Waiting to try for a baby

[AmandaCooper]

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello!

[QuestionablyBroody]

AT LAST!!

We have an off the pill date and an OH who is excited for our TTC.

We are getting married in 2 months and my OH says we should stop taking pill and precautions in July!

So happy. The wait has been worth it.

Now I am geting on those vits and keeping off the booze, apart from my up and coming hen!

[emsy5000]

You are being Ridiculous but if you are really worried you should go and talk to your doctor. best not to have these worries bearing on your mind.

[Buddhagirl]

Hello all. Nice to read all your updates. Littlewater i seem to have joined your camp :/ Ive stopped putting my patch on and not told Fiancee. I do need to address this though so im hoping posting here will kick me up the arse. Firstly I am getting married in June and I dont want to get pregnant before my wedding!! However it is useful charting my cycle. I know this sounds utterly,utterly ridiculous but im so convinced im infertile that it doesnt seem to matter if i have my patch on or not :/. Tell me im being ridiculous guys.

[Zara1984]

Angelico - very keen to hear how you get on with the CBFM. Posting over here in the new thread now. Am wondering how far in advance I should get a CBFM - ie so it's reading my cycles most accurately? 2-3 months beforehand? Like yourself, am very keen to try and conceive within a certain window (if possible).... want to try and get off the starting blocks ASAP once I get to the magical month of April 2012!!

[littlewater]

Emsy5000,
Unfortunatly my emotions got the better of me.
Bad me [hangry]

Lw

[emsy5000]

hehe just read back a bit and I am glad I am not alown in this semi maddness

[littlewater]

Amonstercooper,
Since I read what has happened in the last few months, yes it looks crazy.[hconfused]
I figured out it was a lack of commutation that was causing alot of my problems. Things are really well and I mean [hgrin]
my job is safe and infact I'm going on a course to go up a level. Me and DP are talking loads, even the cat seems happier.

Your right that I need to talk to DP about children.

Lw

[emsy5000]

Has a really differcult day with my broodyness. I almost made an appointment to get my implant removed. (we are waiting till April because it just makes sense) without consolting OH. I didn't and if I had I would have cancelled it once I came to my senses but still I am finding waiting one of the hardest things I have done for a long time.

What do you ladies do to deal with these emotions. I don't think I have ever been like this before

[Amonstercooper]

Actually, come to think about it, some MNetters said this to me at the time and of course I didn't listen! [hsmile]

[Amonstercooper]

Littlewater I hate to have to say it but you are worrying me. First you had a lot of worry about your job, then there was that guy who wanted to take you for a meal and you were worrying about your relationship at home, then you suddenly decide to come off the pill without talking to your DP about it.

I'm not saying this is definitely you now but I had an absolutely horrible experience of depression about three years ago and a lot of what you've been saying resonates with me. I'm certainly not one of those MNetters who climbs up on a moral high horse along with all my DC and my beaming DH with baby on his shoulders and say you must never deceive your DP into having a baby as it is worse than child rape, genocide, etc. but I don't think it's at all a good idea and I'd only do it myself if I was absolutely desperate and devoid of all hope that DH would come round. Probably not even then.

How long have you been waiting to TTC? I was at the height of all mentalness not long ago, charting, checking all my fertility signs, convincing myself I might be pg even when I obviously wasn't, reading all the books, MNetting all the time, joining buses, pestering DH constantly about TTC. It gets inside your head. I've taken a step back now and I feel so much better.

[Amonstercooper]

Ok new waiting thread here

Plenty of room below of anyone wants to create a link to a 'moving on' thread. Predictably I'm still waiting!

[littlewater]

Hi peeps,
Just a quick update, I've decided to come off the pill and I've not told my DP.
Im tired of waiting, I know he will make a great dad.
However ive got the hospital lergy, and I'm taking loads of paratemol.

Lw

[pjani]

I think another waiting thread sounds good Amanda - we haven't had many graduates lately!

I've gotten nowhere lately :(

[Angelico]

Ooops just realised it was Zara who was interested in the ClearBlue monitor! No I haven't been on the ...!

[Angelico]

Hi all! I just joined MN this week as we are in the same boat as you guys - waiting to TTC in December / January (I'm a teacher so desperate to maximise maternity leave!) redrhumba I just got the clearblue monitor - it arrived today so I will let you know how it goes! Anyone else been using one?

I'm so relieved to read other people's posts about mixed feelings. Part of me is finally ready for a baby but the other (selfish) bit of me loves life the way it is. If only age weren't an issue... I'm almost 35 and DH is in early forties so I know we can't wait forever. x

[Ittybittysmum]

Hi everyone!

I've been lurking on this thread forever but I though now was a good time to de-lurk.

Here's my situation: my DH has just gone back to school (woo hoo!) and I'm working in a job that has the potential to become wonderful but is just part time right now. Obv now is a bad time to ttc.

I had a surprise pg in early summer which ended in an early mc but made me realize how much I want to have a lo RIGHT NOW. yikes. DH and I have talked and we've agreed that when I can get maternity leave, we'll start ttc. So everything depends on work.

Anyway, AmandaCooper, I'd love a new wtttc thread now that I've finally plucked up the courage to post

Nice to meet everyone!

[emsy5000]

Hi Everyone I am new. I am hoping that we will start trying for a baby at the end of April. OH is not so keen he wants to wait a bit longer but I am worried that he will just keep waiting and waiting and then it will be too late.
So April it is hehe.

[Ratata]

I don't mind either way, whatever everyone else wants to do is cool Amanda :)

We will be starting TTC in 7 weeks :D

[AmandaCooper]

We need to make some plans for the end of the thread. Previously we've branched off into two new threads, one in "Other Subjects" for those who have either moved on to TTC or are just about to; and one for those of us who are still waiting.

Is that what people want to do, or shall we just have another waiting thread?

[AmandaCooper]

Ithewife that's a long wait!

To those who are charting or experimenting with grapefruit juice etc, I think there's certainly some value in learning about your cycle and what works for you, but I found it was easy to get obsessive and lose perspective. I've dropped it all off now, and post on here much less. I feel better for letting waiting take a back seat for a while.

[redrhumba]

Lol chocolate i wish. tbh its generally foods that they recommend you eat anyway, there's loads of info on the net but leafy green veg, omega fatty acids, some dairy products and drinking plenty of water to name but a few, it's easy to get carried away!

[LydiaWickham]

OK - I thought getting the folic acid was taking things a bit far...

What are these foods that boost fertility then?

[WaitingForMe]

I've not been here for a while but the planning some of you are doing really amused me! I'm taking a folic acid based vitamin and have started charting with iPeriod but that to me seems a touch excessive!

Then again, I am utterly failing to not call bedroom 2, "the nursery" during our house renovations and the pale green I thought would suit a neutral spare bedroom will actually be gorgeous for a nursery. I think my subconscious may be at work

[redrhumba]

Zara - Lol. the only thing i take at the mo is folic acid, i have been looking at foods that boost fertility but as we're not actually ttc yet i wasn't sure whether it was a waste of time! once we start (if ever)i think i'll probably wait 3 months before doing any charting and just try to take a relaxed approach. i can get really obsessive about things but i'm really holding myself back!

[lthewife]

Zara totally with you on the early overboard organisation. I've still got around two years before we're planning on TTC but I've already been looking into potential vitamins, getting up to speed on charting, looking at pre conception health checks etc. All totally unnecessary at this stage. I'd even considered a CBFM, just because, you know, it would be good to know if there's any weirdness going on BEFORE we actually get started right? Totally OTT!

For now I think I might just dig out my old persona monitor and buy some more sticks, just so I can feel like I'm doing something. It does almost exactly the same job after all, it's just you get a green light on "safe" days and a red one on risky days. I gave up on using it when DH was very much anti baby and couldn't let go of the condoms. But I figure now he's changed his mind he might be more comfortable relying on it.