his mind he might be more comfortable relying on it.